FabSwingers.com forum: Swingers vs None Swingers

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So, I would say I am definitely a none swinger. I have no desire to go to a club. I'm not looking at being in a swinging relationship and don't want to play with couples.

(FYI, looking for a regular FWB or a monogamous relationship, and that's about it)

So a question for swingers, should people like me be on here? It does it bother you that we are?

And also, who else is a none swinger?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So, I would say I am definitely a none swinger. I have no desire to go to a club. I'm not looking at being in a swinging relationship and don't want to play with couples.

(FYI, looking for a regular FWB or a monogamous relationship, and that's about it)

So a question for swingers, should people like me be on here? It does it bother you that we are?

And also, who else is a none swinger?"

So basically you’re using this as naked tinder?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

I’m a non swinger but I won’t be asking anyone if I should be here. I quite happily do my own thing in my own way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So, I would say I am definitely a none swinger. I have no desire to go to a club. I'm not looking at being in a swinging relationship and don't want to play with couples.

(FYI, looking for a regular FWB or a monogamous relationship, and that's about it)

So a question for swingers, should people like me be on here? It does it bother you that we are?

And also, who else is a none swinger?

So basically you’re using this as naked tinder?"

If you shouldn’t be on here neither should I!

I use it as I see fit.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We're non swingers. We're soft swing, I don't like receiving oral, neither of us will kiss casual partners passionately and a person's looks are important to us.

I think we should all be here if we want to, after all nobody has to meet us.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I’m a non swinger. Just looking for sex until i find love. Then i’ll be off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think everyone’s got there own reasons for being on here as the site has evolved..

Personally long term I’m looking for everything the OP has said he isn’t but until then I’m happy to hang around and see what goes

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So, I would say I am definitely a none swinger. I have no desire to go to a club. I'm not looking at being in a swinging relationship and don't want to play with couples.

(FYI, looking for a regular FWB or a monogamous relationship, and that's about it)

So a question for swingers, should people like me be on here? It does it bother you that we are?

And also, who else is a none swinger?

So basically you’re using this as naked tinder?"

Yes pretty much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swinger or non swinger, you bring a certain something to the site op so you should stay

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Swinger or non swinger, you bring a certain something to the site op so you should stay

Very nice of you to say

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

The swinging lifestyle has evolved quite alot over the years ,old school traditional swingers will say you shouldn't be here others will say crack on and do your own thing .. I class us (wife here also with solo profile and we have cpls profile) as swingers but we also meet separately with singles which some would say isn't swinging ..so I say crack on and do your thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So, I would say I am definitely a none swinger. I have no desire to go to a club. I'm not looking at being in a swinging relationship and don't want to play with couples.

(FYI, looking for a regular FWB or a monogamous relationship, and that's about it)

So a question for swingers, should people like me be on here? It does it bother you that we are?

And also, who else is a none swinger?"

Me. I could have written that. (Apart from the relationship bit). I’m often asked why am i on here. Why not? Found what I wanted a couple of times in the past. I think being totally honest in what you want is the key, it shouldn’t bother anyone. Surely they’d just move on, as most people probably do after reading my profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Non swinger here. Use this place between relationships. So when I’m single I’ll be here. When a special someone claims me I’ll be off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t know why we label it

I’m neither

It’s such an old fashioned term

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a swinger, I attend clubs with my wife and enjoy the social side of meeting people as much as the play part. I think everybody has a right to use the site and the scene as they see fit, and try to get what they want from it.

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

We definitely don’t class ourselves as swingers and most of the people who we are friends with don’t class themselves as swingers either.

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By *angOnBunnyCouple
over a year ago

Ipswich

We dislike the term swinger and do not class ourselves as such. What we like is sharing our sexual life with others. That may be laughing and joking in a bar, or having fun in a bed.

But it's when we feel in the right mood

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m a non swinger.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So, I would say I am definitely a none swinger. I have no desire to go to a club. I'm not looking at being in a swinging relationship and don't want to play with couples"

I haven't decided what I am yet. So far I've just used the site like you, however I am open to all of the above. Aspiring swinger?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We dislike the term swinger and do not class ourselves as such. What we like is sharing our sexual life with others. That may be laughing and joking in a bar, or having fun in a bed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't do labels, I am what I am and what I'm not doing is hurting anybody

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d say I AM one.

It doesn’t bother me that ‘non-swingers are here and don’t want to partake in it as a lifestyle (events/clubs etc) but it’s the ones that come on thinking it’s instashag and then start to complain about those of us ladies who aren’t interested in 1-2-1 meeting. Calling us ‘timewasters’ and ‘spoiling the site’ when they’ve been here a month. For example I get a lot of inboxes calling me ‘pathetic’ for organising my socials and ‘do I know it’s a sex site?) grrrrr!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m a non swinger. Just looking for sex until i find love. Then i’ll be off."
lol

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

"I’m a non swinger. Just looking for sex until i find love. Then i’ll be off.lol

What?!

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

"I’d say I AM one.

That was me btw.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

By that rationale I shouldn't be on here either. There are certain aspects of swinging I cannot get my head round or want to do at the moment. There are some parts that send me into a panic and have me questioning whether I'm not just cut out for swinging, but whether I'm suited to be in a relationship at all. My big thing is separate meets, just the thought frightens the absolute shit out of me, messages and flirting from single women who don't do couples meets and only want B have my head spinning and me feeling like I *should* be ok with it, I *should* feel differently, I'm *a rubbish girlfriend* coz I panic about it even though nothing has happened yet and B isn't wanting to meet alone yet. I feel like I'm letting him down and I'm not good enough coz I'm not cool with it and get in a mess over it.

Flirting, banter and messages from couples doesn't phase me in the slightest but when it's from singles who want to meet him and him want to get naked with them, well, I just feel like I'm in the way and a complete pain in the arse cock block even though he's not said so and has assured me I'm not, and that I'm the most important.

My thought process doesn't go down the "every couple is different and allowed to play by their own rules" path, which is ridiculous coz when it comes to other couples I'm so unbelievably understanding and wanting to learn their dynamic and full on respect it, yet when it's me, my brain argues with me, telling me I *should* feel a certain way and "I'm a fucking useless idiot, not good enough to be loved" because I don't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m a non swinger. Just looking for sex until i find love. Then i’ll be off.lol

What?!

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hey can we have sex on the altar

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

Ah who cares. We all get something from the site otherwise we wouldn't persevere.

If there is an elite swinging Fab task force I'd be out on my ear.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ah who cares. We all get something from the site otherwise we wouldn't persevere.

If there is an elite swinging Fab task force I'd be out on my ear."
naaaa youre part of the infabstructure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Long as everyone is happy I know where I stand who cares

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are non swinging i would say . As we are firmly in the Bdsm side of life , we dont have " sex " in a traditional sense . Thats not to say we wouldnt meet someone / couple if they can understand our dynamic . We just find it really difficult to find others whom have our same viewpoint ..However we are a very open minded couple , and would fight for the right , for everyone to do their own thing .

Surprising as it may seem , we met each other on this site , so we have an affection for it enormously so .

We are on the other site that is all about " fet " and enjoy it for what it is and what it stands for .It would seem though that " Bdsm " as an internet based medium , is in danger of disapearing up its own ass , due to its current self assesment .. We find this place perhaps a bit more forgiving , certainly more " fun " and slightly less protective of itself ..if that makes any sense ...It is Monday after all

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"By that rationale I shouldn't be on here either. There are certain aspects of swinging I cannot get my head round or want to do at the moment. There are some parts that send me into a panic and have me questioning whether I'm not just cut out for swinging, but whether I'm suited to be in a relationship at all. My big thing is separate meets, just the thought frightens the absolute shit out of me, messages and flirting from single women who don't do couples meets and only want B have my head spinning and me feeling like I *should* be ok with it, I *should* feel differently, I'm *a rubbish girlfriend* coz I panic about it even though nothing has happened yet and B isn't wanting to meet alone yet. I feel like I'm letting him down and I'm not good enough coz I'm not cool with it and get in a mess over it.

I hear you P and understand where you're coming from.

You know the score, you go at your pace and anybody who don't understand that, aren't worth meeting anyway.

Jo.Xx

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By *r laidbackMan
over a year ago

London & New Brighton

If your a non swinger thats kool as long as your not judgemental on those that are!!! this is a site for swingers and your coming into their world, so for whatever your reasons for coming here, being it to dip your toe into unknown waters or maybe looking for that person that can take step with you into a deeper sexual waters? Whever your thing is just understand that all fish swim in the ocean, the big with the small and if this oceans not for you then go look for a pond lol

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

"If your a non swinger thats kool as long as your not judgemental on those that are!!! "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fill your boots. You dont harm anyone, and those pursuing what they believe to be "swinging" to the letter, dont have to engage with you.

This site is for anyone and it's no one elses business how you use it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each to their own! No judging from me, just be clear about what you want so no one gets hurt. I met and fell for a guy that allegedly wanted the same things as me.. definitely didn’t. Couldn’t cope with my need for debauchery! O well. I just love talking to likeminded people. That’s why I won’t be disappearing for anyone

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

PoF I think you are fun to have around, so are welcome to stay

I am an infrequent swinger but I am happy for others to use the site in their own way.

The variety of different people makes the forum interesting

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"PoF I think you are fun to have around, so are welcome to stay

I am an infrequent swinger but I am happy for others to use the site in their own way.

The variety of different people makes the forum interesting

Oh you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not a swinger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Today nobody is Spartacus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're in a society where we have to label everything.

We are who we are all of us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This clarifies what I’ve been saying for a while now

It’s a hook up site

Fairly few swingers left

Hence such lack of respect

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By *B69Woman
over a year ago

Wiltshire

Im not a swinger, not sure what I would class myself as, but I’m happy here as I am

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to get annoyed by the non swingers tbh but it does not bother me anymore.

I figured this is just a sex site now and swingers and singles are part of that.

Me however, I am a swinger, I love clubs, I play with couples, and actively wanting a swinging partner...maybe more....but definitely not monogomy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to be more interested in the FWB thing aswell, rather than the swinging thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I heard people get laid on here so I joined

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So, I would say I am definitely a none swinger. I have no desire to go to a club. I'm not looking at being in a swinging relationship and don't want to play with couples.

(FYI, looking for a regular FWB or a monogamous relationship, and that's about it)

So a question for swingers, should people like me be on here? It does it bother you that we are?

And also, who else is a none swinger?"

In my view no. Same way swingers would probably be frowned upon on the likes of Match or Tinder.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Provided you're clear in your intentions and what you want, then go for it however it pleases you!

If it winds people up that you're not doing fab like they think you should, I'd regard that as a bonus!

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By *mberWoman
over a year ago

Preston

I don't want a label really.

I'm just doing my thing.

But I'm with you OP (Not literally or your issue would be solved)

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

No I’m not. My needs have changed over the years and I’m very clear on what I’m looking for at any given time. I love that people are here for a multitude of reasons. As long as people are open with each other it works well

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

"I heard people get laid on here so I joined

Do they

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally understand this, I (her) can feel like that sometimes too. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I heard people get laid on here so I joined

Do they

Apparently

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm definitely a swinger.

Each to their own.

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By *erdyWoman
over a year ago

wiltshire

"So, I would say I am definitely a none swinger. I have no desire to go to a club. I'm not looking at being in a swinging relationship and don't want to play with couples.

(FYI, looking for a regular FWB or a monogamous relationship, and that's about it)

So a question for swingers, should people like me be on here? It does it bother you that we are?

And also, who else is a none swinger?

So basically you’re using this as naked tinder?

If you shouldn’t be on here neither should I!

I use it as I see fit. "

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

"I heard people get laid on here so I joined

Do they

Apparently

Got some making up to do ..fancy helping me out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I heard people get laid on here so I joined

Do they

Apparently

Got some making up to do ..fancy helping me out

If only you ticked my boxes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So, I would say I am definitely a none swinger. I have no desire to go to a club. I'm not looking at being in a swinging relationship and don't want to play with couples.

(FYI, looking for a regular FWB or a monogamous relationship, and that's about it)

So a question for swingers, should people like me be on here? It does it bother you that we are?

And also, who else is a none swinger?"

I am not an elephant... or a swinger.

It’s my opinion that we have just as much right as any hardened swinger to be a part of the fabswingers website.

Especially as our presence here only enhances the overall experience of the other m_mbers.

Thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m a non swinger but I won’t be asking anyone if I should be here. I quite happily do my own thing in my own way

This for me too

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

I don't know if I'd be classed as a swinger or not, I don't care too much either, I'll just enjoy it, whatever I am

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By *iss ScherzzoWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"So, I would say I am definitely a none swinger. I have no desire to go to a club. I'm not looking at being in a swinging relationship and don't want to play with couples.

(FYI, looking for a regular FWB or a monogamous relationship, and that's about it)

So a question for swingers, should people like me be on here? It does it bother you that we are?

And also, who else is a none swinger?"

You’re hot so stay!!

However, how does one even define a swinger these days?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're definitely swingers, any excuse to go to a club on a weekend and we're there. We don't always play with others but love the lifestyle.

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

"I heard people get laid on here so I joined

Do they

Apparently

Got some making up to do ..fancy helping me out

If only you ticked my boxes

Story of my life

can't blame a man for trying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think pretty much every site, app, etc etc has now become a little of everything and in between.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I heard people get laid on here so I joined

Do they

Apparently

Got some making up to do ..fancy helping me out

If only you ticked my boxes

Story of my life

can't blame a man for trying

Don't blame ya

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By *odd4funnMan
over a year ago

Walthamstow Leyton

its a conundrum very rarely explained and thats the whole idea do we want an explanation ??

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

"So, I would say I am definitely a none swinger. I have no desire to go to a club. I'm not looking at being in a swinging relationship and don't want to play with couples.

(FYI, looking for a regular FWB or a monogamous relationship, and that's about it)

So a question for swingers, should people like me be on here? It does it bother you that we are?

And also, who else is a none swinger?"

Im guessing you find it hard to commit to someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So, I would say I am definitely a none swinger. I have no desire to go to a club. I'm not looking at being in a swinging relationship and don't want to play with couples.

(FYI, looking for a regular FWB or a monogamous relationship, and that's about it)

So a question for swingers, should people like me be on here? It does it bother you that we are?

And also, who else is a none swinger?

Im guessing you find it hard to commit to someone. "

He’s pretty committed to bullying me

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

"So, I would say I am definitely a none swinger. I have no desire to go to a club. I'm not looking at being in a swinging relationship and don't want to play with couples.

(FYI, looking for a regular FWB or a monogamous relationship, and that's about it)

So a question for swingers, should people like me be on here? It does it bother you that we are?

And also, who else is a none swinger?

Im guessing you find it hard to commit to someone.

He’s pretty committed to bullying me"

Probably angry he fancies you and you don't want to meet him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So, I would say I am definitely a none swinger. I have no desire to go to a club. I'm not looking at being in a swinging relationship and don't want to play with couples.

(FYI, looking for a regular FWB or a monogamous relationship, and that's about it)

So a question for swingers, should people like me be on here? It does it bother you that we are?

And also, who else is a none swinger?

Im guessing you find it hard to commit to someone.

He’s pretty committed to bullying me

Probably angry he fancies you and you don't want to meet him. "

I’m meeting him in May

(hopefully)

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

"So, I would say I am definitely a none swinger. I have no desire to go to a club. I'm not looking at being in a swinging relationship and don't want to play with couples.

(FYI, looking for a regular FWB or a monogamous relationship, and that's about it)

So a question for swingers, should people like me be on here? It does it bother you that we are?

And also, who else is a none swinger?

Im guessing you find it hard to commit to someone.

He’s pretty committed to bullying me

Probably angry he fancies you and you don't want to meet him.

I’m meeting him in May

(hopefully)"

So he's looking for a regular fwb, and not interested in couples but he's meeting you.... well, something smells like BS.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So, I would say I am definitely a none swinger. I have no desire to go to a club. I'm not looking at being in a swinging relationship and don't want to play with couples.

(FYI, looking for a regular FWB or a monogamous relationship, and that's about it)

So a question for swingers, should people like me be on here? It does it bother you that we are?

And also, who else is a none swinger?

Im guessing you find it hard to commit to someone.

He’s pretty committed to bullying me

Probably angry he fancies you and you don't want to meet him.

I’m meeting him in May

(hopefully)

So he's looking for a regular fwb, and not interested in couples but he's meeting you.... well, something smells like BS."

Oooooor it smells like friends meeting for food

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"So, I would say I am definitely a none swinger. I have no desire to go to a club. I'm not looking at being in a swinging relationship and don't want to play with couples.

(FYI, looking for a regular FWB or a monogamous relationship, and that's about it)

So a question for swingers, should people like me be on here? It does it bother you that we are?

And also, who else is a none swinger?

Im guessing you find it hard to commit to someone.

He’s pretty committed to bullying me

Probably angry he fancies you and you don't want to meet him.

I’m meeting him in May

(hopefully)

So he's looking for a regular fwb, and not interested in couples but he's meeting you.... well, something smells like BS."

Clem take your head from up your arse and the smell should improve dramatically

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Over the years I've heard many say singles can never be swingers, largely based on some old world nostalgic opinion that swinging is only for couples. Fuck that. That's simply wife swapping. Swinging is a broad definition that means whatever you want it to. So yes OP - you have as much right to be here as any.

There are no rules as far as I know that determine who is and who isn't a swinger, what they must do and when they cease to be a swinger even if not active.

Crack on.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

"So, I would say I am definitely a none swinger. I have no desire to go to a club. I'm not looking at being in a swinging relationship and don't want to play with couples.

(FYI, looking for a regular FWB or a monogamous relationship, and that's about it)

So a question for swingers, should people like me be on here? It does it bother you that we are?

And also, who else is a none swinger?

Im guessing you find it hard to commit to someone.

He’s pretty committed to bullying me

Probably angry he fancies you and you don't want to meet him.

I’m meeting him in May

(hopefully)

So he's looking for a regular fwb, and not interested in couples but he's meeting you.... well, something smells like BS.

Oooooor it smells like friends meeting for food

As long as it doesn't end up smelling of cooked rabbit, you'll be fine...

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

I’m not a swinger. I think there’s a place for everyone on Fab. The term swinger reaches far and wide so I’ve discovered. I like the diversity. I was looking for NSA regular meets and ended up in a relationship. I haven’t met since and I have no desire to because I’m not a swinger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve had food with PoF before. He was working down here and we went to Harvester, no fuckery just as friends.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

"I’m not a swinger. I think there’s a place for everyone on Fab. The term swinger reaches far and wide so I’ve discovered. I like the diversity. I was looking for NSA regular meets and ended up in a relationship. I haven’t met since and I have no desire to because I’m not a swinger

You're in good company.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So, I would say I am definitely a none swinger. I have no desire to go to a club. I'm not looking at being in a swinging relationship and don't want to play with couples.

(FYI, looking for a regular FWB or a monogamous relationship, and that's about it)

So a question for swingers, should people like me be on here? It does it bother you that we are?

And also, who else is a none swinger?

Im guessing you find it hard to commit to someone. "

I dont find it hard to commit at all. Just dont want to at this point in my life

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So, I would say I am definitely a none swinger. I have no desire to go to a club. I'm not looking at being in a swinging relationship and don't want to play with couples.

(FYI, looking for a regular FWB or a monogamous relationship, and that's about it)

So a question for swingers, should people like me be on here? It does it bother you that we are?

And also, who else is a none swinger?

Im guessing you find it hard to commit to someone.

He’s pretty committed to bullying me

Probably angry he fancies you and you don't want to meet him.

I’m meeting him in May

(hopefully)

So he's looking for a regular fwb, and not interested in couples but he's meeting you.... well, something smells like BS."

Probably your opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So, I would say I am definitely a none swinger. I have no desire to go to a club. I'm not looking at being in a swinging relationship and don't want to play with couples.

(FYI, looking for a regular FWB or a monogamous relationship, and that's about it)

So a question for swingers, should people like me be on here? It does it bother you that we are?

And also, who else is a none swinger?

Im guessing you find it hard to commit to someone.

He’s pretty committed to bullying me

Probably angry he fancies you and you don't want to meet him.

I’m meeting him in May

(hopefully)

So he's looking for a regular fwb, and not interested in couples but he's meeting you.... well, something smells like BS.

Probably your opinion "

I thought that said onion

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So, I would say I am definitely a none swinger. I have no desire to go to a club. I'm not looking at being in a swinging relationship and don't want to play with couples.

(FYI, looking for a regular FWB or a monogamous relationship, and that's about it)

So a question for swingers, should people like me be on here? It does it bother you that we are?

And also, who else is a none swinger?

You’re hot so stay!!

However, how does one even define a swinger these days?"

Why do people assume I'm leaving

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP please don’t leave

I need the attention

Even if it’s negative attention

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So, I would say I am definitely a none swinger. I have no desire to go to a club. I'm not looking at being in a swinging relationship and don't want to play with couples.

(FYI, looking for a regular FWB or a monogamous relationship, and that's about it)

So a question for swingers, should people like me be on here? It does it bother you that we are?

And also, who else is a none swinger?

Im guessing you find it hard to commit to someone.

He’s pretty committed to bullying me

Probably angry he fancies you and you don't want to meet him.

I’m meeting him in May

(hopefully)

So he's looking for a regular fwb, and not interested in couples but he's meeting you.... well, something smells like BS.

Probably your opinion

I thought that said onion "

I can't comment on the condition of his onions

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"OP please don’t leave

I need the attention

Even if it’s negative attention "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’ve had food with PoF before. He was working down here and we went to Harvester, no fuckery just as friends. "

Yup, friendzoned!

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"So, I would say I am definitely a none swinger. I have no desire to go to a club. I'm not looking at being in a swinging relationship and don't want to play with couples.

(FYI, looking for a regular FWB or a monogamous relationship, and that's about it)

So a question for swingers, should people like me be on here? It does it bother you that we are?

And also, who else is a none swinger?

You’re hot so stay!!

However, how does one even define a swinger these days?

Why do people assume I'm leaving

Because you’re like a yo-yo

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over a year ago

"I’ve had food with PoF before. He was working down here and we went to Harvester, no fuckery just as friends.

Yup, friendzoned!"

You’re a good friend though. I appreciate you and your advice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So, I would say I am definitely a none swinger. I have no desire to go to a club. I'm not looking at being in a swinging relationship and don't want to play with couples.

(FYI, looking for a regular FWB or a monogamous relationship, and that's about it)

So a question for swingers, should people like me be on here? It does it bother you that we are?

And also, who else is a none swinger?

You’re hot so stay!!

However, how does one even define a swinger these days?

Why do people assume I'm leaving

Because you’re like a yo-yo

Speaking of yo-yos

Where’s lord of orgasms? I go on a wee break and he ain’t here no more

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So, I would say I am definitely a none swinger. I have no desire to go to a club. I'm not looking at being in a swinging relationship and don't want to play with couples.

(FYI, looking for a regular FWB or a monogamous relationship, and that's about it)

So a question for swingers, should people like me be on here? It does it bother you that we are?

And also, who else is a none swinger?

You’re hot so stay!!

However, how does one even define a swinger these days?

Why do people assume I'm leaving

Because you’re like a yo-yo

Speaking of yo-yos

Where’s lord of orgasms? I go on a wee break and he ain’t here no more"

Hes taking a permanent sabbatical

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’ve had food with PoF before. He was working down here and we went to Harvester, no fuckery just as friends.

Yup, friendzoned!

You’re a good friend though. I appreciate you and your advice. "

You're a sweetheart

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"So, I would say I am definitely a none swinger. I have no desire to go to a club. I'm not looking at being in a swinging relationship and don't want to play with couples.

(FYI, looking for a regular FWB or a monogamous relationship, and that's about it)

So a question for swingers, should people like me be on here? It does it bother you that we are?

And also, who else is a none swinger?

You’re hot so stay!!

However, how does one even define a swinger these days?

Why do people assume I'm leaving

Because you’re like a yo-yo

Speaking of yo-yos

Where’s lord of orgasms? I go on a wee break and he ain’t here no more"

Getting his tinky winky wet?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im not a swinger. I wrote this on my profile when I first joined fab and some people were like "why are you here then?"

I've seen some threads defining swinging as a couples thing.

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By *reedy_for_funCouple
over a year ago

My House

I dunno, I think the clue is in the name of the site: FABSWINGERS.

It's not fabsingles, it's not fabfriends, it's not fabslookingforapartner etc

If you're not a swinger may I suggest PoF or something similar?

Surprisingly, this is a site designed primarily for people who like to meet people with a view to have sex with them. As a happy side consequence, people find friends, partners etc but it's NOT the purpose of this site is it? The purpose is for people to meet people who share the same desire to fuck, regardless of gender, preferences etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve had food with PoF before. He was working down here and we went to Harvester, no fuckery just as friends.

Yup, friendzoned!

You’re a good friend though. I appreciate you and your advice.

You're a sweetheart

you too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dunno, I think the clue is in the name of the site: FABSWINGERS.

It's not fabsingles, it's not fabfriends, it's not fabslookingforapartner etc

If you're not a swinger may I suggest PoF or something similar?

I can’t tell if you’re serious or not

I thought you were right up until the last sentence.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dunno, I think the clue is in the name of the site: FABSWINGERS.

It's not fabsingles, it's not fabfriends, it's not fabslookingforapartner etc

If you're not a swinger may I suggest PoF or something similar?

Says you’re looking for singles though so why shouldn’t single people be here?

IF I was in a relationship then I could probably have cold sex for the thrill and the sake of it but as I’m not at the moment I like to at least have a bit of a connection to someone before I can shag them. That being said I don’t understand the whole having a loving relationship yet needing to shag extra people, whenever I’ve been in a relationship I’ve never thought hmm what would make this better, I know both of us going out and shagging other people.

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over a year ago

"I dunno, I think the clue is in the name of the site: FABSWINGERS.

It's not fabsingles, it's not fabfriends, it's not fabslookingforapartner etc

If you're not a swinger may I suggest PoF or something similar?

Says you’re looking for singles though so why shouldn’t single people be here?

I’ve never understood that either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dunno, I think the clue is in the name of the site: FABSWINGERS.

It's not fabsingles, it's not fabfriends, it's not fabslookingforapartner etc

If you're not a swinger may I suggest PoF or something similar?

Strange that as I’ve spoken to more none swingers than swingers on this site. More by far!

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"So, I would say I am definitely a none swinger. I have no desire to go to a club. I'm not looking at being in a swinging relationship and don't want to play with couples.

(FYI, looking for a regular FWB or a monogamous relationship, and that's about it)

So a question for swingers, should people like me be on here? It does it bother you that we are?

And also, who else is a none swinger?

You’re hot so stay!!

However, how does one even define a swinger these days?

Why do people assume I'm leaving

Because you’re like a yo-yo

More like the Hokey Cokey...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But I don't want to go on PoF to get laid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can single people not be swingers?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So, I would say I am definitely a none swinger. I have no desire to go to a club. I'm not looking at being in a swinging relationship and don't want to play with couples.

(FYI, looking for a regular FWB or a monogamous relationship, and that's about it)

So a question for swingers, should people like me be on here? It does it bother you that we are?

And also, who else is a none swinger?"

I swing so that’s why I’m here

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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

We are swingers, definitely swingers. We do occasionally meet singles

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I dunno, I think the clue is in the name of the site: FABSWINGERS.

It's not fabsingles, it's not fabfriends, it's not fabslookingforapartner etc

If you're not a swinger may I suggest PoF or something similar?

So as a swinger, would you rather people like me arent on here

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

"I dunno, I think the clue is in the name of the site: FABSWINGERS.

It's not fabsingles, it's not fabfriends, it's not fabslookingforapartner etc

If you're not a swinger may I suggest PoF or something similar?

Says you’re looking for singles though so why shouldn’t single people be here?

It's not needing to shag other people. It's exploring together

Mrs TMN x

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

"So, I would say I am definitely a none swinger. I have no desire to go to a club. I'm not looking at being in a swinging relationship and don't want to play with couples.

(FYI, looking for a regular FWB or a monogamous relationship, and that's about it)

So a question for swingers, should people like me be on here? It does it bother you that we are?

And also, who else is a none swinger?"

Doesn't bother us, and why should it? Everyone, even self-professed swingers, uses fab in their own way. It makes absolutely no odds to us

Mrs TMN x

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

"So, I would say I am definitely a none swinger. I have no desire to go to a club. I'm not looking at being in a swinging relationship and don't want to play with couples.

(FYI, looking for a regular FWB or a monogamous relationship, and that's about it)

So a question for swingers, should people like me be on here? It does it bother you that we are?

And also, who else is a none swinger?"

Doesn't bother us, and why should it? Everyone, even self-professed swingers, uses fab in their own way. It makes absolutely no odds to us

Mrs TMN x

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By *reedy_for_funCouple
over a year ago

My House

"I like to at least have a bit of a connection to someone before I can shag them. "

So do we. Who said anything about having cold, mechanical sex?

"That being said I don’t understand the whole having a loving relationship yet needing to shag extra people, whenever I’ve been in a relationship I’ve never thought hmm what would make this better, I know both of us going out and shagging other people. "

Then you really don't understand this site, the ethos of this site, the purpose of this site. Your pics would find just as much fandom of PoF where you stand a better chance of finding a loving relationship than fabs.

We have a very good sex life with ourselves, we are in very loving relationship, we've been together 26 years and have NEVER had an argument. However, even as a loving couple, we appreciate that we both can fancy other people, find them attractive etc but because we trust each other, because we understand each other, because we love each other we respect that desire for others. We don't want a relationship with them and because we're swingers we don't need to hide that desire or have affairs to realise or express that desire etc. We simply go out, find people we fancy and who fancy us, have sex with them and sate that desire. It's made us stronger, more trusting, more open as a couple.

And yes, we also look for singles and are very happy about it. Sometimes just one cock isn't enough

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over a year ago

I use this site when I’m single so I can properly date guys in the real world without diving into bed with them. I’m not naive to think I’ll find love on this site. I know guys only want sex and would never see me as girlfriend material because I’m on what is essentially a sex site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am a non swinger, im here soley to have BDSM fun with Dominant men. I have more luck here then a proper BDSM site im also on x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like to at least have a bit of a connection to someone before I can shag them.

So do we. Who said anything about having cold, mechanical sex?

That being said I don’t understand the whole having a loving relationship yet needing to shag extra people, whenever I’ve been in a relationship I’ve never thought hmm what would make this better, I know both of us going out and shagging other people.

And yes, we also look for singles and are very happy about it. Sometimes just one cock isn't enough

Sex and relationships can and in my opinion should be separate.. everyone has desires. It’s naive to think you’ll never want anyone else. Embracing that as a couple and having a boss ass relationship, (with agreed) boundaries but lots of open conversation around sex with others - that’s hot. What I’m hoping for someday. Good for you guys xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like to at least have a bit of a connection to someone before I can shag them.

So do we. Who said anything about having cold, mechanical sex?

And yes, we also look for singles and are very happy about it. Sometimes just one cock isn't enough

Do you always meet together?

You've been together 26 years, congrats, how long did it take for you to reach this place in your relationship?

I know I'm putting pressure on myself to be cool with things that I'm not, to be "the perfect partner"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont class myself as a swinger as im very perticular about who and why i want to meet.

Hence why i dont have sexual pictures and i certainly have no interest in seeing others naked pictures as it does nothing for me and isnt who i am.

Im not looking for commitment and i feel safe no one is likely to get strong feelings involved on here. I do enjoy far more than vanilla sex too and thats easily found on here.

Its hard to find someone who fits what im looking for but when i have it was worth it.

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over a year ago

"I like to at least have a bit of a connection to someone before I can shag them.

So do we. Who said anything about having cold, mechanical sex?

And yes, we also look for singles and are very happy about it. Sometimes just one cock isn't enough

It is naive to think others dont want to stay loyal to one person just because you dont. We are all different and if i fell in love, i would have no interest in anyone else. But im not just going to fall in love with just anyone cos i feel i have to be in a relationship like many, they would have to satisfy me fully and me them.

Rather be single forever than with the wrong person

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over a year ago

"I like to at least have a bit of a connection to someone before I can shag them.

So do we. Who said anything about having cold, mechanical sex?

And yes, we also look for singles and are very happy about it. Sometimes just one cock isn't enough

They do understand the concept of the site theyre just saying its not their thing.

The site can be used for whatever reason someone wants, theres no rules saying you must do this or that

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

If you suck my cock you can call me whatever you like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you suck my cock you can call me whatever you like. "

Hello Jeff

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I like to at least have a bit of a connection to someone before I can shag them.

So do we. Who said anything about having cold, mechanical sex?

And yes, we also look for singles and are very happy about it. Sometimes just one cock isn't enough

Do you always meet together?

You've been together 26 years, congrats, how long did it take for you to reach this place in your relationship?

I know I'm putting pressure on myself to be cool with things that I'm not, to be "the perfect partner"

You're perfect how you are

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over a year ago

"I like to at least have a bit of a connection to someone before I can shag them.

So do we. Who said anything about having cold, mechanical sex?

And yes, we also look for singles and are very happy about it. Sometimes just one cock isn't enough

They do understand the concept of the site theyre just saying its not their thing.

The site can be used for whatever reason someone wants, theres no rules saying you must do this or that"

There may not be any "rules" but the clue is in the title as to the main purpose of this site. Why come on a swingers site then post that you do not agree with swinging lol

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