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What would you tell your 16 year old self?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

If you could go back and speak to yourself at 16, you have 1hr, what would you say?

Love yourself? Be braver?

Would you go back?

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

No give a f. What others think.

Your nose isn't really that big.

Have a bit more confidence lad.

Get to uni after you finish sixth form.

Don't give up on your dreams.

Look after your money.

And get a trade.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd leave her be, she went through hell to get where she is going now.

Life teaches us lessons, good and bad. Without it I wouldn't be who I am today.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do it all again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest my life at 16 was great i was virgin great job great friends didnt drink

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

Be more confident

Do A levels and go to uni

Don't take life so seriously

Don't loose your virginity to the wrong guy

Don't worry too much about what others think about you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stop wanting to grow up to fast!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get away from your family, get out of Birmingham, believe in yourself, go see Sonic Youth because they'll be the one band you'll be cursing having never seen

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I would.

Honey you're worth so much more than you know. Be strong, be brave. But be you. You're allowed to be you, and you're fine just as you are. It'll hurt along the way, a lot, you'll need to let your guard down to see both the highs and the lows. But you're stronger than you know. You've got this, promise. Things will be better than you ever dared imagine.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Oh and I forgot, buy shares in Apple and start coding a website where people can add their friends and family to share stories and photos.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

'Fuck her right in the pussy!'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Time is the most precious thing you have,don't waste it!

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By *iger4uWoman
over a year ago

In my happy place

Dont wait... Do everything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The guy you thought you loved never truely loved you.

The one you thought loved you just abused you.

Await your knight as you my princess deserve better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do it all again 10x worse!

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

I'd tell her that in 5 years you'll have something that will make all the crap worth it and to just hang on abit longer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d tell myself to stick a tenner on Aldaniti to win the Grand National

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some winning lottery combinations

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are not fat. Learn to love your body. Work harder at your A levels- dont get distracted by that boy!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't have my kids if it wasnt for making a big mistake. Probably one of the things I would tell my 16 year old self to do would have been to get out of the relationship.

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By *etite_RosyWoman
over a year ago

Now in MALAGA (SPAIN)


"I'd leave her be, she went through hell to get where she is going now.

Life teaches us lessons, good and bad. Without it I wouldn't be who I am today. "

Amen!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take that offer of working abroad, don't let a boy make your decision for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not going to get any better.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

I'd say "Don't worry. You'll have a girlfriend in less than 14 years." Luke

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

In a year your world will fall apart and will be the start of a tough 6 years, but you’ll come through it, learn to laugh again and it shapes who you will become...... you will face more but that’s life and it will just make you stronger

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

Being a young mum isn't that bad and it'll all come out well in the wash. I'd tell myself to keep going and not let the opinions of others get in the way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’re worth so much more than what you’ll settle for. Don’t try to be everything for everyone, think of yourself too. Enjoy life for a while, go out and make friends, laugh more, and even though times wont be perfect don’t regret the decisions you’ll make, you have two beautiful children because of one of them- maybe delay the first child, until you’re less of a child yourself though

Life will make you stronger than you’ll ever believe possible, so don’t let yourself become cynical. You’ll get hurt, you’ll be betrayed, do things you regret, but it’s one hell of a journey, so embrace it and learn from it x

Oh, and get on here earlier and meet Inked sooner, haha x

Viv x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't always sit on the sidelines. Be brave and see your worth. Don't let the shit that went on in your life up until 16 still affect you into your 40's. Live your life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wear more red. It's your colour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If in doubt, don't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd take me to a pub buy a pint of cider and tell me that actually it's all gonna work out fine, mum's gonna be just fine now get out to the cider festival and have a blast ya daft lad! Oh and don't change a thing okay, yer in for a hard time but you'll make it through with some amazing memories

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By *heshirefungirlWoman
over a year ago

ammanford

I wouldn't go see my 16year old self and I definitely wouldn't talk to her, mainly because she wouldn't of listened anyway because she thought she knew best, but mostly because if you were to regret or change anything from your past you wouldn't be who you are today and the slightest change in your past could have a huge impact on the person you are and the person you are still becoming, and on a whole I'm a ok kinda person so why risk changing something when you could end up a horrible person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Buy as many Apple shares as you can possibly afford!

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By *rctopusMan
over a year ago

Borehamwood

The Au Pair that your parents will have in 2 years' time will want to shag you. If you don't make a move, you'll randomly meet her when you're 24 and she'll ask you why why you never did.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you could go back and speak to yourself at 16, you have 1hr, what would you say?

Love yourself? Be braver?

Would you go back? "
stay in Australia ! Don’t come back

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By *ustme34Man
over a year ago

Bradford

Dont wait another 10 years to give up on her your mother wont change who she is . Give up now and save a lot of heart ache .

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By *ornLordMan
over a year ago

Wiltshire and London

In 30 years they’ll be telling you you’re a catch.

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By *uicy jonesMan
over a year ago

near a big hill in s/ shropshire NOT in

Don't go on that date !!! ( the ex wife ) !!!!

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By *ornLordMan
over a year ago

Wiltshire and London


"Buy as many Apple shares as you can possibly afford! "

If I told my 16-year old self that I’d now be a very rich greengrocer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Little me, you are in control of your life. Start thinking now before it's too late

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Take the red pill.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't go see my 16year old self and I definitely wouldn't talk to her, mainly because she wouldn't of listened anyway because she thought she knew best, but mostly because if you were to regret or change anything from your past you wouldn't be who you are today and the slightest change in your past could have a huge impact on the person you are and the person you are still becoming, and on a whole I'm a ok kinda person so why risk changing something when you could end up a horrible person"

Agree. Love this x

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By *horley ChickWoman
over a year ago

Chorley

Oh I’d tell myself to do plenty differently.

Do a levels - do an English degree - warn my mum about an upcoming accident at work which changed her life forever - warn my dad that the pains in his back (cancer) needed looking at before it was too late - and mention the names of one or two dickheads to avoid all together!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id say...

1.You are not fat.

2.Join the army earlier instead of going in a factory.

3.Let the boys chase you instead of the other way around and use and abuse them lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't spend the next 15 years fighting what you are. And don't spend the 15 years after that hating yourself. It's actually ok and the people that matter will accept you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you could go back and speak to yourself at 16, you have 1hr, what would you say?

Love yourself? Be braver?

Would you go back? "
definitely without doubt turn left

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By *oeofsussexMan
over a year ago

Eastbourne

Chill out more, enjoy women more and don’t be a wanker!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You don't have to starve yourself to make him happy, he isn't worth it, he doesn't love you. Learn to be happy with yourself as you are.

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By *he_virgin_maryWoman
over a year ago

Here, there and everywhere!

Buy bitcoin!

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

That I'm braver and stronger that I give myself credit for. That I don't need to seek love from others, that I should go to learn to love myself first. Bisexuality actually exists, you're not just confused.

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By *herealdavidjonesMan
over a year ago

Bedfordshire

Learn to fix cars so then buy cheap ones and a house, don’t waste money on new cars at 20!

Oh and it’s not as small as you think so just go out and use it, don’t be shy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t cheat on the wife you love more than life it’s self just for the buzz of it because she really is the soul mate you will crave!!

Plus after 20 years of patience she will go from being ASEXUAL to being very naughty indeed.

Plus I may warn myself about the two ginger kids I’m going to father.!!!

Tony

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By *hatYorkLadMan
over a year ago

York

Don't waste all that time pining over that girl who broke your heart, she's not worth it.

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"I’d tell myself to stick a tenner on Aldaniti to win the Grand National "

Blimey, aim low!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get a trade, talk to girls

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By *dam_TinaCouple
over a year ago

Hampshire

Do your homework

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By *ilverfox2936Man
over a year ago

Prescot

I'd tell myself:

Tell someone what happened 5 years ago and deal with it now or you’ll be carrying it for the rest of your life.

Stop trying to please your family, you never will, no matter what you do.

Life isn’t fair, it’s not a level playing field, so put yourself first because no one else will.

Don’t submit to the bullies, fight back, fight hard and fight dirty if you have to, cuts and bruises heal faster than the emotional scars.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd just say be more confident

I spent years worrying about my weight and that no one would fancy a chubby guy and I later found out it wasnt.my size putting people off it was my lack of confidence that all changed when I met a young woman way out my league who was a model we didnt last long but the confidence it gave me being with that fox changed me forever I was 22 when that happened and after that I found meeting people easy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Spend longer in education.

Value the friendships you have now more...

Oh and your going to be a prick in your early 20's dont do that...

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By *dward_TeagueMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

Work harder and your dream of a career as a professional sportsman will come true.

The grass isn’t always greener on the other side.

Follow your dreams, you could end up regretting it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never to push to hard to fart

Honestly though....I’d tell myself not to take crap and if someone can’t treat you the way you treat them then to leave them be, people like that are not needed in my life, it’s a good life now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do what makes you happy and dont put everyone else first just to save feelings while you're left hurt.

F.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do not move in with partners - GET YOUR OWN PLACE!

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By *exy4youxxWoman
over a year ago

Pontefract


"If you could go back and speak to yourself at 16, you have 1hr, what would you say?

Love yourself? Be braver?

Would you go back? "

Deffo would tell myself to leave my dick of a hubby after my second child and not leave it for another 15 years before I realised he wouldn't change lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ask out that girl that you really liked, who made you laugh so much and don’t let being shy put you off, because in 2 years time you’ll spend the next twenty away from home..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say "Don't worry it will all work out".

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By *omesticflightMan
over a year ago

Burton-on-Trent

LEAVE

as soon as you're bored, LEAVE. Don't hang around another 8 years

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I'd tell myself:

Tell someone what happened 5 years ago and deal with it now or you’ll be carrying it for the rest of your life.

Stop trying to please your family, you never will, no matter what you do.

Life isn’t fair, it’s not a level playing field, so put yourself first because no one else will.

Don’t submit to the bullies, fight back, fight hard and fight dirty if you have to, cuts and bruises heal faster than the emotional scars."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hold on tight it's going to be one hell of a ride

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

“You do live past 30 maybe take it a bit easier on the drinking drugs and fighting”

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By *tella HeelsTV/TS
over a year ago

west here ford shire

Keep up with the art, stay at school and do your A Levels, try cross dressing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Back the fuck away from him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Continue as you are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your brother in law will never change. Save yourself the heartbreak and abuse, and don’t bother with him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d say

You will get through it - don’t give up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t worry.

You’ve got one hell of a life in front of you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stop bleaching your hair!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t do alcohol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be true to yourself and don't get caught up with so called society norms

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