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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

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Would you tread on your dying granny to get what you want?

Or are you the sort who puts others first...maybe at the detriment of yourself?

Do the end results justify the means?

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By *uicy jonesMan
over a year ago

near a big hill in s/ shropshire NOT in

Fuck noooo !!!

I’d lay in the floor with my granny till she died

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I'm somewhere in the middle for most things but I don't know how I'd react in extreme circumstances.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Would you tread on your dying granny to get what you want?

Or are you the sort who puts others first...maybe at the detriment of yourself?

Do the end results justify the means?"

I put others first and it’s a failing as I get taken advantage of.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Second one. Way too much.

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By *atricia ParnelWoman
over a year ago

In a town full of colours

That's an Interesting subject

I'm in the middle and fluctuate more to detrimental than the other, but I am hard headed and very decisive once my options are infront of me but not at the cost of family and close friends...

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By *uicy jonesMan
over a year ago

near a big hill in s/ shropshire NOT in

"Would you tread on your dying granny to get what you want?

Or are you the sort who puts others first...maybe at the detriment of yourself?

Do the end results justify the means?

I put others first and it’s a failing as I get taken advantage of....."
likewise always get shit on by people but I’ve tried to help out or are helping out

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

I tend to put others first but u do get shit on when u do, u just learn from yr mistakes and the minute they fuck u, u fuck em back if it’s bad.. so grab u ly there hun and I’ll care for u

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

I put others first, always have.

I'm slowly learning to put my own oxygen mask on first.

Alot of people take the piss out of a kind heart.

Jo.Xx

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"Would you tread on your dying granny to get what you want?

Or are you the sort who puts others first...maybe at the detriment of yourself?

Do the end results justify the means?"

I put others before myself - giver not a taker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Could I swap my dying granny for a different family member

If I can then yes I would

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By *ornyhappyCouple
over a year ago

perth

I have always put others first, still do most of the time. Often to my own detriment. But I'm working hard on making myself a priority & learning that is is OK to say no to people. It's hard to change the habits of a lifetime though.

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

"Would you tread on your dying granny to get what you want?

Or are you the sort who puts others first...maybe at the detriment of yourself?

Do the end results justify the means?

I put others before myself - giver not a taker "

Is this the same for business and personal DC?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I put myself first if I know what the other person is asking of me will break me or genuinely impact badly on my psyche, but even then I will try to come to a compromise.

However, if someone is a complete tool and I believe their intentions to be bad ones towards me, I WILL throw them under the bus.

Other than that, be a good person and I'll move mountains for ya.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A little but of A and a little bit if B.

For small everyday things I tend to put other people first they are easy wins.

In really life altering situations I am a big more practical and self centered

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By *ustme34Man
over a year ago

Bradford

"I put myself first if I know what the other person is asking of me will break me or genuinely impact badly on my psyche, but even then I will try to come to a compromise.

However, if someone is a complete tool and I believe their intentions to be bad ones towards me, I WILL throw them under the bus.

Other than that, be a good person and I'll move mountains for ya.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I put myself first if I know what the other person is asking of me will break me or genuinely impact badly on my psyche, but even then I will try to come to a compromise.

However, if someone is a complete tool and I believe their intentions to be bad ones towards me, I WILL throw them under the bus.

Other than that, be a good person and I'll move mountains for ya.

This.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always put others first, often to my own detriment. I have been taken advantage of for my kind nature. I find it hard to say no x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think a person generally feels better when they've done good. Whereas greed breeds guilt. So, in a way, being good to others is being good to yourself, plus they're likely to help lift you up too when you're in need.... ....peace innit....

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

To my eternal shame I missed my Granny passing and have felt guilty of it ever since.

Although she would tell me to man up I’m sure.

So no I would sit by my Granny and talk bollocks until she left me.

I can’t abide people who shit on others to get ahead. Sadly in my line of work it’s prevalent.

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
over a year ago

BRIDPORT

Some and some. People who are close to me and know me well, know I will be there for them in what ever way I can , regardless of my own situation. These same people also know I do not suffer fools and to borrow a phrase used previously in this thread, would have no conscience in ‘throwing them under the bus’.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I always have put others first - often to my own detriment and often feel guilty on the occasions I do take a stance in favour of what I want, even if I have absolutely no need to feel that way.

It's something I have become more conscious of in recent years and try to manage better but even so struggle with at times

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

"To my eternal shame I missed my Granny passing and have felt guilty of it ever since.

Although she would tell me to man up I’m sure.

So no I would sit by my Granny and talk bollocks until she left me.

I can’t abide people who shit on others to get ahead. Sadly in my line of work it’s prevalent. "

Yes..is it really necessary to shit on people in business to get ahead?

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport

The second type. Probably too much so, some of the shit from the last two or three years has done me no good. But I'd rather be like i am and feel that on balance i contribute to making the universe a better place, than the alternative.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do you think my granny is dying in the first place

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I have a switch. I'm trying to train myself out of the doormat thing, but my default is to be giving, and always will be.

It takes an awful lot to flick my switch... but if you do, may God have mercy on your wretched soul.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes two reasons, first she’s dead so won’t feel it secondly we didn’t get in so deffo would

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

All situational and no one situation will have the same decision made by myself.

Would I sacrifice a loved one to get what I want? No.

Would I sacrifice myself to give somebody else what they want? No.

I've put myself out for other people more times than I can count, I've also done lots of selfish things.

Fuck either or, fuck black and white, fuck good and evil, fuck extremes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Second one. Probably to my detriment at times.

But, it's the way I am

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just try to be a good person to the best of my ability, but sometimes you have to put yourself first.

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

"I just try to be a good person to the best of my ability, but sometimes you have to put yourself first."

This pretty much sums be up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m a reformed people pleaser. I’ve not got to the point where I would describe myself as very selfish. But I have learned the value of selfish behaviour and assert my needs and wants more clearly now when I know what they are. It doesn’t mean that they are met, but it does mean that I have expressed them. If I have to find alternative ways of getting them met, I do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just try to be a good person to the best of my ability, but sometimes you have to put yourself first.

This pretty much sums be up

Agreed, pretty much my mindset also

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would you tread on your dying granny to get what you want?

Or are you the sort who puts others first...maybe at the detriment of yourself?

Do the end results justify the means?"
strangest post ever ! But no I wouldn’t x

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South

No. My family were and are my world. I would give anything for one more hug from my nan or my grampy. I don’t miss having lots of money, but i do miss their love.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. Family is everything if theyre happy then so am i. This year ive been trying to be a better person and tbh feel much better for it.

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

"No. My family were and are my world. I would give anything for one more hug from my nan or my grampy. I don’t miss having lots of money, but i do miss their love."

Aww...so would I

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

"Would you tread on your dying granny to get what you want?

Or are you the sort who puts others first...maybe at the detriment of yourself?

Do the end results justify the means? strangest post ever ! But no I wouldn’t x"

You think this strange...welcome to my world

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By *erdyWoman
over a year ago

wiltshire

Would always put myself first to get what I want.

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