FabSwingers.com forum: Forum mods

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

How many are usually online at the one time?

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

Is the answer 42?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think numbers matter like most forums its the ability to react is the important factor.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've been banned a few times recently for "innapropriate" posts here. Pesonally I think the ban was harsh as I maybe just had different views on something than the actual mod who banned me. I think it should be the decision of two mods if a ban is being put in place. Don't think anything should be so personal. No posts of mine were a personal attack on anyone, just shared my views like everyone else does.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

If you think a ban is unfair you should contact admin. If you think its for personal reasons you should explain that and give proof

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im only aware of 2 forum mods..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

i would remove that as you are not allowed to discuss bans on the forum

As for mods...they have to work too u know so daytime i assume they log in when they can

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I did via the contact link, no response tho other than a system generated one. Nothing against mods here really, they do get rid of some rubbish thankfully and I know it's unpaid. I just thought the twice I got the ban was unfair and seems not even looked into.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been banned a few times recently for "innapropriate" posts here. Pesonally I think the ban was harsh as I maybe just had different views on something than the actual mod who banned me. I think it should be the decision of two mods if a ban is being put in place. Don't think anything should be so personal. No posts of mine were a personal attack on anyone, just shared my views like everyone else does.

That is the the way you viewed your comments but the mods obviously acted as they felt fit. If you are unhappy with any decision report it to admin and let them look into it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"i would remove that as you are not allowed to discuss bans on the forum

As for mods...they have to work too u know so daytime i assume they log in when they can

Think it's really unfair that's mods can't be discussed or bans. It's "our site" we should be able to voice an opinion. I wasn't having a direct attack at mods.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

That is the the way you viewed your comments but the mods obviously acted as they felt fit. If you are unhappy with any decision report it to admin and let them look into it."

I did and they don't. That's my point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i would remove that as you are not allowed to discuss bans on the forum

As for mods...they have to work too u know so daytime i assume they log in when they can

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Removed...but i didnt discuss why i was banned

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That is the the way you viewed your comments but the mods obviously acted as they felt fit. If you are unhappy with any decision report it to admin and let them look into it.

I did and they don't. That's my point. "

Then someone else looked at the decision and uphold it. Time to not fret over it and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i would remove that as you are not allowed to discuss bans on the forum

As for mods...they have to work too u know so daytime i assume they log in when they can

Think it's really unfair that's mods can't be discussed or bans. It's "our site" we should be able to voice an opinion. I wasn't having a direct attack at mods. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"i would remove that as you are not allowed to discuss bans on the forum

As for mods...they have to work too u know so daytime i assume they log in when they can

Removed...but i didnt discuss why i was banned"

Think that was to me, remove post or expect to be banned again. Sure the thread will be closed of not removed. We should be able to have a say here

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By *am sampsonMan
over a year ago

cwmbran

That is the the way you viewed your comments but the mods obviously acted as they felt fit. If you are unhappy with any decision report it to admin and let them look into it.

I did and they don't. That's my point. "

ditto

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

"i would remove that as you are not allowed to discuss bans on the forum

As for mods...they have to work too u know so daytime i assume they log in when they can

Removed...but i didnt discuss why i was banned"

It was too BAz...

look its not a democracy...i know honey and ruggers must find it ironice to see me upholding the rights of the site to ban whoever they want whenever, but thats the it is.

When i have disagreed with a ban i have messaged admin, they do reply if they think its worth discussing. But starting threads about it is not only against the rules but pointless...There is no vote, the sheriffs word is final

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By *ngieandMrManCouple
over a year ago

hereford

Interesting thread. . . will it survive?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you have been banned a few times maybe an idea to re-read the forum ruled

Kat x x

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

"i would remove that as you are not allowed to discuss bans on the forum

As for mods...they have to work too u know so daytime i assume they log in when they can

Think it's really unfair that's mods can't be discussed or bans. It's "our site" we should be able to voice an opinion. I wasn't having a direct attack at mods. "

Its not our site, its sj and m;s site. This isnt a co operative.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

"Interesting thread. . . will it survive?"

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By *exybabyMan
over a year ago

Canterbury....ish

I agree with you on that i have had 48hr bans and was gobsmacked as i have seen harsher threads and no action taken"

I have exactly the same problem. There are some on here who indiscriminately castigate and have their views openly 'admired' yet i seem to not be able to get past the first hurdle simply because my own view is not seen as constructive. Hence, i too, have had a few 'timeouts'.

It is any wonder that folk are reluctant to start a post (or contribute to one) for fear of being detrimentally demonised.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"i would remove that as you are not allowed to discuss bans on the forum

As for mods...they have to work too u know so daytime i assume they log in when they can

Think it's really unfair that's mods can't be discussed or bans. It's "our site" we should be able to voice an opinion. I wasn't having a direct attack at mods.

Its not our site, its sj and m;s site. This isnt a co operative."

Well I'm sure that's not the view they want us to have, think they would prefer us thinking it was "our site".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Interesting thread. . . will it survive?"

It won't as discussing issues like this doesn't always reflect well on the site and site appearance is high priority.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

"i would remove that as you are not allowed to discuss bans on the forum

As for mods...they have to work too u know so daytime i assume they log in when they can

Think it's really unfair that's mods can't be discussed or bans. It's "our site" we should be able to voice an opinion. I wasn't having a direct attack at mods.

Its not our site, its sj and m;s site. This isnt a co operative.

Well I'm sure that's not the view they want us to have, think they would prefer us thinking it was "our site". "

i dont read minds but i am not sure they ever have said they want to pass over ownership.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Interesting thread. . . will it survive?

It won't as discussing issues like this doesn't always reflect well on the site and site appearance is high priority. "

I think that's the point of the post here, we should be able to discuss something if we think it's wrong. Yes I'll prob get a forum ban again but if I do that itself is wrong. Some things need fixed and that doesn't happen by doing nothing.

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull

"i would remove that as you are not allowed to discuss bans on the forum

As for mods...they have to work too u know so daytime i assume they log in when they can

Removed...but i didnt discuss why i was banned

Think that was to me, remove post or expect to be banned again. Sure the thread will be closed of not removed. We should be able to have a say here

Baz,

Like a lot of threads that people bring on here, look at it this way. What's done is done. No matter how aggrieved you feel, the decision has been made by the powers that be, and leave it at that.

Move on; there's more to life than harbouring old grudges or beliefs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Interesting thread. . . will it survive?

It won't as discussing issues like this doesn't always reflect well on the site and site appearance is high priority.

We should be able to discuss things from our point of view however from the owners side and negative opinion doesn't promote the site which is arguably understandable if its being run for profit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Interesting thread. . . will it survive?"
probs not survive .....As its already been mentioned you carnt discuss if you think your ban was fair or not in the forum. To the OP you have contacted admin but no reply so that must tell you they think the mod or mods that banned you was right, so best to just move on as your not going to get your point accross.

* cReEps rOunD cRypT * -l-

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By *eviousLiasonsCouple
over a year ago

Travelling

Personally, we dont know how many forum mods there are. But seems to us the assumption of your complaint is that you are always banned by the same mod? How can you tell that?

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By *am sampsonMan
over a year ago

cwmbran

"i would remove that as you are not allowed to discuss bans on the forum

As for mods...they have to work too u know so daytime i assume they log in when they can

Removed...but i didnt discuss why i was banned

Think that was to me, remove post or expect to be banned again. Sure the thread will be closed of not removed. We should be able to have a say here

Baz,

Like a lot of threads that people bring on here, look at it this way. What's done is done. No matter how aggrieved you feel, the decision has been made by the powers that be, and leave it at that.

Move on; there's more to life than harbouring old grudges or beliefs."

Baz has a bit of a point tho it's not about grudges it's about inconsistency in giving timeouts and as he said unless the issue is raised and discussed nothing will change

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Interesting thread. . . will it survive?

It won't as discussing issues like this doesn't always reflect well on the site and site appearance is high priority.

We should be able to discuss things from our point of view however from the owners side and negative opinion doesn't promote the site which is arguably understandable if its being run for profit. "

Exactly! I bet there are loads who have joined, payed and then leave as they feel treated unfairly. Less negativity if certain issues were fixed. Again this is not an attack on mods in general the place needs them. I just think bans should be less personal. I don't know who banned me nor do I care, but the ban wasn't justified at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok Gather round folks get in a big circle, hold the hand of the person next to you, thats it now feel the love in the room, thats it good now everyone is happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Interesting thread. . . will it survive? probs not survive .....As its already been mentioned you carnt discuss if you think your ban was fair or not in the forum. To the OP you have contacted admin but no reply so that must tell you they think the mod or mods that banned you was right, so best to just move on as your not going to get your point accross.

* cReEps rOunD cRypT * -l-"

take the ban like a man and move on

its against rules to disscus bans in chat so it shud be in the forums we adults at the end of the day if you break rules you get banned,rules are there to protect all members

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

" Personally, we dont know how many forum mods there are. But seems to us the assumption of your complaint is that you are always banned by the same mod? How can you tell that?"

Not at all, I don't know who it was or if same person each time. I think I was banned as I disagreed with some issues raised on certain posts just like lots others. We shouldn't have to rethink everything we post before we hit send, incase someone doesn't like it.

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

" I just think bans should be less personal. I don't know who banned me nor do I care, but the ban wasn't justified at all. "

How can the ban be personal if you don't know who banned you?

Unless they are ALL out to get you that is......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

have all washed their hands

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

* cReEps rOunD cRypT * -l-

take the ban like a man and move on

its against rules to disscus bans in chat so it shud be in the forums we adults at the end of the day if you break rules you get banned,rules are there to protect all members "
. That's what I mean, I didn't break any rules. But no one ever replied when using the complaints link. I offended no one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Interesting thread. . . will it survive?

It won't as discussing issues like this doesn't always reflect well on the site and site appearance is high priority.

We should be able to discuss things from our point of view however from the owners side and negative opinion doesn't promote the site which is arguably understandable if its being run for profit.

Talking to people the lack of information on a ban is often the frustrating part. People then complain to admin and rarely get a reply. Now you can look at this in a few ways. The first is they are too busy to give replies or the cost of extra people to reply isn't financially worth it. I do know there are many who won't go site supporter due to frustration.

Realistically though you are not going to change anything so breath deep and let it go.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

" I just think bans should be less personal. I don't know who banned me nor do I care, but the ban wasn't justified at all.

How can the ban be personal if you don't know who banned you?

Unless they are ALL out to get you that is......"

Now your just being silly

there was a forum post about people claiming benefits. Some people had pretty harsh views on what should happen to unemployed people. I disagreed. That's no reason

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

" I just think bans should be less personal. I don't know who banned me nor do I care, but the ban wasn't justified at all.

How can the ban be personal if you don't know who banned you?

Unless they are ALL out to get you that is......

Now your just being silly

there was a forum post about people claiming benefits. Some people had pretty harsh views on what should happen to unemployed people. I disagreed. That's no reason

So how do you know that's what you got a ban for?.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

* cReEps rOunD cRypT * -l-

take the ban like a man and move on

its against rules to disscus bans in chat so it shud be in the forums we adults at the end of the day if you break rules you get banned,rules are there to protect all members . That's what I mean, I didn't break any rules. But no one ever replied when using the complaints link. I offended no one. "

in your opinion.

Your breaking the rules with this thread.

Like i said earlier maybe time to re-read the the forum rules.

Kat

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

* cReEps rOunD cRypT * -l-

take the ban like a man and move on

in your opinion.

Your breaking the rules with this thread.

Like i said earlier maybe time to re-read the the forum rules.

Kat"

Yea maybe this thread is against the rules. But if you complain and no one answers then what else is there? We all should be able to complain if we think it's justified and in this case it is. If you'd rather not speak your mind then that's your choice.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

On the two occasions I did NOT break ANY site rules. I just disagreed with an opinion of a mod on a forum post. That's not worthy of a ban.

People under Sadamm had to live like that, head down, get on with it, smile and don't say a word.

Sorry that's not me.

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By *ucky_LadsCouple (MM)
over a year ago

Kidderminster+ surrounding areas.

i always though that forums were for discussion not put downs?.

surely he should be able to discuss with someone why he was banned so he knows for future reference?.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"i always though that forums were for discussion not put downs?.

surely he should be able to discuss with someone why he was banned so he knows for future reference?."

Thank you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ok if u don't like playing by the rules then u do have the choice not to play thats the only choice u have

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

"i always though that forums were for discussion not put downs?.

surely he should be able to discuss with someone why he was banned so he knows for future reference?."

he can by pming the mods.

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

"On the two occasions I did NOT break ANY site rules. I just disagreed with an opinion of a mod on a forum post. That's not worthy of a ban.

People under Sadamm had to live like that, head down, get on with it, smile and don't say a word.

Sorry that's not me.

We have a Mod called Saddam now?

Kinky.....

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"On the two occasions I did NOT break ANY site rules. I just disagreed with an opinion of a mod on a forum post. That's not worthy of a ban.

People under Sadamm had to live like that, head down, get on with it, smile and don't say a word.

Sorry that's not me.

to compare Saddam Hussein's regime with Fab's Mods is laughable!

Look, I've seen others who like yourself have disagreed with others on the Forum pages. It's how one responds as much as what and how it is said, and I've seen others fall by the wayside.

You see it one way. The Mods see it another! Move on!"

Then the mods need to look again sometimes.

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

Do they ride Lambrettas and wear Parka coats

How retro are they?

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull

"Do they ride Lambrettas and wear Parka coats

How retro are they?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I totally get that there are rules to abide by and as site users we are responsible for what we post, but surely even mods can have an 'off day'

I created a thread once called something along the lines of 'say what you really mean' and that was pulled pretty much straight away, who is to say a thread will go downhill, if posters add comments to it with good reasoning surely it makes for a better debate. Nothing has to get sour. On a few occasions in the past i felt i was banned based on the thread i started going downhill. Wasn't down to me how individuals chose to post.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

That might be the problem. Maybe the should ride something and take their frustration elsewhere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was banned once somebody said something about my forum post at the time I thought it was a personal attack towards me! I did say something silly like calling this person on the forum a sow and I was banned for it, but now thinking about it I was so wrong calling her that people do have a right to post whatever on forums even if they don’t like yours I tried to apologise to the woman but I was blocked by her I don’t blame her for doing it I was out of order so my advise is don’t bite back if someone gives you grief over the post just close it down and move on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I was banned once somebody said something about my forum post at the time I thought it was a personal attack towards me! I did say something silly like calling this person on the forum a sow and I was banned for it, but now thinking about it I was so wrong calling her that people do have a right to post whatever on forums even if they don’t like yours I tried to apologise to the woman but I was blocked by her I don’t blame her for doing it I was out of order so my advise is don’t bite back if someone gives you grief over the post just close it down and move on.

I didn't have a personal attack on anyone, if I did then ban would be justified. I just had a difference of opinion on a post to someone. That's allowed surely.

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By *am sampsonMan
over a year ago

cwmbran

"i always though that forums were for discussion not put downs?.

surely he should be able to discuss with someone why he was banned so he knows for future reference?.

he can by pming the mods."

But they usually don't reply that's the point

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"i would remove that as you are not allowed to discuss bans on the forum

As for mods...they have to work too u know so daytime i assume they log in when they can

Removed...but i didnt discuss why i was banned"

Look up there! That's what I mean its WRONG! People shouldn't need to delete their Txts here just because someone might not like it. Or fear of a ban. Jeeeez!

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By *ucky_LadsCouple (MM)
over a year ago

Kidderminster+ surrounding areas.

"i always though that forums were for discussion not put downs?.

surely he should be able to discuss with someone why he was banned so he knows for future reference?.

he can by pming the mods.

But they usually don't reply that's the point"

it says they welcome feedback?.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"i always though that forums were for discussion not put downs?.

surely he should be able to discuss with someone why he was banned so he knows for future reference?.

he can by pming the mods.

But they usually don't reply that's the point

it says they welcome feedback?.

Just like I welcome man flu

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

always seems to be one around to punish me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"always seems to be one around to punish me

Maybe you enjoy being punished

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By *ngieandMrManCouple
over a year ago

hereford

There are a number of points/issues I would like to discuss here but if I dared to do so it would most likely result in a ban. So I for one fully understand the reference to 'oppressive regime'.

In other 'dangerous' threads in the last few days several posters suggested I contact admin but admin do actually specify they do not reply. Hence people can feel driven to ask questions in the forums!

Others suggested 'If you don't like it, do the other thing' or words to that effect. Its rather ironic that one key thing about forums is that its supposed to be about free speech!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There are a number of points/issues I would like to discuss here but if I dared to do so it would most likely result in a ban. So I for one fully understand the reference to 'oppressive regime'.

Others suggested 'If you don't like it, do the other thing' or words to that effect. Its rather ironic that one key thing about forums is that its supposed to be about free speech! "

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

You doin't have to actually call anyone anything. Just saying "You must be stupid for typing that" is enough! It is an opinion and should upset no one! There is a danger of becoming too sterile!

I quite liked it when people got heated, as long as they were not abusive, now the forums are filled with Cute and cuddly threads and the "Would You" kind!

Also, when you do contact through the contact us link, all you get is a stock email telling you that they can't reply to everyone becuase they get too many and giving some timescale, which is longer than the ban... Like it or lump it! No good saying that people can apeal if they can't! I wish I had kept a copy!

It would be good if someone can explain why we are given the generic email for everything, that is not always looked at in a timely fashion, instead of a dedicated email that they can monitor?

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By *ucky_LadsCouple (MM)
over a year ago

Kidderminster+ surrounding areas.

"i always though that forums were for discussion not put downs?.

surely he should be able to discuss with someone why he was banned so he knows for future reference?.

he can by pming the mods.

But they usually don't reply that's the point

it says they welcome feedback?.

Just like I welcome man flu

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

"Just saying "You must be stupid for typing that" is enough! "

Actually, that is the wrong quote of what I said, The actual quote was "I think that post was stupid"

Picked the wrong thread... Sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

* cReEps rOunD cRypT * -l-"

If the ban is uphelp....a message from admin to simply state its been reviewed and the ban stands would prob be correct procedure.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I think a MSG warning of a ban with reference to what you had posted would suffice. Then at least they would have to think about of you had actually broken site rules or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

* cReEps rOunD cRypT * -l-

If the ban is uphelp....a message from admin to simply state its been reviewed and the ban stands would prob be correct procedure. "
what you said but I'm guessing admin get lots of mail so carnt reply to everyone.

* cReEps rOunD cRyPt * -l-

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

* cReEps rOunD cRypT * -l-

If the ban is uphelp....a message from admin to simply state its been reviewed and the ban stands would prob be correct procedure. what you said but I'm guessing admin get lots of mail so carnt reply to everyone.

* cReEps rOunD cRyPt * -l-"

Well I think I did get my point across, just a shame only a handful seem to be able to mention that they also think its wrong. Shame more don't have the balls to, but then they might get banned.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Interesting thread. . . will it survive?

It won't as discussing issues like this doesn't always reflect well on the site and site appearance is high priority. "

it'll survive as long as peeps are posting in guidelines. loads of peeps have been ont naughty step for a while - there's none of us angels.

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire

"I did via the contact link, no response tho other than a system generated one. Nothing against mods here really, they do get rid of some rubbish thankfully and I know it's unpaid. I just thought the twice I got the ban was unfair and seems not even looked into. "

ok, i contacted a mad after a short ban, and we had a short, but informative conversation, where i aired views the contact thing was pointless as you a) feel you are ignored and B) never get any feedback as to your views and the process.

the mod in question said they would usuggest an improvement, although we both agreed it would be time consuming to contact everyone that thought thier ban was unfair (as im almost certain everyone does)

so i hope there will be further improvements to the feedback system and the contact system, but im certain it wont be immediate, but our opinions should be listened to and maybe replied to, afterall, it is the contributers that makes the forums what they are

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Interesting thread. . . will it survive?

It won't as discussing issues like this doesn't always reflect well on the site and site appearance is high priority.

it'll survive as long as peeps are posting in guidelines. loads of peeps have been ont naughty step for a while - there's none of us angels.

"
actually I am borderline Angelic

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

" I just think bans should be less personal. I don't know who banned me nor do I care, but the ban wasn't justified at all.

How can the ban be personal if you don't know who banned you?

Unless they are ALL out to get you that is......

Now your just being silly

there was a forum post about people claiming benefits. Some people had pretty harsh views on what should happen to unemployed people. I disagreed. That's no reason

So how do you know that's what you got a ban for?......."

As that was the only post I was commenting on at the time.

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire

seeings as we get a pm when we get a ban, MAYBE the pm should contain the post for which we were banned for, no?

would this be more time consuming for the mod/admin to process?

maybe, if it werent so easy as just pressing a button, andthere was a little more to it than just that, maybe borderline bans wouldnt be punished as they are.

Baz, the thread you are talking about got heated, and tbh you did actually throw some insults around (admittedly not calling people names, but generally questioning their morallity and opinion, infact, im almost sure, but not 100% you called me stupid on at least 1 occasion) but i would have said borderline more than actually insulting soeone

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Maybe suggested some ideas as stupid although I will go back and read it. I thought the comment regarding removing children from homes due to the parents being unemployed deserved more of a ban tbh. Some of the suggestions were ridiculous and yes that annoyed me that adults in this day and age had such tonight's. I agree tho any ban should have the offending txt attached.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Maybe suggested some ideas as stupid although I will go back and read it. I thought the comment regarding removing children from homes due to the parents being unemployed deserved more of a ban tbh. Some of the suggestions were ridiculous and yes that annoyed me that adults in this day and age had such tonight's. I agree tho any ban should have the offending txt attached.

Such tonight's? "such thoughts" sorry the iPhone also has a mind of its own.

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By *uvi n Jolly RogCouple
over a year ago

West Somerset... Near Butlins

"If you think a ban is unfair you should contact admin. If you think its for personal reasons you should explain that and give proof "

Had an hour ban that lasted 24hrs, despite contacting admin, not so sure about fairness

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Such tonight's? "such thoughts" sorry the iPhone also has a mind of its own.

"
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Actually .... The following day after the ban

I made quite an innocent forum post with note attached saying I would be on best behaviour. Was taken as sarcasm (as it was meant) post removed then banned again lol.

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire

Such tonight's? "such thoughts" sorry the iPhone also has a mind of its own.

oo, get you with ya lottery winnings and ya expensive phone lol.

my phone is 5 years old, so i never type the wrong words on it, just on the lappy lol.

thats the thing, fella.

having an opinion is fine.

calling someone elses opinion stupid is not. instead post why thier opinion is stupid, dont just say so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Forum posts are not always read in exactly the same way as they are intended. especially in a long thread where sometimes you reply without quoting and several others get in between the comment you are commenting on etc. Plus I suspect a lot like me post whilst doing other things anyway so stuff gets posted quickly with out proper references / grammar checks etc.

Got a timeout once, totally deserved it as I broke the rules, but not intentionally got carried away with a jokey reply dashed it off and went on with the work I was supposed to be doing in another browser tab...

Have to support the mods, I don't see there being any point in an appeal process unless the ban is exceptionally long, to assemble evidence consider the fairness and talk to all parties could take 3 - 4 days easily which is longer than most timeouts.

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire

Such tonight's? "such thoughts" sorry the iPhone also has a mind of its own.

Actually .... The following day after the ban

I made quite an innocent forum post with note attached saying I would be on best behaviour. Was taken as sarcasm (as it was meant) post removed then banned again lol.

Ditto lol...mods are volunteers and often "mates" or conquests of some, they should be neutral but its unlikely, i think they get voted in my popular demand dont they? By whom? Friends, mates and/or conquests lol

dont talk wet.

mods apply when they are asked for, and offered the role on merit.

nothing to do who has been in who, or what.

your posts have been inflammatory for the last week anyway.

dont know why you other with the forums as you have said time and again you are only here to fuck and not talk

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Forum posts are not always read in exactly the same way as they are intended. especially in a long thread where sometimes you reply without quoting and several others get in between the comment you are commenting on etc. Plus I suspect a lot like me post whilst doing other things anyway so stuff gets posted quickly with out proper references / grammar checks etc.

I do (mostly) support them, but I do agree that if they had to attach the post that they are banning you for, then they maybe just think again if you have actually broken any rules or just had a different view to their own.

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By *uvi n Jolly RogCouple
over a year ago

West Somerset... Near Butlins

Much the same as text messages, you can send another 5 texts explaining your first one lol....make love not war! Swinging site....lets swing

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Such tonight's? "such thoughts" sorry the iPhone also has a mind of its own.

Actually .... The following day after the ban

I made quite an innocent forum post with note attached saying I would be on best behaviour. Was taken as sarcasm (as it was meant) post removed then banned again lol.

dont talk wet.

mods apply when they are asked for, and offered the role on merit.

nothing to do who has been in who, or what.

your posts have been inflammatory for the last week anyway.

dont know why you other with the forums as you have said time and again you are only here to fuck and not talk"

I said that?

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By *uvi n Jolly RogCouple
over a year ago

West Somerset... Near Butlins

Such tonight's? "such thoughts" sorry the iPhone also has a mind of its own.

Actually .... The following day after the ban

I made quite an innocent forum post with note attached saying I would be on best behaviour. Was taken as sarcasm (as it was meant) post removed then banned again lol.

dont talk wet.

mods apply when they are asked for, and offered the role on merit.

nothing to do who has been in who, or what.

your posts have been inflammatory for the last week anyway.

dont know why you other with the forums as you have said time and again you are only here to fuck and not talk"

See, very narrow minded, i said wer here to swing, we love talking to people we meet. If you wer as quick to swing as you wer to fire off, this could be a nice place. I have swung for 11 yrs and seen an awful lot, inflammatory no....common sense mate

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire

Such tonight's? "such thoughts" sorry the iPhone also has a mind of its own.

Actually .... The following day after the ban

I made quite an innocent forum post with note attached saying I would be on best behaviour. Was taken as sarcasm (as it was meant) post removed then banned again lol.

dont talk wet.

mods apply when they are asked for, and offered the role on merit.

nothing to do who has been in who, or what.

your posts have been inflammatory for the last week anyway.

dont know why you other with the forums as you have said time and again you are only here to fuck and not talk

I said that? "

no, Baz. you didnt

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over a year ago

Such tonight's? "such thoughts" sorry the iPhone also has a mind of its own.

Actually .... The following day after the ban

I made quite an innocent forum post with note attached saying I would be on best behaviour. Was taken as sarcasm (as it was meant) post removed then banned again lol.

dont talk wet.

mods apply when they are asked for, and offered the role on merit.

nothing to do who has been in who, or what.

your posts have been inflammatory for the last week anyway.

dont know why you other with the forums as you have said time and again you are only here to fuck and not talk

I said that?

no, Baz. you didnt"
. Oh right.. Thanks

thought I was losing the plot there

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By *ucky_LadsCouple (MM)
over a year ago

Kidderminster+ surrounding areas.

your posts have been inflammatory for the last week anyway.

dont know why you other with the forums as you have said time and again you are only here to fuck and not talk"

is that statement not inflammatory also?,not worth a ban though i take it?.

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire

Such tonight's? "such thoughts" sorry the iPhone also has a mind of its own.

Actually .... The following day after the ban

I made quite an innocent forum post with note attached saying I would be on best behaviour. Was taken as sarcasm (as it was meant) post removed then banned again lol.

dont talk wet.

mods apply when they are asked for, and offered the role on merit.

nothing to do who has been in who, or what.

your posts have been inflammatory for the last week anyway.

dont know why you other with the forums as you have said time and again you are only here to fuck and not talk

really?

in the exact same thread that BAz is commenting on, and a few others aside, you stated you see no point in talking on forums or in chatrooms, you prefere phones and metting to 'swing', to use your term.

and im sure there are more forumites on here tht will back me up rather than you.

common sense, mate? no

selective memory? of course.

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By *j_markCouple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Totteridge/Whetstone

The forum mods are all volunteers.

Mistakes and mistjudgements occasionally do happen. We do ask that forum ban complaints are directed to us via the CONATCT link.

If you contact us about a forum timeout we will look into it. If you don't hear back from us you can assume we think the timeout is fair

If you treat the forums as a bit of fun, you won't go far wrong and you're really unlikely to have any problems.

Closing this now, any specific mod issues feel free to contact us directly.

Admin x

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