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"How can you be something and a half? So hes 100% boy with 50% girl? That doesnt make any sense!" We are talking about Eddie Izzard | |||
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"I just wish Fabs would stop clashing Trans women with dress up " I dont see how that's relevant, also calling transvestites 'dress up' is also pretty offensive | |||
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"Gunna get abuse now but there’s a difference between trans Who put in the effort and a guy who wears a pair of undies not in same league in my opinion" Shush! You're not supposed to say that. | |||
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"Ok so...if a TV is all man and 50% woman, what do I call you? Serious question and I really don't want to come across as rude but I have no idea. If I see a trans person I will obviously refer to them as whatever they present as. Is that the same rule with a TV? (Brat)" I'm not saying that that description is across the board for all TVs, just that his description of his own trandvestism resonates with me personally. As for referring to people in person you just call them whatever they want to be called. If in in lilly mode I want to be called lilly, it would be weird if I was dressed as lilly and someone called me by my real name | |||
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"Ok so...if a TV is all man and 50% woman, what do I call you? Serious question and I really don't want to come across as rude but I have no idea. If I see a trans person I will obviously refer to them as whatever they present as. Is that the same rule with a TV? (Brat) I'm not saying that that description is across the board for all TVs, just that his description of his own trandvestism resonates with me personally. As for referring to people in person you just call them whatever they want to be called. If in in lilly mode I want to be called lilly, it would be weird if I was dressed as lilly and someone called me by my real name " I agree with this. Some used to only call me by my femme name as did not know real name, so went back to using a nick in male mode for the scene | |||
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"I meant pronouns. Hate to admit but I'm all kinds of confused when it comes to tvs. I don't want to offend anyone by referring to them as she when they're a guy. Do I just follow the rule of what mode you're in at the time? Sorry if this is inappropriate just tell me, ive just never had the chance to ask " Honestly the easiest option is if your in the situation is just to ask, it's not offensive to ask how someone wants to be referred to. Personally if I'm lilly I'd prefer to be addressed as if I was a woman as to me, that is what I am at that moment | |||
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"I meant pronouns. Hate to admit but I'm all kinds of confused when it comes to tvs. I don't want to offend anyone by referring to them as she when they're a guy. Do I just follow the rule of what mode you're in at the time? Sorry if this is inappropriate just tell me, ive just never had the chance to ask " Not inappropriate at all. It's nice for people to take a genuine interest. Safest bet is to use the pronoun most appropriate to how that person is presenting. | |||
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"I meant pronouns. Hate to admit but I'm all kinds of confused when it comes to tvs. I don't want to offend anyone by referring to them as she when they're a guy. Do I just follow the rule of what mode you're in at the time? Sorry if this is inappropriate just tell me, ive just never had the chance to ask " We are a confusing bunch all put under one umbrella. If it's a hairy bloke with just a pair of thrilly knickers on I would guess that you refer to them as "he", but full on top to toe dressed and make up I think then it should be "she" , us trannys put a lot of effort in. Then the transsexual truly (i think) have a legal right to be refered to as she, and they have earnt the title from the efort and challenges they have put in. As for me it's about a feeling inside, the sex side is just a cherry on top. | |||
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"Thank you for all your answers. Definitely going to be more relaxed about it now " We don't bit, unless that's what you enjoy, lol xxx Its quite nice that you asked, it help with understanding , one of the biggest misconceptions is people's sexuality, just because someone puts on a pair of silky knickers is not an indication that they are queer , some just like the feel of it. X | |||
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"Thank you for all your answers. Definitely going to be more relaxed about it now We don't bit, unless that's what you enjoy, lol xxx Its quite nice that you asked, it help with understanding , one of the biggest misconceptions is people's sexuality, just because someone puts on a pair of silky knickers is not an indication that they are queer , some just like the feel of it. X " Well that's why I asked. TS are finally getting a voice to provide answers in mainstream media but TVs are still very taboo and hushed so fab/swinging has been my only source of education on the subject really. | |||
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"Thank you for all your answers. Definitely going to be more relaxed about it now We don't bit, unless that's what you enjoy, lol xxx Its quite nice that you asked, it help with understanding , one of the biggest misconceptions is people's sexuality, just because someone puts on a pair of silky knickers is not an indication that they are queer , some just like the feel of it. X Well that's why I asked. TS are finally getting a voice to provide answers in mainstream media but TVs are still very taboo and hushed so fab/swinging has been my only source of education on the subject really." Wish more people would make an effort to understand, but fab makes it difficult as a MASIVE difference between a crossdresser and a transsexual but all put under the TV umbrella, most important is that we are all difrent with diffrent desires and needs but all beautiful people trying to enjoy life. X | |||
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"I'm a naughty attention seeking woman and a shy introvert man, so I'm in balance , bit of ying yang thing going on x " That sounds very much like myself. | |||
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"What Chloe & Jennie say is spot on. Shy plain guy mixed with extrovert girl here. I can do things as Gemma I'd never dare do in guy mode. I'm not talking naughty lol, just life stuff & experiences. There is an assumption however that all who dress are bi/gay. Nothing wrong with that but for those like me who only fancy females? That assumption is a bloody nuisance! I'm attracted to girls no matter the mode, so am straight male & lesbian female combined. " Can we be sisters as I'm exactly the same as you. Sisters who dont like sisters Seriously though, me wearing a dress is nothing to do with my sexuality, yes I sometimes use it for sexual purposes too but essentially i do this for me and me alone. I am more extrovert as Sophie as anyone who knows me will tell you. I can get away with a lot more too especially with women as I'm far friendlier and maybe seen as a kindred spirit as I know what women put up with from some men first hand and also know how much effort it can be to look good. There is a huge difference for me between myself and a TS, I wrestled with not knowing what I was for most of my life and happily I have found my place in it all. I dont have to present as a female day to day nor have to deal with the huge changes to life that journeying down the transition road takes you....you TS women have my utmost respect and admiration. Call me what you like, a tgirl, crossdresser, TV, CD and the rest. If it's done with a little respect and friendliness then we will get along just fine. Do it from a place where you're trying to put me down and you will find out I'm no wallflower. Everyone is different and that's what we should be embracing, not stuffing us all into a little box with a label as that's a dick move. Enjoy life and fuxk the haters | |||
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"Sisters who dont like misters...bloody spellcheck! " Did wonder what u were coming out with there | |||
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"Sisters who dont like misters...bloody spellcheck! Did wonder what u were coming out with there " And I'm not even d*unk | |||
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"Sisters who dont like misters...bloody spellcheck! Did wonder what u were coming out with there And I'm not even d*unk " Makes it even funnier lol | |||
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"Oh i dont know what i am anymore , i just put the frock and slap on and then i let her fuck me . Then in return she lets me drink gin afterwards and my pains just float away down some lonely river " Oh I know that river. | |||
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"What Chloe & Jennie say is spot on. Shy plain guy mixed with extrovert girl here. I can do things as Gemma I'd never dare do in guy mode. I'm not talking naughty lol, just life stuff & experiences. There is an assumption however that all who dress are bi/gay. Nothing wrong with that but for those like me who only fancy females? That assumption is a bloody nuisance! I'm attracted to girls no matter the mode, so am straight male & lesbian female combined. Can we be sisters as I'm exactly the same as you. Sisters who dont like sisters Seriously though, me wearing a dress is nothing to do with my sexuality, yes I sometimes use it for sexual purposes too but essentially i do this for me and me alone. I am more extrovert as Sophie as anyone who knows me will tell you. I can get away with a lot more too especially with women as I'm far friendlier and maybe seen as a kindred spirit as I know what women put up with from some men first hand and also know how much effort it can be to look good. There is a huge difference for me between myself and a TS, I wrestled with not knowing what I was for most of my life and happily I have found my place in it all. I dont have to present as a female day to day nor have to deal with the huge changes to life that journeying down the transition road takes you....you TS women have my utmost respect and admiration. Call me what you like, a tgirl, crossdresser, TV, CD and the rest. If it's done with a little respect and friendliness then we will get along just fine. Do it from a place where you're trying to put me down and you will find out I'm no wallflower. Everyone is different and that's what we should be embracing, not stuffing us all into a little box with a label as that's a dick move. Enjoy life and fuxk the haters " What Sophie Said........ | |||
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"Looool Why Looool? Have I missed something?" Maybe | |||
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"Looool Why Looool? Have I missed something? Maybe" Or maybe not....are you hoping one of us will dress you up as you're barking up the wrong tree MATE | |||
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"How can you be something and a half? So hes 100% boy with 50% girl? That doesnt make any sense!" Isn't that Cadbury chocolate selling point ? Oh no wait,theirs is glass and a half | |||
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"Oh i dont know what i am anymore , i just put the frock and slap on and then i let her fuck me . Then in return she lets me drink gin afterwards and my pains just float away down some lonely river Oh I know that river. " Cry me that river ... and i have many times whilst pushing pollocks back inside my anus whilst she snores on the sofa | |||
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"I think it's high time they had separate catagories as it's a bit of joke in this day and age." This seems sensible. | |||
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"How can you be something and a half? So hes 100% boy with 50% girl? That doesnt make any sense!" Its Eddie he likes to play And some one above agrees with him thus it makes perfect sense | |||
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"How many of us would choose to be 100% our birth assigned gender if we could? I would, life would have been a lot simpler/easier" I am 100% my birth assigned gender .. " Character " and gender are two different things altogether ... Im a man in a dress , sometimes , and then that part of my character is allowed to flurish .. At that point though her who must be obeyed usually takes my ass for a ride so any further flourishing is done mainly over the kitchen sink .. Im always a boy though .. | |||
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"I was just nosing around on the internet when I came across an Eddie Izzard interview. Commenting on his transvestism he described himself as 'I'm a complete boy, plus half a girl' and I realised that his description fits perfectly in line with myself. So other tvs out there, how would you describe your transvestism" I have always used the term "trans-polar". When I'm dressed I act and do things I wouldn't dream of doing in boy mode. It's like I slip into a new persona - that of a total slut | |||
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"Gunna get abuse now but there’s a difference between trans Who put in the effort and a guy who wears a pair of undies not in same league in my opinion" So have to agree with you. A guy in a pair of undies no ta. But a person who makes an effort to look like a lady is very sexy indeed | |||
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"Sisters who dont like misters...bloody spellcheck! " Haha. Your bigger reply is perfect & fits me almost exactly. Cool babe it'd be fun to have a sister, always wanted one but never had one. Finding that place & working out where you are & how far you need or don't need to go with dressing etc is a huge relief when you finally find that safe place. Not everyone finds it & those who seek it out & transition have my huge respect for being so brave. | |||
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"Tranvestism completes me. I have found my other half. Love and accept both sides of me hence my profile." That's the very thing. I feel balanced since stopping fighting it & accepting Gemma isn't going away, nor should I put her away on her boxes. Saves a whole heap of stress & angst. Plus my life has changed beyond anything I could have dreamed of going out & showing my girl to the outside world. X | |||
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" Remember one of my first chats with a TS who called me a coward for not having the change - not everyone feels they need it" There was lots of this on roses forum a few years ago. Bloody dangerous stuff filling people's heads with things they didn't need to hear. I went thru all manner of upset & worry until one day the pink fog cleared & I found myself a nice settled place to exist somewhere between boy & girl & feel so lucky I found it. You have to face stuff down to see if it's for you or not; it's the only way to learn how you feel about it. | |||
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"Would hope things were becoming more open and understanding and as many have said everyone is different. Dressing does not sexually excite me but does other things. Remember one of my first chats with a TS who called me a coward for not having the change - not everyone feels they need it" Many trans people who live as their true gender rather than their birth assigned one, don’t have surgical intervention. Let’s face it only they and their lovers know for sure if they’ve had the op. If their dysmorphia doesn’t drive them to seek medical help then who’s to tell them they need it. | |||
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" Remember one of my first chats with a TS who called me a coward for not having the change - not everyone feels they need it There was lots of this on roses forum a few years ago. Bloody dangerous stuff filling people's heads with things they didn't need to hear. I went thru all manner of upset & worry until one day the pink fog cleared & I found myself a nice settled place to exist somewhere between boy & girl & feel so lucky I found it. You have to face stuff down to see if it's for you or not; it's the only way to learn how you feel about it. " Well done you for finding your equilibrium than getting swept along. | |||
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"My understanding, there 3 variations here... CD’s - Guys who enjoy to dress purely for sexual gratification. TV’s - Guys who enjoy to become female but not wanting to transition. TS - Women who have followed through with the transition (fully or partly) & whom live as such, full time. Of course, just my view on what I see but hey, labels are for food & clothes so who cares right? Live & love your life " Don't think your too far off the mark there for those that want to label things | |||
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