FabSwingers.com forum: If you cant have it do you want it more?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

On fab I find people do moan about being not wanted for particular wide ranging reasons....

Why do folk focus in those that don't want them rather than those that do?

Discuss, explain, encourage and uplift.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one can have me btw

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not available

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

I do see what you mean.

Personally I don't waste energy on what isn't going to happen and focus myself on all* the hotties who inexplicably want me to do the no clothes dance with them.

* At least one honest

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

People fixate on various things, objects of desire are powerful things and addiction Is always lurking, on here it is very apparent hence why I don't send no thank you replies as I only receive abuse, once a 2nd message is received it's a instant block,

I prefer to ignore rather than engage with people trying to get a reaction from me.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"On fab I find people do moan about being not wanted for particular wide ranging reasons....

Why do folk focus in those that don't want them rather than those that do?

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It's akin to some people only focussing on negative comments about themselves whilst neglecting the positive.

Don't know the answer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can’t do bugger all when they don’t. Can’t suddenly get bigger boobs, become thinner or lose my tattoos, so try not to let it get to me now.

I did used to worry that I wasn’t thin enough (they wanted gym fit) or have nice enough boobs, as this site can be based on the physical, and when someone insults something specific about you then it can make you wonder if others think the same.

They don’t and they won’t, so that’s something to keep in mind. We can’t be everyone’s taste, and why want people who insult you. They could simply say not for me or not message back/delete- no response is a response in itself xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's akin to some people only focussing on negative comments about themselves whilst neglecting the positive. "

This is very true 99 out of 100 people can give praise but its the one negative comment that sticks out.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

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"I do see what you mean.

Personally I don't waste energy on what isn't going to happen and focus myself on all* the hotties who inexplicably want me to do the no clothes dance with them.

* At least one honest"

Same for me. What energy I do have I like to out into the positives

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"People fixate on various things, objects of desire are powerful things and addiction Is always lurking, on here it is very apparent hence why I don't send no thank you replies as I only receive abuse, once a 2nd message is received it's a instant block,

I prefer to ignore rather than engage with people trying to get a reaction from me.

Totally agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. If someone doesn’t want me I sure as hell won’t want them. This is why I’ve never understood the stalking/chasing thing. Where’s the fun and passion in that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I can't have then I'll only torture myself if I keep wanting for it, so I don't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m too sensitive. I think for me when someone doesn’t want me, I automatically stop wanting them because I know it’s just going to end in tears

(not actually tears I’m not that much of a cry baby)

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

Someone on here sent me a picture of a cake. I couldn’t have the aforementioned cake and so it made me want it even more

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

I can normally tell when there is genuine interest and if I see it lacking I won't pursue nor force the issue. Life here would be far simpler for many if all did this.

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By *nvisible_beardMan
over a year ago

near newbridge, wales

What happens in the case that no one wants you? You focus on the last person you interact with.

I don't focus on either. I distract myself with the forums now. Used to hold myself back from here and just a few days ago thought f*ck it and just let my freak flag fly.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"What happens in the case that no one wants you? You focus on the last person you interact with.

I don't focus on either. I distract myself with the forums now. Used to hold myself back from here and just a few days ago thought f*ck it and just let my freak flag fly."

Like that...'let my freak flag fly'

*waving mine

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By *nvisible_beardMan
over a year ago

near newbridge, wales

"What happens in the case that no one wants you? You focus on the last person you interact with.

I don't focus on either. I distract myself with the forums now. Used to hold myself back from here and just a few days ago thought f*ck it and just let my freak flag fly.

Like that...'let my freak flag fly'

*waving mine

Woot more flags the better haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"On fab I find people do moan about being not wanted for particular wide ranging reasons....

Why do folk focus in those that don't want them rather than those that do?

Discuss, explain, encourage and uplift.

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the fundamental difference between men and women on this internet domain is that women get lots of attention much of it unwanted and men get very little so much of what men get is negative and unfortunately it rubs off with some

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"On fab I find people do moan about being not wanted for particular wide ranging reasons....

Why do folk focus in those that don't want them rather than those that do?

Discuss, explain, encourage and uplift.

the fundamental difference between men and women on this internet domain is that women get lots of attention much of it unwanted and men get very little so much of what men get is negative and unfortunately it rubs off with some

I see this

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

Because nobody wants them? Coz they feel entitled? Coz they don't get that women have their own sexual fantasies and it isn't them...or if they do get that then they feel rejected.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

We're bombarded with choices and information all of the time. How we decide what to give our attention to is part of our freedom. It's a little sad to use some of our freedom to become enslaved into obsessive desire for what we can't have.

When we learn someone isn't for us, it's something that I find liberating. I can go to pursue other things and people who are interesting - I like that excitement. Sure, if ive wanted to enjoy time with someone it increases their emphasis. Take that opportunity to decide you are not interested now and it's over. When you close something down, focus on your freedom.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

having made a comment earlier in my case if i can't have it or dont get the reaction i want i move away, why flog a dead horse

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

In relation to fab, no, if I get the impression someone isn't interested I move on quickly, chasing people who don't want to be caught doesn't do anything for me.

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