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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

..how HARD is it for single guys on here?

FIRM answers only please.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not hard at all, most make it far harder than it is by the way they conduct themselves and how they present on their profile

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By *irth.Minge.FireMan
over a year ago

Seen in far off places

It doesn't have to be difficult at all

Depends what you're looking for I guess, and your barometer for determining / gauging success...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is t, just do things correctly..

Don’t

Contact every woman/couple with scattergun approach

use one line messages- remember you are trying to engage with people

Copy & paste messages, it’s easy to spot

Be crude or disrespectful

Treat it a sex site

Do

Read the profiles fully

When messaging pick out a couple of points in profile showing you’ve read it

If addressing a couple write to both..but not “i’d love to smash your Mrs” or similar

Say a bit about yourself and why you think you have the attributes they are looking for

ALWAYS, ALWAYS be respectful and genuine

Use platform to maybe engage with people local to you & visit local socials and go from there

Good luck

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

Do men make out it's difficult but they still get meets etc?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Make it individual. Mention something written in their profile. And never ever ask 'how are you' or 'what are you doing'. If you're messages lack effort and you expect instant results then that's pretty much how we would expect the sex to be.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

It’s not difficult. What takes time is sorting the wheat from the chaff.

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By *uicy jonesMan
over a year ago

near a big hill in s/ shropshire NOT in


"..how HARD is it for single guys on here?

FIRM answers only please."

TOUGH !!!!

Woman have a nightmare , so many fakers and men who think their goss gifts it makes it hard for the ladies / couples to trust any man !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The key challenges for me are time and logistics.

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By *ud and BryanCouple
over a year ago

Boston, Lincolnshire


"It’s not difficult. What takes time is sorting the wheat from the chaff. "

Absolutely.

So many guys with no photos - our only dick pics - sending messages like, hi how are you / I'll make you cum etc.

Those who make an effort (and don't whine/slate others) are the ones who reap the reward of their efforts.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"It’s not difficult. What takes time is sorting the wheat from the chaff.

Absolutely.

So many guys with no photos - our only dick pics - sending messages like, hi how are you / I'll make you cum etc.

Those who make an effort (and don't whine/slate others) are the ones who reap the reward of their efforts."

You sow what you reap, so OP, plough ahead and play the field. Just don’t get stuck in a rut.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends

If they know how to play the game

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

It’s all been said above

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

It's really not difficult or rocket science ...have realistic expectations don't think just because you signed up you're entitled to a shag, treat people with respect and don't throw your toys out the pram at the shear audacity of ladies knocking you back ...also your profile is your shop window.. what you put in it says alot about you ..learn to stand out for the right reasons .. I know I'm not a single guy (happily married to sensual temptress and have cpls profile) but I do mostly use the site as a single as we meet alone alot of the time

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's harder if you don't have realistic expectations and don't adjust your approach based on the reality of single male experience here and what you learn. If a guy is inflexible, resistant to adjustment of his approach, he'll become extinct, quicker than the dinosaurs after a mega asteroid hits.

Some people are more likely to be wanted than others and some locations may provide better results, due to the matching availability and desires of others. The average guy will find it tough to start with.

It then all depends on what he's after, his approach and his investment level of smart targeting and interaction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it’s hard for guys here purely because of the numbers. It’s why I like to have that bit on my profile to offer some reassurance that this place is not a reflection of real life.

I think if you’re genuinely attractive and get attention in real life then you’ll do well here as well.

A lot of guys think oh you’re looking for a guy aged between 31 and 45, I match that so let’s fuck. It’s like no no, it’s a little bit more than that!

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By *r easy1981Man
over a year ago

leeds

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With effort it’s not bad making contact it’s actually meeting as they are usually as far away as they possibly could be

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By *r easy1981Man
over a year ago

leeds

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


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spit it out!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is t, just do things correctly..

Don’t

Contact every woman/couple with scattergun approach

use one line messages- remember you are trying to engage with people

Copy & paste messages, it’s easy to spot

Be crude or disrespectful

Treat it a sex site

Do

Read the profiles fully

When messaging pick out a couple of points in profile showing you’ve read it

If addressing a couple write to both..but not “i’d love to smash your Mrs” or similar

Say a bit about yourself and why you think you have the attributes they are looking for

ALWAYS, ALWAYS be respectful and genuine

Use platform to maybe engage with people local to you & visit local socials and go from there

Good luck "

Well I.Can honestly say that's not all true

I am respectful I do address both if a couple

I am never crude

I have sent one liners only to be told lack of effort so don't bother again

I have read.profiles picked.out bits to start a convo this is.my second time here I was here a year before only got one meet and that was only because it's someone I knew and this time round it's same as.the last time

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By *r easy1981Man
over a year ago

leeds

I find it hard to pal I never said random dick pic’s and I am never rude I may send the odd you are stunning as I believe they are. But been told my self to try the clubs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not, its that simple.

Some don't help themselves which makes it harder.

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