FabSwingers.com forum: Confrontational

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Are you confrontational?

Are you happy to send a meal back at a restaurant if it isn't quite right?

Or do you demand to speak to a manager when you're over charged something by a few pence?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wasn’t until I got pregnant

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By *erdyWoman
over a year ago

wiltshire

Yes, I'm a rottweiler

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By *nvisible_beardMan
over a year ago

near newbridge, wales

Unless attacked I defend myself

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Definitely not. I'm too far the other way.

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester

"Are you confrontational?

Are you happy to send a meal back at a restaurant if it isn't quite right?

Or do you demand to speak to a manager when you're over charged something by a few pence?

etc"

For me, it depends on my mood the time. I went out a few weeks ago and the food was crap, but I was so hungry that I just wanted to eat.

There are times when I've simply got up and asked for a refund. Lol. "Hi, I'd like a refund on the meal please." Oh whys that? "Well come and take a look. Would you eat this?"... Errrr, I'll refund you now. "No, seriously, have a sit down! Try it!" No I'll give you refund now.

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

I never stress about money, I would prefer to lose a couple of quid than complain but Jo is completely different and has got us a few free meals from being that way

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

If the meal isn’t cooked or what I asked for then definitely I will send it back and have done.

I wouldn’t say it’s confrontational, just getting what you asked / paid for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I need to be I will be confrontational. I prefer not to be but needs must at times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always if something isn't right I'll stand my ground

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By *rmrs1234Couple
over a year ago

Waterford

Ive brought back coffees and food that werent made right. The way i look at it is im paying money for this so it should be at least edible. That being said i always have a knot in my stomach doing it

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By *offee and KinksCouple
over a year ago

Notts/Derby

My job is very confrontational .. so i like a nice easy quiet time when I'm off ... but there sometimes comes a point where i have to dig my heals in to sort things out and then i do .. almost like flipping a switch

Vixen

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

Sadly not; I’m overly polite for the most part.

If I ever find a hair in my food whilst in a restaurant, I generally eat around it so as to avoid making a fuss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep. I’m confrontational

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Ive brought back coffees and food that werent made right. The way i look at it is im paying money for this so it should be at least edible. That being said i always have a knot in my stomach doing it "

Ooh. You mess up my coffee...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gosh No!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always compliment way more than I complain way too many complaints in the world ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the circumstances. I can be bad with road rage or if I see someone being mistreated etc. I wouldnt with a meal because who ever served it is just the middle man.

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By *rmrs1234Couple
over a year ago

Waterford

Ooh. You mess up my coffee...

Himself gets really pissed off when they dont do the lattes right. Lol

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

If I pay for a service, I expect to get what I've paid for. We're a bit soft as a nation in complaining sometimes I think.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If the meal isn’t cooked or what I asked for then definitely I will send it back and have done.

I wouldn’t say it’s confrontational, just getting what you asked / paid for "

Yea, if it was raw chicken on my plate or something then I would send it back.

But if it was something small like my boiled potatoes weren't soft enough then I'd just eat it

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

"If the meal isn’t cooked or what I asked for then definitely I will send it back and have done.

I wouldn’t say it’s confrontational, just getting what you asked / paid for

Yea, if it was raw chicken on my plate or something then I would send it back.

But if it was something small like my boiled potatoes weren't soft enough then I'd just eat it"

Exactly that, some things aren’t worth stressing over, it happens. I wouldn’t make a big fuss just ask for it to be cooked more or what is needed. Chefs have bad days to

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I am happy to complain if there is a genuine issue. I'm also equally happy to compliment when things are done very well.

I'm really comfortable with awkward conversations and I'm happy to discuss the issue and what remedy I would like.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South

I’m no pushover.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can stand up for your rights without being confrontational or rude.

I would always send an inedible meal back, but I would be very polite about doing it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep!

I'm a cow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yep!

I'm a cow

Mooooo

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By *essie.Woman
over a year ago

Serendipity

I would complain in a restaurant, I’m not rude about it though.

In the USA I got 4 meals for the price of one, we had waited a ridiculous amount of time to be served.

On the counter side, I’ll give compliments too and a tip.

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By *abasaurus RexMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

If there’s a genuine problem that should be resolved, sure. I’ll complain.

If it’s petty (like a few pence, one erroneous drink on the bill for a couple of quid or some other small thing) then no, life’s too short.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yep!

I'm a cow

Mooooo"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I’m not happy, I’ll send it back with a smile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope I absolutely hate confrontation and avoid it where possible. However when it comes to sticking up for friends and family I can be quite protective

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

Oh yes, if something isn't quite what I've paid for then I'll make sure they know about it. Having said that, I don't go screaming at them, I mention it politely and see if it can be sorted.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I give far more compliments than i do complaints. You can complain in a nie manner

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By *exyEggsCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

Nope. I hate it. Total diplomat here!

Mrs TMN x

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

I dont like confrontation

I will However undertake it if I reason my pain is worth while usually morally above financially

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm assertive. If Im Paying for a service, it needs to right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the food isn’t right for whatever reason I’ll just politely put my hand up and speak to a member of staff or have a friendly chat with the manager, did it recently at a meal which wasn’t cooked properly and spoke to the manager quietly he fully agreed and refunded the starters and the two mains straight away said sorry and gave us desserts for free. There’s no need to moan scream and shout it gets you no where.

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By *he Little Fuck MachineMan
over a year ago

Co.Antrim

Nope! I tend to simmer, simmer, simmer though then the Scorpio Sting comes out. Generally though I hate confrontation and bite my tongue.

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

I wouldn’t say I’m confrontational but I have a bit of a mantra I give value for money and I expect value for money. Therefore if something isn’t right I’ll say, especially when it comes to eating out

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By *ornyhappyCouple
over a year ago

perth

I hate confrontation or conflict, & generally avoid it if at all possible. I'll often put up with things not being perfect for me, rather than risk upsetting anyone else .

The only exception to that is if anyone dares to do anything to cross or hurt my children or someone I love, in those circumstances I will unleash hell if I have to.

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

"Nope! I tend to simmer, simmer, simmer though then the Scorpio Sting comes out. Generally though I hate confrontation and bite my tongue."

I'm a typical scorpio

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Mh friends and i had to complain about a meal and the waitress was so rude we complained to the manager. We got £180 voucher plus as many drinks wanted and we never saw the waitress again

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By *atricia ParnelWoman
over a year ago

In a town full of colours

I am firm but fair, a polite conversation will rectify any mishaps.

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By *nto My ArmsMan
over a year ago

Herts/London

I don't go seeking it, but will confront when I think it necessary.

My problem is the post confrontation adrenaline surge. I find it physically hard to deal with.

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By *ylvie 888Woman
over a year ago

Cleethorpes

"Are you confrontational?

Are you happy to send a meal back at a restaurant if it isn't quite right?

Or do you demand to speak to a manager when you're over charged something by a few pence?

etc"

If something isnt right then I will politely point it out. I dont make demands... mistakes happen and people who wait tables take enough crap from rude customers.... always be kind and thoughtful...

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By *eannaTV/TS
over a year ago

Cwmfelifach, nr Newport

I work in a complaints department and deal with several a day, it makes no difference what industry a complaint is something someone is not happy about and in my view needs to be rectified to everyone's satisfaction, when I looked after several restaurants sometimes the meal wasn't to someone's liking if I was told after the meal I would not charge, apologise and offer a free meal another night, if I was told instantly I would replace the meal again with no charge that to me is customer service, now like most on here if something isn't to my liking and I feel the need to complain I will do so politely and definitely make a note on the response as to whether I except or escalate further

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yep. I’m confrontational

Yep, she is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Over cooked steak must be returned

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I'm not confrontational but have no problem complaining when necessary.

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By *ornyhappyCouple
over a year ago

perth

Confrontational no, stand up for myself yes. I will indeed return a meal etc but I will do so politely (not apologetically) but firmly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes yes and yes. If I’m paying for something I expect it to be as it should be. I hate poor customer service too. I don’t give it in my business and I don’t expect it from anyone else. I’ll always say something.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Confrontational no, stand up for myself yes. I will indeed return a meal etc but I will do so politely (not apologetically) but firmly."

Same.

Some people just don't seem to be able to match their attitude and complaint to the service. They go from 0 to 100 instantly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Confrontational no, stand up for myself yes. I will indeed return a meal etc but I will do so politely (not apologetically) but firmly.

Same.

Some people just don't seem to be able to match their attitude and complaint to the service. They go from 0 to 100 instantly."

Oh yes. I don’t kick off. I’m always polite but firm. I won’t walk away until it’s sorted. I’m very calm believe it or not

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By *ty31Man
over a year ago

NW London

Stand up for yourself otherwise people will walk all over you

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

"Are you confrontational?

Are you happy to send a meal back at a restaurant if it isn't quite right?

Or do you demand to speak to a manager when you're over charged something by a few pence?

etc"

No we are both the..

Wait until we get outside and have a ruddy good moan , types

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By *all me FlikWoman
over a year ago

Galaxy Far Far Away

I’m not confrontational... however I know my own mind, I don’t tolerate rudeness and am certainly no pushover... so will always stand up for myself and for others that are unable to do so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not confrontational but I'm not afraid of conflict if that makes sense.

If I'm not happy with a meal or service Iv received I will say something.

I have many times challenged people when Iv seen awful behaviour.

I'm nice and polite but I won't stand for being treated badly or if I whitness others being treated badly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I young lady once said I was nice

My mate replied

A wolf in sheep’s clothing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m assertive, can articulate my needs and unhappiness without being confrontational.

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By *ensualbicockMan
over a year ago

liverpool wavertree picton clock

I've worked in restaurants. Don't ever piss a member of staff off. Thats coming from first hand experience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No typical British. Eat and not complain about anything.

Waiter ~ How was your good sir?

Me ~ perfect thank you

Then when I go out I start complaining to myself. Fuck that place il never go there again the bastards lol.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

I will complain politely where it’s duly deserved.

I’m only confrontational with those who chose to conflict with me.... it’s rare but does happen ...

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