FabSwingers.com forum: 31 year old male seeking genuine advice please

By *ounger seeking help OP Man
over a year ago

Wednesbury

I'm a 31 year old male that's always fantasized over older women an couples. Since joking Fab I've been lucky enough to meet some of these people.. but I'd like some help having more luck as I feel that I'm not getting enough chances to at least chat with older people to at least explain myself

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By *iveittoher300Man
over a year ago

Southampton

Develope trust and friendship. An older woman will want to feel respected . I think sex in a longer term situation whether or not she's married will be more satisfying for her

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By *ounger seeking help OP Man
over a year ago

Wednesbury

Thanks I get that I'm not one of these that writes fancy a fuck I ask if we can start by chatting first just feel like I'm not being took seriously

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a 31 year old male that's always fantasized over older women an couples. Since joking Fab I've been lucky enough to meet some of these people.. but I'd like some help having more luck as I feel that I'm not getting enough chances to at least chat with older people to at least explain myself "
well no joking apart try and be serious for once and leave the joking to someone else

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Why do people think they should be given a chance? When did entitlement creep into personal "relationships?"

Put forward the best you, contact those looking for you and tailor your message to them.

Expect nothing and don't see Fab as the be all and end all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your username isn't quite right as you've been on here for over 3 years.

Those people you have met on fab - could they give you a veri to say what time they had with you? As at the moment it doesn't seem like you've had meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

User name and lack of veri’s doesn’t inspire trust!

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Thing is OP it's not about "luck" or being able to sign in and dial-a-meet, it's not even about sending the right kind of message necessarily either, although it helps.

It *is* about finding the right approach, attitude and expectations, and coupling it with a decent profile and pics and accepting that you won't be for everyone.

Get those things right and it won't guarantee a thing, but it will improve your experience of the site.

As others have said saying you've met people yet have no veris to show for it won't help - it either suggests you're fibbing, or that you weren't worth verifying - not saying either is the case but it's how someone may view things. I'd also do away with the status which is borderline desperate.

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By *essie.Woman
over a year ago

Serendipity

If use the forums regularly and come across as a normal guy who can hold a conversation, that will get noticed eventually.

I’d also have a look at how your profile reads.

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By *hloevtTV/TS
over a year ago

norwich

Stuff a dress on, it works for me x

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Older women and couples are just people who've lived longer than you. Treat them as you would anybody else, we're no different. Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Older women and couples are just people who've lived longer than you. Treat them as you would anybody else, we're no different. Good luck

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omg you are different

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do people think they should be given a chance? When did entitlement creep into personal "relationships?"

Put forward the best you, contact those looking for you and tailor your message to them.

Expect nothing and don't see Fab as the be all and end all."

This. All day long.

It's a site. Not a guarantee.

Go out, talk to women face to face.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Older women and couples are just people who've lived longer than you. Treat them as you would anybody else, we're no different. Good luck

omg you are different

Yeah but not in a good way...

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Many people don't want to be a token representative to fulfil a fantasy etc, so that could limit options if it's perceived by them.

For some the username including elements they may be wary of, could be a deterrent.

Meeting people in the flesh is probably ideal for men who are struggling against huge levels of competition online.

Letting people see your physique, can make it easier for those who want to see the goods to assess beforehand too.

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