FabSwingers.com forum: Men and Shit Messages!

By *ohnjones3210 OP Man
over a year ago

Chester

Laydeez,

Approximately how many shit messages do you get in a day?

What I mean by 'shit message' is, unrepliable message. A message which is that shit that there is no scope for a reply.

Ones like "hi babe", or "slut, I'm going to do this and that to you", etc.

How many shit messages do you get, and how many actual, authentic, conversational messages do you get?

Of those good messages, how many further messages do you get before the man gets prematurely sexual?

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By *am4CamWoman
over a year ago

Fairy Land

On this very hidden profile, thankfully very few. On the old, public and well known profile quite a lot. But hitting delete was never really a hardship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find things like

'You have a lovely shaped skull' doesnt help.

Just saying.

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

One persons shit message, is probably another's 'phwwoorrr he's alright'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also OP it's not just men who send shit messages, from our experience couples and ladies send awful messages too.

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

How many messages I get varies from day to day and seems to depend on how much time I spend online & how active I am on the site.

As far as how many of those messages are shit.... Probably at least 95%

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

Oh, I’m great at shit messages, judging by the amount of no reply’s I don’t get

I suppose it’s never good when I say u have a lovely back, even though they have a coat and jumper on

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

How long can you stay and listen for??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How many messages I get varies from day to day and seems to depend on how much time I spend online & how active I am on the site.

As far as how many of those messages are shit.... Probably at least 95% "

Exactly this!

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By *urvyandCurious999Woman
over a year ago

Hiding from twats

The 'average' message I get from women and couples is actually probably worse than the 'average' message from men.

Today I've had 1 whole message that didn't get deleted instantly, it was someone asking about my status because they didn't recognise the lyrics.

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By *entlemenpipMan
over a year ago

not far

I think my favourite one I ever had was a guy message me with a pic of his cock compared to a corona bottle with the text "do you want it"

I had to reply with

"yes but jam a lime wendg in it first"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not that many, most of mine are complimentary in their own way even if they’re a bit vulgar.

I’m guilty of sending shit messages. I literally just send “lush” but I have 100% success rate!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also people don’t fall into the trap of sharing the contents of a pm cos you’ll get in trouble for it.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I reply to 99% of messages, even the ones i shouldn’t really reply to.

I’m just too fucking nice for my own good.

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

Some of the shit ones I do reply to explaining why I'm not interested/deleting, in the hope that they might learn from it, but that often leads to further messages or abuse in which case its an instant block.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

It comes from all areas of fab, not just men. Not something I count but I definitely hit delete way more than I hit respond

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

On average women and couples send worse messages than men.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I keep getting messages with just an x from the same person. I never respond as not sure how to.

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By *ark ph0enixWoman
over a year ago

Teesside

My last inbox as follows.

Condom or bareback

That was it. No hi or other text. Great introduction eh

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

I get about 50 shit messages a day.

Maybe 1-2 worth replying

Carrying on to significant conversations- 1-3 a week.

Carrying on to becoming meaningful people in my life after having messaged me on here... 5 or so. (Includes guys, ladies and a lovely couple!)

Not bad going I don’t thunk.

But yes, most messages are shit.

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By *entlemenpipMan
over a year ago

not far

"I keep getting messages with just an x from the same person. I never respond as not sure how to."

Reply with O and start a game of tic tac toe

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By *urvyandCurious999Woman
over a year ago

Hiding from twats

"I keep getting messages with just an x from the same person. I never respond as not sure how to."

Block button

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My last inbox as follows.

Condom or bareback

That was it. No hi or other text. Great introduction eh

We may have had the same message... the block button was used instantly. I mean who plays bareback on here for a start and if you do.. crazy!

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By *urvyandCurious999Woman
over a year ago

Hiding from twats

I've just had yet another generic "love your profile, I think I'm exactly what you're looking for". You're really not mate, and if you'd bothered reading my profile it would have been blatantly obvious. Ugh.

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By *mberWoman
over a year ago

Preston

Last time I left my messaging open (with preferences) I got 85 in 24 hours. I replied to 4 of them (some of the remaining 81 were shit, some were just dull)

Of the 4 I replied to I think I met 2 people for a social.

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By *ark ph0enixWoman
over a year ago

Teesside

"My last inbox as follows.

Condom or bareback

That was it. No hi or other text. Great introduction eh

We may have had the same message... the block button was used instantly. I mean who plays bareback on here for a start and if you do.. crazy! "

I think the location and the fact we both have female equipment was the main requirement

Maybe someone will be foolish enough to give him the reply he wants

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By *opinovMan
over a year ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria

I find there's often an expectation that a shit message from a man deserves summary deletion, whereas a message of similar merit from a woman is fine.

That said, I may have underestimated just how shit 'shit' actually is if this thread is any indication.

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By *mberWoman
over a year ago

Preston

"I find there's often an expectation that a shit message from a man deserves summary deletion, whereas a message of similar merit from a woman is fine.

That said, I may have underestimated just how shit 'shit' actually is if this thread is any indication."

I once had "do you poo in the toilet at work?"

As shit messages go.....

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

Told u I was shit, ain’t even got a reply in here

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I find there's often an expectation that a shit message from a man deserves summary deletion, whereas a message of similar merit from a woman is fine.

That said, I may have underestimated just how shit 'shit' actually is if this thread is any indication."

I delete shit messages without considering the genitals of the sender.

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By *urvyandCurious999Woman
over a year ago

Hiding from twats

"I find there's often an expectation that a shit message from a man deserves summary deletion, whereas a message of similar merit from a woman is fine.

That said, I may have underestimated just how shit 'shit' actually is if this thread is any indication.

I once had "do you poo in the toilet at work?"

As shit messages go....."

I had that last week I think

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By *mberWoman
over a year ago

Preston

"I find there's often an expectation that a shit message from a man deserves summary deletion, whereas a message of similar merit from a woman is fine.

That said, I may have underestimated just how shit 'shit' actually is if this thread is any indication.

I once had "do you poo in the toilet at work?"

As shit messages go.....

I had that last week I think

Some BS about doing genuine research?

Here's my PhD in women pooing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Follow your heart op

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By *ran_can_twoCouple
over a year ago

Had one recently it said “ women like you go to Heaven “......sounds like a serial killer!!!

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By *ohnjones3210 OP Man
over a year ago

Chester

"Also OP it's not just men who send shit messages, from our experience couples and ladies send awful messages too."

I get poor messages from couples, and very lazy messages from women.

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By *ohnjones3210 OP Man
over a year ago

Chester

"How many messages I get varies from day to day and seems to depend on how much time I spend online & how active I am on the site.

As far as how many of those messages are shit.... Probably at least 95% "

Thanks.

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By *ohnjones3210 OP Man
over a year ago

Chester

"How many messages I get varies from day to day and seems to depend on how much time I spend online & how active I am on the site.

As far as how many of those messages are shit.... Probably at least 95%

Exactly this!"

Thanks!!!

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By *wistedTooCouple
over a year ago

Frimley

Fucking hundreds

lol

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By *ohnjones3210 OP Man
over a year ago

Chester

"Not that many, most of mine are complimentary in their own way even if they’re a bit vulgar.

I’m guilty of sending shit messages. I literally just send “lush” but I have 100% success rate!

The beauty of supply and demand.

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By *erotic_adventureMan
over a year ago

London, Scotland & The North,

"Also OP it's not just men who send shit messages, from our experience couples and ladies send awful messages too."

Indeed when previously on here as part of a couple a number of couples and fems had a very lazy attitude

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By *ohnjones3210 OP Man
over a year ago

Chester

"On average women and couples send worse messages than men."

I'm not so sure, I've seen men's messages and they are often disgusting/abusive, etc..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Around 90%

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By *ohnjones3210 OP Man
over a year ago

Chester

"I get about 50 shit messages a day.

Maybe 1-2 worth replying

Carrying on to significant conversations- 1-3 a week.

Carrying on to becoming meaningful people in my life after having messaged me on here... 5 or so. (Includes guys, ladies and a lovely couple!)

Not bad going I don’t thunk.

But yes, most messages are shit. "

Excellent! Thanks!

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By *ohnjones3210 OP Man
over a year ago

Chester

"Last time I left my messaging open (with preferences) I got 85 in 24 hours. I replied to 4 of them (some of the remaining 81 were shit, some were just dull)

Of the 4 I replied to I think I met 2 people for a social."

Excellent! Thanks...

You've been on my hotlist for weeks.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"On average women and couples send worse messages than men.

I'm not so sure, I've seen men's messages and they are often disgusting/abusive, etc.."

Men send both the best and the worst messages. And the most. But message for message, women and couples send more lazy/entitled messages.

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By *ohnjones3210 OP Man
over a year ago

Chester

"Around 90%"

Thanks!

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By *ohnjones3210 OP Man
over a year ago

Chester

"On average women and couples send worse messages than men.

I'm not so sure, I've seen men's messages and they are often disgusting/abusive, etc..

Men send both the best and the worst messages. And the most. But message for message, women and couples send more lazy/entitled messages."

I agree. I often get very lazy messages from women. I sometimes get very cheeky and say, "hey, I sent you a decent message and you replied with three words? Lol"... They will usually reply better after that! Ha!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"On average women and couples send worse messages than men.

I'm not so sure, I've seen men's messages and they are often disgusting/abusive, etc..

Men send both the best and the worst messages. And the most. But message for message, women and couples send more lazy/entitled messages.

I feel I can throw stones because my messages are usually pretty good.

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By *ohnjones3210 OP Man
over a year ago

Chester

"On average women and couples send worse messages than men.

I'm not so sure, I've seen men's messages and they are often disgusting/abusive, etc..

Men send both the best and the worst messages. And the most. But message for message, women and couples send more lazy/entitled messages.

I feel I can throw stones because my messages are usually pretty good."

That's good to know miss Swingdress. Your profile is very good too to be fair. A lot of women have "Dunno wot 2 right ear. Msg for info"... Or something alike! Ha!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Also OP it's not just men who send shit messages, from our experience couples and ladies send awful messages too.

I get poor messages from couples, and very lazy messages from women."

Agree, my messages to men are just one word. “Lush”. That’s all it takes though to get a reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Also OP it's not just men who send shit messages, from our experience couples and ladies send awful messages too.

I get poor messages from couples, and very lazy messages from women.

Agree, my messages to men are just one word. “Lush”. That’s all it takes though to get a reply. "

Do you copy and paste it ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I reckon about 15 that are just pure shit!

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By *ohnjones3210 OP Man
over a year ago

Chester

"I reckon about 15 that are just pure shit!"

Thanks!

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

Too many. My favourite today was one I'd replied saying I wasnt meeting just to be told I look like a whale in my newest picture

Delightful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wanna fuck makes me go all tingly.. A sure fire way of getting a response

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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago

Deepest darkest Peru

"Too many. My favourite today was one I'd replied saying I wasnt meeting just to be told I look like a whale in my newest picture

Delightful."

I had one like that last week, told me to go and throw myself back in the river!!

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By *eddyBearBazMan
over a year ago

St Helens

"Wanna fuck makes me go all tingly.. A sure fire way of getting a response

Be right back midnight going to send wanna fuck

haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Too many. My favourite today was one I'd replied saying I wasnt meeting just to be told I look like a whale in my newest picture

Delightful."

Wtf! Jeeze there are some proper idiots

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I keep getting troll licked.

They’ll send an abusive/mean message then block me before I can reply

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"Too many. My favourite today was one I'd replied saying I wasnt meeting just to be told I look like a whale in my newest picture

Delightful.

I had one like that last week, told me to go and throw myself back in the river!! "

No!!! Some people are vile.... if you dont like my body dont message me that you want to meet...simple!

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By *eddyBearBazMan
over a year ago

St Helens

"Too many. My favourite today was one I'd replied saying I wasnt meeting just to be told I look like a whale in my newest picture

Delightful.

I had one like that last week, told me to go and throw myself back in the river!! "

Cookie and AV neither of you deserve that at all

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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago

Deepest darkest Peru

"Too many. My favourite today was one I'd replied saying I wasnt meeting just to be told I look like a whale in my newest picture

Delightful.

I had one like that last week, told me to go and throw myself back in the river!!

Cookie and AV neither of you deserve that at all

Thanks you xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What defines a shit message ...... thats the question

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Last time I left my messaging open (with preferences) I got 85 in 24 hours. I replied to 4 of them (some of the remaining 81 were shit, some were just dull)

Of the 4 I replied to I think I met 2 people for a social."

This. I'm pretty sure my messages aren't shit, but almost certainly they're dull and I often get no response back (either nothing or delete, they're pretty much the same).

It's not easy writing an opener that is interesting and relevant. And includes something (besides a keyword) to show I've read the profile. Also what tone to take. Surely not mega-horny, but not ty professor either.

But that leaves the question 'what's a good, not dull' message like?

(with apologies for sidetracking the thread)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Last time I left my messaging open (with preferences) I got 85 in 24 hours. I replied to 4 of them (some of the remaining 81 were shit, some were just dull)

Of the 4 I replied to I think I met 2 people for a social.

This. I'm pretty sure my messages aren't shit, but almost certainly they're dull and I often get no response back (either nothing or delete, they're pretty much the same).

But that leaves the question 'what's a good, not dull' message like?

(with apologies for sidetracking the thread) "

Surely its different to every recipient??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Last time I left my messaging open (with preferences) I got 85 in 24 hours. I replied to 4 of them (some of the remaining 81 were shit, some were just dull)

Of the 4 I replied to I think I met 2 people for a social.

This. I'm pretty sure my messages aren't shit, but almost certainly they're dull and I often get no response back (either nothing or delete, they're pretty much the same).

But that leaves the question 'what's a good, not dull' message like?

(with apologies for sidetracking the thread)

Surely its different to every recipient?? "

My messages or the definition of a good one?

My messages are most certainly not copy/paste.

And of course everyone has their own unique opinion but there must be some commonalities. I guess I'm just looking for feedback since no reply doesn't give much to work with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also I want to say that those messages you get are awful and I'm sorry you have to put up with shit like that.

It really bothers me that the world is this way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But that leaves the question 'what's a good, not dull' message like?

(with apologies for sidetracking the thread)

Surely its different to every recipient??

My messages or the definition of a good one?

My messages are most certainly not copy/paste.

And of course everyone has their own unique opinion but there must be some commonalities. I guess I'm just looking for feedback since no reply doesn't give much to work with. "

Sorry i meant what is a good (interesting) message for me, probably wouldn't work for someone else and vice versa

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By *emma HoldenTV/TS
over a year ago

Ramsey

"On average women and couples send worse messages than men.

I'm not so sure, I've seen men's messages and they are often disgusting/abusive, etc..

Men send both the best and the worst messages. And the most. But message for message, women and couples send more lazy/entitled messages."

True with couples local to me. I've had a few make contact then it seems to be up to me to chase. I can't be arsed if they aren't. I've found the local females either don't answer (fair enough) or are actually quite chatty as they struggle to comprehend that some tranny wants to meet girls. It confuses them something terrible

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By *emma HoldenTV/TS
over a year ago

Ramsey

"Not that many, most of mine are complimentary in their own way even if they’re a bit vulgar.

I’m guilty of sending shit messages. I literally just send “lush” but I have 100% success rate!

Looking as you do with your figure & outfits, you're gonna get 100% percent hit rate lol. It would be akin to a lottery win to anyone!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Before I blocked men only about 3 or 4 now I blocked men none in two weeks

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By *ohnjones3210 OP Man
over a year ago

Chester

Interesting stuff!

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"Also I want to say that those messages you get are awful and I'm sorry you have to put up with shit like that.

It really bothers me that the world is this way. "

I wouldn't let it worry you. We just have a good laugh, pick ourselves off the floor and delete/block or just ignore.

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

I probably get an average of about 30-50 messages a day, depending on how active I am.

Most are one liners that at best are hi, how r u? I tend to reply with sarcasm or just straight delete.

Most messages from women are written in such a way I assume they are men (instantly sexual or want an instashag)

I probably have a decent conversation once a fortnight or once a month. And they are generally based off a thread on the forum.

All my 'would love to meet for social or otherwise' people are all from the forums.

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By *ohnjones3210 OP Man
over a year ago

Chester

"I probably get an average of about 30-50 messages a day, depending on how active I am.

Most are one liners that at best are hi, how r u? I tend to reply with sarcasm or just straight delete.

Most messages from women are written in such a way I assume they are men (instantly sexual or want an instashag)

I probably have a decent conversation once a fortnight or once a month. And they are generally based off a thread on the forum.

All my 'would love to meet for social or otherwise' people are all from the forums. "

Thanks for the info!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too many

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