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"I get this all the time. “ are you dressed now” “ come suck my cock now”. No no no and no " ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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"I usually have TVs blocked. Unfortunately it's a hassle thing for me. I tend to find that of those who are inclined to be rude/abusive, TVs are among the worst. They tend to assume they'll be given the benefit of the doubt women are, but often with the vileness men can be so reviled for. I find it much harder to handle. I'm supportive of the trans community and will often break the filter myself to talk to trans ladies. But unfortunately the few idiots ruin it for the many." That’s sad to read, but I sort of get it.. From all the trans and TV’s on here I’m so sorry | |||
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"I usually have TVs blocked. Unfortunately it's a hassle thing for me. I tend to find that of those who are inclined to be rude/abusive, TVs are among the worst. They tend to assume they'll be given the benefit of the doubt women are, but often with the vileness men can be so reviled for. I find it much harder to handle. I'm supportive of the trans community and will often break the filter myself to talk to trans ladies. But unfortunately the few idiots ruin it for the many." As a tgirl myself I have to agree with some of these points. The only type of people that I have added to my block list are other tgirls. I refuse to block my own kind as some of the girls on here are lovely and I really like to see them around but as with any groups, there are those who cross boundaries into a bad place and it means many of us are seen as bad too. | |||
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"I usually have TVs blocked. Unfortunately it's a hassle thing for me. I tend to find that of those who are inclined to be rude/abusive, TVs are among the worst. They tend to assume they'll be given the benefit of the doubt women are, but often with the vileness men can be so reviled for. I find it much harder to handle. I'm supportive of the trans community and will often break the filter myself to talk to trans ladies. But unfortunately the few idiots ruin it for the many. That’s sad to read, but I sort of get it.. From all the trans and TV’s on here I’m so sorry" Thank you. Even though I know it's not you xx | |||
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"It's certainly not a case that I only meet dressed." If this is the case I would suggest a second profile as a male for arranging to meet as a man. Kind of like how couples sometimes also have individual profiles for if they want to arrange meets without their partner. | |||
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"It's certainly not a case that I only meet dressed. If this is the case I would suggest a second profile as a male for arranging to meet as a man. Kind of like how couples sometimes also have individual profiles for if they want to arrange meets without their partner." Yes, I agree. I personally don't "get" dressing as a sexual thing. (I'm supportive, but it doesn't do anything for me. Can't help what floats my boat!) "Oh but I don't have to dress to meet you" falls flat for me. | |||
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"I think a separate category should be added so transfemales and transmales can be identified as themselves rather than tv/ts. A lot of confusion would be eased for many. " Yeah the Fab category is woefully inadequate. | |||
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"It's certainly not a case that I only meet dressed. If this is the case I would suggest a second profile as a male for arranging to meet as a man. Kind of like how couples sometimes also have individual profiles for if they want to arrange meets without their partner." I've considered this but up to now haven't needed to. I have had a couple of meets now and both as a man, I believe women are able to see both sides of me clearly and have no problem with it. I dont know if it true for others. Partly I've not got a male account as I would likely have to refer to my 'Sophie' account so that the people i chat with would know it was me but I would prefer the privacy of not being linked as I'm not totally out. Also, I dont want to live a double life on here either. It's a weird conundrum that's for sure. | |||
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"I think a separate category should be added so transfemales and transmales can be identified as themselves rather than tv/ts. A lot of confusion would be eased for many. " Absolutely agree with this. ![]() | |||
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"I think a separate category should be added so transfemales and transmales can be identified as themselves rather than tv/ts. A lot of confusion would be eased for many. " Agreed. I've heard arguments against it which I kind of get (basically that you'd need tonnes of categories to please everyone currently using that category) but I personally find it unfair to group trans people and people who dress as another gender just for sexual thrills into the same group. | |||
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"I usually have TVs blocked. Unfortunately it's a hassle thing for me. I tend to find that of those who are inclined to be rude/abusive, TVs are among the worst. They tend to assume they'll be given the benefit of the doubt women are, but often with the vileness men can be so reviled for. I find it much harder to handle. I'm supportive of the trans community and will often break the filter myself to talk to trans ladies. But unfortunately the few idiots ruin it for the many." That's a shame to read and a surprise as my experience is that they are the most friendly people on here. Maybe it's just that they behave differently with different people or maybe I've been lucky. | |||
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"Tbh I find the trans most polite even if you send them a wink and they are not interested 90 per cent of the time I've had a thank you for the wink and some of them even have a conversation think guys and some ladies could learn a lot from them in terms of manners and politeness" To be fair to the ladies, while we get more messages and winks than the straight males, we don't get anything like the numbers that some of the ladies get. | |||
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"Tbh I find the trans most polite even if you send them a wink and they are not interested 90 per cent of the time I've had a thank you for the wink and some of them even have a conversation think guys and some ladies could learn a lot from them in terms of manners and politeness To be fair to the ladies, while we get more messages and winks than the straight males, we don't get anything like the numbers that some of the ladies get." Yes. Let's not start the rudeness of women chestnut again. | |||
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"It's certainly not a case that I only meet dressed. If this is the case I would suggest a second profile as a male for arranging to meet as a man. Kind of like how couples sometimes also have individual profiles for if they want to arrange meets without their partner. I've considered this but up to now haven't needed to. I have had a couple of meets now and both as a man, I believe women are able to see both sides of me clearly and have no problem with it. I dont know if it true for others. Partly I've not got a male account as I would likely have to refer to my 'Sophie' account so that the people i chat with would know it was me but I would prefer the privacy of not being linked as I'm not totally out. Also, I dont want to live a double life on here either. It's a weird conundrum that's for sure." I can get that. I'm not suggesting anyone hide anything, more that people tend to assume that if approached by a specific profile type that that is what they'll be meeting. Like with what I said about couples before. If I wasn't looking for couples, I'd block couples rather than keep it open as sometimes there is the option to meet just one of them. If anything I'd consider it disrespectful to assume that was a possibility. Another example is that I tend to search for my meets myself and I would never search for TV/TS profiles on the off chance someone may consider meeting me as a man rather than their female persona. I'd feel very rude doing so and would worry I was running the risk of really offending someone. | |||
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"It's certainly not a case that I only meet dressed. If this is the case I would suggest a second profile as a male for arranging to meet as a man. Kind of like how couples sometimes also have individual profiles for if they want to arrange meets without their partner. I've considered this but up to now haven't needed to. I have had a couple of meets now and both as a man, I believe women are able to see both sides of me clearly and have no problem with it. I dont know if it true for others. Partly I've not got a male account as I would likely have to refer to my 'Sophie' account so that the people i chat with would know it was me but I would prefer the privacy of not being linked as I'm not totally out. Also, I dont want to live a double life on here either. It's a weird conundrum that's for sure. I can get that. I'm not suggesting anyone hide anything, more that people tend to assume that if approached by a specific profile type that that is what they'll be meeting. Like with what I said about couples before. If I wasn't looking for couples, I'd block couples rather than keep it open as sometimes there is the option to meet just one of them. If anything I'd consider it disrespectful to assume that was a possibility. Another example is that I tend to search for my meets myself and I would never search for TV/TS profiles on the off chance someone may consider meeting me as a man rather than their female persona. I'd feel very rude doing so and would worry I was running the risk of really offending someone." I certainly wouldn't be offended if you asked me for a meet but asked me not to be dressed, I'd be delighted | |||
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"It's very rare I dress, maybe an hour once every few months. If I were to meet someone I would usually ask to dress on arrival. It's certainly not a case that I only meet dressed." But what's your preference?? If you dress that rarely, are you wanting to meet dressed as male or female? All if your public pics show you dressed, so women who aren't into it might be very disinclined to chat with you. Of course, if you especially WANT to meet dressed then leave your profile as it is. Ultimately it's up to you what impression you give, but speaking as a single woman on here who is not attracted to tv's, I instantly wouldn't be interested x | |||
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"I used to be listed a tv/ts and over time I’ve transitioned to the point I am at now so I was relisted as a woman. I hated the word ‘dressed’ as I never did that. Not to get off on it. I presented as male until I no longer had to. I agree that it would be nice to have a ts category but how do you police it? I’ve been reported by people who disagree I’m female and found my profile flitted back and forth until all the mods recognised me. According to fabs rules, as a genuinely transitioning person I can be listed as my true gender and that makes me happy. ![]() ![]() I salute and congratulate you as I know that the transition is a long and uncomfortable journey, a friend of mine is going through this at the moment, myself unfortunately will not due to my age and health. ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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"I get a lot of messages asking if I am dressed. I also find a lot of people put filters up to block TV/TS categories. Is there a common belief that anyone on here who says TV/TS is permanently in drag 24/7? Seriously considering a second profile as a single male here because the vast majority of the time, I am dressed as a man. " I think you will find that these people are more interested in building a mental picture of you as they imagine you are with them so they can releve themselves, I generally find that they don't actually meet and tend to log off when their done, I suppose you could take it as a complement as they selected your profile for their fantasy. ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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