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By *isser36 OP   Man
over a year ago

fylde Coast

Does anyone on here suffer? I've suffered all my life and have always just bottled it up and fought it alone...its mainly been social anxiety and situational anxiety and the avoidance there of.. on occasions its lead me to panic attacks.. Very intense. My quality of life has got to a point where I've now realised that I need to reach out and find help through others, other sufferers and professionals. Am not alone in this... and if you suffer too I'd love to hear from you... Your techniques to manage it... People or organisation you've used to help... If you don't want to post on the forum please contact me directly. Really hope to hear from some of you.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I’ve had a panic attack and stopped breathing. It was very scary and I have no idea what caused it. I ended up in A&E with them doing loads of checks. Nothing wrong.

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By *uicy jonesMan
over a year ago

near a big hill in s/ shropshire NOT in

Occasionally , not so much now !!! Thankfully ,,, all starts when I is my breakdown 9 years ago ,,,. After getting to grips with it all ,, on occasional I still get very panicky , but thankfully not so often now , the doctors gave me diazapam , but Tried not to take depend on them ,,, rather try and control it without those ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only started suffering relatively recently. I am diagnosed with complex PTSD. To.my shame I used to have little or no patience with anxiety and depression sufferers, I was the typical 'pull yourself together' merchant. It is only now I understand how truly debilitating anxiety can be. You have my understanding, my empathy, and my sympathy x

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By *isser36 OP   Man
over a year ago

fylde Coast


"Occasionally , not so much now !!! Thankfully ,,, all starts when I is my breakdown 9 years ago ,,,. After getting to grips with it all ,, on occasional I still get very panicky , but thankfully not so often now , the doctors gave me diazapam , but Tried not to take depend on them ,,, rather try and control it without those , "

Am really trying to avoid going down the medical route, but I know exactly what you mean with getting panicky, I've had attacks where I would be so consumed by my anxiety I couldn't think straight I would do anything to remove myself from the situation. ... Its terrible and I don't think anyone who hasn't had a anxiety or panic attack could appreciate the intensity of them.. They are a deamon.. All consuming. One I'd like rid of!!

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By *isser36 OP   Man
over a year ago

fylde Coast


"I only started suffering relatively recently. I am diagnosed with complex PTSD. To.my shame I used to have little or no patience with anxiety and depression sufferers, I was the typical 'pull yourself together' merchant. It is only now I understand how truly debilitating anxiety can be. You have my understanding, my empathy, and my sympathy x"

It has rule my life and choices long enough... I will find help and beat it. Thank you for your contribution and hope you find your peace too.

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By *mberWoman
over a year ago

Preston

Have you been to the Dr OP?

Maybe CBT will help you to get it under control

Good luck, I have a friend who has it and I know how difficult it can be to manage at times x

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By *uicy jonesMan
over a year ago

near a big hill in s/ shropshire NOT in


"

Am really trying to avoid going down the medical route, but I know exactly what you mean with getting panicky, I've had attacks where I would be so consumed by my anxiety I couldn't think straight I would do anything to remove myself from the situation. ... Its terrible and I don't think anyone who hasn't had a anxiety or panic attack could appreciate the intensity of them.. They are a deamon.. All consuming. One I'd like rid of!! "

Try looking at the doctors for some groups that meet up either once twice a week , these can help and talking to others who re struggling with the same issues can help me make you feel better as it lifts the burden as your not hiding ot from people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there’s a lot of stigma and misinformation around taking medication. There is absolutely no shame in doing so. If you take it regularly, as prescribed, it helps balance you out in just a few weeks which then gives you time and opportunity to learn new strategies and techniques. The benefit of being on medication is that it will allow you to see a bit clearer how to implement these tools in day to day life so when you gradually come off your medication, you’re already equipped to deal with your anxiety. The medication isn’t forever. It’s just to give you some breathing space while you realign yourself. CBT and DBT are both very helpful.

I really hope you get a handle on this OP, I imagine it’s not a very nice place to be in at all. xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Am really trying to avoid going down the medical route, but I know exactly what you mean with getting panicky, I've had attacks where I would be so consumed by my anxiety I couldn't think straight I would do anything to remove myself from the situation. ... Its terrible and I don't think anyone who hasn't had a anxiety or panic attack could appreciate the intensity of them.. They are a deamon.. All consuming. One I'd like rid of!!

Try looking at the doctors for some groups that meet up either once twice a week , these can help and talking to others who re struggling with the same issues can help me make you feel better as it lifts the burden as your not hiding ot from people "

Talking therapy helped me a lot. I wouldnt say I am cured but better equipped to cope x

That and sertraline

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By *urvyandCurious999Woman
over a year ago

Hiding from twats

I've suffered with general anxiety disorder and panic disorder for the best part of 25 years, with the occasional bout of depression thrown in for good measure. I didn't go to the GP until I was about 30 and couldn't really function anymore.

Honestly, seeing the GP that day completely turned my life around. For me, the meds have worked wonders because I didn't have any triggers in particular to talk about. But I've talked to some professionals too when I've gone through particularly bad times. I opened up to my friends and family and they were all fantastic. I'm not sure when or if I'll be able to come off them, but I can lead a normal healthy life now without the constant intrusive thoughts and panic attacks.

It's so worth seeing someone, even just to get it off your chest and discuss how you're feeling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I get bad I stop and clear my head of all thoughts and start again and when alone if I’m struggling to go somewhere through fear I just blag it out.

Worse thing for me is seeing my 18 yr old daughter suffering as I have as I wouldn’t wish this on my worst enemy let alone family.

Find tricks that work for you and good luck.

T

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By *isser36 OP   Man
over a year ago

fylde Coast

Thank you for the contributions guys, keep them coming.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would also say be careful of fixating on triggers, because then you can risk triggers for your triggers!

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By *yx_InannaWoman
over a year ago

Burslem

How I deal and have dealt with mine including panic attacks is basically telling myself I can get through it, telling it it has no control over me.

Years ago I couldn't leave the house without nausea, shakes, heart pounding, dizziness, sweating, butterflies the sizes of birds in my stomach. It wasn't agoraphobia but something else. Wasn't open spaces but people.

I tell myself that whats happened before won't win and anxiety has no power over me. Over time they lessen may get the odd shakes the odd butterflies. Some days more than others but it lessens the more you have confidence in yourself knowing you can make them feelings stop.

Worst part of it was when people tried to help and helping people like to touch to comfort. I've offended many people asking them not to touch me and end up telling them not to touch me because they didnt listen. Which causes the anxiety to worsen because you end up worrying and thinking about their reactions.

You will get a hang of calming the anxiety. You'll find it triggers for no reason but there's a subconscious reasoning. Understanding the triggers will help write them down if you need to, when it happens what you think triggered them what was happening at the time and what had happened before them. It could be something stressful but you handled it fine then after slightest thing can make you cascade into an anxiety and panic attack.

Self reflection will help you

Past is past, can't change it, the future is your own making. The present is where you take charge. Tell that anxiety you're in charge now then count what ever you can see around you pick cracks in the floor or lamp posts on a street, count anything. Give yourself a distraction could anything be it singing a song or reciting favourite line in a book or movie what ever comes to mind. Then tell yourself again youre in charge. You'll find your anxiety attack will have lessened or even gone.

I managed to make it out for new years the first time in 20 years. I blubbed my eyes out at midnight and was sick to my stomach massive anxiety attack. Then I rem_mbered I made it out the door that night 20 years was long enough. Every day is a battle even if it wins some times and you feel beaten rem_mber tomorrow's another day and take each day as it comes.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Managing your physiological including mental states, is a skill that can be learned and developed.

Like most skills, we can repeat them, leading to habit formation. As many of us who are drivers grasp, our habits involving physiological patterns know, they soon drift into becoming non-conscious patterns.

What I'm leading to here is that if we practice relaxation patterns, we can improve our skill at it. Do it frequently and we can make it a habit. Keep at it and you can further get non-conscious mastery of it - it can become automatic for us. We get to the point where we don't have to put much, if any, conscious thought into relaxing and creating a less anxious state of mind and body.

This isn't specific to helping us get into a more resourceful state when we may have been anxious socially before, for example. I just find that where we're able to naturally engage our more relaxed self without effort or working at it, we'll also not be in the positions where we may have created another experience of discomfort or, possibly, regret etc.

There can be many ways that we develop our skill - managing good breathing techniques is one, we can also do this within yoga. Meditation is good. Ive had a lot of benefit from yoga as well as some relaxedv breathing techniques - typically slow breathing, with breathing out typically twice as long as the in breaths.

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By *ebel69Man
over a year ago

durham

a started having panick attacks about 7 year ago, just out of the blue, so i thought, but it was probably from working too hard then staying up every weekend partying, it started with a couple of small ones then the last time a had one a felt the anxiety everyday for about a month afterward, never felt so low a didnt want to face anyone or be near anyone was constantly focused on me breathing which just made things worse always feeling tight chested as if an attack was iminent ,a stayed in and locked meself away which didnt seem to help either took is nearly ten minutes to get out the door to go anywhere at its worst point..

a didnt go to the doctors because a didnt want medication. so i started running afterdark until a was out of breath which wasnt long because a was probably so unfit at the time. a ran about a 1/4 mile a day after dark to start gradually building a longer route , it worked and it felt good and even though your gasping for breath after running it regulated my breathing back to normal , a dont drink scince and now run 3 mile atleast 5 days a week with some other cardio training and have not had another panick attack or any anxiety in that 7 year..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep! It drives me mad as to me, it's so illogical and stupid when you find yourself worrying for no particular reason. It's so annoying to me.

I started colouring almost five years ago now and I find that it works as a great preventative for my mental health in general. I keep a journal which really helps when I need to get my thoughts out of my head and into some sort of order, and I try to do a bit of drawing too. I put time aside each day specifically for those activities.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had Bells Palsey due to anxiety and I get the odd panic attack once in a blue moon. I had to be told that it was anxiety though as the panic attacks I thought were due to maybe low blood sugar or summit as I thought they were just a dizzy spell at first. The Bells came on because when I first moved into a shared house I didnt know the guys there and I felt unwelcome at the start.

I think we all feel anxious from time to time about one thing or another and some maybe worry more than others.

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By *essie.Woman
over a year ago

Serendipity

For me mindfulness helps if I’m anxious. There are apps for it which can give you different methods to try. A lot of it is around breathing and getting in touch with your surroundings. Having an object to hold in your pocket can be helpful as well. An item that you like the texture of, a smooth pebble or a shell - that kind of thing. I hope you find some support that helps you.

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By *ark ph0enixWoman
over a year ago

Teesside

Yes I fight this battle too. I have regular counselling and meds to control it. I'm at the point now where I'm beginning to gradually reduce the meds.

Inbox me if you want to discuss it and the other methods I use

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Omg yes. It gives me the shakes whe I'm nervous or scared or just anxious.

I hate it as it all came from a past relationship and I'm hoping with time it will get better...

I was on meds but I hated how they made me feel so gave up on them.

I know personally for me with time I will heal but staying.g strong focused motivated and driven is so hard....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes.

I have a very trained, very gorgeous, service dog because of it.

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By *isser36 OP   Man
over a year ago

fylde Coast

Thank you everyone for opening up with your stories and advice, I have taken the step of getting a doctors appointment and hopefully talking with them will get me pointed in the right direction and on the road to controlling my anxiety. Please keep posting if for no other reason than to unburden yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try an amateur theatre group. Youd meet people and learn to self manage your condition.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep I have it here , it stops me going out sometimes , I never go out to work parties etc always say I will go then cancel , I like to be alone but crave company if that makes sense. Is it low self esteem or anxiety or both , have alwAys been like it since I was a teen

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By *lbinoGorillaMan
over a year ago

Redditch

Bookmarking this for when I have more time, as some of this resonates with me and I'd never ascribed it to anxiety before

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone on here suffer? I've suffered all my life and have always just bottled it up and fought it alone...its mainly been social anxiety and situational anxiety and the avoidance there of.. on occasions its lead me to panic attacks.. Very intense. My quality of life has got to a point where I've now realised that I need to reach out and find help through others, other sufferers and professionals. Am not alone in this... and if you suffer too I'd love to hear from you... Your techniques to manage it... People or organisation you've used to help... If you don't want to post on the forum please contact me directly. Really hope to hear from some of you. "

You're not alone, I suffer from anxiety as well as several other mental health issues and it's really awful.

I've had a lot of therapy and meds but I'm still not really on top of it.

I'm sorry I don't have more useful advice, I just wanted to let you know that you aren't alone in this.

Wishing you the best.

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By *unguy_4_uMan
over a year ago

Kettering


"Yep I have it here , it stops me going out sometimes , I never go out to work parties etc always say I will go then cancel , I like to be alone but crave company if that makes sense. Is it low self esteem or anxiety or both , have alwAys been like it since I was a teen "

Skyblue - I am not doctor but what you have is one of the things (along with health anxiety) that my wife suffers from.

The anxiety leads to low self esteem and I would honestly recommend that you speak openly and frankly to your GP for some advice.

There can be several triggers to this, but the most common one (as I understand it) can be caused by a chemical imbalance in your brain and only tablets will help with that??

There's a bog taboo in the uk around taking tablets to help with mental health issues (unlike the usa) but if it helps it helps.

Good luck you you and everybody else that's posted with similar issues

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