FabSwingers.com forum: What did I say ???

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Does this happen to you ??? Your chatting with someone and seem to be getting on really well ! Your mail box is simply full with there messages and Then it goes silent to one or two messages a day if your lucky

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Messages?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't know as do not know the context of the conversation.

I could tell you why I would do that though.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Messages?!

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on here

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Don't know as do not know the context of the conversation.

I could tell you why I would do that though. "
I was a complete gentleman and respectful at all times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have to remember, women get 10,000+ messages a day. It’s actually sheer luck they answer you in the first place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't know as do not know the context of the conversation.

I could tell you why I would do that though. I was a complete gentleman and respectful at all times "

I hardly think theres a chance you weren't a complete gentleman stock. You're a good guy from what I've seen and interacted with.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

Could be 1001 reasons, I'd be more concerned if the messages stopped altogether after starting well

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Holibobs

It happens and I think we are all guilty of doing it, sometimes without realising we just move on. some come back and some break for good but that's part of life and not just on fab either.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You have to remember, women get 10,000+ messages a day. It’s actually sheer luck they answer you in the first place.

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yes fair play ! The men to ladies ratio on here is ridiculous

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Don't know as do not know the context of the conversation.

I could tell you why I would do that though. I was a complete gentleman and respectful at all times

I hardly think theres a chance you weren't a complete gentleman stock. You're a good guy from what I've seen and interacted with. "

Why thank you your to kind xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't know as do not know the context of the conversation.

I could tell you why I would do that though. I was a complete gentleman and respectful at all times

I hardly think theres a chance you weren't a complete gentleman stock. You're a good guy from what I've seen and interacted with.

Why thank you your to kind xxx"

Lol I know.

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By *ustfun1000Man
over a year ago

hanwell

Awkward to know how someone else is thinking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes real life interferes with fab life.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Awkward to know how someone else is thinking "
Yes I get that. This time on fab I decided I was going to play things different and chat with people and get to know them before I meet ! So eventually when you do there’s a connection. Maybe I’ve been chatting to much ! Lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sometimes real life interferes with fab life. "
yep I get that too ! But she’s on here a lot to be fair x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Anyway I’ve got a new bestie now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happens a lot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its fab, it happens!!

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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland

Sometimes they just find a new toy to play with.

It’s not necessarily you or anything you’ve done, that’s just how they are

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By *hy_bangor_bi-girlWoman
over a year ago

Bangor

I have to keep checking what I sent last to tie in with replies I get.. So so bad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think plenty of people expect or hope the chat moves at a particular pace and beyond into arranged plans etc maybe they were expecting you to suggest meeting after chatting for so long but you havent seen any signs of this and are still just replying, all be it flirty, but not suggesting meeting so as not to seem like you're moving things too fast? Does that make sense?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sometimes they just find a new toy to play with.

It’s not necessarily you or anything you’ve done, that’s just how they are"
sounds about right

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have to keep checking what I sent last to tie in with replies I get.. So so bad"
lolol x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think plenty of people expect or hope the chat moves at a particular pace and beyond into arranged plans etc maybe they were expecting you to suggest meeting after chatting for so long but you havent seen any signs of this and are still just replying, all be it flirty, but not suggesting meeting so as not to seem like you're moving things too fast? Does that make sense? "
yes definitely ! I think it’s the fact she’s a very attractive lady with a great profile and photo’s that’s also actually really down to earth. One can only imagine that see is inundated with offers !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You have to remember, women get 10,000+ messages a day. It’s actually sheer luck they answer you in the first place.

I’m sure some do initially, but a few hundred is my usual.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think plenty of people expect or hope the chat moves at a particular pace and beyond into arranged plans etc maybe they were expecting you to suggest meeting after chatting for so long but you havent seen any signs of this and are still just replying, all be it flirty, but not suggesting meeting so as not to seem like you're moving things too fast? Does that make sense? yes definitely ! I think it’s the fact she’s a very attractive lady with a great profile and photo’s that’s also actually really down to earth. One can only imagine that see is inundated with offers !!!"

If you have already been chatting and flirting extensively bud I think you can take it that she likes you, no reason why you cant be the guy that interests her most

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You have to remember, women get 10,000+ messages a day. It’s actually sheer luck they answer you in the first place.

I’m sure some do initially, but a few hundred is my usual.

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May one ask does this spoil your fab experience?

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

It could be down to any number of things - real life has got busy, her attraction has waned, she's talking to others... the only real way of finding out is by asking her directly. Not in a needy, "why aren't you messaging me" sort of way, more a "hey, just checking everything is okay with you" thing. Do you just want to message or are you hoping to meet at some point?

I hope it goes well for you though OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You have to remember, women get 10,000+ messages a day. It’s actually sheer luck they answer you in the first place.

I’m sure some do initially, but a few hundred is my usual.

May one ask does this spoil your fab experience? "

Only getting a few hundred messages to wade through? Nah. I’m not greedy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sometimes real life interferes with fab life. yep I get that too ! But she’s on here a lot to be fair x"

Happened to me OP with someone from the forums. She went further and blocked me. Like it's already been said there's a 1001 reasons. I guess she just wanted a blimp at my pictures.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It could be down to any number of things - real life has got busy, her attraction has waned, she's talking to others... the only real way of finding out is by asking her directly. Not in a needy, "why aren't you messaging me" sort of way, more a "hey, just checking everything is okay with you" thing. Do you just want to message or are you hoping to meet at some point?

I hope it goes well for you though OP."
Thank you very much for your wise words x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't know as do not know the context of the conversation.

I could tell you why I would do that though. I was a complete gentleman and respectful at all times "

Maybe being a complete gentle at all times bore them. If the chats been going on then the conversation should get heated up otherwise they may wonder if you are into them x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Don't know as do not know the context of the conversation.

I could tell you why I would do that though. I was a complete gentleman and respectful at all times

Maybe being a complete gentle at all times bore them. If the chats been going on then the conversation should get heated up otherwise they may wonder if you are into them x"
Oh no we did talk about fantasies and

Scenarios and she did like my suggestions x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it happens a lot. The conversation just dies a natural death.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think it happens a lot. The conversation just dies a natural death."
Yep I accept that x well she’s the one missing out x

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By *hatYorkLadMan
over a year ago

York

Simple answer, someone they deem a better option has caught their attention and you're now being ghosted

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I think it happens a lot. The conversation just dies a natural death. Yep I accept that x well she’s the one missing out x"

Is she?

I think speaking to the lady concerned would be your best course of action.

It's possible that she felt you were exchanging too many messages, that she has other conversations going on, that she felt *she* might have been coming on too strong, that she felt you might want to cool things a bit... or any number of other reasons.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does this happen to you ??? Your chatting with someone and seem to be getting on really well ! Your mail box is simply full with there messages and Then it goes silent to one or two messages a day if your lucky

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it only takes one like, dislike or trait and thats the end, you could always ask them as it would appear they haven't blocked you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think it happens a lot. The conversation just dies a natural death. Yep I accept that x well she’s the one missing out x

Is she?

I think speaking to the lady concerned would be your best course of action.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

It's a brutal world on here. People don't think they owe people they chat to anything. Hence they will chat when they are interested and stop chatting when they're no longer interested.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"I think it happens a lot. The conversation just dies a natural death. Yep I accept that x well she’s the one missing out x

Is she?

I think speaking to the lady concerned would be your best course of action.

Hmm.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think it happens a lot. The conversation just dies a natural death. Yep I accept that x well she’s the one missing out x

Is she?

I think speaking to the lady concerned would be your best course of action.

Hmm.

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I know terrible x

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"I think it happens a lot. The conversation just dies a natural death. Yep I accept that x well she’s the one missing out x

Is she?

I think speaking to the lady concerned would be your best course of action.

Hmm.

I know terrible x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like the usual pattern to me...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think it happens a lot. The conversation just dies a natural death. Yep I accept that x well she’s the one missing out x

Is she?

I think speaking to the lady concerned would be your best course of action.

Hmm.

I know terrible x

Not terrible, we're all entitled to find as many "Dorises" as we like. I just think you declaring it on the forum so the lady in question can see the effects of only messaging you twice a day is rather ungentlemanly "
for one am not ungentlemanly so I actually take great offence to that ! And the figure of 1 or 2 messages a day is more like 20 + maybe at the start of the post I was a little unsure about the situation ! But after my very informative fab friends I now have mote clarity. As usual thank you and to everyone for there input as it’s greatly appreciated xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sounds like the usual pattern to me..."
Shame when you feel you’ve made a connection !

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I’ve moved on now x thank you for all your advice

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
over a year ago

kent

"It's a brutal world on here. People don't think they owe people they chat to anything. Hence they will chat when they are interested and stop chatting when they're no longer interested. "

This is part of it. I think also too much attention has a distorting affect. When you are surrounded by people vying for your attention, you stop seeing all those people as real people. You lose sight of their feelings, and cannot see their perspective. I guess in a sense the ego becomes bigger than the sense of compassion. Everyone just becomes expendable and whatever connection you built up is easily dismissed because there is always someone else to just bounce onto, you don’t really feel those pangs of loss and regret, because your attention is immediately occupied by someone else. It’s not malicious, but It is brutal, and it can be hard for those left behind.

We always try to make sure our compassion for others remains at the front of our interactions with people, and even with our limited engagement, it isn’t always possible.

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By *uzzy NavelWoman
over a year ago

so near and yet so far....

"Messages?!

Have you seen the pineapple thread on here?

When taking your next pineapple photo, be aware of what you do in the supermarket when buying it....

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By *uzzy NavelWoman
over a year ago

so near and yet so far....

Is this because you’ve given her your mobile/whatsapp/Kik ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's a brutal world on here. People don't think they owe people they chat to anything. Hence they will chat when they are interested and stop chatting when they're no longer interested.

We always try to make sure our compassion for others remains at the front of our interactions with people, and even with our limited engagement, it isn’t always possible. "
I know ! I think I became smitten without realising x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This only happens to me when i put a ‘who wants to suck ma dick’ status up!

Schoolboy error

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"This only happens to me when i put a ‘who wants to suck ma dick’ status up!

Schoolboy error

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ha ha you funny focker !!!

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By *lderSarnianMan
over a year ago

St Sampsons

I can relate to your situation, Stockbroker.

I am 'biting my tongue' and not messaging a lady who I was chatting to quite a bit since I don't want to come across as a pest. I've already said as much to her, with no reply. We're still friends, though, so I remain optimistic.

I'm just keeping my fingers crossed that she is still going to meet!

There aren't many eligible ladies in my area, so she's one I don't want to lose...

I hope you find another one you can treat with so much enthusiasm and attention

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its always a challenge to understand how conversations go on here, why they suddenly stop, but it happens.

I have experienced it many times but also the peculiar situation of a conversation then friend request which I accepted followed by more conversation then blocked!

C'est la vie

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By *lderSarnianMan
over a year ago

St Sampsons

Also had that - exchanged a few messages with someone who seemed laid back and fun, but then she started just deleting everything I sent her.

Another occasion, only a couple of days ago, a lovely lady messaged me to offer a comment on a previous post of mine and we swapped a few messages. Then I made the mildest of suggestive comments and BOOM - BLOCKED.

WTF is someone like that doing on a swinger's site? Jeez Louise....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I can relate to your situation, Stockbroker.

I'm just keeping my fingers crossed that she is still going to meet!

There aren't many eligible ladies in my area, so she's one I don't want to lose...

I hope you find another one you can treat with so much enthusiasm and attention

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Mate this is exactly my situation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What’s this mythical thing called a message does it have a happy ending

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have a box

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They may have got busy

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Messages?!

on here "
oh, right. On here - zero, text and saucy phone calls, I’d say about 4/5 a day. I think it’s my job more than anything but it all counts.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"They may have got busy"
hmmm let’s hope so x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Messages?!

on here oh, right. On here - zero, text and saucy phone calls, I’d say about 4/5 a day. I think it’s my job more than anything but it all counts. "
hmmm maybe

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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago

In a sleepy little village

It happens a lot OP. Normally when they've found someone else to chat too. Then when that goes pear shaped they come back and try and get the conversation going again !

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I don’t want to chat too much to someone before seeing them. Need to leave something in the tank so to speak.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Messages?!

on here oh, right. On here - zero, text and saucy phone calls, I’d say about 4/5 a day. I think it’s my job more than anything but it all counts. hmmm maybe "

Hmmm maybe you need to get real? For every couple and single woman on this site there is 10,000 single chaps..........it’s their (not there) choice?

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By *ionelhutzMan
over a year ago

liverpool

Lost count

Happens all the time.I expect it now.

Think it's quite rude tbh but like someone mentioned women get 100s of messeges a day..still very annoying though.

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By *ionelhutzMan
over a year ago

liverpool

It happens on dating sites aswell.I was chatting to someone over a few nights..really clicked..arranged a date then she just swerved me.

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By *erdyWoman
over a year ago

wiltshire

Maybe it's the spelling OP - It should be their messages not as you spelt "there messages "

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