FabSwingers.com forum: Doms and subs

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If sexually, you’re dominant, are you dominant in your day to day life?

If sexually, you’re submissive, are you submissive in your day to say life?

If you’re a switch, the fuck?

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

No.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Someone very wise once said to me:

"I don't think a person's sexuality has any bearing on their character or behaviour"

And it's true, submissives aren't all cowering wrecks, and dominants aren't all strutting chest beaters - it's something inner that defines a dominant or a submissive

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Someone very wise once said to me:

"I don't think a person's sexuality has any bearing on their character or behaviour"

And it's true, submissives aren't all cowering wrecks, and dominants aren't all strutting chest beaters - it's something inner that defines a dominant or a submissive

Who said that

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

I’m neither.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m neither

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Who said that "

Suggs from Madness

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Who said that

Suggs from Madness"

Ah yes

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"Someone very wise once said to me:

"I don't think a person's sexuality has any bearing on their character or behaviour"

And it's true, submissives aren't all cowering wrecks, and dominants aren't all strutting chest beaters - it's something inner that defines a dominant or a submissive

Who said that "

Someone very wise..I told you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Someone very wise once said to me:

"I don't think a person's sexuality has any bearing on their character or behaviour"

And it's true, submissives aren't all cowering wrecks, and dominants aren't all strutting chest beaters - it's something inner that defines a dominant or a submissive

Who said that

Someone very wise..I told you

I don’t know any wise people except you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm very submissive in the bedroom, but not at all in every day life.

I think one of the reasons I am submissive is because it's a release from the every day control you have to have in life.

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By *urvySub87Woman
over a year ago

Near Wellingborough

I'm only submissive in bed, in life I am completely in control

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

"Someone very wise once said to me:

"I don't think a person's sexuality has any bearing on their character or behaviour"

And it's true, submissives aren't all cowering wrecks, and dominants aren't all strutting chest beaters - it's something inner that defines a dominant or a submissive

Who said that

Someone very wise..I told you

I don’t know any wise people except you

And he just said it!

omg it was him!

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By *ne4meMan
over a year ago

London

Personally I know I’m a switch in both, I have a dominant position at work but can appear submissive at times until the wrong button is pushed.

I’m tall and have presence so in the bedroom I naturally take a dominant role, but when my kinky mind button is pushed I become very very submissive and would literally do anything in the hands of a strong mistress that likes to take control.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wish to fuck I could define myself that easily....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I wish to fuck."

Me too

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"I'm very submissive in the bedroom, but not at all in every day life.

I think one of the reasons I am submissive is because it's a release from the every day control you have to have in life. "

That’s been my experience. I can understand sexual submissives who lead very demanding life’s, as a form of release I get that, but I can’t understand the switch mindset or a male Dom who is a beta in real life just doesn’t seem authentic.

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By *r_Jake70Man
over a year ago

London

Some, but by no means all of the women who identify as submissive, or have strong submissive tendencies who I have played with have tended to have pretty high-powered, managerial, or senior positions. Whether that means that they’re ‘dominant’ IRL, I’m not so sure, but there’s often a sense of stress-relief at play where they can hand over their day-to-day responsibilities to someone else. As someone who floats up and down the D/s spectrum as it appeals to me, with fun and laughter being top of my priorities, that pretty much matches my day-to-day inclinations, so go figure.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

I'm naturally submissive in all aspects of life. For me personally it helps to have one person to direct my submissiveness towards, so that I can be more assertive in work for example.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only submissive in my sex life and then only with guys. With women I can switch.

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

"If you’re a switch, the fuck?"

Exactly.

The fuck.

I have to get on this fucking train, but am I taking it? Is it taking me? The fuck, though?! I've been on this platform for 45 minutes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a very Dominant character in life. I'm a boss. A bitch. But for the right man I'm an extreme submissive. It's a massive release from day to day life. There's nothing more satisfying than the release if ones mind, body and soul. To think nothing just to feel. I need it and crave it.

Many just think oh she's a slut...yes but not just any cunt can tell me what to do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm submissive but not in daily life away from Sir.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm told wot 2 do, follow the rules and law every day... Dominant in private is my time 2 rule!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm submissive but in day to day I'm the opposite. I love being in submissive zone as it's the time that I can totally switch off and let someone else do the worrying

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By *ark ph0enixWoman
over a year ago

Teesside

Very strong in everyday life. But i like to let go of that in the bedroom (or dungeon) I think that's part of the appeal to me tho I'm not a classic sub type. Too god damn stubborn to call any one master.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Only submissive in my sex life and then only with guys. With women I can switch.

This sums me up too

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"Some, but by no means all of the women who identify as submissive, or have strong submissive tendencies who I have played with have tended to have pretty high-powered, managerial, or senior positions. Whether that means that they’re ‘dominant’ IRL, I’m not so sure, but there’s often a sense of stress-relief at play where they can hand over their day-to-day responsibilities to someone else. "

I see that too. If Mrs has had a demanding , challenging day, she loves me to male all the decisions, choose her outfit , makeup , order the wine and choose her meal and give orders of kink that must be obeyed.

But there’s no way after a tough day I’d enjoy someone doing anything that ! I get even more alpha, hit the 24hr gym for release come back and want to tie her up and do unspeakable acts !!!!!!

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

I'm very strong in normal life ( my colleagues call me Ice Queen). I wouldn't actually call myself submissive, but in the hands of the right person I'm masochistic ...as others have said, it's a release from the pressures of work and everyday life, a time when I can switch off completely and focus only on the physical sensations.

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By *abrina59TV/TS
over a year ago

moved to cuckold land

I'm totally different

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am submissive sexually. In normal life, I am neither normal nor submissive. I don't go hard on anyone. At the same time, I don't let anyone go hard on me without valid reason.

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By *lease300Woman
over a year ago

merthyr

Submissive sexually

Dominant in everyday life x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im submissive in the bedroom and If ive a Dom im 24/7 in sub mode around him. In my vanilla life I run a home. Id happily live a submissive lifestyle permanently if I could x

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By *orraine999Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere

I'm a dominant at work but a submissive sexually.

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By *aughtyLondonGuyMan
over a year ago

london

I find that often sexually submissive woman can be quite dominant in a non sexual situation...not mentioning any names

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I find that often sexually submissive woman can be quite dominant in a non sexual situation...not mentioning any names

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"I'm very strong in normal life ( my colleagues call me Ice Queen). I wouldn't actually call myself submissive, but in the hands of the right person I'm masochistic ...as others have said, it's a release from the pressures of work and everyday life, a time when I can switch off completely and focus only on the physical sensations."

That’s a great description

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I think the research is 60-70% of women fantasise about being submissive , dominated and even taken w/o consent by a stranger. How much translates into reality no idea as it takes the right partner. Pretty sure it’s biological. I would think much fewer men have those fantasies

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By *ave1976XXXMan
over a year ago

newmarket

I’m dominate at work and with woman. When with a guy I’m so so submissive

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By *inkykernow39Woman
over a year ago

down west

Very submissive in bed. Not at all in day to day life

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By *man013Man
over a year ago

Derby

I mean as a switch in my day to day I can be very domineering with some things but more submissive with other things

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I find that often sexually submissive woman can be quite dominant in a non sexual situation...not mentioning any names

Oh do you aye

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By *aughtyLondonGuyMan
over a year ago

london

"I find that often sexually submissive woman can be quite dominant in a non sexual situation...not mentioning any names

Oh do you aye "

I do indeed

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By *agermeisterMan
over a year ago

Leeds

I'm a Dominant sexual but I'm empathetic, emotionally intelligent and a good communicator. Not the first thing that springs to mind when you think of a Dom but I would say this qualities are essential.

Most of the women I've subbed have very important, busy and powerful professional lives. Giving yourself over to a Dom takes all the decisions and responsibilities away from you - which many find very attractive

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By *acky RacersCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

The whole thing just makes us giggle....especially the reaction when you turn a flouncing dom down...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After having D/s sexual relationships I believe the reasons for a a woman or man to choose to be submissive are both to behave the opposite of normal life but also to take ownership of some previous experiences in life.

To choose a position that was once forced on them for some it does seem to empower them.As for the reasons to be A Dom they are equally various some even abusive but for me it's not about being Alpha it's about a relationship based on trust and connection to have the emotional intelligence to read the responses of your actions and act accordingly.Primarily D/s interaction is about open communication and acceptance of kink

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The whole thing just makes us giggle....especially the reaction when you turn a flouncing dom down...

Tantrum!

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By *ornychickxxxWoman
over a year ago

north east

I love to be a sub in the bedroom but I’m a bossy bitch in real life

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