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By *urious1973 OP   Man
over a year ago

angus

ladies what do you look for in that first message to get your reply x does it depend on the profile or does a message with more than one sentence with a few nice compliments thrown in merit your attention x always looking for feedback x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the person sending it. I’ve replied to ‘hi how are you?’ Because the person sending it had a good profile, and was a fitty

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By *urious1973 OP   Man
over a year ago

angus


"Depends on the person sending it. I’ve replied to ‘hi how are you?’ Because the person sending it had a good profile, and was a fitty"

Does that mean id get one lol x

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

I'm a lady - honest.

OP the message content is important. But the bottom line is that nobody will reply to the nicest, politest, most perfect message in the history of the world if they're not attracted to, or feel incompatible with the person who sent it.

You can never guarantee a reply.

Tis life.

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depends on the person sending it. I’ve replied to ‘hi how are you?’ Because the person sending it had a good profile, and was a fitty

Does that mean id get one lol x"

No

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Thing is OP there is no "magic formula" you'll get as many answers to your question as there are variations.

Whether someone replies or not comes down to so many variables that it's impossible to be a "one size fits all" - so best thing you can do is be yourself, contact those people that appeal to you and accept that you won't be right for a lot of them.

Having a decent profile and pics, and sending respectful and considerate messages can of course only help, but it doesn't guarantee anything either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think trying to cultivate the perfect first message is the wrong way to got about things. If there was a perfect message it would be copied and pasted a million times and then women would start find it less and less appealing. Tell her what attracted you and hopefully you attract her too

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"I think trying to cultivate the perfect first message is the wrong way to got about things. If there was a perfect message it would be copied and pasted a million times and then women would start find it less and less appealing. Tell her what attracted you and hopefully you attract her too "

I have the perfect opening message. It's for sale to the highest bidder.

Along with some magic beans, some unreleased Beatles tracks and some nazi gold I stumbled across in a Bavarian forest.

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think trying to cultivate the perfect first message is the wrong way to got about things. If there was a perfect message it would be copied and pasted a million times and then women would start find it less and less appealing. Tell her what attracted you and hopefully you attract her too

I have the perfect opening message. It's for sale to the highest bidder.

Along with some magic beans, some unreleased Beatles tracks and some nazi gold I stumbled across in a Bavarian forest.

A"

I hope you didnt graze your knee but kudos on your find. Wiring you my last 5er now but this message best be something special hey

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By *ampant Lion34Man
over a year ago

East Midlands

Ot dont matter if you read there full profile to the end with a list of demands etc longer than the UN. You can tick all the boxes they are looking for and send a great msg have good stuff on your profile etc but soon as that face pic pings off if your not an A list celeb or footballer then your toast.

Then you will see a few days later on there feed I'm sick of time wasters and fakes. Ehhhhhhh told ya so lol.

But yeah just be yourself, I even got asked out by a bird I nicked lol classic.

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By *ampant Lion34Man
over a year ago

East Midlands

I know spelling mistakes, meant to be It at start and their. Bloody auto correct

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Needs to be substantial, interesting and funny....We’re not looking for a life story but enough to make you stand out from the “hey hun, wassup” losers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depends on the person sending it. I’ve replied to ‘hi how are you?’ Because the person sending it had a good profile, and was a fitty

Does that mean id get one lol x

No"

love that honesty

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By *urious1973 OP   Man
over a year ago

angus


"Depends on the person sending it. I’ve replied to ‘hi how are you?’ Because the person sending it had a good profile, and was a fitty

Does that mean id get one lol x

No

love that honesty "

Im bloody heart broken here x

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