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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Looking through this site and by obviously being a man I know men and have witnessed the “predator” type desperate pushy type. I have a kinky mind but I can genuinely say I’ve never put the pressure on. Sometimes I’m too far the other way people think I’m not into them. So my question is. Do woman ever display this behaviour or is it just in a mans nature ? Sub question do woman have as many sexual thoughts as men ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The usual fab answer OP

Some do, some don't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ahhh

See I like to know the person is interested.

There’s a line between pushy and interested though, it also depends on if you’ve met them before too.

I have had men see me online and then send mail after mail if I’ve not responded.

Honesty is the key - if you’re into someone, tell them. If you’re not - tell them.

That way I reckon half the pushy ones wouldn’t be so inclined to badger.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

That’s a good point to come from. Honesty is the best policy. Pushy is never attractive


"Ahhh

See I like to know the person is interested.

There’s a line between pushy and interested though, it also depends on if you’ve met them before too.

I have had men see me online and then send mail after mail if I’ve not responded.

Honesty is the key - if you’re into someone, tell them. If you’re not - tell them.

That way I reckon half the pushy ones wouldn’t be so inclined to badger. "

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

This question is too heavy for a Monday morning.

I'm going to lock my office door, close the blinds & perv on the Tunnocks website instead.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That’s a good point to come from. Honesty is the best policy. Pushy is never attractive

Ahhh

See I like to know the person is interested.

There’s a line between pushy and interested though, it also depends on if you’ve met them before too.

I have had men see me online and then send mail after mail if I’ve not responded.

Honesty is the key - if you’re into someone, tell them. If you’re not - tell them.

That way I reckon half the pushy ones wouldn’t be so inclined to badger. "

I’ve been guilty in the past to not tell the person I’m actually not interested .... I’m actually replying to my backlog of messages today with a polite no thank you.

Honesty is paramount

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looking through this site and by obviously being a man I know men and have witnessed the “predator” type desperate pushy type. I have a kinky mind but I can genuinely say I’ve never put the pressure on. Sometimes I’m too far the other way people think I’m not into them. So my question is. Do woman ever display this behaviour or is it just in a mans nature ? Sub question do woman have as many sexual thoughts as men ? "

Yeah my recent experience of trying a guy from the real world (a random Facebook add) not fab related. Was some general chit chat and pleasantries. Exchanged numbers. Dude said he’d take me out for food and drinks or whatever.

I sent him an unsolicited picture of my boobs, he was like wow blah blah blah. Conversation shifted he was sending pics of himself. I sent more. Chat was sexual instigated by myself, bare in mind I’ve not had sex since 7/12/19 so I’m erotically charged. He did big himself up an awful lot, reckoned he would be the best fuck I’ve ever had in my life, said he’d make me cum over and over and many more claims. Came to the day we were supposed to meet and he didn’t show up.

Now I personally think I came on too strong, to a non fab guy a woman who offers herself on a plate is not appealing, like anything worth having is not going to be easy kind of thing. I know this. But what these guys don’t realise is that I’m extremely fussy, like extremely fussy, I’d rather go a year without sex (and have done) rather than sleep with any random so if I want sex with you I’m going in hard.

I’m so fucking horny at the moment, supposed to be meeting a guy Friday and if I’m honest I wanna be fucked so hard that when they pull him out of me he’ll be crowned the next king of England. (He’s English you see!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive never had a woman put pressure on me to get into bed, I'm easily turned on anyway so I imagine if I did she wouldnt have a great deal of coercing to do lol I am guilty or trying to keep the conversation smutty in the past when I've been talking to a potential meet and its been eating the leg me but I would never dream of pressuring someone though or trying to talk them into something they aren't ready for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looking through this site and by obviously being a man I know men and have witnessed the “predator” type desperate pushy type. I have a kinky mind but I can genuinely say I’ve never put the pressure on. Sometimes I’m too far the other way people think I’m not into them. So my question is. Do woman ever display this behaviour or is it just in a mans nature ? Sub question do woman have as many sexual thoughts as men ?

Yeah my recent experience of trying a guy from the real world (a random Facebook add) not fab related. Was some general chit chat and pleasantries. Exchanged numbers. Dude said he’d take me out for food and drinks or whatever.

I sent him an unsolicited picture of my boobs, he was like wow blah blah blah. Conversation shifted he was sending pics of himself. I sent more. Chat was sexual instigated by myself, bare in mind I’ve not had sex since 7/12/19 so I’m erotically charged. He did big himself up an awful lot, reckoned he would be the best fuck I’ve ever had in my life, said he’d make me cum over and over and many more claims. Came to the day we were supposed to meet and he didn’t show up.

Now I personally think I came on too strong, to a non fab guy a woman who offers herself on a plate is not appealing, like anything worth having is not going to be easy kind of thing. I know this. But what these guys don’t realise is that I’m extremely fussy, like extremely fussy, I’d rather go a year without sex (and have done) rather than sleep with any random so if I want sex with you I’m going in hard.

I’m so fucking horny at the moment, supposed to be meeting a guy Friday and if I’m honest I wanna be fucked so hard that when they pull him out of me he’ll be crowned the next king of England. (He’s English you see!) "

Long live the king

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Looking through this site and by obviously being a man I know men and have witnessed the “predator” type desperate pushy type. I have a kinky mind but I can genuinely say I’ve never put the pressure on. Sometimes I’m too far the other way people think I’m not into them. So my question is. Do woman ever display this behaviour or is it just in a mans nature ? Sub question do woman have as many sexual thoughts as men ? "

Predator, desperate pushy types? There are a few but fewer than you'd think, it's just that they tend to stick in women's minds.

I have seen women display that behaviour and a lot of men say they like a sexually confident woman who knows what she wants and how to get it.

Does it ever work?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think to the majority of men a woman that’s very sexually forward can be off putting. They might ‘think’ they’d want that but if something seems to easy it can take the shine off it? It’s a fine line and quite hard to balance.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"The usual fab answer OP

Some do, some don't "

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

?

I can be very forward, and I've found that it can intimidate some men, while others like it... it's all part of the game, and knowing your adversary and which approach to use is key.

The other way round, and it very much depends on the person and the manner in which the behaviour is displayed as to how receptive I am to it.

In answer to your OP, there's no one size fits all solution...some people like it, some don't, and other people like it from some people but not others.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Oh of course the desperate type isn’t ever attractive. I think if you’ve been chatting for a while that’s a bit different to someone just steam rolling in the first message.

I hope you get absolutely ruined on Friday. Left a quivering wet mess


"Looking through this site and by obviously being a man I know men and have witnessed the “predator” type desperate pushy type. I have a kinky mind but I can genuinely say I’ve never put the pressure on. Sometimes I’m too far the other way people think I’m not into them. So my question is. Do woman ever display this behaviour or is it just in a mans nature ? Sub question do woman have as many sexual thoughts as men ?

Yeah my recent experience of trying a guy from the real world (a random Facebook add) not fab related. Was some general chit chat and pleasantries. Exchanged numbers. Dude said he’d take me out for food and drinks or whatever.

I sent him an unsolicited picture of my boobs, he was like wow blah blah blah. Conversation shifted he was sending pics of himself. I sent more. Chat was sexual instigated by myself, bare in mind I’ve not had sex since 7/12/19 so I’m erotically charged. He did big himself up an awful lot, reckoned he would be the best fuck I’ve ever had in my life, said he’d make me cum over and over and many more claims. Came to the day we were supposed to meet and he didn’t show up.

Now I personally think I came on too strong, to a non fab guy a woman who offers herself on a plate is not appealing, like anything worth having is not going to be easy kind of thing. I know this. But what these guys don’t realise is that I’m extremely fussy, like extremely fussy, I’d rather go a year without sex (and have done) rather than sleep with any random so if I want sex with you I’m going in hard.

I’m so fucking horny at the moment, supposed to be meeting a guy Friday and if I’m honest I wanna be fucked so hard that when they pull him out of me he’ll be crowned the next king of England. (He’s English you see!) "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I’ve definitely said I want a dominant woman in the past that knows what she wants. It can be intimidating but I think that’s because I’m dominant and not used to it. But I did enjoy it knowing that what I was doing was what she directly wanted was hot. But I can see how that could be a turn off for either men or woman. Especially the really vanilla kind.


"Looking through this site and by obviously being a man I know men and have witnessed the “predator” type desperate pushy type. I have a kinky mind but I can genuinely say I’ve never put the pressure on. Sometimes I’m too far the other way people think I’m not into them. So my question is. Do woman ever display this behaviour or is it just in a mans nature ? Sub question do woman have as many sexual thoughts as men ?

Predator, desperate pushy types? There are a few but fewer than you'd think, it's just that they tend to stick in women's minds.

I have seen women display that behaviour and a lot of men say they like a sexually confident woman who knows what she wants and how to get it.

Does it ever work?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh of course the desperate type isn’t ever attractive. I think if you’ve been chatting for a while that’s a bit different to someone just steam rolling in the first message.

I hope you get absolutely ruined on Friday. Left a quivering wet mess "

Me too

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By *eastAndTheHarlotCouple
over a year ago

Hartlepool

I (female) have just as many, if not more sexual thoughts than the average guy.

I'm not pushy but I can be pretty blunt at times. Im never crass though, I hate that.

We've had some women being very forward with us and a few women being very pushy to meet beast. It's extremely off putting to be pushy no matter the gender.

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