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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Do you prefer to meet people from the forums? Or do you prefer to meet those that don't use them?

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

I prefer to meet those that don’t. But nearly always end up meeting those that do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer to hide

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Those that don’t

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not bothered but don’t chat to many people anyway

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

It’s a mixture of both

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By *WillowxWoman
over a year ago

Oo err Devon

There are not many people using the forums from down my way... But I don't think it would have a sway on me either way.. Although if you can see they have a fun personality from their antics on the forums it may make a meet happen quicker?

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

I prefer to meet people who don't use the forums.

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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago

Deepest darkest Peru

I like both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I prefer to meet those that don’t. But nearly always end up meeting those that do. "

Why do you prefer not to meet people who use the forums?

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I meet those that don’t use them. For two reasons:

Forum men mostly fawn/flirt/blow smoke up the ass publicly over girls they say they want to shag whilst messaging you on the quiet. I’m not into that.

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I’ve seen the drama when forumites get it on and it goes Pete Tong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't meet anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always preferred people that post in the forum's as you get a feel for their personalities more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Those who prefer to meet people who don’t use the forums why’s that when you yourself use them...

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Those that don't..... for sex

Those that do for organised socials.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I'd say half and half..

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"I meet those that don’t use them. For two reasons:

Forum men mostly fawn/flirt/blow smoke up the ass publicly over girls they say they want to shag whilst messaging you on the quiet. I’m not into that.

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I’ve seen the drama when forumites get it on and it goes Pete Tong."

Yes all of that, plus just when I think I might want to meet someone from the forum, they something publicly that puts me right off. I'm sure that works both ways though

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By *orny IrishMan
over a year ago

Rural Wiltshire

The forums can be useful to give an sight into the person and their personality. If by reading thier posts you can see if you feel you may be compatible.

Especially when they sometimes just stir things up or are always have a dig at others.

But I have no preference one way or the other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Up until recently, I'd have said forumites 100% but that's changed.

I love meeting them for the social aspect but there's far too much drama and bullshit, whispers of the chinese kind and meddling that goes on behind the scenes for me to want to meet for sexy times.

I'm not saying we wouldn't meet forumites, but, it would be rare and probably couples rather than singles.

P

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I meet those that don’t use them. For two reasons:

Forum men mostly fawn/flirt/blow smoke up the ass publicly over girls they say they want to shag whilst messaging you on the quiet. I’m not into that.

And

I’ve seen the drama when forumites get it on and it goes Pete Tong."

Yes. This is the main reason I started the thread. A lot of drama can follow forumites

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Up until recently, I'd have said forumites 100% but that's changed.

I love meeting them for the social aspect but there's far too much drama and bullshit, whispers of the chinese kind and meddling that goes on behind the scenes for me to want to meet for sexy times.

I'm not saying we wouldn't meet forumites, but, it would be rare and probably couples rather than singles.

P"

I heard you actually have two clits

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By *nvisible_beardMan
over a year ago

near newbridge, wales

Never had a meet so wouldn't know haha

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place


"I prefer to meet those that don’t. But nearly always end up meeting those that do.

Why do you prefer not to meet people who use the forums?"

It’s just less drama. It can get a bit school playground at times on here.

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By *he Little Fuck MachineMan
over a year ago

Co.Antrim

I’ve not had a meet yet and haven’t spoken to very many people but vast majority of those I haven’t spoken to use the Forums and if it wasn’t for the Games and Interactive Threads my Inbox would probably still not have received a message

That being said, I’ve no preference as of yet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I prefer to meet those that don’t. But nearly always end up meeting those that do.

Why do you prefer not to meet people who use the forums?

It’s just less drama. It can get a bit school playground at times on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Up until recently, I'd have said forumites 100% but that's changed.

I love meeting them for the social aspect but there's far too much drama and bullshit, whispers of the chinese kind and meddling that goes on behind the scenes for me to want to meet for sexy times.

I'm not saying we wouldn't meet forumites, but, it would be rare and probably couples rather than singles.

P

I heard you actually have two clits"

See, if the rumours are gonna spread at least make them true. I have 3

P

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By *he Little Fuck MachineMan
over a year ago

Co.Antrim


"I’ve not had a meet yet and haven’t spoken to very many people but vast majority of those I haven’t spoken to use the Forums and if it wasn’t for the Games and Interactive Threads my Inbox would probably still not have received a message

That being said, I’ve no preference as of yet."

Majority of those I have spoken to*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me personally not bothered as it’s my wife’s choice so they could be on the forums and she wouldn’t even know.

T

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

There's no preference at all.

I meet the people I've built rapport with in conversation.

Wherever that conversation happens is irrelevant.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"I prefer to meet those that don’t. But nearly always end up meeting those that do.

Why do you prefer not to meet people who use the forums?

It’s just less drama. It can get a bit school playground at times on here.

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That’s why it’s good to meet those you know are discreet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never met anyone from the forums

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By *hortarseWoman
over a year ago

Norfolk

I got lot shit when I meet someone on the forums but I still meet someone on the forums. I laugh at the ones that give me shit get on with it

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London

It's coincidental in my case.

A few of my previous meets, later I found out to be forum users as well.

No real preference but forums provide additional filtering process.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think I’ve ever experienced any forum drama from meeting over 30 forum ladies in the past.

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By *hickennchipsWoman
over a year ago

up above the streets and houses

Off the forums but up to meeting some from the forums

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By *ollycouple71Couple
over a year ago

manchester


"I prefer to meet people who don't use the forums. "
same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I mlet people who want to meet me. It doesn’t matter which part of the site they use.

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By *ark ph0enixWoman
over a year ago

Teesside


"I meet those that don’t use them. For two reasons:

Forum men mostly fawn/flirt/blow smoke up the ass publicly over girls they say they want to shag whilst messaging you on the quiet. I’m not into that.

And

I’ve seen the drama when forumites get it on and it goes Pete Tong."

Yes this. It's not attractive watching folk fawn over popular users. Reminds me very much of school. I never was one for following the 'in' crowd. Jocks and cheerleaders in some cases.

Fair enough if they make a great thread on here but I want more than that and less drama. Forum is often like one of those reality tv shows so I avoid that where possible, just like on tv

There are a few exceptions who post decent thought providing threads which is why I still linger on in here. Thank you to those folk, it is appreciated!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People from outside of forums don't read my messages, that makes it clear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I prefer to meet those that don’t. But nearly always end up meeting those that do.

Why do you prefer not to meet people who use the forums?

It’s just less drama. It can get a bit school playground at times on here.

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Ahh okay.

I wouldnt be put off a guy who uses the forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People from the forums seems to orefer to meet me anyway...

More of my meets come from there

Then again I did stop sending 27 pics if my duck to every female in a 40mile radias so the numbers are a bit fixed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would meet the forumers for a social but not for a sexy meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People from the forums seems to orefer to meet me anyway...

More of my meets come from there

Then again I did stop sending 27 pics if my duck to every female in a 40mile radias so the numbers are a bit fixed"

I'm sure it is beautiful duck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Up until recently, I'd have said forumites 100% but that's changed.

I love meeting them for the social aspect but there's far too much drama and bullshit, whispers of the chinese kind and meddling that goes on behind the scenes for me to want to meet for sexy times.

I'm not saying we wouldn't meet forumites, but, it would be rare and probably couples rather than singles.

P"

I agree with this! I’m not bothered if they are on the forums or not, but there tends to be more drama if they are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People from the forums seems to orefer to meet me anyway...

More of my meets come from there

Then again I did stop sending 27 pics if my duck to every female in a 40mile radias so the numbers are a bit fixed

I'm sure it is beautiful duck "

Sorry I was holding it at the time of typing so there was a typ there... "of my duck" not "if my duck"

Fucker wont stop flapping

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place


"I prefer to meet those that don’t. But nearly always end up meeting those that do.

Why do you prefer not to meet people who use the forums?

It’s just less drama. It can get a bit school playground at times on here.

Ahh okay.

I wouldnt be put off a guy who uses the forums."

The advantage of the forum is that you get a feel for what someone is like.

I also rarely look at the profiles of people that don’t use the forums. Which is why I end up mainly meeting forum users.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

I meet for one reason only - because there is attraction/chemistry/connection on both sides.

I don’t have a preference for forum males / non-forum males but save to say I’m pretty select in either choice.

I don’t usually meet those whom I’m aware have a queue waiting or those that lamppost piss / blow smoke up arses to gain popularity. It’s not an endearing quality! Fortunately I’m pretty adept at reading between the lines!

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest


"I prefer to meet those that don’t. But nearly always end up meeting those that do.

Why do you prefer not to meet people who use the forums?

It’s just less drama. It can get a bit school playground at times on here.

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This entirely depends on the maturity and level of discretion of the person from the forums you're meeting. If both parties don't make it obvious and accept that the other person may be chatting to and potentially seeing others as well, there shouldn't be an issue. Both have to be on the same level and share the same outlook however.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d meet a forum person socially but absolutely not for anything romantic/sexual.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’d meet a forum person socially but absolutely not for anything romantic/sexual. "

Oh well, that's that dream shattered

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By *rAitchMan
over a year ago

Diagonally Parked in a Parallel Universe

I'm that fussy I've not met anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer those that don't use the forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer to meet guys that don't use the forums.

I once met a guy from the forums and it was a scary nightmare meet, so never again !

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch


"Do you prefer to meet people from the forums? Or do you prefer to meet those that don't use them?"

I rarely meet and I prefer it that way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I chat with the people on the forums that have said something that interests me.

Have made a few friends from the forums but know I will never meet anyone so I guess it takes off the pressure of even worrying about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm surprised at the amount of folks who would prefer not to meet others who use the forums.

Im missing how a guy from the forums is more likely to cause drama.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont have a preference. If I like the lady and its mutual then imma meet her, wether she be a forum user or not

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By *attoo.GentMan
over a year ago

Electric Avenue

I have been unsuccseful at both so far.

So god knows

Of course if anyone wants to change that i wont put up too much of a fight

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't see the difference, I've met people from both on and off the forum. All equally lovely

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"I'm surprised at the amount of folks who would prefer not to meet others who use the forums.

Im missing how a guy from the forums is more likely to cause drama."

I wouldn’t say it’s necessarily the guy that causes the drama, more those that have an eye on him or been with him that may cause it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm surprised at the amount of folks who would prefer not to meet others who use the forums.

Im missing how a guy from the forums is more likely to cause drama.

I wouldn’t say it’s necessarily the guy that causes the drama, more those that have an eye on him or been with him that may cause it "

Yes !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm surprised at the amount of folks who would prefer not to meet others who use the forums.

Im missing how a guy from the forums is more likely to cause drama."

It's generally not the guy, it's the other women that also want that guy. Snakey, sneaky, deceptive and envious.

Especially when you publicly express the fact you like each other and people can see a bond forming. All of a sudden he becomes WAAAAAY more attractive. The claws come out and whoosh, you now have a target on your back.

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place


"I'm surprised at the amount of folks who would prefer not to meet others who use the forums.

Im missing how a guy from the forums is more likely to cause drama."

Well I’ve not had drama from people I’ve actually met from the forums. They have all been delightful. But I have had other people unfriend me when I displayed a verification from meeting another forumite. I don’t display verifications now.

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By *DreamOfGenieWoman
over a year ago

London

I've met both. The forum can be a kickstart to a great conversation through a shared humour or interests, but there's nothing to stop that happening through initial messaging - it's just a little easier to start those conversations if there's already an acknowledged comparability.

I certainly wouldn't be put off meeting someone I connected with via the forums because of gossip or forum drama.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire


"I'm surprised at the amount of folks who would prefer not to meet others who use the forums.

Im missing how a guy from the forums is more likely to cause drama.

It's generally not the guy, it's the other women that also want that guy. Snakey, sneaky, deceptive and envious.

Especially when you publicly express the fact you like each other and people can see a bond forming. All of a sudden he becomes WAAAAAY more attractive. The claws come out and whoosh, you now have a target on your back.

P"

Oooooh yes! Scratchy claws

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

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I meet those that I want to meet, regardless of whether they use the forums or not. Yes, there is sometimes drama, but it won't ever stop me from doing what I want to do - if someone is unhappy/jealous about me meeting someone, then that just shows the real person inside, not the whiter than white persona that they portray on here.

I have also turned people down because of their interactions on the forums, who I otherwise would probably have met... some people just play the numbers game a little too publicly.

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

I meet people who turn me on, be that through their words or pictures. Lamppost pissing only affects you if you consider yourself a lamppost....

Happy fabbing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A meet what is one of these

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch


"I meet those that I want to meet, regardless of whether they use the forums or not. Yes, there is sometimes drama, but it won't ever stop me from doing what I want to do - if someone is unhappy/jealous about me meeting someone, then that just shows the real person inside, not the whiter than white persona that they portray on here.

I have also turned people down because of their interactions on the forums, who I otherwise would probably have met... some people just play the numbers game a little too publicly."

I think that rather an intelligent approach

Meeting those who you want to meet

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

So, if I've met forumites and there hasn't been any drama, does that mean I'm not the catch I thought I was?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you prefer to meet people from the forums? Or do you prefer to meet those that don't use them?"

Never met anyone off the forum as of yet. And rare I meet on here.

Usually I go out places, its quicker and easier.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling


"So, if I've met forumites and there hasn't been any drama, does that mean I'm not the catch I thought I was? "

I think that's what they are saying!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting and informative thread

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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago

Deepest darkest Peru


"I'm surprised at the amount of folks who would prefer not to meet others who use the forums.

Im missing how a guy from the forums is more likely to cause drama.

It's generally not the guy, it's the other women that also want that guy. Snakey, sneaky, deceptive and envious.

Especially when you publicly express the fact you like each other and people can see a bond forming. All of a sudden he becomes WAAAAAY more attractive. The claws come out and whoosh, you now have a target on your back.

P

Oooooh yes! Scratchy claws "

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford


"So, if I've met forumites and there hasn't been any drama, does that mean I'm not the catch I thought I was?

I think that's what they are saying! "

I'm not sure my ego will ever recover....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll be travelling around more again this year so meeting those from the forums would be more of a possibility than living at the arse end of nowhere! I do have a couple on my friends list that I would definitely buy a pint for if I was passing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely people that don’t.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I'm not bothered so long as I fancy them it's irrelevant if they use the forums or not.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"So, if I've met forumites and there hasn't been any drama, does that mean I'm not the catch I thought I was? "

Or you’ve found the discreet ones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So, if I've met forumites and there hasn't been any drama, does that mean I'm not the catch I thought I was?

Or you’ve found the discreet ones "

I like those ones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For us the benefits to meeting people off the forums is that we have a little bit more understanding of them and their character/personality. Having said that we can make the same sort of connections with non forum users just not as often

Fuzz

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I meet people who want to meet me. It doesn’t matter which part of the site they use."

Whoever I meet I like to keep it between ourselves so it doesn’t matter where they are from.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I meet people who want to meet me. It doesn’t matter which part of the site they use.

Whoever I meet I like to keep it between ourselves so it doesn’t matter where they are from."

I think that's the key to drama free.

P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So, if I've met forumites and there hasn't been any drama, does that mean I'm not the catch I thought I was? "

Yes

Sorry

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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I don't particularly have a preference nor an 'I won't meet stance'. I have tended to meet those from the fora but that's probably because I can form an impression of someone more easily from their interactions on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I meet people who want to meet me. It doesn’t matter which part of the site they use.

Whoever I meet I like to keep it between ourselves so it doesn’t matter where they are from.

I think that's the key to drama free.

P"

Well I’ve learnt that now! And to be fair he has been on here for a hundred years so he’s had time to learn!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I meet people who want to meet me. It doesn’t matter which part of the site they use.

Whoever I meet I like to keep it between ourselves so it doesn’t matter where they are from.

I think that's the key to drama free.

P"

Yep some lessons were learned the hard way though. Thankfully the drama is in the distant past now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would be nice to have a queue big enough to be able to be choosy

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"So, if I've met forumites and there hasn't been any drama, does that mean I'm not the catch I thought I was?

Or you’ve found the discreet ones

I like those ones "

They work the best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I meet people who want to meet me. It doesn’t matter which part of the site they use.

Whoever I meet I like to keep it between ourselves so it doesn’t matter where they are from.

I think that's the key to drama free.

P

Well I’ve learnt that now! And to be fair he has been on here for a hundred years so he’s had time to learn! "

Thing is, you kinda don't think it'll happen to you tho. You get caught up in feelings, enjoyment and shouting from the rooftops how wonderful things are between you and before you know it there's people wanting to come between you and play a game of oneupmanship. You become a pawn in a sick game.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

Hardly anyone local to us uses the forums, so it doesn't really apply. Hypothetically, I wouldn't have a strong opinion either way - it's about the connection with the person for us

Mrs TMN x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I meet people who want to meet me. It doesn’t matter which part of the site they use.

Whoever I meet I like to keep it between ourselves so it doesn’t matter where they are from.

I think that's the key to drama free.

P

Well I’ve learnt that now! And to be fair he has been on here for a hundred years so he’s had time to learn! "

Yep I really must update my username to Ancient

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I like them and have the opportunity to meet them I will regardless of whether they use the forums or not.

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By *ourayloversCouple
over a year ago

chesterfield

(Lou) it wouldn't bother us either way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I meet people who want to meet me. It doesn’t matter which part of the site they use.

Whoever I meet I like to keep it between ourselves so it doesn’t matter where they are from.

I think that's the key to drama free.

P

Well I’ve learnt that now! And to be fair he has been on here for a hundred years so he’s had time to learn!

Yep I really must update my username to Ancient "

Ming Vase Ring Vase

P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you prefer to meet people from the forums? Or do you prefer to meet those that don't use them?"

You have to keep these things separate, outside of the forums after asking ‘what you into, where do you live & if you like them THICK’ my next question is always, do you use the forums tho!?

Forumites have documented evidence against at me so a bit trickier to approach

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

..

I have met from the forums once or twice, generally I now prefer to keep everything quiet and away from the forums and it works for me

If I felt I wanted to meet someone from the forums then I would, I wouldn’t be swayed by others, or gossip but it is so much easier to maintain a degree of privacy away from the forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I meet people who want to meet me. It doesn’t matter which part of the site they use.

Whoever I meet I like to keep it between ourselves so it doesn’t matter where they are from.

I think that's the key to drama free.

P

Well I’ve learnt that now! And to be fair he has been on here for a hundred years so he’s had time to learn!

Yep I really must update my username to Ancient

Ming Vase Ring Vase

P"

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By *ervent_fervourMan
over a year ago

Halifax

I'd say forumites. But it hasn't turned out well. Especially as it appears that a forumite asked for advice regarding someone who I'm presuming is me on here rather than discuss it with me.

Which felt good.

And then everyone piled on. Which made me feel EVEN better..

So I used them for fun, funniness, and, adittionally, as a potential way to meet people, but not so sure now.

Plus hardly anyone responds to my posts unlike a couple of years ago so kissing in the wind there too. Not that I'm suggesting that some people on the forums just follow their little leaders. But..

Alas and alack, a lass and a lack..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Prefer to meet them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like having the forum as a wee neutral space to chat nonsense or get advice, I think sleeping with folk who also hang around it would spoil it a bit for me.

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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

I dont mind as I dont get involved in the gossip back biting of the forums lol so makes no difference to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm going through a strange moment.

I have a regular, a fb, a fwb, whatever you want to call her. I just prefer the term 'friend' personally.

I don't meet her frequently but I don't really find myself searching or having any real attraction to anyone else on here at the moment.

I don't know if I am content or having a midlife crisis.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I meet people who want to meet me. It doesn’t matter which part of the site they use.

Whoever I meet I like to keep it between ourselves so it doesn’t matter where they are from.

I think that's the key to drama free.

P

Well I’ve learnt that now! And to be fair he has been on here for a hundred years so he’s had time to learn!

Yep I really must update my username to Ancient "

Hahaha. I’d still love ya if you was 103

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm surprised at the amount of folks who would prefer not to meet others who use the forums.

Im missing how a guy from the forums is more likely to cause drama."

For me it's nothing to do with drama, i just don't fancy any of the guys, there's far more guys who don't use the forums so more choice

Although i am put off forum guys because the one i did meet for a social was a nightmare.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I meet people who want to meet me. It doesn’t matter which part of the site they use.

Whoever I meet I like to keep it between ourselves so it doesn’t matter where they are from.

I think that's the key to drama free.

P

Well I’ve learnt that now! And to be fair he has been on here for a hundred years so he’s had time to learn!

Yep I really must update my username to Ancient

Hahaha. I’d still love ya if you was 103 "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had no preferences thus far, if I found someone appealing then I found them appealing, but that is from a bloke's perspective without all the much touted scratchy claw nonsense (which is even more ridiculous with the ratios, if 6 blokes won an all you can eat buffet that would feed 60, would you bollocks get them bickering over which cut of steak on the top table each was going to have )

Now this has posed another question to me on a tangent as I have a strange head that likes both boring old logic and stats and questioning the way humans think (nice and light-hearted I know ) the thing is, even discounting the rump 20% of blokes that are neither use nor ornament AND the fact that the majority of chaps (65% ish I reckon) will appeal to selected women and not to others, given that men probably outnumber women on here about 12 to 1 the remaining 15% that will appeal to more women than not STILL probably outnumber all the women on site by about 9 to 5?? So for the ones that do this scratchy scratchy bobbins, is it because they underestimate how many decent blokes there are? Or is it that they simply can't be arsed looking properly themselves, just rely on incoming messages and want someone who has been "road-tested" so to speak?

B

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over a year ago


"I've had no preferences thus far, if I found someone appealing then I found them appealing, but that is from a bloke's perspective without all the much touted scratchy claw nonsense (which is even more ridiculous with the ratios, if 6 blokes won an all you can eat buffet that would feed 60, would you bollocks get them bickering over which cut of steak on the top table each was going to have )

Now this has posed another question to me on a tangent as I have a strange head that likes both boring old logic and stats and questioning the way humans think (nice and light-hearted I know ) the thing is, even discounting the rump 20% of blokes that are neither use nor ornament AND the fact that the majority of chaps (65% ish I reckon) will appeal to selected women and not to others, given that men probably outnumber women on here about 12 to 1 the remaining 15% that will appeal to more women than not STILL probably outnumber all the women on site by about 9 to 5?? So for the ones that do this scratchy scratchy bobbins, is it because they underestimate how many decent blokes there are? Or is it that they simply can't be arsed looking properly themselves, just rely on incoming messages and want someone who has been "road-tested" so to speak?

B"

Some of it yeah, but some of it is that people can be cunts and don't like to see people happy. That want that for themselves and will do what they can however sly and skanky to make sure they get the desired result in "the competition they intend on winning"

P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe it's something I've said

I've never met anyone from the forums. The people I get on with all live to far away.

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

I have no preference. I've had wonderful experiences with people I initially met in the forums as well as people I met in the wild. I also had horrendous experiences with both.

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro


"I have met from the forums once or twice, generally I now prefer to keep everything quiet and away from the forums and it works for me

If I felt I wanted to meet someone from the forums then I would, I wouldn’t be swayed by others, or gossip but it is so much easier to maintain a degree of privacy away from the forums. "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe it's something I've said

I've never met anyone from the forums. The people I get on with all live to far away.

"

Be glad you get on with people at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've had no preferences thus far, if I found someone appealing then I found them appealing, but that is from a bloke's perspective without all the much touted scratchy claw nonsense (which is even more ridiculous with the ratios, if 6 blokes won an all you can eat buffet that would feed 60, would you bollocks get them bickering over which cut of steak on the top table each was going to have )

Now this has posed another question to me on a tangent as I have a strange head that likes both boring old logic and stats and questioning the way humans think (nice and light-hearted I know ) the thing is, even discounting the rump 20% of blokes that are neither use nor ornament AND the fact that the majority of chaps (65% ish I reckon) will appeal to selected women and not to others, given that men probably outnumber women on here about 12 to 1 the remaining 15% that will appeal to more women than not STILL probably outnumber all the women on site by about 9 to 5?? So for the ones that do this scratchy scratchy bobbins, is it because they underestimate how many decent blokes there are? Or is it that they simply can't be arsed looking properly themselves, just rely on incoming messages and want someone who has been "road-tested" so to speak?

B

Some of it yeah, but some of it is that people can be cunts and don't like to see people happy. That want that for themselves and will do what they can however sly and skanky to make sure they get the desired result in "the competition they intend on winning"

P"

Hmmmm. Yes, cunts will exist, or also those insecure in themselves who see such a "victory" as some validation of themselves that they need also.

What makes this stupid in my mind is that the ratios and common logic will make it possible for women to meet with men that take their fancy provided they can be arsed looking properly WITHOUT all the dramas and bollocks if they choose to do so.

So why the hell someone would knowingly create a load of shite for themselves to have to deal with, when they have the option to get what they want without having to put up with all that, is farcical in the extreme.

I do appreciate that the men most in demand will therefore be far busier and have to fit them in and that of course a lot of them won't find a lot of women attractive which all but flattens the ratios out, but they run the risk of this being the case anyway, whether they choose to try and find a man who they will or won't offend others by making advances on?

Btw to everyone else, yes we're laid in bed next to each other, both typing away which is in some way a silly indictment of the 21st century, but in another way I find endearingly cute watching the expression on P's face when yet another thought-provoker or silly outburst lands in one go, warts and all, on her screen...??

B

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

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"I've had no preferences thus far, if I found someone appealing then I found them appealing, but that is from a bloke's perspective without all the much touted scratchy claw nonsense (which is even more ridiculous with the ratios, if 6 blokes won an all you can eat buffet that would feed 60, would you bollocks get them bickering over which cut of steak on the top table each was going to have )

Now this has posed another question to me on a tangent as I have a strange head that likes both boring old logic and stats and questioning the way humans think (nice and light-hearted I know ) the thing is, even discounting the rump 20% of blokes that are neither use nor ornament AND the fact that the majority of chaps (65% ish I reckon) will appeal to selected women and not to others, given that men probably outnumber women on here about 12 to 1 the remaining 15% that will appeal to more women than not STILL probably outnumber all the women on site by about 9 to 5?? So for the ones that do this scratchy scratchy bobbins, is it because they underestimate how many decent blokes there are? Or is it that they simply can't be arsed looking properly themselves, just rely on incoming messages and want someone who has been "road-tested" so to speak?

B"

I think your figures are skewed, especially with regards to the forums as a "separate" entity...the few men that stand out as good 'uns on here REALLY stand out. You can see their personality and how they interact with people, and they're brought to mind more often because you see their posts. That instantly creates a situation of quite a lot of women desiring a smaller number of men.

I'm very much of the opinion that people do what they want to do, and I fully accept that people that I've met are meeting others. It is, after all, a swinging site, and unless you have an agreement of exclusivity with someone, then I would never question that, nor expect it to be questioned when I did it.

I think the catty bollocks occurs either when people can't get their heads round this, they've met someone who doesn't want to meet again but they really liked, or they've been turned down by someone that they'd like to meet (other reasons may or may not apply, this is purely my opinion based on my own observations)

I honestly can't fathom why they do it, it's defeating their purpose as far as I can see... let's try and impress someone by being an absolute twuntwaffle to someone they obviously like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've had no preferences thus far, if I found someone appealing then I found them appealing, but that is from a bloke's perspective without all the much touted scratchy claw nonsense (which is even more ridiculous with the ratios, if 6 blokes won an all you can eat buffet that would feed 60, would you bollocks get them bickering over which cut of steak on the top table each was going to have )

Now this has posed another question to me on a tangent as I have a strange head that likes both boring old logic and stats and questioning the way humans think (nice and light-hearted I know ) the thing is, even discounting the rump 20% of blokes that are neither use nor ornament AND the fact that the majority of chaps (65% ish I reckon) will appeal to selected women and not to others, given that men probably outnumber women on here about 12 to 1 the remaining 15% that will appeal to more women than not STILL probably outnumber all the women on site by about 9 to 5?? So for the ones that do this scratchy scratchy bobbins, is it because they underestimate how many decent blokes there are? Or is it that they simply can't be arsed looking properly themselves, just rely on incoming messages and want someone who has been "road-tested" so to speak?

B

Some of it yeah, but some of it is that people can be cunts and don't like to see people happy. That want that for themselves and will do what they can however sly and skanky to make sure they get the desired result in "the competition they intend on winning"

P

Hmmmm. Yes, cunts will exist, or also those insecure in themselves who see such a "victory" as some validation of themselves that they need also.

What makes this stupid in my mind is that the ratios and common logic will make it possible for women to meet with men that take their fancy provided they can be arsed looking properly WITHOUT all the dramas and bollocks if they choose to do so.

So why the hell someone would knowingly create a load of shite for themselves to have to deal with, when they have the option to get what they want without having to put up with all that, is farcical in the extreme.

I do appreciate that the men most in demand will therefore be far busier and have to fit them in and that of course a lot of them won't find a lot of women attractive which all but flattens the ratios out, but they run the risk of this being the case anyway, whether they choose to try and find a man who they will or won't offend others by making advances on?

Btw to everyone else, yes we're laid in bed next to each other, both typing away which is in some way a silly indictment of the 21st century, but in another way I find endearingly cute watching the expression on P's face when yet another thought-provoker or silly outburst lands in one go, warts and all, on her screen...??

B"

Because bitches wanna be number 1.

You're right about validation. Some of them see it as "proof" they're all that and then some if they can pull the rug from a blossoming relationship. Means they're the biznitch doesn't it, if the object of their desire will potentially risk the blossoming relationship by getting into their bed. They must be super fucking special if he's prepared to meet the skank knowing it could wreck the future. She MUST be worth it. She MUST be all that jazz. She MUST be sooooooo desirable and irresistible.

Or maybe, just maybe, she's looking for validation in the wrong place and should probably find that level of inner peace by KNOWING she's a good human instead of finding it temporarily in being a twisted head fuck.

Now.... order that carvery buttercup, I'm toooooo fuckered to move

P

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Do you prefer to meet people from the forums? Or do you prefer to meet those that don't use them?"

Geography makes it virtually impossible for me to ever meet regular forum users, but I have met two during my time in Fab. I just like meeting genuine people, wherever they’re from

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

Don't think I've ever met someone off the forums, though I've been ghosted when arranging to meet one forumite.

I'm not arsed whether they're on the forum or not, but it does make it easier to avoid some of the fuckwits when you can read their fuckwittery in their posts!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people will see a forum guy meeting someone and think we’ll i can do a better job than what they did. It can lead to them slagging you off to try and get ahead. There’s no level some women will stoop to.

I’d rather not be involved in any of that or used as a measuring stick by women who want to be a better experience that I am.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure if I’m just super naive or what, but I’ve not had any bad experiences All of the women I’ve spoken to have been nothing but lovely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not sure if I’m just super naive or what, but I’ve not had any bad experiences All of the women I’ve spoken to have been nothing but lovely

"

To your face, so far.

Long may it continue that you remain target free

P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not sure if I’m just super naive or what, but I’ve not had any bad experiences All of the women I’ve spoken to have been nothing but lovely

To your face, so far.

Long may it continue that you remain target free

P"

Meow!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not sure if I’m just super naive or what, but I’ve not had any bad experiences All of the women I’ve spoken to have been nothing but lovely

To your face, so far.

Long may it continue that you remain target free

P

Meow!! "

Well, some people aren't as friendly as they seem my lovely. Blowing smoke up your arse publicly and then tearing strips off you behind your back.

I genuinely hope this doesn't happen to Jamie.

P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you prefer to meet people from the forums? Or do you prefer to meet those that don't use them?"

Don’t mind either way to be fair.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've had no preferences thus far, if I found someone appealing then I found them appealing, but that is from a bloke's perspective without all the much touted scratchy claw nonsense (which is even more ridiculous with the ratios, if 6 blokes won an all you can eat buffet that would feed 60, would you bollocks get them bickering over which cut of steak on the top table each was going to have )

Now this has posed another question to me on a tangent as I have a strange head that likes both boring old logic and stats and questioning the way humans think (nice and light-hearted I know ) the thing is, even discounting the rump 20% of blokes that are neither use nor ornament AND the fact that the majority of chaps (65% ish I reckon) will appeal to selected women and not to others, given that men probably outnumber women on here about 12 to 1 the remaining 15% that will appeal to more women than not STILL probably outnumber all the women on site by about 9 to 5?? So for the ones that do this scratchy scratchy bobbins, is it because they underestimate how many decent blokes there are? Or is it that they simply can't be arsed looking properly themselves, just rely on incoming messages and want someone who has been "road-tested" so to speak?

B

Some of it yeah, but some of it is that people can be cunts and don't like to see people happy. That want that for themselves and will do what they can however sly and skanky to make sure they get the desired result in "the competition they intend on winning"

P

Hmmmm. Yes, cunts will exist, or also those insecure in themselves who see such a "victory" as some validation of themselves that they need also.

What makes this stupid in my mind is that the ratios and common logic will make it possible for women to meet with men that take their fancy provided they can be arsed looking properly WITHOUT all the dramas and bollocks if they choose to do so.

So why the hell someone would knowingly create a load of shite for themselves to have to deal with, when they have the option to get what they want without having to put up with all that, is farcical in the extreme.

I do appreciate that the men most in demand will therefore be far busier and have to fit them in and that of course a lot of them won't find a lot of women attractive which all but flattens the ratios out, but they run the risk of this being the case anyway, whether they choose to try and find a man who they will or won't offend others by making advances on?

Btw to everyone else, yes we're laid in bed next to each other, both typing away which is in some way a silly indictment of the 21st century, but in another way I find endearingly cute watching the expression on P's face when yet another thought-provoker or silly outburst lands in one go, warts and all, on her screen...??

B

Because bitches wanna be number 1.

You're right about validation. Some of them see it as "proof" they're all that and then some if they can pull the rug from a blossoming relationship. Means they're the biznitch doesn't it, if the object of their desire will potentially risk the blossoming relationship by getting into their bed. They must be super fucking special if he's prepared to meet the skank knowing it could wreck the future. She MUST be worth it. She MUST be all that jazz. She MUST be sooooooo desirable and irresistible.

Or maybe, just maybe, she's looking for validation in the wrong place and should probably find that level of inner peace by KNOWING she's a good human instead of finding it temporarily in being a twisted head fuck.

Now.... order that carvery buttercup, I'm toooooo fuckered to move

P

"

I’ve never understood why those in a potential blossoming relationship have to tell everyone about it on the forums.

To me, it should be kept between the two people involved so they get to know each other without anyone else getting involved or even knowing there’s a relationship blossoming.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not sure if I’m just super naive or what, but I’ve not had any bad experiences All of the women I’ve spoken to have been nothing but lovely

To your face, so far.

Long may it continue that you remain target free

P

Meow!!

Well, some people aren't as friendly as they seem my lovely. Blowing smoke up your arse publicly and then tearing strips off you behind your back.

I genuinely hope this doesn't happen to Jamie.

P"

I see!

A little off topic but I don’t know what metaphors are anymore after being on here, i just hope the smoke escapes & no one films it!

i do know little public digs will not make you feel any better, chin up & dismiss the bullshit

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By *adyinred696969Couple
over a year ago

Brecon

Never met "cold" from the forums, either for a social or anything else.

Have met loads who post on various organised social threads, but then we were going, and they were going, so it's the social that was the link.

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By *oneyjule65Couple
over a year ago

Halifax

Don't think we have met anyone from the forum yet....but open to offers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not sure if I’m just super naive or what, but I’ve not had any bad experiences All of the women I’ve spoken to have been nothing but lovely

To your face, so far.

Long may it continue that you remain target free

P

Meow!!

Well, some people aren't as friendly as they seem my lovely. Blowing smoke up your arse publicly and then tearing strips off you behind your back.

I genuinely hope this doesn't happen to Jamie.

P"

I must be naive too, because all the gossip or bitching, is always news to me!

I just keep doing what I do.

Peach, you take no prisoners, I hope people dont get to you, as you have always been lovely and supportive to me x

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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've had no preferences thus far, if I found someone appealing then I found them appealing, but that is from a bloke's perspective without all the much touted scratchy claw nonsense (which is even more ridiculous with the ratios, if 6 blokes won an all you can eat buffet that would feed 60, would you bollocks get them bickering over which cut of steak on the top table each was going to have )

Now this has posed another question to me on a tangent as I have a strange head that likes both boring old logic and stats and questioning the way humans think (nice and light-hearted I know ) the thing is, even discounting the rump 20% of blokes that are neither use nor ornament AND the fact that the majority of chaps (65% ish I reckon) will appeal to selected women and not to others, given that men probably outnumber women on here about 12 to 1 the remaining 15% that will appeal to more women than not STILL probably outnumber all the women on site by about 9 to 5?? So for the ones that do this scratchy scratchy bobbins, is it because they underestimate how many decent blokes there are? Or is it that they simply can't be arsed looking properly themselves, just rely on incoming messages and want someone who has been "road-tested" so to speak?

B

Some of it yeah, but some of it is that people can be cunts and don't like to see people happy. That want that for themselves and will do what they can however sly and skanky to make sure they get the desired result in "the competition they intend on winning"

P

Hmmmm. Yes, cunts will exist, or also those insecure in themselves who see such a "victory" as some validation of themselves that they need also.

What makes this stupid in my mind is that the ratios and common logic will make it possible for women to meet with men that take their fancy provided they can be arsed looking properly WITHOUT all the dramas and bollocks if they choose to do so.

So why the hell someone would knowingly create a load of shite for themselves to have to deal with, when they have the option to get what they want without having to put up with all that, is farcical in the extreme.

I do appreciate that the men most in demand will therefore be far busier and have to fit them in and that of course a lot of them won't find a lot of women attractive which all but flattens the ratios out, but they run the risk of this being the case anyway, whether they choose to try and find a man who they will or won't offend others by making advances on?

Btw to everyone else, yes we're laid in bed next to each other, both typing away which is in some way a silly indictment of the 21st century, but in another way I find endearingly cute watching the expression on P's face when yet another thought-provoker or silly outburst lands in one go, warts and all, on her screen...??

B

Because bitches wanna be number 1.

You're right about validation. Some of them see it as "proof" they're all that and then some if they can pull the rug from a blossoming relationship. Means they're the biznitch doesn't it, if the object of their desire will potentially risk the blossoming relationship by getting into their bed. They must be super fucking special if he's prepared to meet the skank knowing it could wreck the future. She MUST be worth it. She MUST be all that jazz. She MUST be sooooooo desirable and irresistible.

Or maybe, just maybe, she's looking for validation in the wrong place and should probably find that level of inner peace by KNOWING she's a good human instead of finding it temporarily in being a twisted head fuck.

Now.... order that carvery buttercup, I'm toooooo fuckered to move

P

I’ve never understood why those in a potential blossoming relationship have to tell everyone about it on the forums.

To me, it should be kept between the two people involved so they get to know each other without anyone else getting involved or even knowing there’s a relationship blossoming.

"

We got caught up in the shouting from the rooftops, and public flirting. We were excited and thought others would be pleased for us. Most were, but some most certainly weren't. Definite lesson learnt the hard way.

P

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over a year ago

I don't mind either way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't mind either way."

Dayum!! I agree with Lola!

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By *ervent_fervourMan
over a year ago

Halifax

Thing is with the forums,they're a little less impersonal. Or can be. I much prefer to 'see' who I like here, and have a chance of that developing by realising you can bounce off each other conversationally and develop it by pming where there's mutual interest which grows organically.

Which ffor me is a turn on itself and makes me actively want to jump their bones partly to do with them as a person(albeit moderated /compromised by an Internet 'connection'), not just what they look like.

With messaging a non forumite cold, this obviously doesn't always happen (although there are happy exceptions thankfully).

I've nothing against the zipless fuck. It has it's mutual purpose aand many of us would maybe like that from time to time, but I connect messaging non forumites more with this. Although a disclaimer, any responses from this method of first contact I would still overwhelmingly prefer if wee could suss each other out personality/humour wise first as I prefer tto actively LIKE the person first. As in:in other circumstances would I have been happy to have a giggle zdown the pub and on the dancefloor with them in an unalterable, and happily so, vanilla and non sexual way?if yes. Then cool. Very cool. Not sure I could have sex with someone if they don't pass that test.

Hence the forums, as they, percentage wise probably are going to be more successful at facilitating that scenario.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Do you prefer to meet people from the forums? Or do you prefer to meet those that don't use them?"

I prefer you

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire


"I meet people who want to meet me. It doesn’t matter which part of the site they use.

Whoever I meet I like to keep it between ourselves so it doesn’t matter where they are from.

I think that's the key to drama free.

P

Well I’ve learnt that now! And to be fair he has been on here for a hundred years so he’s had time to learn!

Thing is, you kinda don't think it'll happen to you tho. You get caught up in feelings, enjoyment and shouting from the rooftops how wonderful things are between you and before you know it there's people wanting to come between you and play a game of oneupmanship. You become a pawn in a sick game.

P"

That’s why I no longer display one 2 one veris

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I meet people who want to meet me. It doesn’t matter which part of the site they use.

Whoever I meet I like to keep it between ourselves so it doesn’t matter where they are from.

I think that's the key to drama free.

P

Well I’ve learnt that now! And to be fair he has been on here for a hundred years so he’s had time to learn!

Thing is, you kinda don't think it'll happen to you tho. You get caught up in feelings, enjoyment and shouting from the rooftops how wonderful things are between you and before you know it there's people wanting to come between you and play a game of oneupmanship. You become a pawn in a sick game.

P

That’s why I no longer display one 2 one veris "

Me neither. Only social ones. God knows why I didn’t do that before!

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By *aughtyYorkGentMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Can't think about the question until I've got this off my chest.

"Non-forumites", not "none forumites".

"Non": a prefix meaning "not", or reversing the meaning of a word.

"None": A zero quantity.

You're welcome.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I meet people who want to meet me. It doesn’t matter which part of the site they use.

Whoever I meet I like to keep it between ourselves so it doesn’t matter where they are from.

I think that's the key to drama free.

P

Well I’ve learnt that now! And to be fair he has been on here for a hundred years so he’s had time to learn!

Thing is, you kinda don't think it'll happen to you tho. You get caught up in feelings, enjoyment and shouting from the rooftops how wonderful things are between you and before you know it there's people wanting to come between you and play a game of oneupmanship. You become a pawn in a sick game.

P

That’s why I no longer display one 2 one veris

Me neither. Only social ones. God knows why I didn’t do that before!"

I don't display any now, and like you, I don't know why i didn't do that before

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

The issues that arise when people from the forums meet and the associated drama are by and large, caused by women. As someone who has met a number of well known people on the forums i've seen and experienced this firsthand.

It's been mentioned before and i'll reiterate. Everyone that I see and meet I assume is chatting to and potentially meeting others. What they get up to isn't my concern nor should my other dealings be theirs; especially if exclusivity hasn't been agreed upon.

I've made the mistake of being open in the past and having my veris displayed which brought me all sorts of grief and vile accusations. Anyone who knows and has met me knows why i'm here and it certainly isn't to be a dickhead nor be caught up in drama.

Fab is very much like Tinder, where some studies have shown that the top 10% of men will have 80% of the women interested in them. Apply this to the forums and it's not difficult to see why drama can be rife.

Best attitude is to be discreet in your public interaction and be sure the other person understands and respects this. Were I to ever fall for someone on here I certainly wouldn't be shouting it from the rooftops either. Last thing I need is a bullseye painted on my back or on the person i'm interested in.

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over a year ago


"The issues that arise when people from the forums meet and the associated drama are by and large, caused by women. As someone who has met a number of well known people on the forums i've seen and experienced this firsthand.

It's been mentioned before and i'll reiterate. Everyone that I see and meet I assume is chatting to and potentially meeting others. What they get up to isn't my concern nor should my other dealings be theirs; especially if exclusivity hasn't been agreed upon.

I've made the mistake of being open in the past and having my veris displayed which brought me all sorts of grief and vile accusations. Anyone who knows and has met me knows why i'm here and it certainly isn't to be a dickhead nor be caught up in drama.

Fab is very much like Tinder, where some studies have shown that the top 10% of men will have 80% of the women interested in them. Apply this to the forums and it's not difficult to see why drama can be rife.

Best attitude is to be discreet in your public interaction and be sure the other person understands and respects this. Were I to ever fall for someone on here I certainly wouldn't be shouting it from the rooftops either. Last thing I need is a bullseye painted on my back or on the person i'm interested in."

Tart

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"

That’s why I no longer display one 2 one veris

Me neither. Only social ones. God knows why I didn’t do that before!

I don't display any now, and like you, I don't know why i didn't do that before "

Because we didn’t think it would be an issue and it shouldn’t be, but makes for an easier life. Social ones only for me now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

That’s why I no longer display one 2 one veris

Me neither. Only social ones. God knows why I didn’t do that before!

I don't display any now, and like you, I don't know why i didn't do that before

Because we didn’t think it would be an issue and it shouldn’t be, but makes for an easier life. Social ones only for me now "

Oh. Does that mean me and you will never get it on then as you’ve displayed mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The issues that arise when people from the forums meet and the associated drama are by and large, caused by women. As someone who has met a number of well known people on the forums i've seen and experienced this firsthand.

It's been mentioned before and i'll reiterate. Everyone that I see and meet I assume is chatting to and potentially meeting others. What they get up to isn't my concern nor should my other dealings be theirs; especially if exclusivity hasn't been agreed upon.

I've made the mistake of being open in the past and having my veris displayed which brought me all sorts of grief and vile accusations. Anyone who knows and has met me knows why i'm here and it certainly isn't to be a dickhead nor be caught up in drama.

Fab is very much like Tinder, where some studies have shown that the top 10% of men will have 80% of the women interested in them. Apply this to the forums and it's not difficult to see why drama can be rife.

Best attitude is to be discreet in your public interaction and be sure the other person understands and respects this. Were I to ever fall for someone on here I certainly wouldn't be shouting it from the rooftops either. Last thing I need is a bullseye painted on my back or on the person i'm interested in."

Don’t worry, I’ve kept your infatuation and utter adoration of me a secret on here

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest


"The issues that arise when people from the forums meet and the associated drama are by and large, caused by women. As someone who has met a number of well known people on the forums i've seen and experienced this firsthand.

It's been mentioned before and i'll reiterate. Everyone that I see and meet I assume is chatting to and potentially meeting others. What they get up to isn't my concern nor should my other dealings be theirs; especially if exclusivity hasn't been agreed upon.

I've made the mistake of being open in the past and having my veris displayed which brought me all sorts of grief and vile accusations. Anyone who knows and has met me knows why i'm here and it certainly isn't to be a dickhead nor be caught up in drama.

Fab is very much like Tinder, where some studies have shown that the top 10% of men will have 80% of the women interested in them. Apply this to the forums and it's not difficult to see why drama can be rife.

Best attitude is to be discreet in your public interaction and be sure the other person understands and respects this. Were I to ever fall for someone on here I certainly wouldn't be shouting it from the rooftops either. Last thing I need is a bullseye painted on my back or on the person i'm interested in.

Tart "

Moi?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you prefer to meet people from the forums? Or do you prefer to meet those that don't use them?

Geography makes it virtually impossible for me to ever meet regular forum users, but I have met two during my time in Fab. I just like meeting genuine people, wherever they’re from "

I was going to write this exact same sentiment (except for the meeting 2 forumites, not had that blessing), have made a few good penpals from the forums though, even if geography says 'fuck you', but hey, never say never

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

That’s why I no longer display one 2 one veris

Me neither. Only social ones. God knows why I didn’t do that before!

I don't display any now, and like you, I don't know why i didn't do that before

Because we didn’t think it would be an issue and it shouldn’t be, but makes for an easier life. Social ones only for me now

Oh. Does that mean me and you will never get it on then as you’ve displayed mine "

Does that mean I can get it on with both of you, if I don't display veris ?

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights


"It’s a mixture of both"

The same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The issues that arise when people from the forums meet and the associated drama are by and large, caused by women. As someone who has met a number of well known people on the forums i've seen and experienced this firsthand.

It's been mentioned before and i'll reiterate. Everyone that I see and meet I assume is chatting to and potentially meeting others. What they get up to isn't my concern nor should my other dealings be theirs; especially if exclusivity hasn't been agreed upon.

I've made the mistake of being open in the past and having my veris displayed which brought me all sorts of grief and vile accusations. Anyone who knows and has met me knows why i'm here and it certainly isn't to be a dickhead nor be caught up in drama.

Fab is very much like Tinder, where some studies have shown that the top 10% of men will have 80% of the women interested in them. Apply this to the forums and it's not difficult to see why drama can be rife.

Best attitude is to be discreet in your public interaction and be sure the other person understands and respects this. Were I to ever fall for someone on here I certainly wouldn't be shouting it from the rooftops either. Last thing I need is a bullseye painted on my back or on the person i'm interested in.

Tart

Moi? "

Qui

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

That’s why I no longer display one 2 one veris

Me neither. Only social ones. God knows why I didn’t do that before!

I don't display any now, and like you, I don't know why i didn't do that before

Because we didn’t think it would be an issue and it shouldn’t be, but makes for an easier life. Social ones only for me now

Oh. Does that mean me and you will never get it on then as you’ve displayed mine

Does that mean I can get it on with both of you, if I don't display veris ?"

Hell yes!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

That’s why I no longer display one 2 one veris

Me neither. Only social ones. God knows why I didn’t do that before!

I don't display any now, and like you, I don't know why i didn't do that before

Because we didn’t think it would be an issue and it shouldn’t be, but makes for an easier life. Social ones only for me now

Oh. Does that mean me and you will never get it on then as you’ve displayed mine

Does that mean I can get it on with both of you, if I don't display veris ?

Hell yes!"

Woohoo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

That’s why I no longer display one 2 one veris

Me neither. Only social ones. God knows why I didn’t do that before!

I don't display any now, and like you, I don't know why i didn't do that before

Because we didn’t think it would be an issue and it shouldn’t be, but makes for an easier life. Social ones only for me now

Oh. Does that mean me and you will never get it on then as you’ve displayed mine

Does that mean I can get it on with both of you, if I don't display veris ?

Hell yes!

Woohoo "

I reckon 2 of us may be able to bend spurs just a little

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"

That’s why I no longer display one 2 one veris

Me neither. Only social ones. God knows why I didn’t do that before!

I don't display any now, and like you, I don't know why i didn't do that before

Because we didn’t think it would be an issue and it shouldn’t be, but makes for an easier life. Social ones only for me now

Oh. Does that mean me and you will never get it on then as you’ve displayed mine

Does that mean I can get it on with both of you, if I don't display veris ?"

I’m speechless for a change

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place


"

That’s why I no longer display one 2 one veris

Me neither. Only social ones. God knows why I didn’t do that before!

I don't display any now, and like you, I don't know why i didn't do that before

Because we didn’t think it would be an issue and it shouldn’t be, but makes for an easier life. Social ones only for me now

Oh. Does that mean me and you will never get it on then as you’ve displayed mine

Does that mean I can get it on with both of you, if I don't display veris ?

I’m speechless for a change "

Blimey that’s a first!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

That’s why I no longer display one 2 one veris

Me neither. Only social ones. God knows why I didn’t do that before!

I don't display any now, and like you, I don't know why i didn't do that before

Because we didn’t think it would be an issue and it shouldn’t be, but makes for an easier life. Social ones only for me now

Oh. Does that mean me and you will never get it on then as you’ve displayed mine

Does that mean I can get it on with both of you, if I don't display veris ?

I’m speechless for a change "

You don't need to speak

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

That’s why I no longer display one 2 one veris

Me neither. Only social ones. God knows why I didn’t do that before!

I don't display any now, and like you, I don't know why i didn't do that before

Because we didn’t think it would be an issue and it shouldn’t be, but makes for an easier life. Social ones only for me now

Oh. Does that mean me and you will never get it on then as you’ve displayed mine

Does that mean I can get it on with both of you, if I don't display veris ?

I’m speechless for a change

You don't need to speak "

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"

That’s why I no longer display one 2 one veris

Me neither. Only social ones. God knows why I didn’t do that before!

I don't display any now, and like you, I don't know why i didn't do that before

Because we didn’t think it would be an issue and it shouldn’t be, but makes for an easier life. Social ones only for me now

Oh. Does that mean me and you will never get it on then as you’ve displayed mine

Does that mean I can get it on with both of you, if I don't display veris ?

I’m speechless for a change

You don't need to speak

"

Going to have to watch out for you two

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

That’s why I no longer display one 2 one veris

Me neither. Only social ones. God knows why I didn’t do that before!

I don't display any now, and like you, I don't know why i didn't do that before

Because we didn’t think it would be an issue and it shouldn’t be, but makes for an easier life. Social ones only for me now

Oh. Does that mean me and you will never get it on then as you’ve displayed mine

Does that mean I can get it on with both of you, if I don't display veris ?

I’m speechless for a change

You don't need to speak

Going to have to watch out for you two "

Not if I'm watching out for you first

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest


"

That’s why I no longer display one 2 one veris

Me neither. Only social ones. God knows why I didn’t do that before!

I don't display any now, and like you, I don't know why i didn't do that before

Because we didn’t think it would be an issue and it shouldn’t be, but makes for an easier life. Social ones only for me now

Oh. Does that mean me and you will never get it on then as you’ve displayed mine

Does that mean I can get it on with both of you, if I don't display veris ?

I’m speechless for a change

You don't need to speak

Going to have to watch out for you two

Not if I'm watching out for you first "

I'd love to be a spectator to all this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

That’s why I no longer display one 2 one veris

Me neither. Only social ones. God knows why I didn’t do that before!

I don't display any now, and like you, I don't know why i didn't do that before

Because we didn’t think it would be an issue and it shouldn’t be, but makes for an easier life. Social ones only for me now

Oh. Does that mean me and you will never get it on then as you’ve displayed mine

Does that mean I can get it on with both of you, if I don't display veris ?

I’m speechless for a change

You don't need to speak

Going to have to watch out for you two

Not if I'm watching out for you first

I'd love to be a spectator to all this "

Pay per view only

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest


"

That’s why I no longer display one 2 one veris

Me neither. Only social ones. God knows why I didn’t do that before!

I don't display any now, and like you, I don't know why i didn't do that before

Because we didn’t think it would be an issue and it shouldn’t be, but makes for an easier life. Social ones only for me now

Oh. Does that mean me and you will never get it on then as you’ve displayed mine

Does that mean I can get it on with both of you, if I don't display veris ?

I’m speechless for a change

You don't need to speak

Going to have to watch out for you two

Not if I'm watching out for you first

I'd love to be a spectator to all this

Pay per view only "

Let me get my card

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"

That’s why I no longer display one 2 one veris

Me neither. Only social ones. God knows why I didn’t do that before!

I don't display any now, and like you, I don't know why i didn't do that before

Because we didn’t think it would be an issue and it shouldn’t be, but makes for an easier life. Social ones only for me now

Oh. Does that mean me and you will never get it on then as you’ve displayed mine

Does that mean I can get it on with both of you, if I don't display veris ?

I’m speechless for a change

You don't need to speak

Going to have to watch out for you two

Not if I'm watching out for you first

I'd love to be a spectator to all this

Pay per view only

Let me get my card "

Oi you !! ...... your supposed to be my pal, don’t encourage them

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Do you prefer to meet people from the forums? Or do you prefer to meet those that don't use them?

Geography makes it virtually impossible for me to ever meet regular forum users, but I have met two during my time in Fab. I just like meeting genuine people, wherever they’re from

I was going to write this exact same sentiment (except for the meeting 2 forumites, not had that blessing), have made a few good penpals from the forums though, even if geography says 'fuck you', but hey, never say never "

Don’t worry about it mate; from the bulk of posts on this thread, it appears we’re better off being out of reach

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

Love to meet forumites as friends. But can’t be bothered with the politics of anything more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Love to meet forumites as friends. But can’t be bothered with the politics of anything more. "
I'm not into politics either, feel free to request my penis

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had some fantastic meets with guys from the forum, but don't consciously choose only them.

I know I'm not a prolific poster, but I've never experienced any drama, either. I guess an element of detachment helps keeps everything in perspective.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

That’s why I no longer display one 2 one veris

Me neither. Only social ones. God knows why I didn’t do that before!

I don't display any now, and like you, I don't know why i didn't do that before

Because we didn’t think it would be an issue and it shouldn’t be, but makes for an easier life. Social ones only for me now

Oh. Does that mean me and you will never get it on then as you’ve displayed mine

Does that mean I can get it on with both of you, if I don't display veris ?

I’m speechless for a change

You don't need to speak

Going to have to watch out for you two

Not if I'm watching out for you first

I'd love to be a spectator to all this

Pay per view only

Let me get my card

Oi you !! ...... your supposed to be my pal, don’t encourage them "

Just go with it sexy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you were familiar with the prolific posters on the Scottish forum, you'd understand why I'd rather not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s quite sad that most find it difficult to meet from the forums

Is that due to attachment or honesty ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to meet Forumites for socials but not keen on anything else due to previous sad experiences. I prefer my sexual meets to be unknown to the Forums.

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

Never thought about it, does it matter if a person chats here or not?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you prefer to meet people from the forums? Or do you prefer to meet those that don't use them?"

Does it actually matter? I will meet anyone that I have a connection with and often that connection starts in a forum. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Away from the forum. Definitely no regulars. They just don't do it for me

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By *erdyWoman
over a year ago

wiltshire


"I meet for one reason only - because there is attraction/chemistry/connection on both sides.

I don’t have a preference for forum males / non-forum males but save to say I’m pretty select in either choice.

I don’t usually meet those whom I’m aware have a queue waiting or those that lamppost piss / blow smoke up arses to gain popularity. It’s not an endearing quality! Fortunately I’m pretty adept at reading between the lines! "
hear hear couldn't of put it better myself

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over a year ago

I would meet both as it is fun with variety.

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over a year ago

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