FabSwingers.com forum: Strange, don't get the logic

By *andsome_Chef88 OP Man
over a year ago

London

If somebody on here can explain this to me or get the reasoning I'd love to know.

I messaged a single woman on here. She liked my first initial message and asked for a face pic. I obliged she then said I looked cute and asked for my snapchat and kik. Started asking normal questions then asked ME if I wanted to meet. Before i could reply to her message i got blocked on snapchat kik and fab.

Even though I could lie and say it doesnt bother me. It did a little and wondered what's her reason behind it. Totally confused. Maybe we will never know. But ladies, couples have you done that before and gents has this ever happend to you?

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"If somebody on here can explain this to me or get the reasoning I'd love to know.

One question, you say ‘before you could reply’ what we talking here? You were in a flowing conversation? And before you finished, blocked?

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By *andsome_Chef88 OP Man
over a year ago

London

It was on snapchat. I opened up her message which said "omg you're so cute few heart emojis and then said are you really from London" before I sent that message it said message couldnt be sent. I checked kik and fab blocked there too.

Just normal stuff really. Wasnt sexual she asked to meet up too

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

So had she agreed to meet before she saw your face? Was the "you're so cute in response to your face pic?

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By *opilotMan
over a year ago

Heathrow

I had it last week. A couple messaged me, we exchanged a few messages, I then went to reply and was blocked. No idea why, I guess they got shy, or it was really just a bloke with a sac full. Just put it down to experience and move on.

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

If you broke conversation when she asked the question and then returned to it later then I could see a little logic but if convo was flowing then nope, sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If somebody on here can explain this to me or get the reasoning I'd love to know.

Sounds like someone playing games..... It happens

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

We have no way of knowing what her reasons were, assuming it was actually a she.

I've stopped talking/walked out on a social meet because of something they said that put me off. No point wasting further time wondering.

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By *andsome_Chef88 OP Man
over a year ago

London

"So had she agreed to meet before she saw your face? Was the "you're so cute in response to your face pic? "

Yeah but I think it was to my hair. All my pics of me on fab are with my dreadlocks tied up. Last night on snap they were out. I think she liked my dreadlocks.

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By *andsome_Chef88 OP Man
over a year ago

London

"We have no way of knowing what her reasons were, assuming it was actually a she.

I've stopped talking/walked out on a social meet because of something they said that put me off. No point wasting further time wondering."

I totally agree to move on. No point in dwelling on it but it just puzzled me a little

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By *andsome_Chef88 OP Man
over a year ago

London

"I had it last week. A couple messaged me, we exchanged a few messages, I then went to reply and was blocked. No idea why, I guess they got shy, or it was really just a bloke with a sac full. Just put it down to experience and move on."

Sucks doesnt it mate

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"So had she agreed to meet before she saw your face? Was the "you're so cute in response to your face pic?

Yeah but I think it was to my hair. All my pics of me on fab are with my dreadlocks tied up. Last night on snap they were out. I think she liked my dreadlocks. "

Oh OK then so you got blocked pretty much immediately after sending the face pic? I suspect she maybe just wasn't attracted to you then.

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By *andsome_Chef88 OP Man
over a year ago

London

"If somebody on here can explain this to me or get the reasoning I'd love to know.

Sounds like someone playing games..... It happens "

This is where the swinging scene gets bad. Just say I was one of those salty males on fab and then i started abusing a woman on here then in turn she starts hating on single guys and then those single guys start calling women names and time wasters. It's a vicious never ending cycle. All because one person couldnt be true to themselves

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By *andsome_Chef88 OP Man
over a year ago

London

"So had she agreed to meet before she saw your face? Was the "you're so cute in response to your face pic?

Yeah but I think it was to my hair. All my pics of me on fab are with my dreadlocks tied up. Last night on snap they were out. I think she liked my dreadlocks.

Oh OK then so you got blocked pretty much immediately after sending the face pic? I suspect she maybe just wasn't attracted to you then. "

Okay if you wasnt attracted to me. And we started talking. Would you then say omg you look cute and handsome then block or would you say politely not for me but thanks. That is potentially psychologically dangerous. Imagine if she had done that to a man with low self of esteem and got that message then shes just knocked him back a few pegs. I just feel people on here need to be 100% I get the block button there is for a reason and i get it. But people use it to willy nilly on here. Not every single man is a stalker or a troll watching your every movement. I'm sure most guys can take rejection

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"So had she agreed to meet before she saw your face? Was the "you're so cute in response to your face pic?

Yeah but I think it was to my hair. All my pics of me on fab are with my dreadlocks tied up. Last night on snap they were out. I think she liked my dreadlocks.

Oh OK then so you got blocked pretty much immediately after sending the face pic? I suspect she maybe just wasn't attracted to you then.

I would say I wasn't attracted to you. But I'm not her. It just seems clear that as soon as she saw your face you got blocked, harsh at that seems, there's a good chance that's the reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Were you not suspicious when she asked to meet without seeing your face pic?

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

That's the game o/p Move on...good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it makes you feel better I was tindering With a guy I thought was ok, so he asked for my Instagram, gave it to him, and then he blocked me. My guess is he couldn’t handle the curves aha. Like the others above say no point dwelling on it. You’re no worse off, it’s her loss.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

My money is on it being a bloke getting a perverse kick out of winding other blokes up - there aren't many women I know that would be quite as overt as you describe in the first few messages OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chances are on here someone cuter messaged her while you were messaging and she got a better offer. If happens. Move on.

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By *tella HeelsTV/TS
over a year ago

west here ford shire

That’s Fab logic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe you read the message but took a long time to reply?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had you seen a face pic of her?

Do you think she may have recognised you? A work colleague maybe and decided blocking on everything was best for you both?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually do this when I get a better offer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is no rhyme or reason sometimes.

Always rem_mber, it's still the Internet.. A shiny thing could be a turd rolled in glitter!

There are hundreds of reasons why... None of them matter... Not really.

Keep lookin...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve given up trying to understand women bud

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By *urlyCatzWoman
over a year ago

Blackpool

"I usually do this when I get a better offer

This is more than likely what happened, she was talking to a few and you didn't make the cut.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had the same issue recently but with couples! Chat going well, swapping pics and both are happy and compliments flowing and then blocked?

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By *mberWoman
over a year ago

Preston

OP I've had similar a few times.

Chat, swap photos, chat, get on, they ask to meet, I agree, they vanish (not blocked but just don't reply)

As I can see no reason behind it I've come to the conclusion that's it's about being nervous or ego.

If you ask someone to meet you you've put your neck on the line. (I know, I've done it) If you then run away you don't give the person chance to make it a negative encounter.

In my case I was asked and said yes but then if you actually meet there's a chance that one of you can say no (ergo dented ego) so if you disappear then you've halted it. Your ego is intact.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

Try not to let it get to you Op.

Rem_mber that ultimately, she was a complete stranger in a virtual, online environment. Helps taking this into context

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"So had she agreed to meet before she saw your face? Was the "you're so cute in response to your face pic?

Yeah but I think it was to my hair. All my pics of me on fab are with my dreadlocks tied up. Last night on snap they were out. I think she liked my dreadlocks.

Oh OK then so you got blocked pretty much immediately after sending the face pic? I suspect she maybe just wasn't attracted to you then.

Personally, I believe if you have confidence/social/mental issues Fab should be the last place for you. For most this is fantasy, an additional ingredient to our sex life.

I think it unreasonable to expect total strangers to take mental state into account when saying no.

Unfortunately, as mentioned many times, those who have taken the time to say no have been met with "I wouldn't touch your fat arse with someone else's anyway..."type responses: who needs that? So block without further ado.

In my 10 years here I've NEVER come across someone who said they sent a nasty message after being told sorry, no thanks. Everyone is ALWAYS polite and thankful...yeah...right!!!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

1. She's married and the hubby walked in.

2. It's a bloke.

3. It's a teenager.

4. It's your mum

5 It's your dad.

6. She's crazy

7. He/She just wanted to lead someone on.

8. She's agrophobic.

9. She realised she knows you.

10. It's your sister

11. They just like flirtin.

12. They are very lonely..........

I could get up to a thousand reasons in a minute or two. ALL of them possibilities.

It doesn't matter.

It really doesn't matter..... unless you like agonising over strangers.

Next please..... ! Move on.

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

"1. She's married and the hubby walked in.

2. It's a bloke.

3. It's a teenager.

4. It's your mum

5 It's your dad.

6. She's crazy

7. He/She just wanted to lead someone on.

8. She's agrophobic.

9. She realised she knows you.

10. It's your sister

11. They just like flirtin.

12. They are very lonely..........

I could get up to a thousand reasons in a minute or two. ALL of them possibilities.

It doesn't matter.

It really doesn't matter..... unless you like agonising over strangers.

Next please..... ! Move on."

I am a little bit in love with Granny C

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

It's only natural Vine.

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

"It's only natural Vine."

You get he all hot and bothered when you start doing lists!!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"It's only natural Vine.

You get he all hot and bothered when you start doing lists!!

Oh ye of the ordered mind.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Welcome to the wonderful fickle world of Fab x

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"1. She's married and the hubby walked in.

2. It's a bloke.

3. It's a teenager.

4. It's your mum

5 It's your dad.

6. She's crazy

7. He/She just wanted to lead someone on.

8. She's agrophobic.

9. She realised she knows you.

10. It's your sister

11. They just like flirtin.

12. They are very lonely..........

I could get up to a thousand reasons in a minute or two. ALL of them possibilities.

It doesn't matter.

It really doesn't matter..... unless you like agonising over strangers.

Next please..... ! Move on.

I am a little bit in love with Granny C "

So am I.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"1. She's married and the hubby walked in.

2. It's a bloke.

3. It's a teenager.

4. It's your mum

5 It's your dad.

6. She's crazy

7. He/She just wanted to lead someone on.

8. She's agrophobic.

9. She realised she knows you.

10. It's your sister

11. They just like flirtin.

12. They are very lonely..........

I could get up to a thousand reasons in a minute or two. ALL of them possibilities.

It doesn't matter.

It really doesn't matter..... unless you like agonising over strangers.

Next please..... ! Move on.

I am a little bit in love with Granny C

So am I.

I’m not...she knows to much already!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Try not to let it get to you Op.

Rem_mber that ultimately, she was a complete stranger in a virtual, online environment. Helps taking this into context

Wise words.

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