FabSwingers.com forum: Rejection

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Why is rejection so hard for some people to take.

If the attraction isn’t there it isn’t for us, but when you tell them that you’re not interested they get nasty and be rude.

Is it just us or does most of you get this?

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's reasonable to politely decline and use the block button option against others. This prevents you from receiving further contact which is, too frequently, of an impolite nature. Always report inappropriate behaviour from others to Admin.

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By *arnayguyMan
over a year ago

Durham Tees

Pondering..... If you are turning someone down for the first time should it not just be 'jection'?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a meet last night . Was ok but I knew the guy was not for me . He asked if he could meet me again. I kind of said your a nice guy but not for me.

I felt so bad saying that to him . I could have said it better or just lied.

Still feel bad about it today . Don't know if I should messaged him or just leave it .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why is rejection so hard for some people to take.

If the attraction isn’t there it isn’t for us, but when you tell them that you’re not interested they get nasty and be rude.

Is it just us or does most of you get this?

I get it all the time, I say "no thankyou" I then block as I cant cope with abuse back tbh x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the ones doing the rejecting do it tactfully, kindly, respectfully then there shouldn't be a problem. If the rejected respond negatively then consider your initial rejection founded. Delete, block and move on, no worries

Fuzz

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By *rs C and Mr CCouple
over a year ago

North East

"Why is rejection so hard for some people to take.

If the attraction isn’t there it isn’t for us, but when you tell them that you’re not interested they get nasty and be rude.

Is it just us or does most of you get this?

It’s definitely not just you guys. I have almost given up with trying to let people down gently with the ‘sorry you’re not quite Mrs C’s type message’, as we had a spate of abuse, I was called a slut, told there were far better slags than me on here, asked who I thought I was, did I think this was all about us, did I think this was the Mrs C show.... it goes on & on... It was quite upsetting at one point.

I do feel horrible just deleting messages, but I’ve written in the profile that this is what I will do. If people persist messaging, I just block them now.

Delete, block & report them. They just spoil the place for anyone genuine & decent x

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By *hortarseWoman
over a year ago

Norfolk

"I had a meet last night . Was ok but I knew the guy was not for me . He asked if he could meet me again. I kind of said your a nice guy but not for me.

I felt so bad saying that to him . I could have said it better or just lied.

Still feel bad about it today . Don't know if I should messaged him or just leave it . "

You did the right thing. You got to be truthful about these things.

I would just leave it. He mind think he got second chance with you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I see block, delete and report is the way forward

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had a meet last night . Was ok but I knew the guy was not for me . He asked if he could meet me again. I kind of said your a nice guy but not for me.

I felt so bad saying that to him . I could have said it better or just lied.

Still feel bad about it today . Don't know if I should messaged him or just leave it .

You did the right thing. You got to be truthful about these things.

I would just leave it. He mind think he got second chance with you"

Thank you . I tried to be nice about it and I didn't want to hurt him.

Yes you are right I think it I did message he may think I am giving him a second chance ..

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By *empest2KMan
over a year ago

Derby

"Why is rejection so hard for some people to take.

If the attraction isn’t there it isn’t for us, but when you tell them that you’re not interested they get nasty and be rude.

Is it just us or does most of you get this?

To be honest, I'm at that age (and attractiveness) where rejection is pretty much the common response to my messages, so I see no point being abusive when it happens. Also, my mantra is that you should treat others how you expect to be treated yourself, and if they don't abide by that, they aren't the ones I want to associate myself with! Respect should go both ways

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rejection is hard ... if you say you’re not affected by it, you’re a better person than me, or should I say stronger than me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why is rejection so hard for some people to take.

If the attraction isn’t there it isn’t for us, but when you tell them that you’re not interested they get nasty and be rude.

Is it just us or does most of you get this?

Not everyone is for everyone, I sadly think that some people on here think because it’s a swingers site everyone’s on offer and that’s definitely not the case, people need to deal with rejection better otherwise they should question what they really want and maybe higher and escort instead

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By *ee04Man
over a year ago

Thurrock

I have no problem with anyone saying not for me. My reply has always been. “Thanks for replying and happy fabbing”.

Don’t get the need to be nasty seriously do people think it will change a persons mind?

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By *empest2KMan
over a year ago

Derby

"I have no problem with anyone saying not for me. My reply has always been. “Thanks for replying and happy fabbing”.

Don’t get the need to be nasty seriously do people think it will change a persons mind?"

This is pretty much how I respond

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why is rejection so hard for some people to take.

If the attraction isn’t there it isn’t for us, but when you tell them that you’re not interested they get nasty and be rude.

Is it just us or does most of you get this?

Because they’re probably drama queens looking for a fight , getting to be normal human behaviour nowadays . Block & move on be the bigger person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one likes rejection but I think it's kinder to be honest in the long run.

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By *hatYorkLadMan
over a year ago

York

Rejection is shit but some people have fragile little egos and no self control so they lash out with a load of abuse. If I get knocked back I just swallow it down and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I say no to guys everyday. Earlier I told someone his hair was too big and all he did was ask if shaving it off would make a difference. I very very rarely get abuse and the abuse I do get is usually a first message rather than a response to being told no thank you.

Don’t really class the initial message stage as rejection either, I’d have to have known them and spent time with them and been intimate with them to feel any kind of rejection.

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By *elshkinkyMan
over a year ago

south wales

I’m not sure this is the right site if you can’t take rejection well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people build themselves a bubble on here.When they get rejected it brings them back to reality and bursts that bubble.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because there is a sense of entitlement for alot of people jn todays society...

Its not just in here and its not just angry horny men...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get rejected daily, I love it now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rejection makes acceptance all the more worth while

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why is rejection so hard for some people to take.

If the attraction isn’t there it isn’t for us, but when you tell them that you’re not interested they get nasty and be rude.

Is it just us or does most of you get this?

I just say thanks for taking the time to reply and tell them I'm blocking them (to be polite about it and not to message again on the future). I've never taken offence to being rejected by a woman or a couple here.

There is the understandable annoyance when you agree to a meet that doesn't materialise, in which case the agreement shouldn't have happened and someone is to blame there.

Makes me laugh though the number of gay/bi men who message me and get all uptight when I point out in straight.

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By *oldyoudown41Man
over a year ago

caledonian

I just block people who don’t respond or say no (which is to remind me not to contact them again and look even more desperate ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t dwell on it guys if they can’t take the heat get out of the kitchen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because there is a sense of entitlement for alot of people jn todays society...

Its not just in here and its not just angry horny men...

Your right there.

I read a message my friend showed me from a couple on here.All he did was say sorry your not for me.

There reply was a tirade of swear words and threats and basically said how dare he turn down a couple on here and that men are a throw away commodity on here and the avalanche of low life desperate men on here should be honoured to even get a chance to meet.

I think some do feel entitled or the attention on here as made there bubble massive lol

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

It’s tough being rejected but it happens to us all. If you can’t cope with it it’s time to call it a day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't expect everyone to like you, can you? Rejection is part for the course. It's a case of deal with it. No need to be nasty about it is there?

I'd never stop swearing at people otherwise!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well a barely get replys and if i do is nasty ones ..like to kill myself or calling me a troll but i just move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well a barely get replys and if i do is nasty ones ..like to kill myself or calling me a troll but i just move on"

What ??

People reply telling you to kill yourself?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s tough being rejected but it happens to us all. If you can’t cope with it it’s time to call it a day. "

It doesn't bother me at all.I take rejection as that person has different sexual attraction to what I am.its not a insult.Its just there looking for something different to you

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Why is rejection so hard for some people to take.

If the attraction isn’t there it isn’t for us, but when you tell them that you’re not interested they get nasty and be rude.

Is it just us or does most of you get this?

It’s the Tom Jones phenomenon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get rejected daily, I love it now

...and me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get rejected daily, I love it now

...and me

It’s great isn’t it, I wouldn’t have it any other way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I first joined this site and I had plenty of free time to meet women, I would get rejected all the time and not just rejected but ignored or messages not read.

It did get to me. But now I'm in no rush to meet anyone and it doesn't bother me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why is rejection so hard for some people to take.

If the attraction isn’t there it isn’t for us, but when you tell them that you’re not interested they get nasty and be rude.

Is it just us or does most of you get this?

I get this too, it's completely uncalled for. Everyone isn't going to be attracted to everyone else, if people can't handle rejection without becoming abusive, then maybe swinging might not be the best thing for them.

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By *ndefiniteSparkMan
over a year ago

ignites minds to unite ...

I don't get it .

It's simple for me , rejection is an answer , closure allows to move on.

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