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"You forgot.. 'Meet now' 'Nice pics hun' 'x' "It doesn't usually bother me to be honest but just recently I've noticed a lot more rudeness in opening messages. | |||
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"You forgot.. 'Meet now' 'Nice pics hun' 'x' "And “alright babe, you’re gorgeous “ | |||
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"I received one yesterday that said, "can we f***?" Suggested response, "Can we f***!"
I didn't send that though. Just blocked and deleted."He would have got it anyway and would have though it was on to fuck lol | |||
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"You forgot.. 'Meet now' 'Nice pics hun' 'x'
And “alright babe, you’re gorgeous “"Anyone calling me “babe!!!” “What you dressed in now?” I’m not a tv 24/7 I’m horny can we meet now (8pm or later) I’m sure I can just bathe dress and be there in 5 mins without wife and kids looking gob smacked | |||
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Like Bob Hoskins used to say for BT "It's good to talk"
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"I received one yesterday that said, "can we f***?" Suggested response, "Can we f***!"
I didn't send that though. Just blocked and deleted."Ha. Brilliant. | |||
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""Can i pump your slot" was a recent first message i recieved. " Ffs your not a fruit machine | |||
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"Ok. Thanks for the information, I’ll keep it in mind if I ever come across a decent female profile." Awww come on Sam, you're better than that! | |||
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"If every guy was a conversational expert then there would be less threads on the forum. " I doubt that, we'd always find stuff to chat about. | |||
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"Weekends are always the worst for messages. Saturday night around pub closing time the influx of drivel begins, & now we are onto the Sunday hangover horn messages. " Not just me that’s noticed an increase in 0 reply posts then? | |||
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"To be fair, the dull 'Hi hun' sort of messages are rather dull. It's the 'Can I use your arse as fuck meat' ones that are more entertaining! "I agree, at least there's a comedy value in that! | |||
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"Ok. Thanks for the information, I’ll keep it in mind if I ever come across a decent female profile. Awww come on Sam, you're better than that!" I just fancied being a bit rebellious for the lads, you know! There’s just so much mud thrown at us that sometimes you do feel like throwing some back. | |||
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"Ok. Thanks for the information, I’ll keep it in mind if I ever come across a decent female profile." Ooh ouch! Someone's feeling catty.. | |||
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"Ok. Thanks for the information, I’ll keep it in mind if I ever come across a decent female profile. Ooh ouch! Someone's feeling catty.. " Catty man. Like Allan car | |||
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"You forgot.. 'Meet now' 'Nice pics hun' 'x'
It doesn't usually bother me to be honest but just recently I've noticed a lot more rudeness in opening messages. "I genuinely dont take it as rude per se I think that's the thought process that rush into their brain I just cannot understand how or why men think such idiotic first lines would work and I genuinely think they absolutely think the words they write are appropriate seducers  
Oh and speaking from daily personal experience not white knight or virtue signaling
I really think ( being rather negative about the human species as a majority atm)
That really it just reflects the fact that the majority of men are euk and meh and not worth associating with
I'd suggest treat their overt actions as a filter and block them | |||
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"Don't start a conversation with: Your arse needs to be destroyed Have you been filled tonight? Phone wank? Jeez, is it a leap year thing or what?!" What? All my best lines? Are you picky or what?  | |||
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"Bewn getting those types of messages for years and worse ones they just get deleted" Been* | |||
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"I generally don't mind what opening message I get, I'll read the profile, look at the pictures and decide to respond or not. It can be difficult on here to think of the right thing to write first off. A lot of women either dont give much away or it can be difficult to gauge 'does this woman want humour, kinky talk or just a simple 'hi' Personally, and this might be controversial, I dont mind people saying 'hi' or 'how are you?' as if I like the look of them I can respond and a conversation builds from it and then you learn if you connect or not. Just like in reality. Most people you meet you will probably say one of those two things first. I'm not afraid to find out about people as personality is much more sexy than looks to me. You cannot define someone fully by pictures and a profile. I like to put the effort in to find out a person before I judge if I like them sexually or not. Seems people could miss out because they think 'hi' is a lack of effort. Maybe it's that way of thinking that makes you miss out on people you really connect with. I suppose it's a perspective thing." I suppose it's different if you get one "hi" message, but when you get 20 in your inbox you don't have the time to get to know them all personally and find out who you connect with most. Saying that I don't especially mind a "hi" but if my inbox has a few messages in it, I'm more likely to reply to something more than that. | |||
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"I generally don't mind what opening message I get, I'll read the profile, look at the pictures and decide to respond or not. It can be difficult on here to think of the right thing to write first off. A lot of women either dont give much away or it can be difficult to gauge 'does this woman want humour, kinky talk or just a simple 'hi' Personally, and this might be controversial, I dont mind people saying 'hi' or 'how are you?' as if I like the look of them I can respond and a conversation builds from it and then you learn if you connect or not. Just like in reality. Most people you meet you will probably say one of those two things first. I'm not afraid to find out about people as personality is much more sexy than looks to me. You cannot define someone fully by pictures and a profile. I like to put the effort in to find out a person before I judge if I like them sexually or not. Seems people could miss out because they think 'hi' is a lack of effort. Maybe it's that way of thinking that makes you miss out on people you really connect with. I suppose it's a perspective thing. I suppose it's different if you get one "hi" message, but when you get 20 in your inbox you don't have the time to get to know them all personally and find out who you connect with most. Saying that I don't especially mind a "hi" but if my inbox has a few messages in it, I'm more likely to reply to something more than that. " Of course, it's a different world inbox wise for women on here. And you are right. | |||
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"One of my most memorable first messages read " Can I tongue punch your fart box?" "Who said romance was dead? | |||
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"One of my most memorable first messages read " Can I tongue punch your fart box?" "Actually lolled | |||
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"You forgot.. 'Meet now' 'Nice pics hun' 'x'
And “alright babe, you’re gorgeous “
Anyone calling me “babe!!!”
“What you dressed in now?”
I’m not a tv 24/7
I’m horny can we meet now (8pm or later)
I’m sure I can just bathe dress and be there in 5 mins without wife and kids looking gob smacked
"This, all the time, I'm convinced there is a secret group of single men in some sort of competition to see how many times they can get blocked in 24 hours or something. Surely they can't be that stupid? | |||
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"Bewn getting those types of messages for years and worse ones they just get deleted" Me too I often ask why then block | |||
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"Lol I've had 'hi tits' " Iv had this " balls full" Not even a question mark I like to educate them that the testis do not hold the majority of seminal fluid | |||
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"I want to... Fill in blank with detailed, badly written description of various sexual acts.. To you" I want to slowly fumble around on top of you in the dark whilst rubbing my penis against your inner thigh as I cant seem to find the hole, then stopping and saying 'I need a wee' | |||
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"LOL!! There is some comedy gold on here. One thing I would say. I’ve read quite few women’s profiles where they have a whole list of don’ts. Don’t do that, don’t say this. Maybe if there were more do’s on their profiles, better conversations would start. Just a thought! " Yeah that kind of puts me off, I understand why though, because of the amount of shit they get off weirdos. But I agree it can make them seem selfish or egotistical etc, but that's not the case. | |||
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"LOL!! There is some comedy gold on here. One thing I would say. I’ve read quite few women’s profiles where they have a whole list of don’ts. Don’t do that, don’t say this. Maybe if there were more do’s on their profiles, better conversations would start. Just a thought! Yeah that kind of puts me off, I understand why though, because of the amount of shit they get off weirdos. But I agree it can make them seem selfish or egotistical etc, but that's not the case. " You are absolutely right. I think it would help start a conversation on the right footing and would in turn hopefully avoid annoying the person they are messaging. | |||
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"Someone took the time to write me a nice personalised poem last week...about how much of a filthy slut I am apparently "Lol! How sweet of them
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"LOL!! There is some comedy gold on here. One thing I would say. I’ve read quite few women’s profiles where they have a whole list of don’ts. Don’t do that, don’t say this. Maybe if there were more do’s on their profiles, better conversations would start. Just a thought! " No thats utter rubbish | |||
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"LOL!! There is some comedy gold on here. One thing I would say. I’ve read quite few women’s profiles where they have a whole list of don’ts. Don’t do that, don’t say this. Maybe if there were more do’s on their profiles, better conversations would start. Just a thought! " It doesn't improve it at all. I never used to have any yays and nays on my profile and I still got awful messages. Also, how does it become the woman's fault that she gets shit messages? Isn't the fault completely the senders? | |||
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"Fit Just that, no Hi, or Bye. Took me longer to open it than it took to write it! "I get “unfit”, which is 40% more effort to write | |||
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"Ladies - don’t send me a picture of your Pussy I don’t want this frust in my face Especially on first message If I want one I will ask for one Thanks " Do many women do this? | |||
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"Fit Just that, no Hi, or Bye. Took me longer to open it than it took to write it!
I get “unfit”, which is 40% more effort to write "Do you meet them? Because of the extra effort? | |||
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"Don't start a conversation with: Your arse needs to be destroyed Have you been filled tonight? Phone wank? Jeez, is it a leap year thing or what?!" Oh you had this one too? | |||
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"LOL!! There is some comedy gold on here. One thing I would say. I’ve read quite few women’s profiles where they have a whole list of don’ts. Don’t do that, don’t say this. Maybe if there were more do’s on their profiles, better conversations would start. Just a thought! " It's more likely that the list of do's and don'ts started to grow as a result of the rubbish messages. | |||
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"LOL!! There is some comedy gold on here. One thing I would say. I’ve read quite few women’s profiles where they have a whole list of don’ts. Don’t do that, don’t say this. Maybe if there were more do’s on their profiles, better conversations would start. Just a thought! It doesn't improve it at all. I never used to have any yays and nays on my profile and I still got awful messages. Also, how does it become the woman's fault that she gets shit messages? Isn't the fault completely the senders? "In the main I absolutely agree. You have a good profile where you have what you are and aren’t into and what you would like when someone sends you a message. You don’t have a list of don’ts so the sender has no excuse for not sending you a good well thought out message. | |||
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"LOL!! There is some comedy gold on here. One thing I would say. I’ve read quite few women’s profiles where they have a whole list of don’ts. Don’t do that, don’t say this. Maybe if there were more do’s on their profiles, better conversations would start. Just a thought! It's more likely that the list of do's and don'ts started to grow as a result of the rubbish messages. " Very true. The biggest thing that I have learnt is that if someone has read your message and not replied or deleted your message, then it’s time to move on as they aren’t interested. | |||
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"LOL!! There is some comedy gold on here. One thing I would say. I’ve read quite few women’s profiles where they have a whole list of don’ts. Don’t do that, don’t say this. Maybe if there were more do’s on their profiles, better conversations would start. Just a thought! " As 90% of men don't read profiles at all before messaging the dos/don'ts are generally ignored anyway. | |||
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"LOL!! There is some comedy gold on here. One thing I would say. I’ve read quite few women’s profiles where they have a whole list of don’ts. Don’t do that, don’t say this. Maybe if there were more do’s on their profiles, better conversations would start. Just a thought! It doesn't improve it at all. I never used to have any yays and nays on my profile and I still got awful messages. Also, how does it become the woman's fault that she gets shit messages? Isn't the fault completely the senders?
In the main I absolutely agree.
You have a good profile where you have what you are and aren’t into and what you would like when someone sends you a message. You don’t have a list of don’ts so the sender has no excuse for not sending you a good well thought out message. "Erm why ever send a message to a profile you think is poor let alone send a moronic blurting of the contents of a pubescent Male's simplistic mind | |||
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"LOL!! There is some comedy gold on here. One thing I would say. I’ve read quite few women’s profiles where they have a whole list of don’ts. Don’t do that, don’t say this. Maybe if there were more do’s on their profiles, better conversations would start. Just a thought! It doesn't improve it at all. I never used to have any yays and nays on my profile and I still got awful messages. Also, how does it become the woman's fault that she gets shit messages? Isn't the fault completely the senders?
In the main I absolutely agree.
You have a good profile where you have what you are and aren’t into and what you would like when someone sends you a message. You don’t have a list of don’ts so the sender has no excuse for not sending you a good well thought out message. "Regardless of what my profile says, I should always receive decent messages, same for any woman (unless, that's what she's looking for). You cannot blame the receiver for the content of a message. | |||
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"LOL!! There is some comedy gold on here. One thing I would say. I’ve read quite few women’s profiles where they have a whole list of don’ts. Don’t do that, don’t say this. Maybe if there were more do’s on their profiles, better conversations would start. Just a thought! As 90% of men don't read profiles at all before messaging the dos/don'ts are generally ignored anyway. " That’s true. I wonder if there is a link to how long a profile is and whether they are read completely? | |||
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"I kind of start with ‘ hi how’s your day going’ Boring I know lol, sometimes it’s difficult to know what to write as a first line. I read their profile & try to get a just on their personality first Any help would be appreciated though lol " I would reply My day is becoming more bland by each moment I recieve a trite message such as yours sorry you are blocked | |||
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"I kind of start with ‘ hi how’s your day going’ Boring I know lol, sometimes it’s difficult to know what to write as a first line. I read their profile & try to get a just on their personality first Any help would be appreciated though lol I would reply My day is becoming more bland by each moment I recieve a trite message such as yours sorry you are blocked " Wow James you are on fire today. Thanks for your wise words | |||
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"LOL!! There is some comedy gold on here. One thing I would say. I’ve read quite few women’s profiles where they have a whole list of don’ts. Don’t do that, don’t say this. Maybe if there were more do’s on their profiles, better conversations would start. Just a thought! As 90% of men don't read profiles at all before messaging the dos/don'ts are generally ignored anyway. That’s true. I wonder if there is a link to how long a profile is and whether they are read completely? " No idea, but if the person messaging can't spare 2 minutes out their day to read my profile, then why should I take time out of mine to respond to their message? Especially if their message is completely uninspiring. | |||
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"I kind of start with ‘ hi how’s your day going’ Boring I know lol, sometimes it’s difficult to know what to write as a first line. I read their profile & try to get a just on their personality first Any help would be appreciated though lol I would reply My day is becoming more bland by each moment I recieve a trite message such as yours sorry you are blocked Wow James you are on fire today. Thanks for your wise words " | |||
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"LOL!! There is some comedy gold on here. One thing I would say. I’ve read quite few women’s profiles where they have a whole list of don’ts. Don’t do that, don’t say this. Maybe if there were more do’s on their profiles, better conversations would start. Just a thought! As 90% of men don't read profiles at all before messaging the dos/don'ts are generally ignored anyway. That’s true. I wonder if there is a link to how long a profile is and whether they are read completely? No idea, but if the person messaging can't spare 2 minutes out their day to read my profile, then why should I take time out of mine to respond to their message? Especially if their message is completely uninspiring. " I figure if they can't be arsed to spend two minutes on chatting me up, they ain't going to spend 2 minutes on making me smile | |||
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