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By *essie. OP   Woman
over a year ago

Serendipity

I’ve been having my hair coloured so it’s taking a while. The other hairdresser (not mine) does nothing but moan.

I’d say I’m mostly positive, glass half full.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I plan for the worst but hope for the best.

I'd rather see the humour in a situation than whine about it.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Positive. I rarely moan about anything. Negative people drain me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am exhaustingly positive apparently and overly excited about eveything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not much of a negative Nancy or a sesitive Sally even, I'm more a happy Harry or a chipper Skipper

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m a whingeing, moaning, grumpy old bastard

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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Positive most of the time. I get ridiculously giddy and excited about the most absurd things far too often. When I'm not it's not so much that I'm negative more anxious.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Always positive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm silly, immature an generally a happy fun guy

Except Sunday morning.

I dont know why but for some reason I generally wake up and think the world can go fuck itself those days. I'm grouchy, grumpy n miserable for about an hour, then I'm snap, my normal self.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At the moment very negative. It all depends on life.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

Realist and neutral. As much as possible at least. I believe in a balance and being overly one or the other is potentially unhealthy.

I certainly have moments of both positivity and negativity though.

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

Positive all the time but extremely sarcastic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Annoyingly positive: even when life deals me a shitty hand (often!) I manage to count blessings.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mostly positive but right now not in a dark place

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Positive in general as what can be done if you are negative anyway . Negativity creates hormone imbalances

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Positive

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

I used to be negative and very sarcastic.

Now, I am positive. And very sarcastic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably a bit annoyingly positive.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Depends on my mood. Mostly positive I reckon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find both extremes exhausting. I'm balanced.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I surf the peaks and troughs

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By *uke OzadeMan
over a year ago

Ho Chi Minge City

I’m always positive but expect the worse all the same so I’m seldom disappointed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very negative. Always think the worst of everything, especially myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do know I used to be so indecisive

I’m not so sure now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Positively negative

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I plan for the worst but hope for the best.

I'd rather see the humour in a situation than whine about it."

This for me too!

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

Life is a bitch sometimes and sometimes I stare it down and other times, well, I need to take 5 to get it together.

On the whole I love life, am glad to be here and the positives and negatives equal the whole experience for me. Make us who we are.

I'm told I'm a positive soul. I'm not sure where that positivity comes from... I'm just glad it does. I have found I can laugh at the most inopportune time but that gets me and mine through the tough times and embrace the good ones

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By *BootyfulDayWoman
over a year ago

…

Generally positive, especially around other people. I'm more realistic/negative when I'm by myself but I prefer people seeing the fun/positive side

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Positive life is too short to be negative

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By *en_Dover79Man
over a year ago

Oswaldtwistle

im a realist

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I used to be completely positive, take life in it's stride and see everything as half full - various things over the years have tempered that a little but I still try to look at things as positively as I can but every now and then a little negativity creeps in and calls for a head wobble or two

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

99% positive.

I even try to find the positive in something bad.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"I used to be completely positive, take life in it's stride and see everything as half full - various things over the years have tempered that a little but I still try to look at things as positively as I can but every now and then a little negativity creeps in and calls for a head wobble or two"

Ah the head wobble, I know it well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Got cptsd.. So depends if been triggered whether I'm positive or negative.. Used to be positively happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I admire people who have the stay positive gene in them.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"I used to be completely positive, take life in it's stride and see everything as half full - various things over the years have tempered that a little but I still try to look at things as positively as I can but every now and then a little negativity creeps in and calls for a head wobble or two

Ah the head wobble, I know it well "

Fortunately I have someone that gives very good head wobbles when they're called for....she's exquisite at giving them

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"Got cptsd.. So depends if been triggered whether I'm positive or negative.. Used to be positively happy"

I don't know anything about this but I hope it's not to bad for you x

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"I used to be completely positive, take life in it's stride and see everything as half full - various things over the years have tempered that a little but I still try to look at things as positively as I can but every now and then a little negativity creeps in and calls for a head wobble or two

Ah the head wobble, I know it well

Fortunately I have someone that gives very good head wobbles when they're called for....she's exquisite at giving them"

If I had the same then maybe I'd have a few more wobbles..lucky you

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"I used to be completely positive, take life in it's stride and see everything as half full - various things over the years have tempered that a little but I still try to look at things as positively as I can but every now and then a little negativity creeps in and calls for a head wobble or two

Ah the head wobble, I know it well

Fortunately I have someone that gives very good head wobbles when they're called for....she's exquisite at giving them

If I had the same then maybe I'd have a few more wobbles..lucky you "

Ha ha this a purely platonic head wobbler - can definitely recommend her if ever you need it

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Having left the drainage behind that used to drag me into negativity, I’m now 100% positive.

It’s rare anyone saw my negativity, as I was (and still am) the one that picked them up and finding positivity for them to get them through the day.

Life is in front of me oh what shall it bring

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By *orraine999Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere

Positively positive.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"Having left the drainage behind that used to drag me into negativity, I’m now 100% positive.

It’s rare anyone saw my negativity, as I was (and still am) the one that picked them up and finding positivity for them to get them through the day.

Life is in front of me oh what shall it bring "

Looking towards the future is exciting..I hope it brings you much x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm in the middle.

B thinks I'm a negative ninnie, I'm not, I simply know that others don't always behave in a way that you'd expect.

I don't look for the good in people any more the way I used to, been stung too many times but I do search for the positives in situations

P

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"I used to be completely positive, take life in it's stride and see everything as half full - various things over the years have tempered that a little but I still try to look at things as positively as I can but every now and then a little negativity creeps in and calls for a head wobble or two

Ah the head wobble, I know it well

Fortunately I have someone that gives very good head wobbles when they're called for....she's exquisite at giving them

If I had the same then maybe I'd have a few more wobbles..lucky you

Ha ha this a purely platonic head wobbler - can definitely recommend her if ever you need it "

An exquisite head wobbler sounds good to me

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"I used to be completely positive, take life in it's stride and see everything as half full - various things over the years have tempered that a little but I still try to look at things as positively as I can but every now and then a little negativity creeps in and calls for a head wobble or two

Ah the head wobble, I know it well

Fortunately I have someone that gives very good head wobbles when they're called for....she's exquisite at giving them

If I had the same then maybe I'd have a few more wobbles..lucky you

Ha ha this a purely platonic head wobbler - can definitely recommend her if ever you need it

An exquisite head wobbler sounds good to me "

Oh she is and right on cue up she pops

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"I'm in the middle.

B thinks I'm a negative ninnie, I'm not, I simply know that others don't always behave in a way that you'd expect.

I don't look for the good in people any more the way I used to, been stung too many times but I do search for the positives in situations

P"

Hey P...positively great to see you x

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"Having left the drainage behind that used to drag me into negativity, I’m now 100% positive.

It’s rare anyone saw my negativity, as I was (and still am) the one that picked them up and finding positivity for them to get them through the day.

Life is in front of me oh what shall it bring

Looking towards the future is exciting..I hope it brings you much x"

Thanks Annabelle right now I’m enjoying doing absolutely nothing, because I can. Need to get my thinking on cap soon mind and figure out what I want to do or win the lottery

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay

Hmmm I think I'm positive and realistic.

I used the hate the saying 'all is well', but now I am learning the meaning of this. I, like most of us by the time we get to my age, have experienced and witnessed nessed some pretty full on life events. Although they can feel awful, I have noticed that even in (and sometimes especially) the worst times there is beauty and love and we still have access to joy and connection. Im learning to shift my judgement of difficult feelings as being bad, negative, wrong or impossible. I'm constantly in awe of this human experience. Suffering is a part of life and brings gifts if we choose to accept them. We always still have choice even with the things we did not choose.

I guess I'm pretty positive. But not in the jolly, stick a smile on and pretend everything is fine way .. in the embracing all that comes with a big breath and oodles of trust. It's not easy. It's a dance.. with both the positive and the negative.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I used to be completely positive, take life in it's stride and see everything as half full - various things over the years have tempered that a little but I still try to look at things as positively as I can but every now and then a little negativity creeps in and calls for a head wobble or two

Ah the head wobble, I know it well

Fortunately I have someone that gives very good head wobbles when they're called for....she's exquisite at giving them

If I had the same then maybe I'd have a few more wobbles..lucky you

Ha ha this a purely platonic head wobbler - can definitely recommend her if ever you need it

An exquisite head wobbler sounds good to me "

The exquisite wobbler of heads herself is touched by such a sentiment bless her...

B

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Got cptsd.. So depends if been triggered whether I'm positive or negative.. Used to be positively happy

I don't know anything about this but I hope it's not to bad for you x"

Aww thanks.

Complex Post traumatic stress

Learn to deal with it so takes more effort for positivity but then is more real than fake.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"Having left the drainage behind that used to drag me into negativity, I’m now 100% positive.

It’s rare anyone saw my negativity, as I was (and still am) the one that picked them up and finding positivity for them to get them through the day.

Life is in front of me oh what shall it bring

Looking towards the future is exciting..I hope it brings you much x

Thanks Annabelle right now I’m enjoying doing absolutely nothing, because I can. Need to get my thinking on cap soon mind and figure out what I want to do or win the lottery "

That sounds great..doing nothing because you can. It's necessary sometimes to take a breather and see where the land lies. Good kuck with the lottery also

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"I used to be completely positive, take life in it's stride and see everything as half full - various things over the years have tempered that a little but I still try to look at things as positively as I can but every now and then a little negativity creeps in and calls for a head wobble or two

Ah the head wobble, I know it well

Fortunately I have someone that gives very good head wobbles when they're called for....she's exquisite at giving them

If I had the same then maybe I'd have a few more wobbles..lucky you

Ha ha this a purely platonic head wobbler - can definitely recommend her if ever you need it

An exquisite head wobbler sounds good to me

The exquisite wobbler of heads herself is touched by such a sentiment bless her...

B"

And so she should be - her head wobbling skills are unparalleled and much appreciated

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay


"I'm in the middle.

B thinks I'm a negative ninnie, I'm not, I simply know that others don't always behave in a way that you'd expect.

I don't look for the good in people any more the way I used to, been stung too many times but I do search for the positives in situations

P"

Sounds like good work to me. Boundaried and mindful. You know yourself and your capacity. Have learnt some stuff but still open to the positives.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"Got cptsd.. So depends if been triggered whether I'm positive or negative.. Used to be positively happy

I don't know anything about this but I hope it's not to bad for you x

Aww thanks.

Complex Post traumatic stress

Learn to deal with it so takes more effort for positivity but then is more real than fake. "

That sounds hard work...but so worth it. I'd take real over fake any day xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I used to be completely positive, take life in it's stride and see everything as half full - various things over the years have tempered that a little but I still try to look at things as positively as I can but every now and then a little negativity creeps in and calls for a head wobble or two

Ah the head wobble, I know it well

Fortunately I have someone that gives very good head wobbles when they're called for....she's exquisite at giving them

If I had the same then maybe I'd have a few more wobbles..lucky you

Ha ha this a purely platonic head wobbler - can definitely recommend her if ever you need it

An exquisite head wobbler sounds good to me

Oh she is and right on cue up she pops"

My spidey sense was tingling!

It wasn't, I'm telling fibs, but I'm glad I popped in here, I'm all glowy n shit now

Thank you, I'm picturing you as one of those little buggers that sits on the dashboard with the tiny little body and the big wobbly head

And damn straight I'll tell ya when a wobble is called for, I ain't having one of my mates all flapping over nowt or if you're being a spanner I'll tell ya you're being a spanner. I care don't I, that's why I do it.

P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm in the middle.

B thinks I'm a negative ninnie, I'm not, I simply know that others don't always behave in a way that you'd expect.

I don't look for the good in people any more the way I used to, been stung too many times but I do search for the positives in situations

P

Hey P...positively great to see you x "

You too sweet cheeks

P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm in the middle.

B thinks I'm a negative ninnie, I'm not, I simply know that others don't always behave in a way that you'd expect.

I don't look for the good in people any more the way I used to, been stung too many times but I do search for the positives in situations

P

Sounds like good work to me. Boundaried and mindful. You know yourself and your capacity. Have learnt some stuff but still open to the positives. "

I'll take that

P

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"I used to be completely positive, take life in it's stride and see everything as half full - various things over the years have tempered that a little but I still try to look at things as positively as I can but every now and then a little negativity creeps in and calls for a head wobble or two

Ah the head wobble, I know it well

Fortunately I have someone that gives very good head wobbles when they're called for....she's exquisite at giving them

If I had the same then maybe I'd have a few more wobbles..lucky you

Ha ha this a purely platonic head wobbler - can definitely recommend her if ever you need it

An exquisite head wobbler sounds good to me

Oh she is and right on cue up she pops

My spidey sense was tingling!

It wasn't, I'm telling fibs, but I'm glad I popped in here, I'm all glowy n shit now

Thank you, I'm picturing you as one of those little buggers that sits on the dashboard with the tiny little body and the big wobbly head

And damn straight I'll tell ya when a wobble is called for, I ain't having one of my mates all flapping over nowt or if you're being a spanner I'll tell ya you're being a spanner. I care don't I, that's why I do it.

P"

And that is what makes you, you, and such a damn fine friend - hold no punches when they're needed and offer TLC without reservation when it's called for..

...oops just realised the lamp post pissing thread is two doors down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I used to be completely positive, take life in it's stride and see everything as half full - various things over the years have tempered that a little but I still try to look at things as positively as I can but every now and then a little negativity creeps in and calls for a head wobble or two

Ah the head wobble, I know it well

Fortunately I have someone that gives very good head wobbles when they're called for....she's exquisite at giving them

If I had the same then maybe I'd have a few more wobbles..lucky you

Ha ha this a purely platonic head wobbler - can definitely recommend her if ever you need it

An exquisite head wobbler sounds good to me

Oh she is and right on cue up she pops

My spidey sense was tingling!

It wasn't, I'm telling fibs, but I'm glad I popped in here, I'm all glowy n shit now

Thank you, I'm picturing you as one of those little buggers that sits on the dashboard with the tiny little body and the big wobbly head

And damn straight I'll tell ya when a wobble is called for, I ain't having one of my mates all flapping over nowt or if you're being a spanner I'll tell ya you're being a spanner. I care don't I, that's why I do it.

P

And that is what makes you, you, and such a damn fine friend - hold no punches when they're needed and offer TLC without reservation when it's called for..

...oops just realised the lamp post pissing thread is two doors down "

Nowt wrong with that my Astrological Twin-monikered chum, you wazz all over that lamp post to your heart's content!

B

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some on here know my story of past and present dramas so I wont take them up again, of those that do I've been trusted with theirs of which I'll obviously never tell.

My guess is that most on fab have a story to tell, we've had dramas that at some point had us questioning if our very existence is worth it and had we a button to press that would finish us we'd have done it long ago...

However we didnt, we saw it though one step and one breath at a time and turned the negative into a positive.

Some still bare the scars physically or emotionally but they are our medals of honour that prove we once faced our demons and said fuck it I'm not going down.

What I'm saying is it's ok to be negative at times, but out of negativity should come positivity... whatever the drama we can turn it around

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Some on here know my story of past and present dramas so I wont take them up again, of those that do I've been trusted with theirs of which I'll obviously never tell.

My guess is that most on fab have a story to tell, we've had dramas that at some point had us questioning if our very existence is worth it and had we a button to press that would finish us we'd have done it long ago...

However we didnt, we saw it though one step and one breath at a time and turned the negative into a positive.

Some still bare the scars physically or emotionally but they are our medals of honour that prove we once faced our demons and said fuck it I'm not going down.

What I'm saying is it's ok to be negative at times, but out of negativity should come positivity... whatever the drama we can turn it around "

A very good way of looking at it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm in the middle.

B thinks I'm a negative ninnie, I'm not, I simply know that others don't always behave in a way that you'd expect.

I don't look for the good in people any more the way I used to, been stung too many times but I do search for the positives in situations

P"

I try to stay in middle but like you p been stung a few times and it takes its toll. Been told my a family member im a negative person and that I need to pull my socks off as there are people worse off than me.

Taking each day as it comes after a tough Xmas.

So im realistic life is crap with some good moments

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm in the middle.

B thinks I'm a negative ninnie, I'm not, I simply know that others don't always behave in a way that you'd expect.

I don't look for the good in people any more the way I used to, been stung too many times but I do search for the positives in situations

P

I try to stay in middle but like you p been stung a few times and it takes its toll. Been told my a family member im a negative person and that I need to pull my socks off as there are people worse off than me.

Taking each day as it comes after a tough Xmas.

So im realistic life is crap with some good moments "

And that's why I generally think of myself as a positive person; I have a feeling that life is generally good or at the very least pretty ok, with some crap moments.

B

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im a negative nelly. Doom gloom. Miserable 80% of the time, but i’m not one of those misery loves company types. If folks are happy i dont try to upset them.

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By *ensualbicockMan
over a year ago

liverpool wavertree picton clock

I'm usually positive that things are gonna go wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try to be positive but I am finding it more and more difficult and so I would probably say I was negative.

I feel like my life revolves around work and I am single and dateless (as usual) on Valentine's Day.

Online dating feels like a waste of time and my friends are always busy.

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By *uciferLingerieMan
over a year ago

Leeds

I mostly go by never expect anything, then you can't be disappointed and don't dwell on things.. especially things you have no control over; and where possible try and see the funny side of things! Otherwise i'm in bed for 3 months at a time!

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

I'm annoyingly positive

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By *r easy1981Man
over a year ago

leeds

Always positive best way to be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve been having my hair coloured so it’s taking a while. The other hairdresser (not mine) does nothing but moan.

I’d say I’m mostly positive, glass half full.

"
very positive, i enjoy life, don't always make the right decisions but i enjoy it anyway

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

Positive. Being negative achieves absoloutely nothing except making yourself ans those in your company bloody miserable.

Life is about attitude. Try and see the positive in every situation, not always easy we know, but a positive attitude is a happier and healthier mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Generally negative, which I'm sure comes as a huge surprise to no one.

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By *hickennchipsWoman
over a year ago

up above the streets and houses

Positive. Life is too short

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham


"I try to be positive but I am finding it more and more difficult and so I would probably say I was negative.

I feel like my life revolves around work and I am single and dateless (as usual) on Valentine's Day.

Online dating feels like a waste of time and my friends are always busy."

All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy. Spend the spare time you have doing things you enjoy. Go out and about where you can meet new people. You may find someone to date when you least expect it. Online dating I assume must be hard work, get out in the real world with real people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hmmm I think I'm positive and realistic.

I used the hate the saying 'all is well', but now I am learning the meaning of this. I, like most of us by the time we get to my age, have experienced and witnessed nessed some pretty full on life events. Although they can feel awful, I have noticed that even in (and sometimes especially) the worst times there is beauty and love and we still have access to joy and connection. Im learning to shift my judgement of difficult feelings as being bad, negative, wrong or impossible. I'm constantly in awe of this human experience. Suffering is a part of life and brings gifts if we choose to accept them. We always still have choice even with the things we did not choose.

I guess I'm pretty positive. But not in the jolly, stick a smile on and pretend everything is fine way .. in the embracing all that comes with a big breath and oodles of trust. It's not easy. It's a dance.. with both the positive and the negative. "

Absolutely this. Freya, you talk so much sense and you put it so well, this is what I would have said if I could have articulated it so beautifully.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I’m quite the harbinger of doom. I’m used to things going tits up so tend to expect the worst. I think my anxiety is the reason for this and since having kids i worry about everything.

I admire folk with sunny, happy-go-lucky dispositions. I wish i werre more like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m quite the harbinger of doom. I’m used to things going tits up so tend to expect the worst. I think my anxiety is the reason for this and since having kids i worry about everything.

I admire folk with sunny, happy-go-lucky dispositions. I wish i werre more like that.

"
it rubs off ya know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A realistic optimist

Plan for the worst, hope for the best.

It’s worked out so far for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ll answer this more seriously now I’m pretty balanced. I have wobbles but I process them quickly and move on. I reframe things quite easily and I am able to see multiple perspectives so it isn’t difficult to find a positive path forward when faced with difficulties. I’m usually able to help people who want my help to work through some touch shit because of this. I enjoy my life and rarely feel down more than momentarily. However I’m not as overly enthusiastic and positive as I was in my late 20s and 30s. Life’s challenges have brought a greater sense of realism and a quieter more reflective quality to my way of being.

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island


"I’ve been having my hair coloured so it’s taking a while. The other hairdresser (not mine) does nothing but moan.

I’d say I’m mostly positive, glass half full.

"

I try and be positive but i think I'm turning in to a right Victor Meldrew.....

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales


"I’m quite the harbinger of doom. I’m used to things going tits up so tend to expect the worst. I think my anxiety is the reason for this and since having kids i worry about everything.

I admire folk with sunny, happy-go-lucky dispositions. I wish i werre more like that.

"

I should add, i’m not a moaner. I tend to keep my doom filled thoughts to myself!

Smiles on the outside, gloomy on the inside

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im realist, however i look for the best in a situation im generally upbeat and very positive. At work when one of my lads mess up i dont get angry and let it ruin the day i look for a positive way out of it to rectify the situation.

I cant stand being around moany negative people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m quite the harbinger of doom. I’m used to things going tits up so tend to expect the worst. I think my anxiety is the reason for this and since having kids i worry about everything.

I admire folk with sunny, happy-go-lucky dispositions. I wish i werre more like that.

I should add, i’m not a moaner. I tend to keep my doom filled thoughts to myself!

Smiles on the outside, gloomy on the inside "
i love a moaner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Splendidly positive

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By *oneyjule65Couple
over a year ago

Halifax


"I plan for the worst but hope for the best.

I'd rather see the humour in a situation than whine about it."

Me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Positive gets shit done, I’m very positive most of the time.....

Moaners are fucking mood hoovers who I avoid as much as I can!

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Very positive and pragmatic , but also try to be authentic and when things are bad, it’s perfectly normal to feel bad, it’s part of processing it, you don’t need to put on a brave face and pretend. But if you are just grumpy because of the weather, Boris or young people - then please keep your distance

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"Positive gets shit done, I’m very positive most of the time.....

Moaners are fucking mood hoovers who I avoid as much as I can!"

You said it more authentically - I was trying to be polite

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

I make a conscious effort to be positive.

Come from a family of negative nellies who could drain the joy out of a rainbow, and I want to set a better role model for my kid .

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By *all me FlikWoman
over a year ago

Galaxy Far Far Away

Always positive....no point in being anything else...negativity is a self fulfilling prophecy

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By *inn_the_humanMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Ive been told on more than one occasion that I'm annoyingly positive

To be fair, I've just never found looking on the negative side of things to be productive. Things tend to work out as they will, so I try to keep upbeat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Positive gets shit done, I’m very positive most of the time.....

Moaners are fucking mood hoovers who I avoid as much as I can!

You said it more authentically - I was trying to be polite "

Haha! That’s me - Bull in a china shop!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A mixture of both.

I think there’s something not quite right in the head with people who are ALWAYS positive, likewise with people who are ALWAYS negative.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly


"Positive most of the time. I get ridiculously giddy and excited about the most absurd things far too often. When I'm not it's not so much that I'm negative more anxious."

Snappity snap!

Mrs TMN x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are you generally a positive or negative person?"

Mmmm...I'm in two minds on this

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

Hopefully I’m positive.. u have to be, to be a single guy in here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm actually more on the negative side, but I work at being positive.

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Mostly positive but I have the odd negative days x

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By *oppet22TV/TS
over a year ago

huddersfield

Allways positive

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

If people were truly negative can they ever be disappointed?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can be either. Does that make me bi-polar?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If people were truly negative can they ever be disappointed?"

Yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A mixture of both.

I think there’s something not quite right in the head with people who are ALWAYS positive, likewise with people who are ALWAYS negative."

Charming. True, but still...

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