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"Suicide numbers are increasing. Whether that’s due to social media, personal pressures, economic struggle or due to ongoing mental health conditions - whatever reason it is that people take their lives - it actually.. honestly doesn’t matter. What matters is that person is in that place. A place where they believe in that moment that this is it. There’s nothing else. You have absolutely no idea what someone is going through in their lives. Where they are in their head. Just how broken and empty they could be feeling. How vulnerable. Being that low that they feel they have no other option but to walk away from this life. To not see a future is a scary thing. To not want it anymore is scarier. I’ve seen a lot of mental health posts on here recently and we need to be KIND to each other. I get a hell of lot of abuse on this site. Thankfully I’m a place right now where I can handle it.. a year ago though. God no. It would have broken me beyond a place I was already broken. Words hurt. A throwaway comment could play on someone’s mind for a long time after it’s been thrown out there. It’s that old thing.. if you don’t have anything nice to say - don’t say anything at all. To anyone struggling - I urge you to reach out. It does get better, I promise! You may not see it but damn you are an asset to this world and you’ll be more loved and cared about that you’ll ever know yourself. I read a book called ‘Reasons to Stay Alive’ it’s written by an author called Matt Haig - and I urge anyone struggling to give it a read. It honestly saved my life. Anyway. Be Kind to one another. Lots of love, Abbie xx" Love this. I suffer with mental health, 3 years ago I had the worst year of my life my grandma passed away then my dad collapsed and had bleed in the brain which there was a high chance of dieing. I got very depressed to the point I tried to commit suicide multiple times. What stopped me was friends and having them by your side. If I never had That I wouldn't be here. I now go mental health tutor once a week and volunteer to help others at centre.  | |||
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"Suicide numbers are increasing. Whether that’s due to social media, personal pressures, economic struggle or due to ongoing mental health conditions - whatever reason it is that people take their lives - it actually.. honestly doesn’t matter. What matters is that person is in that place. A place where they believe in that moment that this is it. There’s nothing else. You have absolutely no idea what someone is going through in their lives. Where they are in their head. Just how broken and empty they could be feeling. How vulnerable. Being that low that they feel they have no other option but to walk away from this life. To not see a future is a scary thing. To not want it anymore is scarier. I’ve seen a lot of mental health posts on here recently and we need to be KIND to each other. I get a hell of lot of abuse on this site. Thankfully I’m a place right now where I can handle it.. a year ago though. God no. It would have broken me beyond a place I was already broken. Words hurt. A throwaway comment could play on someone’s mind for a long time after it’s been thrown out there. It’s that old thing.. if you don’t have anything nice to say - don’t say anything at all. To anyone struggling - I urge you to reach out. It does get better, I promise! You may not see it but damn you are an asset to this world and you’ll be more loved and cared about that you’ll ever know yourself. I read a book called ‘Reasons to Stay Alive’ it’s written by an author called Matt Haig - and I urge anyone struggling to give it a read. It honestly saved my life. Anyway. Be Kind to one another. Lots of love, Abbie xx Love this. I suffer with mental health, 3 years ago I had the worst year of my life my grandma passed away then my dad collapsed and had bleed in the brain which there was a high chance of dieing. I got very depressed to the point I tried to commit suicide multiple times. What stopped me was friends and having them by your side. If I never had That I wouldn't be here. I now go mental health tutor once a week and volunteer to help others at centre. "I volunteer for the Samaritans now, isn’t it the hardest but most rewarding thing? I’m glad you’ve come out on the other side babe, so much more to live for xx | |||
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Also Matt Haig is great and 'The Humans' is a cool read "Oo I’ll give it ago, such a book nerd I’ll always take recommendations xx | |||
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"Suicide numbers are increasing. Whether that’s due to social media, personal pressures, economic struggle or due to ongoing mental health conditions - whatever reason it is that people take their lives - it actually.. honestly doesn’t matter. What matters is that person is in that place. A place where they believe in that moment that this is it. There’s nothing else. You have absolutely no idea what someone is going through in their lives. Where they are in their head. Just how broken and empty they could be feeling. How vulnerable. Being that low that they feel they have no other option but to walk away from this life. To not see a future is a scary thing. To not want it anymore is scarier. I’ve seen a lot of mental health posts on here recently and we need to be KIND to each other. I get a hell of lot of abuse on this site. Thankfully I’m a place right now where I can handle it.. a year ago though. God no. It would have broken me beyond a place I was already broken. Words hurt. A throwaway comment could play on someone’s mind for a long time after it’s been thrown out there. It’s that old thing.. if you don’t have anything nice to say - don’t say anything at all. To anyone struggling - I urge you to reach out. It does get better, I promise! You may not see it but damn you are an asset to this world and you’ll be more loved and cared about that you’ll ever know yourself. I read a book called ‘Reasons to Stay Alive’ it’s written by an author called Matt Haig - and I urge anyone struggling to give it a read. It honestly saved my life. Anyway. Be Kind to one another. Lots of love, Abbie xx Love this. I suffer with mental health, 3 years ago I had the worst year of my life my grandma passed away then my dad collapsed and had bleed in the brain which there was a high chance of dieing. I got very depressed to the point I tried to commit suicide multiple times. What stopped me was friends and having them by your side. If I never had That I wouldn't be here. I now go mental health tutor once a week and volunteer to help others at centre.
I volunteer for the Samaritans now, isn’t it the hardest but most rewarding thing?
I’m glad you’ve come out on the other side babe, so much more to live for xx"Thank you. Yes it is feel good helping others I plan on taking a qualification in mental health soon. | |||
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"I honestly think that this site can be a blessing and a curse Mainly a curse." I’ve made some incredible friends this last year. Likeminded people that have been a huge support in my recovery. There are also some total wankers out there that will say anything to tear you down for an ego boost. Again, if we can all just be kind to eachother.. | |||
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"I honestly think that this site can be a blessing and a curse Mainly a curse. I’ve made some incredible friends this last year. Likeminded people that have been a huge support in my recovery. There are also some total wankers out there that will say anything to tear you down for an ego boost. Again, if we can all just be kind to eachother.. " I agree, but it’s the nature of the beast | |||
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"I honestly think that this site can be a blessing and a curse Mainly a curse. I’ve made some incredible friends this last year. Likeminded people that have been a huge support in my recovery. There are also some total wankers out there that will say anything to tear you down for an ego boost. Again, if we can all just be kind to eachother.. " Are the words 'wanker' and they just say things for an ego boost really necessary ? When are the preachers going to move into practise ? | |||
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"I honestly think that this site can be a blessing and a curse Mainly a curse. I’ve made some incredible friends this last year. Likeminded people that have been a huge support in my recovery. There are also some total wankers out there that will say anything to tear you down for an ego boost. Again, if we can all just be kind to eachother.. " , Doesn't being kind mean realising that people might behave a certain way because they have issues of their own with which they need support? | |||
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"I honestly think that this site can be a blessing and a curse Mainly a curse. I’ve made some incredible friends this last year. Likeminded people that have been a huge support in my recovery. There are also some total wankers out there that will say anything to tear you down for an ego boost. Again, if we can all just be kind to eachother.. Are the words 'wanker' and they just say things for an ego boost really necessary ? When are the preachers going to move into practise ?" I’m sorry but I don’t tear anyone down that messages me. Yes I will call someone out if they think it’s ok to message me (someone they don’t even know) with abuse about how ugly and disgusting I am. What is there to gain from that? | |||
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"I honestly think that this site can be a blessing and a curse Mainly a curse. I’ve made some incredible friends this last year. Likeminded people that have been a huge support in my recovery. There are also some total wankers out there that will say anything to tear you down for an ego boost. Again, if we can all just be kind to eachother.. , Doesn't being kind mean realising that people might behave a certain way because they have issues of their own with which they need support?" If you saw some of the vile messages that come into my inbox you’d understand. H | |||
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"I honestly think that this site can be a blessing and a curse Mainly a curse. I’ve made some incredible friends this last year. Likeminded people that have been a huge support in my recovery. There are also some total wankers out there that will say anything to tear you down for an ego boost. Again, if we can all just be kind to eachother.. Are the words 'wanker' and they just say things for an ego boost really necessary ? When are the preachers going to move into practise ? I’m sorry but I don’t tear anyone down that messages me. Yes I will call someone out if they think it’s ok to message me (someone they don’t even know) with abuse about how ugly and disgusting I am. What is there to gain from that? " An eye for an eye makes us both blind. | |||
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"I honestly think that this site can be a blessing and a curse Mainly a curse. I’ve made some incredible friends this last year. Likeminded people that have been a huge support in my recovery. There are also some total wankers out there that will say anything to tear you down for an ego boost. Again, if we can all just be kind to eachother.. Are the words 'wanker' and they just say things for an ego boost really necessary ? When are the preachers going to move into practise ? I’m sorry but I don’t tear anyone down that messages me. Yes I will call someone out if they think it’s ok to message me (someone they don’t even know) with abuse about how ugly and disgusting I am. What is there to gain from that? An eye for an eye makes us both blind." They don’t even get a response, just a block. I’m just incredibly conscious of how those words would have affected me had I been in the place I was last year. That was my point. Unsolicited abuse is not ok. | |||
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"I honestly think that this site can be a blessing and a curse Mainly a curse. I’ve made some incredible friends this last year. Likeminded people that have been a huge support in my recovery. There are also some total wankers out there that will say anything to tear you down for an ego boost. Again, if we can all just be kind to eachother.. , Doesn't being kind mean realising that people might behave a certain way because they have issues of their own with which they need support? If you saw some of the vile messages that come into my inbox you’d understand. H" If you receive vile or abusive message report to admin and they'll deal with them | |||
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"I honestly think that this site can be a blessing and a curse Mainly a curse. I’ve made some incredible friends this last year. Likeminded people that have been a huge support in my recovery. There are also some total wankers out there that will say anything to tear you down for an ego boost. Again, if we can all just be kind to eachother.. Are the words 'wanker' and they just say things for an ego boost really necessary ? When are the preachers going to move into practise ? I’m sorry but I don’t tear anyone down that messages me. Yes I will call someone out if they think it’s ok to message me (someone they don’t even know) with abuse about how ugly and disgusting I am. What is there to gain from that? An eye for an eye makes us both blind. They don’t even get a response, just a block. I’m just incredibly conscious of how those words would have affected me had I been in the place I was last year. That was my point. Unsolicited abuse is not ok. " No Abbie it's not. Not ever. I was about to say block em ..... x | |||
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"I hope people can find support when they need it most. When I had mental troubles and suicide harm issues I was strong and fit and had material wealth. It was so hard to open up and I never really did. I had CBT, medication, counselling and Samaritan contact. None of it helped me apart from medication but those therapies can help others. I was eventually offered a Lithium based medication which I researched and rejected. I had a great GP and we sat down together and went through his text book of medications and Seroxat - Paroxatine helped me. I eventually found the inspiration I needed in another person by accident. But I remember walking along my high street chatting to people I knew, sharing a joke or a story and inside feeling like shit. Nobody knew really. But when I could not work after a motorcycle accident and I walked the high street people could see my injuries. My employer at the time would only recognise physical injury. Anybody off with stress was said to be at it. There is help out there and my GP was the first point of my journey back. I actually remember walking into his surgery consulting room. He asked what was wrong. I just looked at him and started crying my eyes out .. He never even had to ask. He knew I was in a bad bad place. GPs see it all the time and it's a good place to start... To anyone suffering, please reach out. It's worth it." I Glad you found help Tom | |||
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I try and help the people I work for me weather it be lending them money or paying them early when there skint ! I try to make time for my best mate that’s just been divorced, this is along with trying to raise 3 kids on my own.Life’s tough and you never know what’s round the corner, you only live once so make the most of it ! If you need help then confined in someone and let them help you. Stay safe people and if you ever need a chat am here xxx | |||
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"I honestly think that this site can be a blessing and a curse Mainly a curse. I’ve made some incredible friends this last year. Likeminded people that have been a huge support in my recovery. There are also some total wankers out there that will say anything to tear you down for an ego boost. Again, if we can all just be kind to eachother.. Are the words 'wanker' and they just say things for an ego boost really necessary ? When are the preachers going to move into practise ? I’m sorry but I don’t tear anyone down that messages me. Yes I will call someone out if they think it’s ok to message me (someone they don’t even know) with abuse about how ugly and disgusting I am. What is there to gain from that? An eye for an eye makes us both blind. They don’t even get a response, just a block. I’m just incredibly conscious of how those words would have affected me had I been in the place I was last year. That was my point. Unsolicited abuse is not ok. " Over the years I've got used to been called names because I was always bullied at high school was picked on all day called horrible things. Now I don't. But since I joined here I've had some horrible people messaging me. Not saying any one should take things lightly just I as a victim used to it but doesn't mean I don't get upset or pissed off or anything that these unpleasant horrible people say to me. | |||
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"I hope people can find support when they need it most. When I had mental troubles and suicide harm issues I was strong and fit and had material wealth. It was so hard to open up and I never really did. I had CBT, medication, counselling and Samaritan contact. None of it helped me apart from medication but those therapies can help others. I was eventually offered a Lithium based medication which I researched and rejected. I had a great GP and we sat down together and went through his text book of medications and Seroxat - Paroxatine helped me. I eventually found the inspiration I needed in another person by accident. But I remember walking along my high street chatting to people I knew, sharing a joke or a story and inside feeling like shit. Nobody knew really. But when I could not work after a motorcycle accident and I walked the high street people could see my injuries. My employer at the time would only recognise physical injury. Anybody off with stress was said to be at it. There is help out there and my GP was the first point of my journey back. I actually remember walking into his surgery consulting room. He asked what was wrong. I just looked at him and started crying my eyes out .. He never even had to ask. He knew I was in a bad bad place. GPs see it all the time and it's a good place to start... To anyone suffering, please reach out. It's worth it." I’m so glad your getting the support now babe! Not saying it’s easy because it’s not but you’ll look back and be so bloody proud of yourself for taking that step and well done to your GP too. Message me if you ever want to chat xx | |||
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"When you reach out sometimes we can’t see the people who are trying to help and support us. We feel their words are meaningless and sometime factious. But in time we realise that sometimes we have to let people in and not shut them out. Lonely ness is a cunt but some contact is better than none Suicide victims are also those left behind I have experience of recovering suicide victims from the rivers and canals in Ireland and it’s not a pleasant thing to experience. Those who are pushed to this extreme give no warning no indication to anyone. Those that do say they are going to commit such an act are reaching out for help and support. My only advice to anyone is don’t block out the help that is offered no matter how insignificant you feel it is. We all have dark places that we end up in , where we see no light. No hope no nothing. We as humans can deal with in in various ways depending on how strong we are at the time. It’s not easy for anyone no matter how big or small the problem is —— but we shouldn’t have to deal with it alone - so reach out. To anyone just to share the burden and pain Love to all who have their dark place. You are not alone x" This is very true x | |||
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"When you reach out sometimes we can’t see the people who are trying to help and support us. We feel their words are meaningless and sometime factious. But in time we realise that sometimes we have to let people in and not shut them out. Lonely ness is a cunt but some contact is better than none Suicide victims are also those left behind I have experience of recovering suicide victims from the rivers and canals in Ireland and it’s not a pleasant thing to experience. Those who are pushed to this extreme give no warning no indication to anyone. Those that do say they are going to commit such an act are reaching out for help and support. My only advice to anyone is don’t block out the help that is offered no matter how insignificant you feel it is. We all have dark places that we end up in , where we see no light. No hope no nothing. We as humans can deal with in in various ways depending on how strong we are at the time. It’s not easy for anyone no matter how big or small the problem is —— but we shouldn’t have to deal with it alone - so reach out. To anyone just to share the burden and pain Love to all who have their dark place. You are not alone x This is very true x" Yeah Maybe I'll go back to A and E I like their tea | |||
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"When you reach out sometimes we can’t see the people who are trying to help and support us. We feel their words are meaningless and sometime factious. But in time we realise that sometimes we have to let people in and not shut them out. Lonely ness is a cunt but some contact is better than none Suicide victims are also those left behind I have experience of recovering suicide victims from the rivers and canals in Ireland and it’s not a pleasant thing to experience. Those who are pushed to this extreme give no warning no indication to anyone. Those that do say they are going to commit such an act are reaching out for help and support. My only advice to anyone is don’t block out the help that is offered no matter how insignificant you feel it is. We all have dark places that we end up in , where we see no light. No hope no nothing. We as humans can deal with in in various ways depending on how strong we are at the time. It’s not easy for anyone no matter how big or small the problem is —— but we shouldn’t have to deal with it alone - so reach out. To anyone just to share the burden and pain Love to all who have their dark place. You are not alone x This is very true x Yeah Maybe I'll go back to A and E I like their tea" A and E make shite tea as you know. It’s best to rely on the support of others for a change instead of them relying on you all the time. We as humans are stubborn most of the time. And can’t see past what we are lost in. So we need affirmation that we are going to be ok ! If you want tea to make things better then fire away. But I find letting of steam and sharing the load works better. But hey what do I know. I’m just a cunt who wears frilly knickers and talks bollicks most of the time on here. This time I’m being serious !!! | |||
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