FabSwingers.com forum: One word answers

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Is it likely that I’m being set up, when an (arranged meet arranged for later in the week) is online and when I try to chat, I only get one word answers? Or am I being too needy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

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By *ersnickety PantsWoman
over a year ago

Club Meets Only

I wouldn't say you're being needy, I'd be thinking that it seems like more of a lack of interest from the other party maybe?

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

I would take it that they weren't interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes"

Depends on if it was their messaging style right from the start?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Cheers. So likely I’m getting stood up?

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By *epsonWoman
over a year ago

Biddulph

I wouldn't meet anyone I couldn't converse with. If they haven't got the time or inclination to interact effectively with me, there is no point in meeting.

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

Ask to chat somewhere else - KIK, WhatsApp etc.

One word answers would certainly give me the impression she's no longer interested.

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

"Cheers. So likely I’m getting stood up?"

We eould say prepare yourself for that. Why not ask them if they are still interested as you feel the lack of conversation is concerning to you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes

Depends on if it was their messaging style right from the start?"

I would agree with this! If she is different now that you arranged to how she was before than maybe.

I know personally speaking that it's hard to keep my interest but if I say I will meet then I will meet. But I don't like small talk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends on what you’re messaging to her.

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By *entralscotscpl7Couple
over a year ago

Falkirk

Not necessarily however one word answers a way of skirting round giving a properly explained answer.

If someone doesn't put effort into answering your messages they won't put any effort into meeting you.

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By *r_Jake70Man
over a year ago

London

Monosyllabic messages would just make me loose interest, regardless of how ‘hot’ she was. It’s also an possible indication that she’s messaging multiple guys, and hasn’t the time or the inclination to engage with you properly. However, it may just be that this is her style. Instant messaging can certainly head towards a lack of erudition, especially if you’re busy with other stuff. I’d probably ask for a more consistently considered response and see how she reacts.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Don’t want to scare them off by being too pushy for chat. I’m not being clingy but think a wee chat will make the session flow easier, if it happens.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I have a meet arranged for Saturday. He’s not getting much convo from me at the moment because once i’ve arranged stuff i like to play it cool. No bigging things up - that’s how dissapointment occurs.

Just see how it goes. Don’t get too invested. If you hear nothing the day before/the day of the meet and they don’t reply to a reach out, leave it and move on.

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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

I never say much in messages on here however on the phone or in person I can talk for england lol

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"I have a meet arranged for Saturday. He’s not getting much convo from me at the moment because once i’ve arranged stuff i like to play it cool. No bigging things up - that’s how dissapointment occurs.

Just see how it goes. Don’t get too invested. If you hear nothing the day before/the day of the meet and they don’t reply to a reach out, leave it and move on."

Sounds like I better stop messaging you then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes"

This made me laugh more than it should have

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Just see how it goes. Don’t get too invested. If you hear nothing the day before/the day of the meet and they don’t reply to a reach out, leave it and move on.

Sounds like I better stop messaging you then.

I can multi task

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By *X Mr Kipling XxMan
over a year ago

Norwich

"I never say much in messages on here however on the phone or in person I can talk for england lol "

It's rude to talk with a mouthful

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Just see how it goes. Don’t get too invested. If you hear nothing the day before/the day of the meet and they don’t reply to a reach out, leave it and move on.

Sounds like I better stop messaging you then.

I can multi task

I wouldn't want to be a dissapointment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah one word answers or worse just an emoji are pretty good sings someone’s not interested. Like how are you supposed to reply to a

. That’s how to shut shit down.

I’ve never done it. I’ve sent huge paragraphs to people I’m not interested in just to explain why I’m not interested and make sure they have no false hope or shit like that.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Just see how it goes. Don’t get too invested. If you hear nothing the day before/the day of the meet and they don’t reply to a reach out, leave it and move on.

Sounds like I better stop messaging you then.

I can multi task

I wouldn't want to be a dissapointment

I’m sure if we met that you wouldn’t be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One word or very short replies I usually take as disinterest and move along

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Cheers. Let see what happens on ‘’meet day’ eh?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They could be shit at writing though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One word or very short replies I usually take as disinterest and move along "

O butt you free one day this week around lunch time to go to Eiras for a breakfast? Need to take my car to be valeted down the Ferry.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Just see how it goes. Don’t get too invested. If you hear nothing the day before/the day of the meet and they don’t reply to a reach out, leave it and move on.

Sounds like I better stop messaging you then.

I can multi task

I wouldn't want to be a dissapointment

I’m sure if we met that you wouldn’t be

You smooth talker xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m of the mind set that conversation is two way

There’s too much “ put some effort in guys “ crap going on and it’s all one way

Mutual..... that’s the way forward for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't think a one word answer means your going to be stood up may mean they are not interested in the conversation or your not engaging enough for them to give you full answers maybe ask them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can’t really message someone who doesn’t seem arsed anyway, and ask them why they aren’t putting effort into their messages. Well you can but it will make them think oh fucking hell here we go. I’m really understanding more than your average person but even I don’t like to be questioned and asked shit or nagged.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You can’t really message someone who doesn’t seem arsed anyway, and ask them why they aren’t putting effort into their messages. Well you can but it will make them think oh fucking hell here we go. I’m really understanding more than your average person but even I don’t like to be questioned and asked shit or nagged. "

That's fair enough I can understand that just thought it might be an idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just see how it goes. Don’t get too invested. If you hear nothing the day before/the day of the meet and they don’t reply to a reach out, leave it and move on."

I’ve taken this approach recently after some early new year disappointment

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

But it doesn’t necessarily reflect that it’s you or a lack of interest. I have mental health issues and i’m an introvert. I find endless chit chat exhausting and it wears you down. If i plan something and its a done deal, don’t keep harping on about it.

There’s a fine line between “keeping in touch” to becoming a pestering pain in the arse.

We are all different.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

I'll try not to nag you then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But it doesn’t necessarily reflect that it’s you or a lack of interest. I have mental health issues and i’m an introvert. I find endless chit chat exhausting and it wears you down. If i plan something and its a done deal, don’t keep harping on about it.

There’s a fine line between “keeping in touch” to becoming a pestering pain in the arse.

We are all different."

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

There’s a fine line between “keeping in touch” to becoming a pestering pain in the arse.

We are all different."

I hate feeling like I'm a pest. I end up stop messaging because of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There’s a fine line between “keeping in touch” to becoming a pestering pain in the arse.

We are all different."

Are you a February baby, just want to know if you’re an Aquarian or if you know if you have a rising Aquarius moon or sun in your chart?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

There’s a fine line between “keeping in touch” to becoming a pestering pain in the arse.

We are all different."

This is what I’m hoping it is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same!!

Guys don't understand as well that ladies on here receiving hundreds of messages from men sometimes demanding our attention, chatting is sometimes more demanding than a pleasure unfortunately.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

There’s a fine line between “keeping in touch” to becoming a pestering pain in the arse.

We are all different."

Agree with this

If I wanted a Pen Pal I'd have a look in the back pages of The Peoples Friend.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Same!!

Guys don't understand as well that ladies on here receiving hundreds of messages from men sometimes demanding our attention, chatting is sometimes more demanding than a pleasure unfortunately."

Oops. I'll stop messaging you now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One word or very short replies I usually take as disinterest and move along

O butt you free one day this week around lunch time to go to Eiras for a breakfast? Need to take my car to be valeted down the Ferry. "

I am yes, I need to get mine cleaned before I sell it so may have mine done at the same time!

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By *B69Woman
over a year ago

Wiltshire

I’m guilty of not having long paragraph conversations, I’m just not good at it but I hope the phone conversations I have make up for it and keep their interest

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

I don’t think you’re being needy. Actions speak louder than words and whilst I don’t need paragraphs if I feel that it is a one sided conversation then I wouldn’t continue to contact them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't really win though, there was a forum post the other day about women who 'whinge whinge whinge' when they get just fancy a fuck messages, as it's not pof or e-harmony. Loads of men agreed about that. But when women don't engage much because of the level of interaction we are used to such as fancy a fuck messages is all we get it's hard to keep a conversation like that going

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By *r laidbackMan
over a year ago

London & New Brighton

Sir i believe in real chat, so im just going to say it and i mean this with no disrespect to you but MOST, almost ALL profiles i read say 'ive seen a cock' 'no cock pictures, will be deleted' and so on, come on you know thats true!

The women i have been in contact have shown me just how many guys message them saying the same talk showing them pictures of their dick like thats going to set them apart.... if this person is given you one word answers it might be because they have heard it and seen it all before... your profile picture is your dick

you have to assume your not the only man shes talking too and maybe there getting her attention, i know this might sound deep and shit seeing as this is a swingers site but try asking her open questions, questions where one worded answers cant be given , if she does not engage in conversation them you have to come to the conclusion that their really not that into you and move on, plus and this is just my opinion here, i dont think having a cock as your profile picture really helps, be interesting if others think im chatting shit or not but thats my take on it

Anyway happy fabbin, peace out

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