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"Good for you. Everyone should be able to cry, whatever sex/age you are. Crying is releasing emotions that would otherwise be stored in the body. It’s healing " Thank you x | |||
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"Probably falling hormone levels." Mine fell a long time ago then. | |||
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"Probably falling hormone levels. Mine fell a long time ago then." It is a potential reason. But obviously not the only reason either. Age and hormones can go hand in hand, especially if the change is sudden. Some people are just naturally more sensitive and in tune with their emotions though so it's not exclusively tied to hormones. | |||
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"Probably falling hormone levels. Mine fell a long time ago then. It is a potential reason. But obviously not the only reason either. Age and hormones can go hand in hand, especially if the change is sudden. Some people are just naturally more sensitive and in tune with their emotions though so it's not exclusively tied to hormones. " , My hormones have practically disappeared and I cry less than when I had the full complement whizzing round. People express themselves in different ways. Not crying doesn't mean not feeling, crying doesn't mean you're weak. | |||
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"Probably falling hormone levels. Mine fell a long time ago then. It is a potential reason. But obviously not the only reason either. Age and hormones can go hand in hand, especially if the change is sudden. Some people are just naturally more sensitive and in tune with their emotions though so it's not exclusively tied to hormones. , My hormones have practically disappeared and I cry less than when I had the full complement whizzing round. People express themselves in different ways. Not crying doesn't mean not feeling, crying doesn't mean you're weak." Me saying falling hormones wasnt meant to imply anything, all mens hormones fall at some point. And if this is something new it could be a reason for the change. Thats all I meant. | |||
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"Is it strange that I seem to cry most days when I'm alone but I'm not depressed? I just get upset about certain things and feel the need to let myself express that emotion rather than bottle it up. Nobody knows I do this and it can range from a couple of tears to a full on sob but I find myself crying most if not all days at some point. Just thought I'd share this as I'm not ashamed (I do it alone as not to upset those around me) and think it's important to acknowledge that men should be able to discuss this aspect of life, as we rarely do. " Three out of four suicides in the UK are men. We need to stop telling men They cannot have feelings They shouldn't cry Etc We also need to stop using phrases like Man up What are you a man or a mouse? etc Men have feelings. We can be happy, sad, depressed, scared, worried, etc. | |||
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"Probably falling hormone levels. Mine fell a long time ago then. It is a potential reason. But obviously not the only reason either. Age and hormones can go hand in hand, especially if the change is sudden. Some people are just naturally more sensitive and in tune with their emotions though so it's not exclusively tied to hormones. , My hormones have practically disappeared and I cry less than when I had the full complement whizzing round. People express themselves in different ways. Not crying doesn't mean not feeling, crying doesn't mean you're weak. Me saying falling hormones wasnt meant to imply anything, all mens hormones fall at some point. And if this is something new it could be a reason for the change. Thats all I meant." I haven't taken offence, just saying !y experience as a woman whose hormones galloped into the sunset a year or so ago, taking my tears with them ![]() | |||
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"Good for you. Everyone should be able to cry, whatever sex/age you are. Crying is releasing emotions that would otherwise be stored in the body. It’s healing " I totally agree with this lady. | |||
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"Is it strange that I seem to cry most days when I'm alone but I'm not depressed? I just get upset about certain things and feel the need to let myself express that emotion rather than bottle it up. Nobody knows I do this and it can range from a couple of tears to a full on sob but I find myself crying most if not all days at some point. Just thought I'd share this as I'm not ashamed (I do it alone as not to upset those around me) and think it's important to acknowledge that men should be able to discuss this aspect of life, as we rarely do. " mate respect, it's good for a man to cry we bottle up feelings because we have egos and pride but sometimes we need to let loose and have a cry. If you bottle up feelings they will over power you | |||
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"Is it strange that I seem to cry most days when I'm alone but I'm not depressed? I just get upset about certain things and feel the need to let myself express that emotion rather than bottle it up. Nobody knows I do this and it can range from a couple of tears to a full on sob but I find myself crying most if not all days at some point. Just thought I'd share this as I'm not ashamed (I do it alone as not to upset those around me) and think it's important to acknowledge that men should be able to discuss this aspect of life, as we rarely do. Three out of four suicides in the UK are men. We need to stop telling men They cannot have feelings They shouldn't cry Etc We also need to stop using phrases like Man up What are you a man or a mouse? etc Men have feelings. We can be happy, sad, depressed, scared, worried, etc." Unfortunately, men are more likely to die because we always do it in a more violent way which is often less likely to recover from. Women and men are equal in attempts, it's just mens attempts are much more final. It's always been difficult for men to speak out, and to share their pain. We often keep it bottled up, until it becomes too much and we no longer able to hold back that pain. As humans, we were designed to deal with things such as stress in small doses; we see a sabertooth and our stress levels would go crazy and we would react in 1 of 3 ways. Fight, Freeze or Flight. Now, we are always on such high levels of stress that our body was never meant to handle. | |||
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"Probably falling hormone levels." Testosterone in males is linked to our emotional state, but it also is linked to the reason we are more likely to die from suicide attempts. Taking testosterone boosters, can actually greatly increase a man's mental health as well as taking B vitamins (both genders). Depression can actually be linked to vitamin B deficiency. | |||
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"Is it strange that I seem to cry most days when I'm alone but I'm not depressed? I just get upset about certain things and feel the need to let myself express that emotion rather than bottle it up. Nobody knows I do this and it can range from a couple of tears to a full on sob but I find myself crying most if not all days at some point. Just thought I'd share this as I'm not ashamed (I do it alone as not to upset those around me) and think it's important to acknowledge that men should be able to discuss this aspect of life, as we rarely do. " I cried watching a dogs way home recently on a flight, the bit at the end where he was re united. I had to consoled by a gorgeous flight attendant, truly traumatic experience | |||
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"Probably falling hormone levels." Good to see you know we’re in the twenty first century. Crying is a normal reaction that allows all of us to express and deal with emotions. I pity the men who have been brainwashed into thinking it’s a reflection of their masculinity. I also pity the men who feel they are required to justify this perfectly normal human response mechanism... | |||
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"I went to a funeral of a person a friends dad the other day... had only met him once. Sat in service listening and found myself crying proper big snobby tears As a big Fella I was so embarrassed but realised afterwards that it was all about my own dad and the emotions of losing him from 35 years ago. I felt much better afterwards. A release of emotion can hit you anytime and be triggered by the strangest things." The worst ones are the surprise songs in busy shops that can trigger things. A song last heard at a funeral or one I associate with a deceased pet can be debilitating if they suddenly come on unexpectedly and I haven't thought of them in some time. They're often not even sad songs but I still can't say even tell people which songs they are as just saying the song title starts me off. Sometimes they can be the daftest songs too. The Land of Make Believe by Bucks Fizz was the last one that got me while I was out on an 80s themed night in town. (Just typing that got to me) it was the song I use to sing to by beloved basset hound that I suddenly lost last year to illness. He had been abused before I got him as a rescue dog and was so nervous about anything but when I sang softly to him he would fall asleep in my arms. I think I might be depressed - I really don't know anymore. | |||
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"I went to a funeral of a person a friends dad the other day... had only met him once. Sat in service listening and found myself crying proper big snobby tears As a big Fella I was so embarrassed but realised afterwards that it was all about my own dad and the emotions of losing him from 35 years ago. I felt much better afterwards. A release of emotion can hit you anytime and be triggered by the strangest things. The worst ones are the surprise songs in busy shops that can trigger things. A song last heard at a funeral or one I associate with a deceased pet can be debilitating if they suddenly come on unexpectedly and I haven't thought of them in some time. They're often not even sad songs but I still can't say even tell people which songs they are as just saying the song title starts me off. Sometimes they can be the daftest songs too. The Land of Make Believe by Bucks Fizz was the last one that got me while I was out on an 80s themed night in town. (Just typing that got to me) it was the song I use to sing to by beloved basset hound that I suddenly lost last year to illness. He had been abused before I got him as a rescue dog and was so nervous about anything but when I sang softly to him he would fall asleep in my arms. I think I might be depressed - I really don't know anymore." If you think you may be depressed go seek help. It'll be the best thing you can do for yourself | |||
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"Is it strange that I seem to cry most days when I'm alone but I'm not depressed? I just get upset about certain things and feel the need to let myself express that emotion rather than bottle it up. Nobody knows I do this and it can range from a couple of tears to a full on sob but I find myself crying most if not all days at some point. Just thought I'd share this as I'm not ashamed (I do it alone as not to upset those around me) and think it's important to acknowledge that men should be able to discuss this aspect of life, as we rarely do. " OP let it out. Also talk to people which will help. Big hugs xx | |||
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"Last time I proper cried was the other day after having to put my cat of 11yrs to sleep" The grief animal loss causes can be so powerful. I think it's because we share our emotions with them so honestly and openly through their lives that the grief is a lot more accessible for us when they die. Its raw and unfiltered. Big hugs x | |||
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"The worst thing about crying for anyone is thinking it's a bad thing or even shows weakness. This is soooooo wrong! Crying is a way of healing, a release of emotions that allow you to move on. Mornings a recent loss of any kind of just a few tears for something that has made you happy. If you want to cry, then cry. It doesnt matter what your gender is. It helps you deal with things your own way and it's good for you. ![]() I still hide it from my loved ones as they will no doubt worry and probably more than they should. Us humans are good at imagining the worst and I would never want to burden them unnecessarily. Need to know basis, especially where the kids are concerned (they're fully grown now but they're still my no.1 priority) | |||
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