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We have the ones we haven’t told, we have the ones we’ve looked at and are curious and it doesn’t even have to mean you’re interested in that person in a sexual way - they just intrigue you.
The ones where you think ‘ fuck!! They’re too gorgeous for me’ and all that malarkey.
Why not choose today - to be the day where you express exactly how you feel? Whether it be that you want to fuck them over the sofa or if your heart skips a beat each time they post or you get mail from them.
All too often we distance ourselves from admitting how we feel , call it self preservation, but who knows what wonderful things could be waiting for you if only you were brave enough to express yourself.
Do it
Be brave
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"Yep. I’m silly enough to think this is a sound idea today. I have someone in mind "It’s probably the sanest post I’ve ever done | |||
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"Should always be brave and put yourself out of your comfort zone.... good thread OP" Thank you 
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"I've told those that I really like that I like them for one reason or another. I have more friends now than I did before I told them
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"I've told those that I really like that I like them for one reason or another. I have more friends now than I did before I told them
It’s good to be a little bit brave x"I couldn't agree more. You cant live your life in your comfort zone the whole time, that wouldnt truly be living in my opinion | |||
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"I've told those that I really like that I like them for one reason or another. I have more friends now than I did before I told them
It’s good to be a little bit brave x
I couldn't agree more. You cant live your life in your comfort zone the whole time, that wouldnt truly be living in my opinion "Maybe I need to start ‘truly living’ then | |||
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"Nope, I’m too scared. I’d prefer to keep the person as an occasional chat than put her off me completely. Mark me down as the first coward to post here "It’s not cowardly... self preservation | |||
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"I've told those that I really like that I like them for one reason or another. I have more friends now than I did before I told them
It’s good to be a little bit brave x
I couldn't agree more. You cant live your life in your comfort zone the whole time, that wouldnt truly be living in my opinion "Yep. Agree 100% | |||
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"I've told those that I really like that I like them for one reason or another. I have more friends now than I did before I told them
It’s good to be a little bit brave x
I couldn't agree more. You cant live your life in your comfort zone the whole time, that wouldnt truly be living in my opinion "But would you message someone even though they’ve hurt your feelings? Is today ‘clear the air’ day? | |||
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"I'll message but in a not sexual way, more an "I really love your posts and think you're an awesome human (but I don't want to have sex with you)" way. Is that allowed? "Yes !! It’s not just sexual ... gosh did I make it sound purely sexual ?? | |||
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"I'll message but in a not sexual way, more an "I really love your posts and think you're an awesome human (but I don't want to have sex with you)" way. Is that allowed?
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It’s not just sexual ... gosh did I make it sound purely sexual ??
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"I've told those that I really like that I like them for one reason or another. I have more friends now than I did before I told them
It’s good to be a little bit brave x
I couldn't agree more. You cant live your life in your comfort zone the whole time, that wouldnt truly be living in my opinion
But would you message someone even though they’ve hurt your feelings? Is today ‘clear the air’ day?"If someone has hurt your feeling and you've been dwelling on it, definitely clear the air sooner rather than later. | |||
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"Nope, I’m too scared. I’d prefer to keep the person as an occasional chat than put her off me completely. Mark me down as the first coward to post here "I do not think that is cowardly at all but maybe take the plunge and see where it leads? | |||
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"Would love to do this but I don’t think there’s anyone on here yet that’s made me feel what you’ve described OP Damn it :/" They don’t have to post on this ... you could just do it anyway | |||
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"Well there is someone but I'd never say... "You don’t tell us .... | |||
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"I've told those that I really like that I like them for one reason or another. I have more friends now than I did before I told them
It’s good to be a little bit brave x
I couldn't agree more. You cant live your life in your comfort zone the whole time, that wouldnt truly be living in my opinion
But would you message someone even though they’ve hurt your feelings? Is today ‘clear the air’ day?
If someone has hurt your feeling and you've been dwelling on it, definitely clear the air sooner rather than later. "Yes !! This too I know I’ve been guilty of hearing things and turning my back - self preservation | |||
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"Hmm, you've got my wee brain thinking about this. Not sure that's such a good idea with this hangover though! "Probably wait until you’re focused | |||
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"I'll message but in a not sexual way, more an "I really love your posts and think you're an awesome human (but I don't want to have sex with you)" way. Is that allowed?
Yes !!
It’s not just sexual ... gosh did I make it sound purely sexual ??
Nope you didn’t. That’s just Meli’s mind "This is true. Dang it Incandescent for knowing me so well. Sorry Op! I shall be brave and message them and say. | |||
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"Nope, I’m too scared. I’d prefer to keep the person as an occasional chat than put her off me completely. Mark me down as the first coward to post here
I do not think that is cowardly at all but maybe take the plunge and see where it leads? "Agreed | |||
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"I'll message but in a not sexual way, more an "I really love your posts and think you're an awesome human (but I don't want to have sex with you)" way. Is that allowed?
Yes !!
It’s not just sexual ... gosh did I make it sound purely sexual ??
Nope you didn’t. That’s just Meli’s mind
This is true. Dang it Incandescent for knowing me so well. Sorry Op! I shall be brave and message them and say. "You’re one of my favourites I’m being brave - in the open | |||
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"My message was deleted, but that comes as no surprise really!" But you tried .... | |||
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"She already knows! In the past I have done this but the message very rarely gets read as their inbox fills quickly and gets lost amongst them all " Then at least you know you tried ... no ‘what ifs’ | |||
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"There is a lady on here, but given where I live, there doesn't seem much point? "Distance is immaterial to some | |||
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"She already knows! In the past I have done this but the message very rarely gets read as their inbox fills quickly and gets lost amongst them all Then at least you know you tried ... no ‘what ifs’" True but it would have been better if they’d have responded | |||
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"I've told those that I really like that I like them for one reason or another. I have more friends now than I did before I told them
It’s good to be a little bit brave x
I couldn't agree more. You cant live your life in your comfort zone the whole time, that wouldnt truly be living in my opinion
But would you message someone even though they’ve hurt your feelings? Is today ‘clear the air’ day?
If someone has hurt your feeling and you've been dwelling on it, definitely clear the air sooner rather than later. "Wise words sir... | |||
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"Is a wink pointless? " No .... if that person checks them | |||
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"She already knows! In the past I have done this but the message very rarely gets read as their inbox fills quickly and gets lost amongst them all Then at least you know you tried ... no ‘what ifs’ True but it would have been better if they’d have responded " But , if they don’t reply, you can move on | |||
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"You do have a great point op . And i have to admit there are a select few i feel smitten for so to speak but i have all ready told them and we still get on really well . Makes me glad i did spill the beans . And they didnt freak out thank god " This pleases me | |||
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"I've told those that I really like that I like them for one reason or another. I have more friends now than I did before I told them
It’s good to be a little bit brave x
I couldn't agree more. You cant live your life in your comfort zone the whole time, that wouldnt truly be living in my opinion
But would you message someone even though they’ve hurt your feelings? Is today ‘clear the air’ day?
If someone has hurt your feeling and you've been dwelling on it, definitely clear the air sooner rather than later.
Wise words sir..."I got your back | |||
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Will have a think "No .... but I’m great at building the humour wall aren’t I ?? People have a perception of me - due to my acerbic manner on occasions, they don’t know I’m actually ok Life is funny - one mail can make you think | |||
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"This thread just isn’t me, I’m a wear my heart on my sleeve type of guy which often gets me into awkward situations but people know exactly what I think of them. I’m becoming quite attached to the op’s posting so thought I’d leave this comment to let her know " | |||
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"Great post! Now do I feel brave or not!" You do ... mail someone new and tell them | |||
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"This is a lovely idea OP. You’re right that the fear of rejection can sometimes paralysis us. Sometimes you have to think ‘fuck it’ and go for it "At least ( if they’re honest too ) you’ll know where you stand too | |||
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"Most men would like to receive a message from a female that likes the look of your profile but unfortunately due to the ratios it doesn’t or very rarely happens " Most women don’t actually get hundreds of mails .... this isn’t about getting a generic mail , this is about expressing yourself to a person | |||
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"Most men would like to receive a message from a female that likes the look of your profile but unfortunately due to the ratios it doesn’t or very rarely happens Most women don’t actually get hundreds of mails .... this isn’t about getting a generic mail , this is about expressing yourself to a person " That’s what I was talking about too, nothing generic but that person that catches your eye | |||
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"Most men would like to receive a message from a female that likes the look of your profile but unfortunately due to the ratios it doesn’t or very rarely happens Most women don’t actually get hundreds of mails .... this isn’t about getting a generic mail , this is about expressing yourself to a person That’s what I was talking about too, nothing generic but that person that catches your eye" I’ve been brave before - they weren’t interested but at least I knew I’ve been very good at avoiding all kinds of attachment , self preservation, but in doing so I’ve actually lost a bit of myself - the caring person. Maybe you won’t today - but at some point you may | |||
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"I'm in hiding because my mojo is missing so I'll pass but good luck brave people.. " Mine was too | |||
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"I actually got mine up to date yesterday! Not all went to plan but definitely haven't lost anything " | |||
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"I do this anyway, that's just the way I'm wired... if I like someone they'll know I do, be that as friends or if I want to get jiggy with them. Sometimes it isn't reciprocated, but hey, that's life, and at least I know. Nobody has completely freaked out yet, which must mean I'm not a complete weirdo...or that everyone I've messaged is just super polite "I admire you | |||
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"I'll have another brew and build up some courage
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"I'm entirely shy to begin with, however over the last few months I've noticed that my comfort zone is becoming smaller and smaller to the point where I'm becoming quite reclusive, other than for work, shipping etc I dont really leave my apartment and it's not healthy, so I've bit the bullet and posted a social coffee meet for today, gotta start somewhere right? As for you floro, I think you're pretty cool, your posts and comments are entertaining, and this ones super great "Thank you
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"I'm entirely shy to begin with, however over the last few months I've noticed that my comfort zone is becoming smaller and smaller to the point where I'm becoming quite reclusive, other than for work, shipping etc I dont really leave my apartment and it's not healthy, so I've bit the bullet and posted a social coffee meet for today, gotta start somewhere right? As for you floro, I think you're pretty cool, your posts and comments are entertaining, and this ones super great
Thank you
Hope you find a lovely for that coffee"I'm not holding out much hope to be honest, but thank you. | |||
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"I do this anyway, that's just the way I'm wired... if I like someone they'll know I do, be that as friends or if I want to get jiggy with them. Sometimes it isn't reciprocated, but hey, that's life, and at least I know. Nobody has completely freaked out yet, which must mean I'm not a complete weirdo...or that everyone I've messaged is just super polite "This for me too | |||
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"I'm entirely shy to begin with, however over the last few months I've noticed that my comfort zone is becoming smaller and smaller to the point where I'm becoming quite reclusive, other than for work, shipping etc I dont really leave my apartment and it's not healthy, so I've bit the bullet and posted a social coffee meet for today, gotta start somewhere right? As for you floro, I think you're pretty cool, your posts and comments are entertaining, and this ones super great
Thank you
Hope you find a lovely for that coffee
I'm not holding out much hope to be honest, but thank you."Don’t be defeatist | |||
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"I do this anyway, that's just the way I'm wired... if I like someone they'll know I do, be that as friends or if I want to get jiggy with them. Sometimes it isn't reciprocated, but hey, that's life, and at least I know. Nobody has completely freaked out yet, which must mean I'm not a complete weirdo...or that everyone I've messaged is just super polite
This for me too " | |||
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"Most men would like to receive a message from a female that likes the look of your profile but unfortunately due to the ratios it doesn’t or very rarely happens Most women don’t actually get hundreds of mails .... this isn’t about getting a generic mail , this is about expressing yourself to a person That’s what I was talking about too, nothing generic but that person that catches your eye I’ve been brave before - they weren’t interested but at least I knew I’ve been very good at avoiding all kinds of attachment , self preservation, but in doing so I’ve actually lost a bit of myself - the caring person. Maybe you won’t today - but at some point you may " I’ve been brave and done it whilst being polite too, I don’t see the point of sending of sending a message of what you might do to them, my point is that it’s very difficult to get noticed especially locally I don’t know if this is unique to my area but I’ve tried and now I don’t tend to anymore | |||
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"I'd better get a message "You make my day !! I won’t message - I’ll say it openly | |||
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"I've always struggled sending first messages. It used to be a confidence thing with me thinking I was always punching above my weight so I usually went of people who sent a wink or tabbed my pics and messaged that way. Then I started in the forums playing the games like face pic Friday and send a wink to who you fancy. And to be fair some I thought was out my league was interested. So my confidence kind of grew. I've met some great people on here and no doubt I'll meet some great people in the future " I understand this ... but you know you’re handsome - you just have to start believing it !! Leagues - no such thing ( she says )
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"I’m sorry for sounding cynical but surely messaging someone how you feel, telling them you like them or just to say hi on this format isn’t hard? Unless you’ve actually met that person you don’t know who they really are and you are taking everything on face value. Therefore why should you feel nervous, scared or make it a big deal. So what if they don’t reply, delete your message or respond how you’d like they Cleary aren’t the person you thought they were so you can cross them off your list and move on. What is being suggested is actually a good thing and a quicker way to finding the right person/people for you to meet. Apologises for this being so long and typed during a hungover state "I’m very good at not stating I’m interested I’m very good at thinking , I’ll let them tell me etc etc | |||
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"There is literally nobody close to me that I would send a nice message to. I got really d*unk last night and sent a girl (not on here) a lot of lovey dovey messages!
I've woke up and read them and had a wee cringe but we're both laughing about it now thankfully."You must like her | |||
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"Do it Be brave " Ok
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"Do it Be brave Ok
Let me put the kettle on first for coffee though "Essentials | |||
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"I'm entirely shy to begin with, however over the last few months I've noticed that my comfort zone is becoming smaller and smaller to the point where I'm becoming quite reclusive, other than for work, shipping etc I dont really leave my apartment and it's not healthy, so I've bit the bullet and posted a social coffee meet for today, gotta start somewhere right? As for you floro, I think you're pretty cool, your posts and comments are entertaining, and this ones super great
Thank you
Hope you find a lovely for that coffee
I'm not holding out much hope to be honest, but thank you.
Don’t be defeatist "Dont get me wrong I'm not being defeatist, I'm an optimistic realist, but you know its fab and that's things go on here | |||
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"There is one person and he knows but the feeling isn’t mutual but we still chat from time to time
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"I'm entirely shy to begin with, however over the last few months I've noticed that my comfort zone is becoming smaller and smaller to the point where I'm becoming quite reclusive, other than for work, shipping etc I dont really leave my apartment and it's not healthy, so I've bit the bullet and posted a social coffee meet for today, gotta start somewhere right? As for you floro, I think you're pretty cool, your posts and comments are entertaining, and this ones super great
Thank you
Hope you find a lovely for that coffee
I'm not holding out much hope to be honest, but thank you.
Don’t be defeatist
Dont get me wrong I'm not being defeatist, I'm an optimistic realist, but you know its fab and that's things go on here "Fair enough | |||
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"There is literally nobody close to me that I would send a nice message to. I got really d*unk last night and sent a girl (not on here) a lot of lovey dovey messages!
I've woke up and read them and had a wee cringe but we're both laughing about it now thankfully.
You must like her "I really do like her. She knows that but too many complications. If I thought I had a chance with her, I'd be off this site and pursuing her and her only.x | |||
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"I'm entirely shy to begin with, however over the last few months I've noticed that my comfort zone is becoming smaller and smaller to the point where I'm becoming quite reclusive, other than for work, shipping etc I dont really leave my apartment and it's not healthy, so I've bit the bullet and posted a social coffee meet for today, gotta start somewhere right? As for you floro, I think you're pretty cool, your posts and comments are entertaining, and this ones super great
Thank you
Hope you find a lovely for that coffee
I'm not holding out much hope to be honest, but thank you.
Don’t be defeatist
Dont get me wrong I'm not being defeatist, I'm an optimistic realist, but you know its fab and that's things go on here
Fair enough "And apparently my brain is working faster than my fingers this morning since I keep missing words out | |||
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"I’ve got my special someone and he knows but there are a few who I’d like to get to know as friends ladies included " He knows
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"I’ve got my special someone and he knows but there are a few who I’d like to get to know as friends ladies included " | |||
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"There is literally nobody close to me that I would send a nice message to. I got really d*unk last night and sent a girl (not on here) a lot of lovey dovey messages!
I've woke up and read them and had a wee cringe but we're both laughing about it now thankfully.
You must like her
I really do like her. She knows that but too many complications. If I thought I had a chance with her, I'd be off this site and pursuing her and her only.x"Complications ?? With what you’ve just said ... can an old woman give you some advice? If she makes your heart skip a beat - tell her - sober | |||
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"Just working my way through the multitude of messages I’ve had ...
Or maybe not lol"Humour is usually my ‘go to’ | |||
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"There is literally nobody close to me that I would send a nice message to. I got really d*unk last night and sent a girl (not on here) a lot of lovey dovey messages!
I've woke up and read them and had a wee cringe but we're both laughing about it now thankfully.
You must like her
I really do like her. She knows that but too many complications. If I thought I had a chance with her, I'd be off this site and pursuing her and her only.x
Complications ??
With what you’ve just said ... can an old woman give you some advice?
If she makes your heart skip a beat - tell her - sober "Complications is an ex boyfriend of hers on the scene, messing with her head and a couple of recent bereavements shes had to deal with. Yeah I've told her sober too. She knows exactly how I feel. She is interested but her head isnt in the best place just now. | |||
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"There is literally nobody close to me that I would send a nice message to. I got really d*unk last night and sent a girl (not on here) a lot of lovey dovey messages!
I've woke up and read them and had a wee cringe but we're both laughing about it now thankfully.
You must like her
I really do like her. She knows that but too many complications. If I thought I had a chance with her, I'd be off this site and pursuing her and her only.x
Complications ??
With what you’ve just said ... can an old woman give you some advice?
If she makes your heart skip a beat - tell her - sober
Complications is an ex boyfriend of hers on the scene, messing with her head and a couple of recent bereavements shes had to deal with.
Yeah I've told her sober too. She knows exactly how I feel. She is interested but her head isnt in the best place just now. "Ahh I see She knows
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"Hi Floro. Just wanted to say I’ve really enjoyed your posts recently. I like the introspective vulnerability of them. I do tend to tell people that I like them. Not all but been getting braver and I’ve become friends with most of them. I’m meeting two people tomorrow that would never have happened if I hadn’t." Love this
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"There is literally nobody close to me that I would send a nice message to. I got really d*unk last night and sent a girl (not on here) a lot of lovey dovey messages!
I've woke up and read them and had a wee cringe but we're both laughing about it now thankfully.
You must like her
I really do like her. She knows that but too many complications. If I thought I had a chance with her, I'd be off this site and pursuing her and her only.x
Complications ??
With what you’ve just said ... can an old woman give you some advice?
If she makes your heart skip a beat - tell her - sober
Complications is an ex boyfriend of hers on the scene, messing with her head and a couple of recent bereavements shes had to deal with.
Yeah I've told her sober too. She knows exactly how I feel. She is interested but her head isnt in the best place just now.
Ahh I see
She knows
This is a different side to you , I like this "I lost my eldest son (17 years old) last May and I was in a very dark place till I met this girl. She pulled me out of the dark hole I was in. We've chatted non stop for months now. I think the world of her and like I say, she does know that and if it wasnt for this ex boyfriend and her own recent losses, we would probably have hit off properly by now. | |||
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"Hi Floro. Just wanted to say I’ve really enjoyed your posts recently. I like the introspective vulnerability of them. I do tend to tell people that I like them. Not all but been getting braver and I’ve become friends with most of them. I’m meeting two people tomorrow that would never have happened if I hadn’t. Love this
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Although, the warmth in your post deserves credit OP, Bravo!
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"There is literally nobody close to me that I would send a nice message to. I got really d*unk last night and sent a girl (not on here) a lot of lovey dovey messages!
I've woke up and read them and had a wee cringe but we're both laughing about it now thankfully.
You must like her
I really do like her. She knows that but too many complications. If I thought I had a chance with her, I'd be off this site and pursuing her and her only.x
Complications ??
With what you’ve just said ... can an old woman give you some advice?
If she makes your heart skip a beat - tell her - sober
Complications is an ex boyfriend of hers on the scene, messing with her head and a couple of recent bereavements shes had to deal with.
Yeah I've told her sober too. She knows exactly how I feel. She is interested but her head isnt in the best place just now.
Ahh I see
She knows
This is a different side to you , I like this
I lost my eldest son (17 years old) last May and I was in a very dark place till I met this girl. She pulled me out of the dark hole I was in. We've chatted non stop for months now. I think the world of her and like I say, she does know that and if it wasnt for this ex boyfriend and her own recent losses, we would probably have hit off properly by now."I’m so sorry for your loss Be patient .. if she’s the one, she’ll get there | |||
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"Hi Floro. Just wanted to say I’ve really enjoyed your posts recently. I like the introspective vulnerability of them. I do tend to tell people that I like them. Not all but been getting braver and I’ve become friends with most of them. I’m meeting two people tomorrow that would never have happened if I hadn’t. Love this
And thank you ... let’s just say I thought I was dead inside - clearly not
Oh no. You’re very much alive and I’m enjoying seeing a new side to you " | |||
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"I was hoping for a hangover remedy
Although, the warmth in your post deserves credit OP, Bravo!
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"Should always be brave and put yourself out of your comfort zone.... good thread OP Agreed .... nothing of any worth every comes without courage & discomfort. I try to live by this and have the “The Man in the Arena” speech printed and up on the office wall for all my team to remember " Nice x | |||
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"I like the ‘carpe diem’ attitude OP. Good for you! " Thank you my friend x | |||
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"Fortune favours the brave " It can do ... It may not feel it at the time, but yes | |||
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"Mine would be unrequited... so best left alone "
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"I do this anyway, that's just the way I'm wired... if I like someone they'll know I do, be that as friends or if I want to get jiggy with them. Sometimes it isn't reciprocated, but hey, that's life, and at least I know. Nobody has completely freaked out yet, which must mean I'm not a complete weirdo...or that everyone I've messaged is just super polite "This! | |||
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"I do this anyway, that's just the way I'm wired... if I like someone they'll know I do, be that as friends or if I want to get jiggy with them. Sometimes it isn't reciprocated, but hey, that's life, and at least I know. Nobody has completely freaked out yet, which must mean I'm not a complete weirdo...or that everyone I've messaged is just super polite
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"Most men would like to receive a message from a female that likes the look of your profile but unfortunately due to the ratios it doesn’t or very rarely happens " I agree. It’s a rare treat. I actually had an unsolicited message from someone local yesterday. Apparently I was in her hot list and she decided to risk telling me. It made my day. | |||
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"Most men would like to receive a message from a female that likes the look of your profile but unfortunately due to the ratios it doesn’t or very rarely happens I agree. It’s a rare treat. I actually had an unsolicited message from someone local yesterday. Apparently I was in her hot list and she decided to risk telling me. It made my day. " That’s lovely ... I like this | |||
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"Most men would like to receive a message from a female that likes the look of your profile but unfortunately due to the ratios it doesn’t or very rarely happens I agree. It’s a rare treat. I actually had an unsolicited message from someone local yesterday. Apparently I was in her hot list and she decided to risk telling me. It made my day. " I often get first messages from women. I actually prefer it that way. I’m not very good at sending the unsolicited first message. However if it is someone I really like it is usually me that then says something to that effect....eventually. | |||
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"There is a lady on here, but given where I live, there doesn't seem much point?
Distance is immaterial to some"Distance is immaterial if you have no ties to where you are, but if you do? | |||
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"There is a lady on here, but given where I live, there doesn't seem much point?
Distance is immaterial to some
Distance is immaterial if you have no ties to where you are, but if you do? "Then it’s a challenge | |||
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"Lovely thread OP I normally tell people if I like them, after observing a while, testing the water.... sometimes I’m subtle, sometimes I’m not, but what have you got to lose, nothing at all but you could gain a friendship or more " Absolutely | |||
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"Lovely thread OP I normally tell people if I like them, after observing a while, testing the water.... sometimes I’m subtle, sometimes I’m not, but what have you got to lose, nothing at all but you could gain a friendship or more " | |||
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"I have a few people that I speak to who know that I have a crush on them in a friendly way. They indulge me which is nice. I guess as I know it will never be more it makes it easier. " Knowing is better than ‘what if’ | |||
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"I’m still recovering from falling for a very dear friend in the real world a while back. I ended up telling her. There is someone on here I might need to message at some point soon though ."Do it | |||
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"Feeling brave, going to do it. Tell the one out my league I fancy her, the one I want to spend time with, that I do. And the pain in the arse to bugger off. Wish me luck!" No such thing as leagues | |||
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"My fanny is open
Pervert!"I just saw what you did there | |||
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"Feeling brave, going to do it. Tell the one out my league I fancy her, the one I want to spend time with, that I do. And the pain in the arse to bugger off. Wish me luck! No such thing as leagues " I Whole heartedly agree with you there, beauty is subjective and peoples preferences and tastes wildly vary, just because I think someone is beautiful does mean they are or that others agree, for example theres a lovely lady in our office at work and all the lads bang on about her like shes the most beautiful woman on the planet and try chatting her up all the time, and they all think I'm strange begets because I dont find her remotely attractive in that way shes just a lovely woman who I work with. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I think the 17 coffees are kicking in  | |||
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"Feeling brave, going to do it. Tell the one out my league I fancy her, the one I want to spend time with, that I do. And the pain in the arse to bugger off. Wish me luck! No such thing as leagues " | |||
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"Giving people courage is getting more courage for Floro too. Is it the spring and love in the air Floro, that made you take the mask off and now another pic change , or does he/she have a name? "More the realisation that you’ve got to be braver ... No names | |||
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"Lovely post op, but I’m one of the cowards and won’t be telling anyone. I’ve tried but self preservation etc x " I think self preservation are my two middle names | |||
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"Giving people courage is getting more courage for Floro too. Is it the spring and love in the air Floro, that made you take the mask off and now another pic change , or does he/she have a name?
More the realisation that you’ve got to be braver ...
No names"No names needed , irrelevant for us , effect caused , I'm liking. | |||
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"I received a message from a lady on here and we had a social, we met again and just walked and talked again and spent a long time just kissing and enjoying the time together, now we’re going to the theatre and dinner together and lots of time before that too so basically fabs has been incredible " | |||
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"I'm in. Saffron40, I've been trying to find a way to tell you to stop putting fingers in my bum. I don't like it. I didn't want to say anything to you because I know you like it, but after seeing 'second hand straps on for sale' in your browser history, I had to say something " and I shared my love... time waster | |||
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"We feel it would be so much easier on here if everyone just spoke their minds and were honest. We are always honest, but we don't seem to receive the same treatment towards us. It's frustrating. " I’m sorry that happened to you | |||
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"But .... that’s because I’ve been thinking. So many of us on here have that one or two people who we like ( probably more than we should - depending on who you talk to )
We have the ones we haven’t told, we have the ones we’ve looked at and are curious and it doesn’t even have to mean you’re interested in that person in a sexual way - they just intrigue you.
The ones where you think ‘ fuck!! They’re too gorgeous for me’ and all that malarkey.
Why not choose today - to be the day where you express exactly how you feel? Whether it be that you want to fuck them over the sofa or if your heart skips a beat each time they post or you get mail from them.
All too often we distance ourselves from admitting how we feel , call it self preservation, but who knows what wonderful things could be waiting for you if only you were brave enough to express yourself.
Do it
Be brave
I’ll even remove all my filters for a while too "I talked a lot about how I feel this week and sadly it did me no favours at all. So I’ll skip this one, but by all means reach out to us if you have something you want to say. Good luck to you all, I hope a little honesty and vulnerability works out well Xx | |||
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"But .... that’s because I’ve been thinking. So many of us on here have that one or two people who we like ( probably more than we should - depending on who you talk to )
We have the ones we haven’t told, we have the ones we’ve looked at and are curious and it doesn’t even have to mean you’re interested in that person in a sexual way - they just intrigue you.
The ones where you think ‘ fuck!! They’re too gorgeous for me’ and all that malarkey.
Why not choose today - to be the day where you express exactly how you feel? Whether it be that you want to fuck them over the sofa or if your heart skips a beat each time they post or you get mail from them.
All too often we distance ourselves from admitting how we feel , call it self preservation, but who knows what wonderful things could be waiting for you if only you were brave enough to express yourself.
Do it
Be brave
I’ll even remove all my filters for a while too
I talked a lot about how I feel this week and sadly it did me no favours at all. So I’ll skip this one, but by all means reach out to us if you have something you want to say. Good luck to you all, I hope a little honesty and vulnerability works out well Xx" | |||
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"Just seen this thread - I love it, OP! It's how I got chatting to a few fab friends. Just messaged them cold saying what I liked about them. I think openness and vulnerability are very attractive traits. Mrs TMN x" | |||
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"We feel it would be so much easier on here if everyone just spoke their minds and were honest. We are always honest, but we don't seem to receive the same treatment towards us. It's frustrating. " Much easier , see I do speak my mind , honesty used to be s form of flattery ,now because rare became suspicious. But I have no intention of change , besides the suspicion I got back , I also got some nice messages. | |||
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"I hope some of you got something positive "I am sure that we did and sometimes it is good to think about things than just hit that fab button all the time | |||
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"I hope some of you got something positive
I am sure that we did and sometimes it is good to think about things than just hit that fab button all the time "Certainly made me think today | |||
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"And Floro I don't need to use the moment you droped your filters to send you a message. I keep going back to your profile just for a read , it's not long , it's not long enough , feels just like a start of a story . I always stop at the "80s Soho line " it's like time travel . " You’re too kind .. thank you | |||
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"And Floro I don't need to use the moment you droped your filters to send you a message. I keep going back to your profile just for a read , it's not long , it's not long enough , feels just like a start of a story . I always stop at the "80s Soho line " it's like time travel . You’re too kind .. thank you " If you were anywhere near me I would be asking you out for lunch , preferably 12 to 15 courses not 3 just got a bit of extra time for more of your story. But you're not , so a full version of your profile pic in public folder would do for now.  | |||
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