FabSwingers.com forum: Rubbish Profiles...

By *jandmc OP Couple
over a year ago

Lancs

Is there anyone else out there, who like us, is fed up with the lack of content, imagination or photos on some peoples profiles?

Things like, 'will fill in later', or 'although this is a single profile I am part of a couple and we play together'.. And the old chestnut, ' no pix due to work' !

Please people, make an effort, it doesnt take long to write a few lines about your likes and dislikes, wants or needs? And you can always photoshop facial details or any other bits for that matter!!

Then they complain that no one messages them or winks etc..

At the end of the day, this is a swingers site. A site to arrange meets with like minded people and it isnt going to happen if you cant be bothered!

Any thoughts anyone?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ha ha yeah the good old "will fill this out later" chestnut....and they joined like 8 months ago..not good at thinking on thier feet are they lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any thoughts....

Yep.... wheres Bury lol???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry... Moment of horny weakness there!

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place

some people can not have pics on for various reasons...ie work related or safety but no excuse for not having em in private galleries to send when comfortable...

just my tuppence worth

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By *jandmc OP Couple
over a year ago

Lancs

and your tuppence is welcome..

anymore?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Any thoughts....

Yep.... wheres Bury lol???"

Just north of Manchester

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I remember parking there once... at the travel lodge just off the motorway..

The bus ride home was a drag mind...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The solution is easy ......

Ignore the crap ones and read the good ones.

Or to put it another way, instead of asking if people are sick of looking at the crap ones, start a thread commenting on how many good ones are out there

Glass half ull of half empty ?????

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By *jandmc OP Couple
over a year ago

Lancs

Our glass is always half full. In fact, more often than not, its more nearly full..It is =nt a case of that at all, we just find it frustrating..try before you buy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would like to know where all these people work that cannot put body shots up in case they get recognised, we respect some people like their privacy, but theres no need to lie about the reason you don’t have any pics.

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place

"We would like to know where all these people work that cannot put body shots up in case they get recognised, we respect some people like their privacy, but theres no need to lie about the reason you don’t have any pics. "

thee are many sensitive public service posts who should not be disallowed from swinging ,Also some people have been dismissed by private companies for bringing the company into disrepute especially if its pre- specified in a contract ...

Also many women are at threat from ex husbands who do not know where they are ..i am sure there are other reasons too ,,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also many women are at threat from ex husbands who do not know where they are ..i am sure there are other reasons too ,,, "

Still don’t get how can be recognised by a body shot with faces and any distinguishing futures removed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

again in english lol

Still don’t get how they can be recognised by a body shot with faces and any distinguishing features removed.

not talking face pics here. just dont see the need to state they cannot because of work, like we said we respect others privacy.

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place

why risk it ...when you dont have to ....

...its personal choice ..doesnt mean your less of a person ...espcially if you post em in a mail ..back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not fed up with it, not even bothered by it, if we click on a profile and find No pictures, or pictures only in private gallery or no personal profile information we just add them to our block list as we have no interest in such perople/profiles.

By blocking them we don't find ourselves contiually checking the same

profile that we have no interest in.

As has been said, it is personal choice, thiers not to put information or pictures, ours to block them from contacting us.

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place

"Not fed up with it, not even bothered by it, if we click on a profile and find No pictures, or pictures only in private gallery or no personal profile information we just add them to our block list as we have no interest in such perople/profiles.

By blocking them we don't find ourselves contiually checking the same

profile that we have no interest in.

As has been said, it is personal choice, thiers not to put information or pictures, ours to block them from contacting us."

why bother to block them when the black outline indicates there are no pics anyway..whats the advantage ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"why risk it ...when you dont have to ....

...its personal choice ..doesnt mean your less of a person ...espcially if you post em in a mail ..back

It's not the fact they dont have pics, its more the fact that they always need to state on their profile it's because of work. why?

i'm sure a quick line like "face pics available to interested parties" would suffice.

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place

"why risk it ...when you dont have to ....

...its personal choice ..doesnt mean your less of a person ...espcially if you post em in a mail ..back

It's not the fact they dont have pics, its more the fact that they always need to state on their profile it's because of work. why?

i'm sure a quick line like "face pics available to interested parties" would suffice."

i am not sure everyone does i have been looking around and not found that many ...i certainly dont ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The solution is easy ......

Ignore the crap ones and read the good ones.

Or to put it another way, instead of asking if people are sick of looking at the crap ones, start a thread commenting on how many good ones are out there

Glass half full of half empty ?????"

We like that one... encourage a few more to be brave...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When we approve new profiles, I will always disaprove profiles that say things like,..`will fill in later`, because the rules say that if a profile is not filled in properly it can be deleted at any time,..so thats what I do,..and I thought all Mods were doing it,.. seems they are not

S&A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also many women are at threat from ex husbands who do not know where they are ..i am sure there are other reasons too ,,, "

Would love to see the contract that stated "No swinging/or swingers".

Surely it would only bring the company into disrepute if the said company sacked someone for swinging.

Then it would be the company itself that drew attention to the fact they had swingers working there.

Its not like we're peadophiles ffs.

Trace & Ric

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's a little bit naive tbh ... a boss who is, for example, a deeply pious man, would find it utterly appalling to employ someone who has what he considers to be a disgusting sex life. Likewise with some swinger's close friends and family members - who may be deeply religious also. A face pic is not mandatory and the reasons I've stated above are the reasons why we don't show our face pics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It does make me chuckle when we get mail saying that they like our profile and would like to chat.

-look at their profile and there are no pics and a one liner saying "looking for fun".

Have learnt our lesson trying to respond to these asking for more info - usually telling them i think their profile is too brief - and all we get back is

"do you have MSN?"

YES THANKS - but why the F*** should i add you when i dont know who the F*** you are and you can t even message.

Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.

So now the delete button is being used alot more frequetly as it saves so much frustration at trying to create a conversation!

Debzxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Didn't you know,this site is absolutely crawling with Archbishops,HighCourt Judges,Senior Social Workers and Police Chiefs.We thought everyone new that,lol.

Whats even stranger is,how many of your work mates would you recognise from a clothed faceless body shot,let alone a naked one,lol? Makes you wonder doesn't it?

Trace & Ric

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah, the time old photo conundrum, not done this one for a day or two now.........

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place

Quote...Would love to see the contract that stated "No swinging/or swingers".

Surely it would only bring the company into disrepute if the said company sacked someone for swinging.

Then it would be the company itself that drew attention to the fact they had swingers working there.

Its not like we're peadophiles ffs.

Trace & Ric

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well i would agree with you but if you want to take the moral pulse of the country ...go look at the comments on the Sun website after its last article on swingers about a week ago ...its eye opening how repressed average joe public still is ...we are a minority group

Also to be honest if a company did use it... under the "bringing the company into disrepute clause" many contracts have now got ..would you have the money to fight it .?

There are many situations where people would choose not put a public pic there profile ...someone who works in a professional capacity with children for instance where the risk is just too high

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Still don’t understand what risk anyone is taking having a picture with face and any distinguishing features hidden. Furthermore how would anyone in the company recognise them naked if they are all holier than thou.

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place

well who knows but would you risk a long term career for a social pastime?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok then, let's say a teacher - a female teacher - is also a swinger. Now let's say she was photographed having sex, unbeknown to her. Now let's say a guy puts that photo on his profile, she's visible in it ok?

Now let's say her school/uni are full of switched on pc savvy students and would love nothing better than a juicy scandal involving, say, Miss X.

Kids love doing something considered naughty, searching for porn on the net for example. Not neccessarily on the campus computers, at home on a lappy for example.

Now said savvy student reads something in The Sun about swinging, decides to explore, finds this site, finds Miss X cock sucking, and bingo!

Now do you realise why some people CANNOT show their faces on here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never could understand why this issue causes folk so much concern?

None of us would dream of criticising folk who only soft swing or don't do anal or refuse to meet single guys or.........the list is endless.

So why are some of us so preoccupied with folk who have made the decision not to post pictures on their profile?

It's their choice, there is no rule that says they have to and it really and truthfully does not change the price of fish one iota.

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By *et_n_WildCouple
over a year ago

Pontypridd

I am amazed by those who don't add pics. I get the vibe that they think they're more superior than the 'average' folk.

What do they think would happen if someone recognised them?

Its not like the other person can say "Ommmm I saw you on a swingers site.." You'd reply "You saw me because... you're on the same swingers site too!?"

Its not illegal to be a swinger...

I can only guess those who don't have pics are hiding it from their S.O.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"well who knows but would you risk a long term career for a social pastime?"

honestly YES... would rather work for a company that employed me for my abilities rather than one that tells me what i can and cant do when it comes to my sex life.

nobody would recognise anyone from a headless pic, and no company would sack anyone without proof, and a pic on a swinging site is not proof.

If it was as easy as that we would make a new profile with gordon browns pics.

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place

i worked with a guy who joined a dating site called himself sexbomb for a laugh

put a face on there and you got it ...he came into the place and found A4 prints of his profile all ove the place ..when he walked into deliver his first lecture the whole student body stood and started singing Sex bomb sex bomb your a sex bomb etc etc....he immediately resigned .... and no one in the management objected ...

so in some cases it pays to be a bit careful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can only guess those who don't have pics are hiding it from their S.O. "

Hey, don't gamble, you'd lose, frequently, I'd guess.

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place

"Never could understand why this issue causes folk so much concern?

None of us would dream of criticising folk who only soft swing or don't do anal or refuse to meet single guys or.........the list is endless.

So why are some of us so preoccupied with folk who have made the decision not to post pictures on their profile?

It's their choice, there is no rule that says they have to and it really and truthfully does not change the price of fish one iota. "

yep i agree having no public pic has made no difference to me .i simply want to know who i am talking to before i send a face pic ...no big deal

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By *hemadcoupleCouple
over a year ago

cardiff

While it could be a genuine concern, I have to say that I can't help thinking that it is more of a convenient excuse to say that the reason for not posting any pictures, even in the private section, is that they are scared of being recognised by business colleagues or others that could "whistleblow" on them.

We have had this, when they wouldn't post pics even in their private section, which seems illogical, especially when they say that they will email pics. This seems more of a ruse to get your email address to me.

I have difficulty in accepting that there are no options for posting any sort of pics by "worried professionals in high profile public life". How the hell can anyone be identified by their naked cock, tits, belly, legs, feet, etc. which are the very bits which presumably are not on show in everyday high profile life, and no one in their business or even most likely in their close family would recognise.

It is tosh in my view, and at the very least, lazy, or at the worst, a scam by a non genuine member just looking for kicks and pics from other members. A bit harsh maybe, but on this side of the fence, one has the choice of the good profiles / members, and to just ignore the others.

It always amazes me how these sorts can send you friend requests thinking you will accept, so they can see your privvy pics, or even ask you to send more pics when they don't even have any themselves and then use the old "I'm in a high profile job so can't send mine", excuse! Yeah right, I suppose that means they won't meet either because they are too high profile! It won't wash with cynical old us I am afraid. Good profiles only please.

Rob and Magsxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i worked with a guy who joined a dating site called himself sexbomb for a laugh

so in some cases it pays to be a bit careful "

Persactly! He'd lost the command of the students as they could simply deride him at will. And it's the same for anyone in a position of authority who isn't careful about what he does in his private life - nobody is saying he can't have a private life, but he needs to ensure it remains just that - private.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never could understand why this issue causes folk so much concern?

None of us would dream of criticising folk who only soft swing or don't do anal or refuse to meet single guys or.........the list is endless.

So why are some of us so preoccupied with folk who have made the decision not to post pictures on their profile?

It's their choice, there is no rule that says they have to and it really and truthfully does not change the price of fish one iota. "

Your correct, however we’re not talking about people with no pics, we were talking about people making excuses on their profile for not having any, they don’t have to being the point, nobody needs to post pics, but why do some feel the need to write “no pics due to work” rather than just say pics available to interested parties.

Whether we all agree or not, the fact remains it puts people off, just like single males who cannot accommodate do, and that’s what this thread was about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Here's some food for thought:

Let's a moderator on here, someone everybody knows, decides to remove ALL of their photos.

Does that make them any less genuine?

Does it make them someone playing away from their S.O.?

Does it make them a fraud?

A pic collector?

... come on people, what is the significance of having photos on one's profile?

.. or does it only apply to people we don't know?

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place

its just personal choice ...i send pics out. i have em in my private profile but prefer it not to be public until i know who i am sending em too ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They probably put an excuse in their profile because they know a small minority of folk on here will seek to take them to task over not having any pictures.

The excuse, however pathetic anyone else thinks it is, is valid to them.

Hence the question, why are some of you so hung up on the issue.......just pass them by and look at profiles that do interest you............simples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"its just personal choice ...i send pics out. i have em in my private profile but prefer it not to be public until i know who i am sending em too ....

Thats fine if your not demanding to see their pics at the outset. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They probably put an excuse in their profile because they know a small minority of folk on here will seek to take them to task over not having any pictures.

The excuse, however pathetic anyone else thinks it is, is valid to them.

Hence the question, why are some of you so hung up on the issue.......just pass them by and look at profiles that do interest you............simples

Thats what most people do by the looks of things, however this thread we assumed was to discuss these things, while passing profiles by if they're not what your looking for is fine, its not exactly discussing anything.

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By *et_n_WildCouple
over a year ago

Pontypridd

It's not a gamble, if people aren't willing to show pictures, or don't use a cam I'm not interested.

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place

especially as you can do a browse and put show profiles with pictures only ...so you lose a third of the hits ...so what...if its not your thing hey great ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They probably put an excuse in their profile because they know a small minority of folk on here will seek to take them to task over not having any pictures.

The excuse, however pathetic anyone else thinks it is, is valid to them.

Hence the question, why are some of you so hung up on the issue.......just pass them by and look at profiles that do interest you............simples

Not sure what more there is to discuss, some of us have issues and some of us dont........or am I missing something here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's not a gamble, if people aren't willing to show pictures, or don't use a cam I'm not interested. "

Which works fine for you, so unless you are now saying you have seen profiles that would have interested you had they had pictures on them not too sure what point you are making?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not sure what more there is to discuss, some of us have issues and some of us dont........or am I missing something here?"

If we want or feel the need to discuss anything we will, nobody is doing any harm to anyone by posting on here, don’t exactly see why you have an issue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We dont, or am I again missing something?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe we could summarise it thus:

Those that choose not to put photos in either their public or their private galleries, for whatever reason, also accept that they may not get as many meets as those that do. But that's the risk they're willing to take.

Furthermore, we can also define that there are some people who will delete any message from anyone who doesn't display a photo and there are those who will read the message and investigate further if the message itself stands alone as appealing.

So moving on from that, we can now rest at ease, having discussed the issues regarding photographs, and wish those that don't display them a happy, albeit probably limited, swinging life. We can wish those that insist on photographs a positively hectic swinging life, and anybody outside of those two categories, well, you're probably doing ok anyway.

Happy Swinging!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As simplistic and accurate as that post is the betting man in me says you are still going to get an argument Wishmaster

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No argument here, its well put wishy, and its always a good thing summarising things up rather than telling people to move on, most do, but only when there ready and to be honest any post is worth posting in where your bored and trying to pass some time….

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can we take it you are in total agreement

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By *jandmc OP Couple
over a year ago

Lancs

Guess we opened a can of worms! Sorry. The original posting was not necessarily about pictures on profiles although it spiralled into it.

But a further thought to continue the debate, if you went to a swingers club, what would entice you to go over and talk to someone with a view to playing with them? It couldnt be based on their intellect, their wit or their ability to hold a conversation could it? Cos you havent met them, you havent had a profile to read (albeit a comprehensive one or a vague one!) so what makes you go over and say hi?

just throwing this one out there..but maybe its how they look? Maybe thats what starts the attraction? Maybe thats what turns your knobs? What stokes the fire?

At the end of the day, if you want to meet people in this scence, you have to make an effort and deep down we all know it. So when you do come across profiles with not one pic, with 'will fill in later' and theyve been registered for months etc etc, its frustrating when they message you and say 'would like to know more'!! When there is nothing on theirs! Thats all.

We appreciate everyones right to privacy and their choice to not post pictures, but really whats the point? You have an opportunity to catch someones eye? So why even bother?

And as for work finding out, well, whos more at fault? You? for having a liberal lifestyle choice or the sad pervert who recognises you and 'grasses you up'? Number one, what are they doing by looking? By osmosis they are also then guilty, theirs is as punishable a crime as yours if thats the case.

Thankyou to all who have posted so far, there is a split of opinion clearly between those who do and those who dont...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When we're at a swingers club we are particularly drawn to those with dark shaped heads in profile view - gets us going everytime does that, but what usually happens is that the 'woman' turns out to be a blow up doll and the man is an aging munter hehehe

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By *jandmc OP Couple
over a year ago

Lancs

LOL!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks like I win my bet Wishy

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

How easy it is to jump to conclusions about why people don’t show photos. Yeah sure, may be some think they have a better chance if they get chatting to someone first, because they are not male/female model material…. but that is ‘some’ and still a ‘may be’.

But also ‘may be’ they are not confident enough so show photos for a variety of reasons other than confidence of their looks.

‘May be’ they don’t want to risk their kids (who they only see every second weekend after a long drawn out custody battle) being sent a photo on their mobile asking “Hey is this man with his cock out in your dad’s livingroom?” “Guess where this photo was found” …. Oh yeah you are meant to be reassured that if you are spotted on a swinging site that the person spotting you is on here too so won’t say anything…. coz links to things never get passed from contact list to contact list.

Oh, the theory that people with no photos think they are better than the rest…. that is laughable. Whether you earn £15k or £150k is any meet worth making yourself unemployed?

How do we know they don’t go on cam in the chatroom to show people what they look like, because they see that as an acceptable risk in terms of “what happens in Vegas staying in Vegas”

Whether the perceived risk is real or not, if you perceive something to be a risk then as a sensible person you’d likely avoid doing it…. you’d think with all the debates about what is safe sex and acceptable levels of risk people on here would understand everyone has their own level of ‘acceptable’.

Personally I rarely take things further with any profile which has no photos – they’d have to send a corking message to grasp my interest. But that is my choice not to investigate, just as it is their choice not to have any photos.

Yes I find it annoying when a message arrives saying “great pics and profile, have a look at mine/ours and see what you think” only to find it is a line or two and no photos… and I do think “what the fuck am I meant to be looking at?” But that annoyance is because of what they typed in the message – they implied there was something to look at. If someone doesn’t have photos that their choice, just as it is my choice to hit ‘delete’… which is the same action I’d take if it was photo-less or just a cock shot/close-up of the wife’s red cabbage.

I don’t see a profile with no photos and assume it is because they are up their own arse or some other theory… I just think “too much like hard work to find out what I need to know” and ignore it…. coz I am a lazy bastard – again through my choice.

Now if someone with an empty profile and no pics started complaining about lack of interest in them…. well that is a different story lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is there anyone else out there, who like us, is fed up with the lack of content, imagination or photos on some peoples profiles?

Things like, 'will fill in later', or 'although this is a single profile I am part of a couple and we play together'.. And the old chestnut, ' no pix due to work' !

Please people, make an effort, it doesnt take long to write a few lines about your likes and dislikes, wants or needs? And you can always photoshop facial details or any other bits for that matter!!

Then they complain that no one messages them or winks etc..

At the end of the day, this is a swingers site. A site to arrange meets with like minded people and it isnt going to happen if you cant be bothered!

Any thoughts anyone?"

Well just to take this thread from a slightly different angle. I am a single guy who has made an effort writing my profile and have included pictures with it too. I have sent out many emails to a lot of people I was interested in, all of which were quite in-depth and unique to that person I was writing too and not one liners. And guess what, all three of these emails were ignored and deleted without even a reply thanking me for the time and effort I had expended to get to know that person. As this thread is not about having your emails ignored I wont go into it here in much detail apart to say I think it’s damn rude not to even say ‘thanks but not interested’. I have read a lot of people in the forums say they have too much mail and can’t be bothered to reply or merely look at the picture that is displayed with the email and make a judgement just from that. I took a lot of time reading peoples profiles to see if I fitted into what they were looking for AND I was interested in knowing them as a friend and perhaps meeting up later then I would write. That includes profiles with hardly any information on it too. But at the end of the day what is the incentive and point in spending the time and effort in creating a long descriptive profile if people are just going to ignore you anyway? The quote above says please make an effort, it doesn’t take long to write a few lines…hmmm well can’t that also be asked of the people who receive emails and don’t reply to them? In my experience even if you make a big effort in writing a decent profile and spending a lot of time to get to know people you get absolutely nowhere. So I ask why should people spend time writing out a good profile if people who receive a message from a person with a good profile wont even make an effort to reply. Surely it’s a two way thing here?

Just as an aside I read a comment in another thread about the accommodating situation and someone said if you see someone stating they can’t accommodate then you should ignore them as their obviously a player….what a load of pathetic rubbish. I cannot accommodate due to legitimate reasons which doesn’t mean I’m married or attached thank you. I don’t particularly like being called a player and cheat even in a roundabout way.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

To the last poster.

In life we all make choices with what we are given to play with.

We don't care if people have pics or not, as we like to cam and show face before any meet anyway ,but there are other factors that put us off and although in itself people who can't accommodate flags up a warning for us, it wouldn't put us off altogether.

If after a chat and there are other factors that we are wary of too , thats when we think they are probably players.

Don't get me wrong, we may well have got it wrong and the person was telling the truth, but you have to go with your gut feeling, and too many things that add up to " he is attached" would make us back off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

talking about contracts pleasure dome whats that load of old bollox warning all about on your profile do you seriously think it means something ffs

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

Hav'nt you seen it on any other profiles? its become something of a trend on here,regardless of whether it's effective or not

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

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just throwing this one out there..but maybe its how they look? Maybe thats what starts the attraction? Maybe thats what turns your knobs? What stokes the fire?

everyones right to privacy and their choice to not post pictures, but really whats the point? You have an opportunity to catch someones eye? So why even bother?

Hi LOL ...i thought this thread had finished but you posted something i wanted to respond to ..Sorry i edited your post to the issues i wanted to comment on to save space ...

There is definitely a case and logical argument for not having pictures on "public display" ...i think your osmosis view in that the people who find you are guilty of finding you is little comfort if your career is on the line.

We live in age where company managements exercise massive control over employees, we are the easiest workforce in Europe to fire,and generally once fired you stay fired ,even if a tribunal says it was unfair.

Employees as a former regional union rep I nkow some employees have been disciplined for material kept on sites such as facebook etc. And human resources can and do trawl information about you on the internet when determining promotion or even in some posts whether to take you on.

Once you put information in the public domain you lose any rights under privacy laws or data protection.

I my case not having a public pic is one step back from a balls out admission i am a libertine or swinger or whatever we collectively are,just an initial protection until i know who it is has contacted me .It has not effected my ability to meet partners in any way.

Also believe it or not, looks are not my main criteria for whether i meet someone ..yes they do figure of course but to be honest what is written and said on an initial communication actual forms my main opinion.I have and do turn people down from meeting if i feel

we have little in common even if they are initially visually attractive ...

The point being we are not thankfully all the same .

soap box well and truly away now ...lol

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

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"talking about contracts pleasure dome whats that load of old bollox warning all about on your profile do you seriously think it means something ffs"

Well its a minor point but anyone doing a doctorate or Masters thesis where the dissertation is published cant use the info or pictures it is targeted to educational .I dont know how effective it is but neither do they ...hey its doing no harm ....

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

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you should add it to yours ...pad your profile out a bit ...pmsl

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

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Good timing this, to reinforce the earlier point about how easy it is for companies to get rid of you ...

1 woman today has been fired for describing her job as boring on facebook ....!!!!!!!

MR X

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over a year ago

" And guess what, all three of these emails were ignored and deleted without even a reply thanking me for the time and effort I had expended to get to know that person."

Just to clarify this mistake in my text. Reading this back it sounds like i have only sent three emails out because i missed out the word 'but' lol...i would say at last count i have sent around 64ish and all were ignored bar three, so make out what you will from that. Either i'm one of those people who just don't attract anyone else or it says alot about quite a few people on this site...or both!

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

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welcome back gothica i thought you d been quiet on the forum ....you ok

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over a year ago

"Good timing this, to reinforce the earlier point about how easy it is for companies to get rid of you ...

1 woman today has been fired for describing her job as boring on facebook ....!!!!!!!

MR X"

Anyone who slates their job where a fellow colleague or even a boss can read it deserves to have his or her position terminated.

I know some will say freedom of speech etc but who really wants a disgruntled worker in the workforce. She should move on if she isn't happy but I know the labour laws and human rights activists will say she has a right to an opinion - well so does her boss, the right to think: I dont want this person disrupting my workforce.

If she felt bored, then yes, thats her opinion and she's entitled to it, but the moment she took it into a public place it became an issue for the company to deal with.

What's next? Telling your boss you think he's a t**t and expecting no comeback?

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

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or moaning if they get rid of you for being one of those salacious swingers ,an activity is perceived as immoral by the ignorant public at large... the point being you would get little sympathy and would you go public ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"you should add it to yours ...pad your profile out a bit ...pmsl "
absolutely no need to,it gets us loads of action as it is lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"welcome back gothica i thought you d been quiet on the forum ....you ok "

hi _leasuredome...yeah i'm ok thanks. I've been on and off fab since the revamp but have always dropped by on occasion. I couldn't get on the forums because i was having problems getting my camera to work and getting verified but i'm here now. I also decided to branch out and join more 'specialist' sites, and you know people actually reply on those ones lol.

How you doing buddy?

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

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i am ok mate ,,,you off to maddies and diamonds party at chams...they are behaving now we have the pussy posse under control

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What really narked me this week was some guy who contacted me said he like my profile, if somewhat long, could I confirm that I was genuine! Dah! I would have thought that my profile, the fact that I've had a picture verified, got some feedback and show my ugly mug on my profile page screams that I am genuine!

When I then checked out his profile it was 5 words long, no face pic, no feedback and no genuine pic that had been verified, just a long long list of friends - and him having been on the site for the last 8 months!

Who out of the two of us is more genuine?

I sometimes wonder why genuine people here bother with their profiles, seems to me that a large majority of people don't bother to read them anyway.

Michelle x

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over a year ago

Michelle, that’s just one thing I cannot understand myself. Some guy with nothing on his profile has a long, long list of friends while genuine people like myself who makes an real effort to meet people and make friends doesn‘t even get a thanks but no thanks. I don‘t like to just send a friend invite and always send an email introducing myself and asking if they would like to chat and perhaps be friends if we get along…the result being I‘m ignored and the email deleted. I sometimes think people don't want politeness or manners but are rather more attracted to jack the lad types! I doubt these people who posses giant friends lists ever correspond with each other and I have to say some peoples friends lists on here are rather ridiculous and smack of nothing more than ‘friend collecting’. I do think it’s rather pathetic that someone asked you if your genuine, the cheek of it lol. I’m with you all the way at the moment…why bother spending time and effort on your profile when you may as well have a blank one and get loads of friends anyway. How bizarre!

Pleasuredome…I doubt if I’ll be going to the chams party. I’m not a massive fan of swinging clubs and I don’t like going to places without at least knowing the people beforehand. Hope you all have great time though!

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over a year ago

I dont believe people with huge long friends list can possibly have the time to keep in contact

We had a friends invite recently,no message just the invite,this person had been on here 10 months with a massive friends list and not a single phone,cam or meet verification from any of them lol

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

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evidently some people dont like to put there verifications on tho.... but i would of thought a single guy would to be honest ...what you reckon

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over a year ago

"Michelle, that’s just one thing I cannot understand myself. Some guy with nothing on his profile has a long, long list of friends while genuine people like myself who makes an real effort to meet people and make friends doesn‘t even get a thanks but no thanks. I don‘t like to just send a friend invite and always send an email introducing myself and asking if they would like to chat and perhaps be friends if we get along…the result being I‘m ignored and the email deleted. I sometimes think people don't want politeness or manners but are rather more attracted to jack the lad types! I doubt these people who posses giant friends lists ever correspond with each other and I have to say some peoples friends lists on here are rather ridiculous and smack of nothing more than ‘friend collecting’. I do think it’s rather pathetic that someone asked you if your genuine, the cheek of it lol. I’m with you all the way at the moment…why bother spending time and effort on your profile when you may as well have a blank one and get loads of friends anyway. How bizarre!

Certainly if you lived closer to me, and you had contacted me, I would not ignore you - too darn cute

I know what you are saying though, drives me nuts when friend requests just appear, and this despite the fact that my profile clearly states that I do not accept cold calling friend requests and that I delete winks. If you are genuine, like you say, then make the effort to contact me by message, I will always answer whether its yes or no.

If people have the need to collect friends then they should be on myspace or facebook and leave these sites for genuine people.

Michelle x

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"evidently some people dont like to put there verifications on tho.... but i would of thought a single guy would to be honest ...what you reckon

It was a single fem in this case and if someone is'nt verified it does'nt put us off...we all had to start somewhere but with such a huge long list I would have thought there would have been some sort of phone or cam contact at the very least lol

It put me off to be honest

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

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yeah i know, makes you think its a bloke pic collector pretending to be a woman and targeting couples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cute! Aw thanks Michelle.

I will indeed send an email asap and if nothing else we may become good friends.

As for facebook and myspace...well have you seen how people friend collect on there? I had someone who added me then put in their status that they had at last got 5,000 friends and had reached the limit allowed. Needless to say as soon as i saw that they instantly had 4,999 friends as i reached for the delete button. Now i only have around 35 friends because i'd struggle to get to know them if there were loads.

Anyway, im off to draft an email lol

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

Aaawww Has cupids arrow struck in the forums? :D

Hope at the very least you become friends xx

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

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"Cute! Aw thanks Michelle.

I will indeed send an email asap and if nothing else we may become good friends.

Anyway, im off to draft an email lol"

And they called it ....puppy lurrrve ...

pmsl

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

How cool is that?

From a thread full of whines and moans,some good comes out of it to show why we're all on here in the first place xx

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By *xstephbxxCouple
over a year ago

hyde

Guess its all about choice.. We can all choose what to show and who to show it to. We personally dont even bother to read the messages untill we have had a peek at the senders profile. Who ever say's looks arent everything are only 50% right. If there is no physical atraction straight away then your on a loser straight away...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

LOL gothica - I promise to answer and not hit the delete button ;o) I don't bother with myspace or facebook anymore, don't understand the real reason or concept for these kind of networking site, they actually bore me senseless (doesn't take much to achieve that) so I closed my accounts down.

"Aaawww Has cupids arrow struck in the forums? :D

Hope at the very least you become friends xx"

LOL cupid - who the heck is cupid! :o) Friends, now you're talking. Can never have too many good, close friends.

Michelle x

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

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it must be love love love.....

it must be love love love...

kissy kissy ...LOL

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over a year ago

"Guess its all about choice.. We can all choose what to show and who to show it to. We personally dont even bother to read the messages untill we have had a peek at the senders profile. Who ever say's looks arent everything are only 50% right. If there is no physical atraction straight away then your on a loser straight away..."

I accept and respect this viewpoint and your right that there must be attraction. I for one wouldn't get intimate with someone if there wasn't any attraction! Though I do still think if people have took the time to write then at least a no thanks would be a nice gesture.

As for choosing what to show or not to show, well i think it's always better to be open and honest from the start and allow people to know the whole you. For instance i have seen people that are members on fabswingers who are also on other more specialist sites and on all of these sites their likes and dislikes change and are never the same. I even sent an email once to a woman on here who i saw was a member on two bdsm related sites and she replied claimed she wasn't into bdsm and it wasn't her thing. I didn't bother pointing out to her that i am on the same sites as her and from what i see from her pictures she most definitely is into that lifestyle. So why lie? Isn't honesty the best policy anymore?

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

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probably thought bdsm was another word for slap and tickle mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ssssshhhh i'm trying to be more manly here lol. Right wheres my feather duster....er whip gone!

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

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"ssssshhhh i'm trying to be more manly here lol. Right wheres my feather duster....er whip gone!"

i meant the woman you was on about .pmsl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lol i think i better be quiet now or i may embarrass myself....what do you mean it's too late!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, doesn't bother me what people put on their profile.

The things I make my decisions on, are pics and negativity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I couldn't give a bats crap what other members put on their own profiles.....

However when anyone chooses to make an approach to me based on the contents of my profile whilst their own profile fails to contain any indication they would be happy for people of my proclivity to contact them, they seldom receive a positive outcome.....

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over a year ago

"Is there anyone else out there, who like us, is fed up with the lack of content, imagination or photos on some peoples profiles?

Things like, 'will fill in later', or 'although this is a single profile I am part of a couple and we play together'.. And the old chestnut, ' no pix due to work' !

Please people, make an effort, it doesnt take long to write a few lines about your likes and dislikes, wants or needs? And you can always photoshop facial details or any other bits for that matter!!

Then they complain that no one messages them or winks etc..

At the end of the day, this is a swingers site. A site to arrange meets with like minded people and it isnt going to happen if you cant be bothered!

Any thoughts anyone?"

I think different profile types appeal to different people. There are some that don't want to have to wade through War & Peace to decide whether they want to meet the person. Sometimes the initial physical attraction is enough.

There are plenty of profiles on here that have few details, but more photos and they have the verifications to show that that's been successful for them.

It's whatever works for the individual. I wish I knew that secret

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By *iss_Samantha_LovecockTV/TS
over a year ago

bmth /poole sometimes blandford

if they cant be bothered to say something interesting or informative about themselves than i dont bother to reply to their messages

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