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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

You've been chatting to someone that you really click with, they want a fwb, you arrange a meet and your looking forward to it only for them to tell you that the night before meeting you they went on an last minute meet to a club and had fun... would you still consider meeting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd argue that if you wouldn't consider meeting them after they told you this then perhaps you're on the wrong site and should ask yourself if the lifestyle is really for you.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

Just because they had fun the night before, doesn’t mean they no longer want that arrangement. I don’t like calling it an arrangement but you know what I mean.

How did it make you feel?

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Yes, as long as they're not too knackered. I want their A game.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd argue that if you wouldn't consider meeting them after they told you this then perhaps you're on the wrong site and should ask yourself if the lifestyle is really for you."

Can I ask why it’s the wrong site ?

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By *elshkinkyMan
over a year ago

south wales


"I'd argue that if you wouldn't consider meeting them after they told you this then perhaps you're on the wrong site and should ask yourself if the lifestyle is really for you."

I don’t agree tbh... it’s about building up the connection and making plans to meet and for me there is an element of exclusivity or agreement between both parties beforehand .... whatever the dynamics of the relationships being honest and up from mr from the off is essential

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By *isaAndNicoleTransTV/TS
over a year ago

Southport / Ellesmere Port

To be honest yes it would put me off a bit for exactly the same reason that NSAchick said.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I’d ask why they were telling me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone is entitled to do what makes them happy. If you haven't met them yet it's technically none of your business. I'd still be up for the meet.

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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

Well at least they told u they didnt have to but yes I still meet them

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes

Just because they had fun the night before, doesn’t mean they no longer want that arrangement. I don’t like calling it an arrangement but you know what I mean

How did it make you feel?"

A little disappointed I guess but your right I should still meet as arranged... thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes

Just because they had fun the night before, doesn’t mean they no longer want that arrangement. I don’t like calling it an arrangement but you know what I mean

How did it make you feel?

A little disappointed I guess but your right I should still meet as arranged... thanks "

I think it’s down to communication before ... you do what makes you happy.

Enjoy your meet

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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire


"Yes

Just because they had fun the night before, doesn’t mean they no longer want that arrangement. I don’t like calling it an arrangement but you know what I mean

How did it make you feel?

A little disappointed I guess but your right I should still meet as arranged... thanks "

Are you after elusive?

And you may of clicked in messages or on the phone but may not so face to face and I wouldnt put all my eggs in one basket before I met someone either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes because they are being honest and not hiding it. And I'm guessing it's only a social?

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton


"You've been chatting to someone that you really click with, they want a fwb, you arrange a meet and your looking forward to it only for them to tell you that the night before meeting you they went on an last minute meet to a club and had fun... would you still consider meeting "
. Yes I would still meet them they deserve a face to face conversation .From my experience the thing with fwb is you have to agree a few ground rules so that are no problems further down the line which is why a face to face conversation is important to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I often do 2 clubs in 2 nights, wether a meet is arranged or not.

Cant say I have had anyone put off by this, we are on a swingers site after all.

Even if I have a FWB (I do) they are aware I sleep with others, regular

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes

Just because they had fun the night before, doesn’t mean they no longer want that arrangement. I don’t like calling it an arrangement but you know what I mean

How did it make you feel?

A little disappointed I guess but your right I should still meet as arranged... thanks

Are you after elusive?

And you may of clicked in messages or on the phone but may not so face to face and I wouldnt put all my eggs in one basket before I met someone either "

Thanks that sounds very logical

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd argue that if you wouldn't consider meeting them after they told you this then perhaps you're on the wrong site and should ask yourself if the lifestyle is really for you.

Can I ask why it’s the wrong site ?

"

From the way the OP is worded it kinda gives the impression that the author is asking if people would consider if they had 'exclusive' access to this person - at least until their meet and of expectations that they would not play with others in the meantime.

That, to me, would suggest perhaps some misunderstanding of the lifestyle. This is, after all, primarily a swingers site as opposed to a dating app.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure I would meet .. after it's hard enough for some men on here the best of times .. to be told that is a confidence deflater

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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire


"I'd argue that if you wouldn't consider meeting them after they told you this then perhaps you're on the wrong site and should ask yourself if the lifestyle is really for you.

Can I ask why it’s the wrong site ?

From the way the OP is worded it kinda gives the impression that the author is asking if people would consider if they had 'exclusive' access to this person - at least until their meet and of expectations that they would not play with others in the meantime.

That, to me, would suggest perhaps some misunderstanding of the lifestyle. This is, after all, primarily a swingers site as opposed to a dating app.

"

To be fair you can use it how u want nothing is set in stone

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By *mberWoman
over a year ago

Preston

I'd still meet them yes, but I think I'd feel a bit disheartened.

I was chatting to someone and arranged to meet and he told me he'd been out and had sex with his ex.

It doesn't really matter but it felt a bit....pfft!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd argue that if you wouldn't consider meeting them after they told you this then perhaps you're on the wrong site and should ask yourself if the lifestyle is really for you.

Can I ask why it’s the wrong site ?

From the way the OP is worded it kinda gives the impression that the author is asking if people would consider if they had 'exclusive' access to this person - at least until their meet and of expectations that they would not play with others in the meantime.

That, to me, would suggest perhaps some misunderstanding of the lifestyle. This is, after all, primarily a swingers site as opposed to a dating app.

To be fair you can use it how u want nothing is set in stone"

Very true

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'd still meet them yes, but I think I'd feel a bit disheartened.

I was chatting to someone and arranged to meet and he told me he'd been out and had sex with his ex.

It doesn't really matter but it felt a bit....pfft!"

Pfft! Is exactly how I felt

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I'd argue that if you wouldn't consider meeting them after they told you this then perhaps you're on the wrong site and should ask yourself if the lifestyle is really for you."

I understand where you're coming from, but I'd want someone bringing their A game, not shagged out from the night before.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Yes, as long as they're not too knackered. I want their A game."

Exactly!

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

Sure I'd go ahead.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks everyone for your responses

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You've been chatting to someone that you really click with, they want a fwb, you arrange a meet and your looking forward to it only for them to tell you that the night before meeting you they went on an last minute meet to a club and had fun... would you still consider meeting "
it wouldn't enthuse me either but everyone will react differently here

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Id still meet them.

See if you still click face to face. Chat properly and make a decision from that.

Give you an opportunity to ask them about the future - that's more important than the past.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

I'd still meet them

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

I think until you have met in person and had the chat that honesty is all you can really expect.

Would you put your life on hold for someone you had not even met.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe they had that night already arranged.

I would be upset if they had cancelled meeting me to do that, or to meet someone else (had that happen and it is not nice)

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"You've been chatting to someone that you really click with, they want a fwb, you arrange a meet and your looking forward to it only for them to tell you that the night before meeting you they went on an last minute meet to a club and had fun... would you still consider meeting "
yeah why not?

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