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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Being 75, sitting thinking about your life.

You're thinking about things you wanted to do, but weren't brave or confident enough.

You didn't go swimming in the sea or let the sun warm your legs because you thought your thighs were too fat, had too much cellulite and were too wobbly.

You didn't laugh in public to the point you couldn't breathe because you're teeth aren't straight or pearly white.

You didn't embrace the sun on holiday because of the stretch marks on your tummy.

You turned down invites, you never went to that party, that event because you couldn't find the right clothes to flatter your body, you stopped having fun because the pressure you put on yourself to be perfect consumed you and acted like a fun filter.

Imagine being 75 and you've hidden yourself away for the fear of not being the woman in the magazines, the "hot" woman.

Imagine being 75 and a new trend comes in, you realise it's all been media fed bullshit about perfection, pressure and sales. You were perfect the way you were but now it's too late.

You'll be fucking heartbroken.

You'll have been a victim of a scam, one that tells you you aren't good enough without this or that, one that subliminally preaches to you that you're inferior.

Don't let that happen.

Live now.

Live as you are, and live to the max.

You're perfectly you.

I think many of us could do with this reminder when we're doubting ourselves and feeling dejected, rejected and "not enough"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

do it thats my motto don't think too much about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Excellent Friday sentiment.

you guys.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

Great post!Yes make the most of it, life is too short to worry about being perfect in the way we look. Self confidence and being kind to others is far more attractive than a great body and that great body won't last forever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oooh that has really made me think

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

You’re right, as you usually are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great post

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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Love this post and you both, it's a perfect reminder of how short life is and why we should just do it.

I've been wobbling about going to an event because I can't seem to find that "perfect" dress and lingerie and my figure just isn't slim. You're right though, life is for living and so I'm going to find something that I feel comfortable in and stop beating myself up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Love this post and you both, it's a perfect reminder of how short life is and why we should just do it.

I've been wobbling about going to an event because I can't seem to find that "perfect" dress and lingerie and my figure just isn't slim. You're right though, life is for living and so I'm going to find something that I feel comfortable in and stop beating myself up."

You’ll smash it.

Stop fretting!

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Love this and so so true, needed a reminder not been adhering to this philosophy to my own detriment

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

Tbh I've already started doing this at 43 .

I've made plenty of stupid decisions and made many fuck ups.

So once my issues ( that you know about P ) are sorted, I then aim to live life .

Beautiful post Btw

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks auntie P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Imagine being 42 and worried about being 75.

Life is a thankless, pointless struggle, followed by inevitable death. We are no more important than frogs, clouds or rocks, and you don't see them experiencing existential angst about forgetting to carpe the diem.

The sooner humanity collectively realises it is fleeting, pointless, and insignificant, the less up our own arses and accepting we might be. None of us can be "enough" or "better", because the concept simply doesn't matter in an infinite universe. The universe couldn't care less that you didn't ride that zipline in Venezuela in 1994.

Do good, do bad. Do things, don't do things. Noodles, don't noodles. Within the constraints of the society you live in, nothing matters in the long run. Be kind to everyone, find your service to others, and make the passage easy for yourself.

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By *hatYorkLadMan
over a year ago

York

One of the things my dad said to me a week or two before he died four years ago was 'you've done far more in your life already than I ever did in mine' which will always stick with me. There's plenty I feel I haven't done though and hopefully I will get them done before the egg timer runs out!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" There's plenty I feel I haven't done though and hopefully I will get them done before the egg timer runs out! "

Why?

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"One of the things my dad said to me a week or two before he died four years ago was 'you've done far more in your life already than I ever did in mine' which will always stick with me. There's plenty I feel I haven't done though and hopefully I will get them done before the egg timer runs out! "
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Good for you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Imagine being 42 and worried about being 75.

Life is a thankless, pointless struggle, followed by inevitable death. We are no more important than frogs, clouds or rocks, and you don't see them experiencing existential angst about forgetting to carpe the diem.

The sooner humanity collectively realises it is fleeting, pointless, and insignificant, the less up our own arses and accepting we might be. None of us can be "enough" or "better", because the concept simply doesn't matter in an infinite universe. The universe couldn't care less that you didn't ride that zipline in Venezuela in 1994.

Do good, do bad. Do things, don't do things. Noodles, don't noodles. Within the constraints of the society you live in, nothing matters in the long run. Be kind to everyone, find your service to others, and make the passage easy for yourself. "

Sure those who love me will carry on without me, but I am not significant to them. This may not matter on the grand scheme of the universe or those outside my circle, but it matters to me and mine, as much as your life will matter to you and yours, therefore we are all important. Of course it's fleeting, it all is..... but it most certainly ain't pointless.

P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Excellent post

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Love this post and you both, it's a perfect reminder of how short life is and why we should just do it.

I've been wobbling about going to an event because I can't seem to find that "perfect" dress and lingerie and my figure just isn't slim. You're right though, life is for living and so I'm going to find something that I feel comfortable in and stop beating myself up."

Good, coz I'll beat you up and you don't want that

P

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By *hatYorkLadMan
over a year ago

York


" There's plenty I feel I haven't done though and hopefully I will get them done before the egg timer runs out!

Why?

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For myself, because I want to. I don't have a list as such but there are many places around the world that still I want to see and explore for myself. I've skydived, scuba dived, served in the army, travelled to many countries, parasailed, flown a glider, done extreme sports, driven supercars and so many other things because I feel like life is about experiencing as much as you can. I don't care that the universe doesn't care, we only get one life and if mine doesn't come to an abrupt end and I'm aware it's coming, I want to go knowing I lived it well.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


" There's plenty I feel I haven't done though and hopefully I will get them done before the egg timer runs out!

Why?

For myself, because I want to. I don't have a list as such but there are many places around the world that still I want to see and explore for myself. I've skydived, scuba dived, served in the army, travelled to many countries, parasailed, flown a glider, done extreme sports, driven supercars and so many other things because I feel like life is about experiencing as much as you can. I don't care that the universe doesn't care, we only get one life and if mine doesn't come to an abrupt end and I'm aware it's coming, I want to go knowing I lived it well."
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Great attitude

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I'm trying to rectify this now. Be the me I was always meant to be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've skydived, scuba dived, served in the army, travelled to many countries, parasailed, flown a glider, done extreme sports, driven supercars and so many other things because I feel like life is about experiencing as much as you can."

This is the lie I think we've been sold. That only the accumulated things we've done and stuff we've bought is a goal. You mention nothing about people, or kindness, or altruism, just an inward pursuit of things.

Please note I intend no disrespect or malice. Just offering an alternative viewpoint on the "100 things to do before you die" trope.

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"I'm trying to rectify this now. Be the me I was always meant to be."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That has hit me for six OP and you’re right.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I've skydived, scuba dived, served in the army, travelled to many countries, parasailed, flown a glider, done extreme sports, driven supercars and so many other things because I feel like life is about experiencing as much as you can.

This is the lie I think we've been sold. That only the accumulated things we've done and stuff we've bought is a goal. You mention nothing about people, or kindness, or altruism, just an inward pursuit of things.

Please note I intend no disrespect or malice. Just offering an alternative viewpoint on the "100 things to do before you die" trope. "

Yes. I think life is more about self actualisation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This reminds me of an old man on his deathbed being asked, if you could change one thing about your life what would it be? He said he’d never have stressed about all the things that never happened.

I liked that so try to live by it.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"This reminds me of an old man on his deathbed being asked, if you could change one thing about your life what would it be? He said he’d never have stressed about all the things that never happened.

I liked that so try to live by it."

I like that too

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