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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm sure I'm not the only one with this problem so maybe someone out there can give advise or tips or even have found a solution.

I don't last long enough in sex after penetration, does anyone know something that might help?

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Numbing gel?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Have you had an experience with that? I have thought of it, but was a bit unsure.

Any brands you would know or recommend?

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By *nvisible_beardMan
over a year ago

near newbridge, wales

Edging unfortunately did this for me. Takes me too long now oops

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Have a quick wank before

D.

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

Cum, then massage each other and last longer 2nd time. A good long session

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think about the last six miles of a marathon, that works well for me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think of football

Do your 9 x table

Try and organise the next day in your head

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

emla cream from chemist

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have tried that, it helps a bit but not enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kamagra

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales


"Have you had an experience with that? I have thought of it, but was a bit unsure.

Any brands you would know or recommend?"

Not personally, but i’ve seen it mentioned on here in other posts.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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Edging is a really good way of doing it. If you lack the patience to edge yourself properly, find someone else to do it and watch the pleasure they take in playfully bringing you close to the edge and then stopping repeatedly until you're thrusting in to the air and saying all sorts because you need to orgasm.

*I am a big fan of it, in case it's not clear.

Sometimes using thicker condoms can help delay orgasming as well.

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By *nnocentimesMan
over a year ago

over there by that tree

Try some stamina training, fleshlight and stroke tempo videos on pornhub.

Just relax and don’t think about it.

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By *urtyGentMan
over a year ago

eastleigh

Cock rings are meant to help. Also edging really helped me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Edging is a really good way of doing it. If you lack the patience to edge yourself properly, find someone else to do it and watch the pleasure they take in playfully bringing you close to the edge and then stopping repeatedly until you're thrusting in to the air and saying all sorts because you need to orgasm.

*I am a big fan of it, in case it's not clear.

Sometimes using thicker condoms can help delay orgasming as well. "

Clearly done this before haven't you. On many occasions it seems

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"I'm sure I'm not the only one with this problem so maybe someone out there can give advise or tips or even have found a solution.

I don't last long enough in sex after penetration, does anyone know something that might help?"

Teach yourself how to stop cumming quickly it can be done and plenty of articles about it to read up on

Have a wank before your meet

Cum... Concentrate on your partners pleasure.. Go again when you're hard again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think of dead kittens

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Try and relax, accept that it can happen, don't get frustrated by it and when it does happen find other things to do until you are ready to go again (when it will likely last longer)

With the right person who is understanding the above can work a treat and doesn't have to mean game over, and still lead to a highly pleasurable experience for everyone.

There are of course also techniques and potions that can help such as edging and being aware of yourself and when you're close changing things up to take the focus off - all of which work to a greater or lesser degree but the key is accepting it happens sometimes and not letting it get to you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

You do seem quite the expert in this subject, probably could do with someone like you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you so far to everyone. Nice to have people that care enough to share their opinion with making a mockery of it.

I will sure be looking into most of those tips - maybe not the 'thinking of dead kittens' one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Edging is a really good way of doing it. If you lack the patience to edge yourself properly, find someone else to do it and watch the pleasure they take in playfully bringing you close to the edge and then stopping repeatedly until you're thrusting in to the air and saying all sorts because you need to orgasm.

*I am a big fan of it, in case it's not clear.

Sometimes using thicker condoms can help delay orgasming as well. "

Edging is my kink. Prefer a bj but that's hard to come by.

It can take a while but the pleasure is ten fold any usual foreplay/sex (to me) and the orgasm is intense.

Need to find me someone who loves it too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think of dead kittens "

Oh my God I just came!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think of dead kittens "

Stop turning me on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think of dead kittens

Stop turning me on"

Okay, I’m 23. That’ll turn you off

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch

"Margaret Thatcher, naked, on a cold day"

To quote Austin Powers

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

Think of your first orgasm is ‘for you’, then once you’ve recovered, the second one is ‘for her’

Having a wank the day before your meet will also help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think of dead kittens

Stop turning me on

Okay, I’m 23. That’ll turn you off "

Haha Haha touche

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always had issues with it but it wasnt till I got older when I realised it really doesn't matter, sometimes it happens just learn to accept it when it does and not beat yourself up about it, it's all about being relaxed as soon as you put it in and start putting pressure on yourself to not cum 'too quick' that's when I becomes a problem and becomes like a double edged sword, having sex is amazing and I've always thought that as men we sometimes put too much pressure on ourselves to not cum fast, just enjoy what you're doing and if it happens so what, you can kiss lick finger and make her cum until you're ready to go again

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"I always had issues with it but it wasnt till I got older when I realised it really doesn't matter, sometimes it happens just learn to accept it when it does and not beat yourself up about it, it's all about being relaxed as soon as you put it in and start putting pressure on yourself to not cum 'too quick' that's when I becomes a problem and becomes like a double edged sword, having sex is amazing and I've always thought that as men we sometimes put too much pressure on ourselves to not cum fast, just enjoy what you're doing and if it happens so what, you can kiss lick finger and make her cum until you're ready to go again "

Exactly that, as I was saying above, the key is accepting it can happen and not letting it get to you.

I do think for *some* guys being on a site like this exacerbates the problem though - they see threads, veris, or even the "sex site" sign and think it means they have to be able to go all night and stay hard the whole time and they have somehow failed if they don't - all of which couldn't be further from the truth - while there are some guys who can last ages etc, the vast majority will conform to the average which is between 5 mins and 15 mins.

Which is all why threads like this one are important to show that not everyone is some kind of stud

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"I always had issues with it but it wasnt till I got older when I realised it really doesn't matter, sometimes it happens just learn to accept it when it does and not beat yourself up about it, it's all about being relaxed as soon as you put it in and start putting pressure on yourself to not cum 'too quick' that's when I becomes a problem and becomes like a double edged sword, having sex is amazing and I've always thought that as men we sometimes put too much pressure on ourselves to not cum fast, just enjoy what you're doing and if it happens so what, you can kiss lick finger and make her cum until you're ready to go again

Exactly that, as I was saying above, the key is accepting it can happen and not letting it get to you.

I do think for *some* guys being on a site like this exacerbates the problem though - they see threads, veris, or even the "sex site" sign and think it means they have to be able to go all night and stay hard the whole time and they have somehow failed if they don't - all of which couldn't be further from the truth - while there are some guys who can last ages etc, the vast majority will conform to the average which is between 5 mins and 15 mins.

Which is all why threads like this one are important to show that not everyone is some kind of stud"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think about the last six miles of a marathon, that works well for me! "

That'd do the trick, only problem then would be the cramp and leg spasms

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not touching your penis or letting anyone else touch it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Edging is a really good way of doing it. If you lack the patience to edge yourself properly, find someone else to do it and watch the pleasure they take in playfully bringing you close to the edge and then stopping repeatedly until you're thrusting in to the air and saying all sorts because you need to orgasm.

*I am a big fan of it, in case it's not clear.

Sometimes using thicker condoms can help delay orgasming as well. "
like the sound of that !

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