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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I was reading the thread about would you tell your children about your lifestyle.. and I was thinking about the fact that I find my kids come to me with questions that I know full well I would not have even known to ask about at their age.

Now while I am openly with adults and things very sexual, I keep my lifestyle very much away from my kids, the most they know is that I dont see anything wrong with having more than one g/f or b/f as long as everyone is happy..

However that conversation itself only came out after something one of the younger ones ( 11) had heard while at school... and even my 5 year old has been exposed during school hours to things that I personally find inappropriate.

Like I am happy for her to know that boys and girls have different things.. but at 5 she already knows that mums and dads have sex to have babies.. as some one at school told her.

now she has no idea what sex is.... just repeating what she has heard.. but next year ( she will be in year 2) they will do basic sex education..

Now there is no point me refusing her to do it as her friends will just tell her anyway... but I know at even about 10, I didnt know the details of sex.. to be fair it was still a little bit of a mystery at 13... that would be unheard of these days...

SO my long question is.. do you think that with the media, and life in general these days that children are exposed to too much sexual stuff to early...

I mean even katy perrys song mentions menage a trois, and yes I got asked what that was.. and I actually sent my then 13 year old to ask her dad..

cali

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As parents I feel you should be there for them to answer any questions they may have open and honestly.

Lets face it, as kids they usually have enough questions of their own (yes, largely in part due to the media) for you to be answering without trying to force any further education down their throat.

As long as you let them know you are there to listen, that you will not judge them for their questions and give them honest unprejudiced advice and information you are doing a good job as a parent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As long as you let them know you are there to listen, that you will not judge them for their questions and give them honest unprejudiced advice and information you are doing a good job as a parent."

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"As parents I feel you should be there for them to answer any questions they may have open and honestly.

Lets face it, as kids they usually have enough questions of their own (yes, largely in part due to the media) for you to be answering without trying to force any further education down their throat.

As long as you let them know you are there to listen, that you will not judge them for their questions and give them honest unprejudiced advice and information you are doing a good job as a parent."

I always answer them honesty but well even though I am rather depraved at times and perverted.. I know as a child I was free from this knowledge, and there is something for keeping innocence as long as possible in my mind that society is making damned near impossible.

MY kids and my friends children to be fair will come to me with any and every issue.. as I am apparently going to give them a proper answer not fob them off.. but I still often question how they need to be asking those questions at such tender ages.

cali

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By *ucsparkMan
over a year ago

dudley

My daughter is coming seven this year and she asks questions and I answer honestly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As parents I feel you should be there for them to answer any questions they may have open and honestly.

Lets face it, as kids they usually have enough questions of their own (yes, largely in part due to the media) for you to be answering without trying to force any further education down their throat.

As long as you let them know you are there to listen, that you will not judge them for their questions and give them honest unprejudiced advice and information you are doing a good job as a parent.

I always answer them honesty but well even though I am rather depraved at times and perverted.. I know as a child I was free from this knowledge, and there is something for keeping innocence as long as possible in my mind that society is making damned near impossible.

MY kids and my friends children to be fair will come to me with any and every issue.. as I am apparently going to give them a proper answer not fob them off.. but I still often question how they need to be asking those questions at such tender ages.

cali "

You're right, there's nothing you can do to shield them from it these days tho, some of the stuff my kids have heard at school and on the media, I didn't know about until I was into my twenties.

It didn't help me tho being shielded from it, I couldn't go to my parents about anything - still can't, my parents just don't want to hear if it's anything that makes them feel slightly uncomfortable. It didn't stop me, in fact probably contributed to the fact that I had a miserable first experience and got pregnant at an early age (17). I think with a bit of openness and honesty I would have valued myself more, as my children do. My children have known all about sex, from the media and friends and subsequently some proper advice and information from me, yet both my older ones chose to abstain until they met someone that cared from them.

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By *am sampsonMan
over a year ago

cwmbran

I have a 1930's sex education pamphlet if any one wants to borrow it for their daughters entitled The approach to Womanhood" and I quote

It is not always recognised how very near to the surface the desire for union with the other sex lies, especially in the man; it may be aroused in him by things which to the girl are of little imprortance e.g. by kisses and casual embraces; it is unfair to to a man or boy to arouse in him desires whaich at times make it difficult for him to remain controlled and considerate .

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"I have a 1930's sex education pamphlet if any one wants to borrow it for their daughters entitled The approach to Womanhood" and I quote

It is not always recognised how very near to the surface the desire for union with the other sex lies, especially in the man; it may be aroused in him by things which to the girl are of little imprortance e.g. by kisses and casual embraces; it is unfair to to a man or boy to arouse in him desires whaich at times make it difficult for him to remain controlled and considerate ."

When it came to giving me 'the talk', my Mum chickened out and gave me a little booklet published in the 1950s. It talked a lot about how fruitflies mated, and told me as a woman that I would spend a lot of time rinsing out stockings.

Looking back actually, that last part isn't far from the truth!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a 1930's sex education pamphlet if any one wants to borrow it for their daughters entitled The approach to Womanhood" and I quote

It is not always recognised how very near to the surface the desire for union with the other sex lies, especially in the man; it may be aroused in him by things which to the girl are of little imprortance e.g. by kisses and casual embraces; it is unfair to to a man or boy to arouse in him desires whaich at times make it difficult for him to remain controlled and considerate ."

lol nice, that's like saying if you get more than you were asking for you brought it on yourself. Thank god the world has moved on for that kind of attitude. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cali-dont worry too much about the "sex education" that they recieve in Year two.

You can ask the teacher about the contents of the lessons but if it's anything like the primary schools i have taught at it will be VERY basic anatomy, and more about relationships, love, feelings etc than what we would consider sex education.

Saying that i could be wrong and it may be more extreme than that-sex education really only gets "graphic" after year 6/7 and even then its all fairly educational/anatomical. Hope that helps!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Cali-dont worry too much about the "sex education" that they recieve in Year two.

You can ask the teacher about the contents of the lessons but if it's anything like the primary schools i have taught at it will be VERY basic anatomy, and more about relationships, love, feelings etc than what we would consider sex education.

Saying that i could be wrong and it may be more extreme than that-sex education really only gets "graphic" after year 6/7 and even then its all fairly educational/anatomical. Hope that helps!"

I know what they are taught as I used to work in schools its basic anatomy but what is wrong with at 6 years old thinking that mum and dad have special cuddles.. not knowing that daddy puts his willy in mummy etc.. ( which was how my other child came home and told me he was made.)

I remember my parents telling me for a long time that I was found in a cabbage patch lol

Cali

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"lol nice, that's like saying if you get more than you were asking for you brought it on yourself. Thank god the world has moved on for that kind of attitude. x"

I don't think it has to be honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always liked the old stork bringing the baby like in dumbo

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I always liked the old stork bringing the baby like in dumbo "

I said that to my 5 year old the other day.. and she asked me..

"so how does the stock get it into her belly"

My other child quick to not spoil the image said.

"Thats what bellybuttons are for.. and why storks have long beaks"... it was very very funny

and my 5 year old just said..

"oh" then looked at me and said

"so mummy how does the baby get out again"..

my son butted in quickly with

"mums have to poo them out"

I was laughing to much to hear the reply but thought that is how it should be at their age.. lol

Cali

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was reading the thread about would you tell your children about your lifestyle.. and I was thinking about the fact that I find my kids come to me with questions that I know full well I would not have even known to ask about at their age.

Now while I am openly with adults and things very sexual, I keep my lifestyle very much away from my kids, the most they know is that I dont see anything wrong with having more than one g/f or b/f as long as everyone is happy..

However that conversation itself only came out after something one of the younger ones ( 11) had heard while at school... and even my 5 year old has been exposed during school hours to things that I personally find inappropriate.

Like I am happy for her to know that boys and girls have different things.. but at 5 she already knows that mums and dads have sex to have babies.. as some one at school told her.

now she has no idea what sex is.... just repeating what she has heard.. but next year ( she will be in year 2) they will do basic sex education..

Now there is no point me refusing her to do it as her friends will just tell her anyway... but I know at even about 10, I didnt know the details of sex.. to be fair it was still a little bit of a mystery at 13... that would be unheard of these days...

SO my long question is.. do you think that with the media, and life in general these days that children are exposed to too much sexual stuff to early...

I mean even katy perrys song mentions menage a trois, and yes I got asked what that was.. and I actually sent my then 13 year old to ask her dad..

cali "

mine go to a catholic school were they can opt out of sex education which i have to say causes some problems as it is left to parents to educate them and while some do some don't. but be personal i think year 2 is to young for them to need even basic sex eduacation but then from my job i do know children r physically developing earlier xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think 5 is too young maybe. although if your kids ask questions i think you should be honest and tell them things. i gave my son a book to read and he had sex education at the little school.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

Ooops I somehow missed this thread - not quite sure how lol - I raised one on condoms vs relationships but feel this one is better...

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

I'm still waiting for the birds and bees talk from my parents, but at school I learnt how to put a condom on a banana

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honesty and discretion is what we use but on a need to know basis

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

I think sex education is very important, it needs to be accurate and age appropriate - however, I feel it needs to focus on the relational aspect of it, to avoid some youngster ending up consenting to it well before they are really ready and others ending up in possibly abusive relationships. I m not stating a particular age as the right one, but I feel everybody needs to learn to love and respect themselves and their body, appreciate the value of friendship and relationships before they know all the ins and outs of sex?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i never had sex education lessons at school, for some reason we just didnt have them. everything i know ive learned through experience and chatting with friends (and ive learned a whole lot more since joining here!!)

though my 7 yr old said to me the other day "i'd love to smash her!" about some girl on the tele i dont know what they are teaching them in his school!!

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