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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

This was a question that was asked by someone on facebook in a response to a post offering a baby sitting service to others.

While i see her point that some reassurance would be good when dealing with children, as a parent i have no qualifications its a very much 'on the job training' situation.

Id rather have references from friends on how well she works with children and see how her personality comes across than hire her as a babysitter purely on the basis of a qualification.

Which counts for more, experience, paperwork or a great mix of both?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This was a question that was asked by someone on facebook in a response to a post offering a baby sitting service to others.

While i see her point that some reassurance would be good when dealing with children, as a parent i have no qualifications its a very much 'on the job training' situation.

Id rather have references from friends on how well she works with children and see how her personality comes across than hire her as a babysitter purely on the basis of a qualification.

Which counts for more, experience, paperwork or a great mix of both?"

I would say a mixture of both, i know when my kids were little and we looked for a child minder we went by word of mouth but asked if they had any qualifications for the job ie first aid skills etc also any references....i think its for peace of mind more than anything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would also say a mixture of the two but most important is the CIB checks.

My local senior school provides a babysitting course for all those 15 plus which is great add on to health and social care get a practice baby yes I know not the same and they have to do first aid too. They leave with a certificate. And for those looking for a sitter can go in and ask for all those that have done the course.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I would rather leave my child with an experienced mother/father who have 'been there done it & got the T Shirt' than a school girl with a bit of paperwork.

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull

From my Security industry experience and being qualified and licenced, I can see your questioning from both sides.

Licensing is not the most perfect solution; even some eejits fall through the cracks and commit crimes even if registered as "responsible people".

In many instances, it is often a case of having that "gut feeling" and taking the views, recommendations and so on of others who have hired anyone or their services.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

When my children needed minding the person entrusted to do that was always qualified. Only once my youngest went to an old neighbour, a woman who lived opposite my parents who was like a mum to me who also looked after her grandson the same age.

When we couldn't find minders my husband worked nights so he could take the kids to school, pick them up and give them their dinner before I came home from work.

Personally, if it wasn't someone I knew and trusted I wouldn't be employing an unqualified person to look after my child.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have always used family and friends tbh

If i every used someone not family or friends then at the very least i would want reference's and to see a current CBR check.

Kat x x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too be fair the only person I would leave my girls with would be my mum. I did have a great babysitter in Alice but as babysitters grow up they move on my girls still very close to Alice more like a big sister. Now as I have no sitter going out is very rare. But my role is being a mum. My time will come when they get older have just started leaving my eldest to babysit but I only stay local and only for a few hours at a time she loves it and it shows that I can trust her and I am only 5 minutes away if they need me. Would never dream of going out of town or anywhere they could'nt contact me.

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

As a teenager I used to baby sit for lots of our neighbours children,it was a great way of earning an extra bit of money and they must have trusted me to leave their children in my care,sometimes it was great fun other times it was like the best form of contraception advice that a teenage girl could ever need!

These days though things have changed so much it seems that no-one wants to leave their children with anyone other than a fully qualified expert

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a CRB as in criminal Records Bureau.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally have never left my children with a babysitter other than their father and grandparents. Admittedly I didn't go out much.

But I'd be looking for experience, someone to be able to react quickly in an emergency situation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its a CRB as in criminal Records Bureau. "

+1 thats what I ment dam keyboard.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its a CRB as in criminal Records Bureau.

+1 thats what I ment dam keyboard."

And I'm sorry didn't mean to go forum police on it

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

I was talking to someone this morning who had a childminder that was abusive to her charges..she hasnt opened up about how just yet.

I imagine mentally/ verbally. No amount of qualification will out the bad ones.. the girl told mum but they didnt believe how bad it was .so the child just stopped remarking on it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes checks are good but recommendations are also good and to see how they interact with other children. I work at school and the rules I have to abide by are unreal. At school I am professional although my house is an open house when it comes to mine and their friends. If I do dinner duty if a child falls over cant hug them or comfort them have to have hands out where people can see them. If we have volunteers in play group and not been checked then they are not to take a child to the toilet etc and the list goes on.

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire

a CRB check is pointless, imo, as it only stops people that have ALREADY BEEN CONVICTED OF SOMETHING being around your children, not anyone that WANTS to do something.

when i was being babysat my parents used children of friends and sitters friends used for thier kids.

dont think i ever knew any children that were molested by using this system.

and the same when i was old enough to babysit. i never had a check for christs sake.

so, personally, if i was looking for a sitter, i would go for someone i knows kid or a sitter that someone i know and trust has used in the past.

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By *ucsparkMan
over a year ago

dudley

When I first separated I had a full time nanny that lived with us full time. She was checked with everyone I could find short of MI6 and the CIA, but having no one to ask at time thought it better safe than sorry, the lady now works full time for one of my nieces and I have to say she is one in a million, all her pervious employers thought so too. So outside close family I would still do checks and ask for references. On a tangent I probably do it to a new partner before they met my daughter, does that make me a bad person or someone who does not trust very easy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I first separated I had a full time nanny that lived with us full time. She was checked with everyone I could find short of MI6 and the CIA, but having no one to ask at time thought it better safe than sorry, the lady now works full time for one of my nieces and I have to say she is one in a million, all her pervious employers thought so too. So outside close family I would still do checks and ask for references. On a tangent I probably do it to a new partner before they met my daughter, does that make me a bad person or someone who does not trust very easy. "

+1 I would use it for a new partner coming into my life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bit of both - you sometimes need a qualification to teach you skills of the job, particularly if there is a lot of legal bumpf involved. But to learn to apply those skills, you need experience, otherwise it's just a paper exercise in my view.

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter


"When I first separated I had a full time nanny that lived with us full time. She was checked with everyone I could find short of MI6 and the CIA, but having no one to ask at time thought it better safe than sorry, the lady now works full time for one of my nieces and I have to say she is one in a million, all her pervious employers thought so too. So outside close family I would still do checks and ask for references. On a tangent I probably do it to a new partner before they met my daughter, does that make me a bad person or someone who does not trust very easy. "

she is your pride and joy. Check Out anyone to put your mind at rest.

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