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By *hippy57 OP   Man
over a year ago

Chelmsford

Can I ask why most women and couple profiles say no married or attached men,

Assume most want discreet fun & not wanting marriage etc,

Also would think married guys be more health conscious ?

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By *pagafocsMan
over a year ago

Madrid


"Can I ask why most women and couple profiles say no married or attached men,

Assume most want discreet fun & not wanting marriage etc,

Also would think married guys be more health conscious ?"

No attach means more easy to meet

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By *iger4uWoman
over a year ago

In my happy place

Usually married guys are here and partnees dont know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can I ask why most women and couple profiles say no married or attached men,

Assume most want discreet fun & not wanting marriage etc,

Also would think married guys be more health conscious ?"

from my experience they don't want any drama. I am the same no married men for those certain reasons

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By *hippy57 OP   Man
over a year ago

Chelmsford

I would thought the opposite,more drama from single guy,especially if he fell big time for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Attached people are often restricted to when they can meet.

There's the risk of the partner finding out and causing drama.

Cheaters are already being dishonest to the person they love, many would assume that makes them untrustworthy in general.

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By *hippy57 OP   Man
over a year ago

Chelmsford

OK see your point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t like the idea of ‘cheating’ on the Mrs. Absolutely against my morales. We just want no strings , no hassle fuck and go types!

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By *lan157Man
over a year ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex


"I would thought the opposite,more drama from single guy,especially if he fell big time for you "

If he is a swinger then he won't .

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By *hippy57 OP   Man
over a year ago

Chelmsford

One for the guys,would you meet a married women if she on here without her husband knowing she on fan

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"Can I ask why most women and couple profiles say no married or attached men,

Assume most want discreet fun & not wanting marriage etc,

Also would think married guys be more health conscious ?"

No we just don't want to be party to husbands cheating on their wives....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would thought the opposite,more drama from single guy,especially if he fell big time for you "

Rather not go there. There plenty of sexy hot single out there to choose from. Why rock the boat when you don't need too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can I ask why most women and couple profiles say no married or attached men,

Assume most want discreet fun & not wanting marriage etc,

Also would think married guys be more health conscious ?

No we just don't want to be party to husbands cheating on their wives....

"

I agree don't want to be aparty to all that

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By *wentMan
over a year ago

blackpool


"Can I ask why most women and couple profiles say no married or attached men,

Assume most want discreet fun & not wanting marriage etc,

Also would think married guys be more health conscious ?

No we just don't want to be party to husbands cheating on their wives...."

Preferences of people, don’t want any hearts broken.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would have said it would make NSA very easy

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By *hippy57 OP   Man
over a year ago

Chelmsford

Thank you so much for your comments,very valid,good to see morality exists

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can I ask why most women and couple profiles say no married or attached men,

Assume most want discreet fun & not wanting marriage etc,

Also would think married guys be more health conscious ?

No we just don't want to be party to husbands cheating on their wives....

Preferences of people, don’t want any hearts broken. "

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

I often wonder how the married people on here would feel if their partner were cheating....

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By *hippy57 OP   Man
over a year ago

Chelmsford

My first wife used to cheat,1980s,I felt gutted at time,as I think most would,still think about it,hence why I was interested in points of view

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"My first wife used to cheat,1980s,I felt gutted at time,as I think most would,still think about it,hence why I was interested in points of view "

So I assume you wouldn't cheat and put someone else through that.

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"Can I ask why most women and couple profiles say no married or attached men,

Assume most want discreet fun & not wanting marriage etc,

Also would think married guys be more health conscious ?"

I had a fantastic night/morning with a married man yesterday/today!

However - he’s part of a fab couple and we met openly with her permission!

I don’t need the drama of meeting the ‘playing away’ category. A couple of months ago I was WhatsApped by the wife (and baby daughter) that I didn’t know existed of a guy who told me he wanted a relationship with me. I’ve no wish to be involved in the break down of a relationship - even inadvertently! X

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By *hippy57 OP   Man
over a year ago

Chelmsford

Not at all,we experimented together to start with,I had no problem with that as we did it together,it was the cheating alone done me

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"Not at all,we experimented together to start with,I had no problem with that as we did it together,it was the cheating alone done me "

Yes it would, not nice

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By *hippy57 OP   Man
over a year ago

Chelmsford

As a couple ,I think you need to have a strong relationship,probably more so than most marriages,to enjoy swinging

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By *hippy57 OP   Man
over a year ago

Chelmsford

Its not a fix for flagging marriage

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"As a couple ,I think you need to have a strong relationship,probably more so than most marriages,to enjoy swinging "

You do have to have a strong relationships for swinging I agree

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"Its not a fix for flagging marriage "

Definitely

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Its not a fix for flagging marriage "

It's just sex. It might patch a marriage up in some cases.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"I often wonder how the married people on here would feel if their partner were cheating...."

If there’s no food in the cupboard at home, a hungry man (or woman) will go out to eat....

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By *hippy57 OP   Man
over a year ago

Chelmsford

Trust ,is a wonderful thing,I remember my old dad telling me,you think you got lots of mates etc,someone you can truly trust very rare,he was so right,he was the only person I could trust 100%

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"I often wonder how the married people on here would feel if their partner were cheating....

If there’s no food in the cupboard at home, a hungry man (or woman) will go out to eat...."

Oh..

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"Trust ,is a wonderful thing,I remember my old dad telling me,you think you got lots of mates etc,someone you can truly trust very rare,he was so right,he was the only person I could trust 100%"

Oh thats a shame , I have many people in my life I can trust..

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I often wonder how the married people on here would feel if their partner were cheating....

If there’s no food in the cupboard at home, a hungry man (or woman) will go out to eat...."

That's the bottom line really. Emotional or sexual neglect will cause issues and sometimes people will solve those issues outside of a relationship.

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By *hippy57 OP   Man
over a year ago

Chelmsford

Your very lucky to have many you can trust,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Usually married guys are here and partnees dont know. "

I would guess there is the same proportion of married women on here (whose partners are unaware) as there are married men doing the same. Just more men than women on Fab.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Usually married guys are here and partnees dont know.

I would guess there is the same proportion of married women on here (whose partners are unaware) as there are married men doing the same. Just more men than women on Fab."

Married women are treated very differently to married men on fab.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Lots of reasons, including people here who have been hurt or seen others devastated after they find out that their trust was misjudged and trashed - some people struggling to trust others again.

People also want no complications sex and married men may give the opposite, have limited free time with little flexibility to fit that of someone without commitments.

How much do you trust someone who is deceitful to their closest partner?

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"Your very lucky to have many you can trust,"

I know I am

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By *hippy57 OP   Man
over a year ago

Chelmsford

Can understand,someone your deceives there partner,are not someone to be trusted,makes good sense

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By *wentMan
over a year ago

blackpool

my ex wife cheated on me. People from my work say they saw her out with other men.

It hurts when you love someone so much so would never inflict it on anyone else.

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By *hippy57 OP   Man
over a year ago

Chelmsford

It does hurt I know,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Usually married guys are here and partnees dont know.

I would guess there is the same proportion of married women on here (whose partners are unaware) as there are married men doing the same. Just more men than women on Fab.

Married women are treated very differently to married men on fab."

Yes, I suppose it is the reverse of the situation where a man can have many notches on a bedpost and it is a badge of honour, yet a woman that has sex with a series of men gets called a “slag” or a “slut”.

We live in a world of double standards and finger-pointing, unfortunately.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One for the guys,would you meet a married women if she on here without her husband knowing she on fab "

Yes. I have met two married women on here unbeknownst to their other halves and mine.

I am happily married, as was at least one of the two aforementioned ladies.

Not everyone cheats because of a lack of sex at home either. Quite the opposite for me. My wife has a much bigger libido than me but when I'm more active outside my marriage, I'm more active within it too.

I accept that I have lower moral standards than most on here and risk jeopardising my relationship as a result. I have no excuses.

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

I dont because morally I'm on my soap box.

And also because it's my choice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mainly because they aren't likely to be available when I am!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We or I should say my wife as it’s her choice understand that men are men and as this adventure on fab is hers it’s the same for men so we don’t object to married men at all.

If they get caught it’s not our problem.

T

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Live and let live.

Always 3 sides to every story and we always seem to hear from the wounded party on here!

If you dont want to meet attached people, cheating or not then dont. It really is that simple. Not sure why you feel the need to bleat about it on the forums.

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By *arroness NikkiWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

I’m okay with meeting married men but un-married ones are generally easier to deal with x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't agree with cheating

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By *avethefish400Man
over a year ago

Chichester


"One for the guys,would you meet a married women if she on here without her husband knowing she on fan "

100% makes it more fun and I find it a turn on.

Had one friend who used to love going home after sex. Then getting her partner to fuck her again!

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By *hom_1981Man
over a year ago

Manchester


"One for the guys,would you meet a married women if she on here without her husband knowing she on fan "

In all honesty, probably yes.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Can I ask why most women and couple profiles say no married or attached men,

Assume most want discreet fun & not wanting marriage etc,

Also would think married guys be more health conscious ?"

I've changed by meet criteria over the years. I now exclude married men because:

* I don't invite anyone into my home who won't invite me to theirs.

* I do not want to bathe and use perfume the wife wears so not to leave a scent trail.

* I don't want to be told " No marking"...

* I don't like time limits when I'm playing or people wanting to hang around as it's too early to go home.

I could go on. All of the above I experienced before I changed my meet and play criteria. I don't play nice and I've been known to mark, shave and "tattoo".

Married men know better than to contact me, so win win.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Can I ask why most women and couple profiles say no married or attached men,

Assume most want discreet fun & not wanting marriage etc,

Also would think married guys be more health conscious ?

I've changed by meet criteria over the years. I now exclude married men because:

* I don't invite anyone into my home who won't invite me to theirs.

* I do not want to bathe and use perfume the wife wears so not to leave a scent trail.

* I don't want to be told " No marking"...

* I don't like time limits when I'm playing or people wanting to hang around as it's too early to go home.

I could go on. All of the above I experienced before I changed my meet and play criteria. I don't play nice and I've been known to mark, shave and "tattoo".

Married men know better than to contact me, so win win.

"

How would they? Your profile is hidden....?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because I don't meet cheats. That's why.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm married but play with the full knowledge of my wife. I couldn't play behind her back.

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester


"Can I ask why most women and couple profiles say no married or attached men,

Assume most want discreet fun & not wanting marriage etc,

Also would think married guys be more health conscious ?"

Women for you. As far as I know, it's all to do with jealousy, etc. "Oh, can't have you if you think some other woman is better. You chose another woman, so go to her.", etc.

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By *iceButtSlimMan
over a year ago

somewhere

You get plenty of profile stating no married men, I can understand the not wanting to get involved for all the reasons above. Generally I won't message and respect that, but I always wonder does that apply to married/attached men playing with permission? Or is it a case that they see that as a lie?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You get plenty of profile stating no married men, I can understand the not wanting to get involved for all the reasons above. Generally I won't message and respect that, but I always wonder does that apply to married/attached men playing with permission? Or is it a case that they see that as a lie?"

If they can speak to the other half then problem sorted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find married men a bit of a turn on

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"I find married men a bit of a turn on "

Prepare to be inundated with messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been there done that

And it don’t work they can hardly ever meet

It’s very frustrating

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"Usually married guys are here and partnees dont know.

I would guess there is the same proportion of married women on here (whose partners are unaware) as there are married men doing the same. Just more men than women on Fab.

Married women are treated very differently to married men on fab."

That's mainly because women are much rarer on fabs. (male) beggars can't be choosers.

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By *ampshirehotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire

Doesn't bother me he's the one cheating not me it's just sex I'm not getting into an emotional relationship with him.

As long as I am told from the start and not fed a load of bullshit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Live and let live. OK, I may have a bias on this, being in the very situation, but of the women I've spoken to and met; I know fellow cheaters, I know women who have no problem with it, and I know women who actively seek married men. If I've spoken with someone who is against it and tells me so, then I'll thank them for their time and respect their point of view. I also know of stories of women who say "no to married", but bend their own rules as soon as they find out he is worth bending them for, whether that be he is a chiselled adonis, or happens to be a genuinely nice guy (but just a cheat)!

What I do notice though, is the level of 'judgement' bestowed by a proportion of the naysayers.

The swinging lifestyle is 'judged' on the whole, fairly negatively by society, but those within it think society is wrong. A bit unfair to bemoan judgement for what you do, while judging someoene else for what they do.

Like I say, I respect anybody's position, we're all different.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Usually married guys are here and partnees dont know.

I would guess there is the same proportion of married women on here (whose partners are unaware) as there are married men doing the same. Just more men than women on Fab.

Married women are treated very differently to married men on fab.

That's mainly because women are much rarer on fabs. (male) beggars can't be choosers. "

Probably but there also seems to be the general idea that if a man's here behind his partners back she's at home crying while looking after several waif like children with no help from him, while working full time and running the home. If a woman's doing the same thing it's because her partner neglects her.

When it comes to infidelity it's a woman's world

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By *elshkinkyMan
over a year ago

south wales


"Doesn't bother me he's the one cheating not me it's just sex I'm not getting into an emotional relationship with him.

As long as I am told from the start and not fed a load of bullshit."

Hallelujah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It just doesn't sit well with some people.

For me, I've just never wanted their Mrs contacting me if they were to find out (yes, that's happened), don't want the drama.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find married men a bit of a turn on

Prepare to be inundated with messages "

Oops...

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

We only meet guys who are secretly gay or bi for sex because they're soo brave.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"Usually married guys are here and partnees dont know.

I would guess there is the same proportion of married women on here (whose partners are unaware) as there are married men doing the same. Just more men than women on Fab.

Married women are treated very differently to married men on fab.

That's mainly because women are much rarer on fabs. (male) beggars can't be choosers.

Probably but there also seems to be the general idea that if a man's here behind his partners back she's at home crying while looking after several waif like children with no help from him, while working full time and running the home. If a woman's doing the same thing it's because her partner neglects her.

When it comes to infidelity it's a woman's world"

I don't disagree with that, but I think that itself is a function of the fact that fewer women cheat (surveys have been done)...

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"You get plenty of profile stating no married men, I can understand the not wanting to get involved for all the reasons above. Generally I won't message and respect that, but I always wonder does that apply to married/attached men playing with permission? Or is it a case that they see that as a lie?"

We will meet married men who have an agreement but that agreement needs to be well verified, so far that's happened only once.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Usually married guys are here and partnees dont know.

I would guess there is the same proportion of married women on here (whose partners are unaware) as there are married men doing the same. Just more men than women on Fab.

Married women are treated very differently to married men on fab.

That's mainly because women are much rarer on fabs. (male) beggars can't be choosers.

Probably but there also seems to be the general idea that if a man's here behind his partners back she's at home crying while looking after several waif like children with no help from him, while working full time and running the home. If a woman's doing the same thing it's because her partner neglects her.

When it comes to infidelity it's a woman's world

I don't disagree with that, but I think that itself is a function of the fact that fewer women cheat (surveys have been done)... "

No surveys have been done on this but my opinion and experience is that in general women will try and fix a relationship and men will try and find a solution outside of it. Also for men it's often about sex while for women it's about feelings, women will be emotionally unfaithful and can conceal that more easily.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Doesn't bother me he's the one cheating not me it's just sex I'm not getting into an emotional relationship with him.

As long as I am told from the start and not fed a load of bullshit.

Hallelujah "

Amen

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"I dont because morally I'm on my soap box.

And also because it's my choice "

I'll add that it goes for women aswell as men

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"Usually married guys are here and partnees dont know.

I would guess there is the same proportion of married women on here (whose partners are unaware) as there are married men doing the same. Just more men than women on Fab.

Married women are treated very differently to married men on fab.

That's mainly because women are much rarer on fabs. (male) beggars can't be choosers.

Probably but there also seems to be the general idea that if a man's here behind his partners back she's at home crying while looking after several waif like children with no help from him, while working full time and running the home. If a woman's doing the same thing it's because her partner neglects her.

When it comes to infidelity it's a woman's world

I don't disagree with that, but I think that itself is a function of the fact that fewer women cheat (surveys have been done)...

No surveys have been done on this but my opinion and experience is that in general women will try and fix a relationship and men will try and find a solution outside of it. Also for men it's often about sex while for women it's about feelings, women will be emotionally unfaithful and can conceal that more easily. "

That's it I think ??

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By *tella HeelsTV/TS
over a year ago

west here ford shire


"Usually married guys are here and partnees dont know. "

It doesn’t bother me, but then again I’m married too

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By *ic_khan2341Man
over a year ago

Manchester

There a number of women who want to only meet married men as they see them as more stable, clean, emotionally balanced, and less hassle.

They aint going to become clingy as they in a relationship already.

That's what I have been told anyway.

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By *llure sensuelleWoman
over a year ago

right here


"I would thought the opposite,more drama from single guy,especially if he fell big time for you

If he is a swinger then he won't . "

Didn’t realise being a swinger precluded feelings

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can I ask why most women and couple profiles say no married or attached men,

Assume most want discreet fun & not wanting marriage etc,

Also would think married guys be more health conscious ?"
its an ethics/honesty thing not so much about the fact you're honest about being married but that your partner doesn't know and you're cheating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im not here to judge, everyone has a reason for being here and im lucky my hubby supports me allowing me to have BDSM fun.

My reason why I dont play with married men because im a chatter box and I like to connect through conversation.

Ive found out that they can't chat during evenings or weekends as their partners are there.

Thats no good for me as that's the time I mainly chat so I dont bother starting something.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I think married guys get a bit of a rough deal. It’s always seems like people forget married women are on here as well and have the same meet/time constraints and potential dramas that guys do.

Plenty of people happy to meet married folks as they see them as being more discrete.

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By *ounty durham bbw coupleCouple
over a year ago

darlington

We probably would not meet anyone to local who was married in case partner found out would cause to much trouble we don't judge people though nothing morally against it no one knows what is going on inside the marriage

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be honest about it to whoever you’re chatting to/thinking of meeting. They can then make an informed decision on whether they want to meet you. No need for judging or slating. It’s really that simple

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"Personally I think married guys get a bit of a rough deal. It’s always seems like people forget married women are on here as well and have the same meet/time constraints and potential dramas that guys do.

Plenty of people happy to meet married folks as they see them as being more discrete. "

I think married guys get a bit of a rough deal yes, but part of that is of their own making. I don't see many married women starting threads asking for general forum opinions on their marital status, but lots of men do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I think married guys get a bit of a rough deal. It’s always seems like people forget married women are on here as well and have the same meet/time constraints and potential dramas that guys do.

Plenty of people happy to meet married folks as they see them as being more discrete.

I think married guys get a bit of a rough deal yes, but part of that is of their own making. I don't see many married women starting threads asking for general forum opinions on their marital status, but lots of men do. "
yes but women don't struggle getting interest whether they are married and cheating or not and thats the fundamental difference men struggle even if they have great profiles great physiques and great pics

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"Personally I think married guys get a bit of a rough deal. It’s always seems like people forget married women are on here as well and have the same meet/time constraints and potential dramas that guys do.

Plenty of people happy to meet married folks as they see them as being more discrete.

I think married guys get a bit of a rough deal yes, but part of that is of their own making. I don't see many married women starting threads asking for general forum opinions on their marital status, but lots of men do. yes but women don't struggle getting interest whether they are married and cheating or not and thats the fundamental difference men struggle even if they have great profiles great physiques and great pics "

It just comes off whiny and desperate. In my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I think married guys get a bit of a rough deal. It’s always seems like people forget married women are on here as well and have the same meet/time constraints and potential dramas that guys do.

Plenty of people happy to meet married folks as they see them as being more discrete.

I think married guys get a bit of a rough deal yes, but part of that is of their own making. I don't see many married women starting threads asking for general forum opinions on their marital status, but lots of men do. yes but women don't struggle getting interest whether they are married and cheating or not and thats the fundamental difference men struggle even if they have great profiles great physiques and great pics

It just comes off whiny and desperate. In my opinion. "
maybe so but thats why they do it especially if theyve not asked the question before and we've seen it asked a 100 times

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By *elshkinkyMan
over a year ago

south wales

It’s in bold on my profile

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"It’s in bold on my profile "

That's how to do it I think, honesty up front and just get on with the people who are OK with it, rather than dwelling on those who aren't

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Can I ask why most women and couple profiles say no married or attached men,

Assume most want discreet fun & not wanting marriage etc,

Also would think married guys be more health conscious ?

I've changed by meet criteria over the years. I now exclude married men because:

* I don't invite anyone into my home who won't invite me to theirs.

* I do not want to bathe and use perfume the wife wears so not to leave a scent trail.

* I don't want to be told " No marking"...

* I don't like time limits when I'm playing or people wanting to hang around as it's too early to go home.

I could go on. All of the above I experienced before I changed my meet and play criteria. I don't play nice and I've been known to mark, shave and "tattoo".

Married men know better than to contact me, so win win.

How would they? Your profile is hidden....? "

It is now Einstein: it wasn't always thus!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I'm married but play with the full knowledge of my wife. I couldn't play behind her back."

Then it doesn't apply to you.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

Controversial opinion, but if you're married with an unknowing party, keep quiet about it. You're already being dishonest with your partner so you don't need to have any moral qualms about being dishonest with Internet strangers.

There's literally no upside with saying you are married m your chances of a meet will reduce and given the short term nature of most fab encounters it's unlikely you'll be found out if you lie.

True, you won't be able to accommodate and some people will see that as a sign you are married, but just brazen it out "I don't like inviting strangers to my home but will happily pay for a hotel".

My view is that guys who say they are married do so mainly because they are looking for affirmation and absolution

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By *elshkinkyMan
over a year ago

south wales

Personally I think it’s only fair I am up front with it. I don’t want women to be mislead ... it’s personal choice by me and those I chose to meet. I’m not here for acceptance of those that don’t feel they can give it

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Personally I think married guys get a bit of a rough deal. It’s always seems like people forget married women are on here as well and have the same meet/time constraints and potential dramas that guys do.

Plenty of people happy to meet married folks as they see them as being more discrete.

I think married guys get a bit of a rough deal yes, but part of that is of their own making. I don't see many married women starting threads asking for general forum opinions on their marital status, but lots of men do. "

Exactly!

If I were married and playing away I could give two fucks what anyone thought and I sure as hell wouldn't be justifying my position or moaning about people not meeting me because of my marital status!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"It’s in bold on my profile

That's how to do it I think, honesty up front and just get on with the people who are OK with it, rather than dwelling on those who aren't "

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By *elshkinkyMan
over a year ago

south wales


"It’s in bold on my profile

That's how to do it I think, honesty up front and just get on with the people who are OK with it, rather than dwelling on those who aren't "

Yep... thank you

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By *ilmissplumpyWoman
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

For me the reason is personal...

I've been the woman who's husband cheated on her with another woman. So if a married man on here without his wife's knowledge asked for a meet, I wouldn't care if he was a 10/10 I wouldn't do it. However if the hubby/partner in a couple on fab asked for a meet then that would be different because it's honest..

Lmp

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By *leasure4leisureMan
over a year ago

south


"Controversial opinion, but if you're married with an unknowing party, keep quiet about it. You're already being dishonest with your partner so you don't need to have any moral qualms about being dishonest with Internet strangers.

There's literally no upside with saying you are married m your chances of a meet will reduce and given the short term nature of most fab encounters it's unlikely you'll be found out if you lie.

True, you won't be able to accommodate and some people will see that as a sign you are married, but just brazen it out "I don't like inviting strangers to my home but will happily pay for a hotel".

My view is that guys who say they are married do so mainly because they are looking for affirmation and absolution

"

I am married, happily and we did soft swing together

In the end mrs decided it wasn’t for her

She still meets socially from time to time

Most people seem to find the idea of a married guy off putting as he is cheating

I am not , she knows alway. This is what swinging is about, fun play with out the emotions of a relationship ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Last thing you need is an angry wife at the door.

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham


"Last thing you need is an angry wife at the door. "

How does this happen? Do people actually give out personal details like full names and addresses? We try to keep our 'secret life' totally seperate to our 'real life'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Controversial opinion, but if you're married with an unknowing party, keep quiet about it. You're already being dishonest with your partner so you don't need to have any moral qualms about being dishonest with Internet strangers.

There's literally no upside with saying you are married m your chances of a meet will reduce and given the short term nature of most fab encounters it's unlikely you'll be found out if you lie.

True, you won't be able to accommodate and some people will see that as a sign you are married, but just brazen it out "I don't like inviting strangers to my home but will happily pay for a hotel".

My view is that guys who say they are married do so mainly because they are looking for affirmation and absolution

"

That's an interesting take on it. Infidelity aside, I would rather not lie to anyone so I am up front about it in my profile and have never been intimate with anyone who didn't know my situation.

Believe it or not, I have had much more 'success' since choosing to be so open as there are a LOT of married women on here similarly looking for NSA fun.

I prefer to see married women as we both know what we are doing, we both know it is wrong, but we do not judge each other for it.

I'm not looking for affirmation or absolution but I do completely understand other people's objections and respect them. I certainly wouldn't whine about the unfairness of it all!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Last thing you need is an angry wife at the door.

How does this happen? Do people actually give out personal details like full names and addresses? We try to keep our 'secret life' totally seperate to our 'real life'. "

You get followed!!

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"Controversial opinion, but if you're married with an unknowing party, keep quiet about it. You're already being dishonest with your partner so you don't need to have any moral qualms about being dishonest with Internet strangers.

There's literally no upside with saying you are married m your chances of a meet will reduce and given the short term nature of most fab encounters it's unlikely you'll be found out if you lie.

True, you won't be able to accommodate and some people will see that as a sign you are married, but just brazen it out "I don't like inviting strangers to my home but will happily pay for a hotel".

My view is that guys who say they are married do so mainly because they are looking for affirmation and absolution

That's an interesting take on it. Infidelity aside, I would rather not lie to anyone so I am up front about it in my profile and have never been intimate with anyone who didn't know my situation.

Believe it or not, I have had much more 'success' since choosing to be so open as there are a LOT of married women on here similarly looking for NSA fun.

I prefer to see married women as we both know what we are doing, we both know it is wrong, but we do not judge each other for it.

I'm not looking for affirmation or absolution but I do completely understand other people's objections and respect them. I certainly wouldn't whine about the unfairness of it all! "

I think you're very much the exception in having a straightforward realistic attitude. Most married men try to justify themselves and expect brownie points for being "honest". Very off putting.

We don't want to know about people's lives outside fabs. If you are cheating, we don't want to know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Something for everyone so sexist this post what about the married ladies

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"Something for everyone so sexist this post what about the married ladies "

That's already been discussed in some depth within the thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am happy to play with married men with partners consent otherwise its a no go. I just believe in honesty so follow my morals

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Controversial opinion, but if you're married with an unknowing party, keep quiet about it. You're already being dishonest with your partner so you don't need to have any moral qualms about being dishonest with Internet strangers.

There's literally no upside with saying you are married m your chances of a meet will reduce and given the short term nature of most fab encounters it's unlikely you'll be found out if you lie.

True, you won't be able to accommodate and some people will see that as a sign you are married, but just brazen it out "I don't like inviting strangers to my home but will happily pay for a hotel".

My view is that guys who say they are married do so mainly because they are looking for affirmation and absolution

That's an interesting take on it. Infidelity aside, I would rather not lie to anyone so I am up front about it in my profile and have never been intimate with anyone who didn't know my situation.

Believe it or not, I have had much more 'success' since choosing to be so open as there are a LOT of married women on here similarly looking for NSA fun.

I prefer to see married women as we both know what we are doing, we both know it is wrong, but we do not judge each other for it.

I'm not looking for affirmation or absolution but I do completely understand other people's objections and respect them. I certainly wouldn't whine about the unfairness of it all! "

I agree. A fair summary there.

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By *rtyPartyCouple
over a year ago

Torbay area

If you are here openly (with each other) as couple then you will, at some point, have discussed openly and honestly about something potentially contentious with that special someone you love, cherish and value.

That can feel risky if you haven't done it... And for many this kind of honesty in their relationship is something they aren't used to and might feel they can't manage.

For some couples that barrier can feel like a right of passage which brings benefits of a closeness far wider than the perhaps obvious... And some of those people look for that same honesty in the other people they choose to bring into their relationship...

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly


"Can I ask why most women and couple profiles say no married or attached men,

Assume most want discreet fun & not wanting marriage etc,

Also would think married guys be more health conscious ?"

What do you mean, health conscious? As in safe sex? Why is that to do with them bring married or not?

I have knowingly been the other woman before, so have first hand experience of the hurt it can cause. I have no wish to be part of that again.

Mrs TMN x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you are here openly (with each other) as couple then you will, at some point, have discussed openly and honestly about something potentially contentious with that special someone you love, cherish and value.

That can feel risky if you haven't done it... And for many this kind of honesty in their relationship is something they aren't used to and might feel they can't manage.

For some couples that barrier can feel like a right of passage which brings benefits of a closeness far wider than the perhaps obvious... And some of those people look for that same honesty in the other people they choose to bring into their relationship... "

Really good point. I need to have a think about this one.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"If you are here openly (with each other) as couple then you will, at some point, have discussed openly and honestly about something potentially contentious with that special someone you love, cherish and value.

That can feel risky if you haven't done it... And for many this kind of honesty in their relationship is something they aren't used to and might feel they can't manage.

For some couples that barrier can feel like a right of passage which brings benefits of a closeness far wider than the perhaps obvious... And some of those people look for that same honesty in the other people they choose to bring into their relationship... "

Excellently worded.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Doesn't bother me he's the one cheating not me it's just sex I'm not getting into an emotional relationship with him.

As long as I am told from the start and not fed a load of bullshit."

I clearly state in the FIRST LINE of my profile that I am playing away, so that people can choose to either block me, or message me, and yet I still get people contacting me who “don’t get involved with married men”

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Because i would hate it done to me,so wouldn't knowingly meet someone cheating.

Potentially causing someone else pain for some fun just isn't worth it in my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having been in an unsatisfying marriage with little chance of changing things at the time, I think differently about this. Although I usually always go for single men, if a married man were to catch my eye, I would base my decision on their individual case and not stick to broad sweeping statements.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I often wonder how the married people on here would feel if their partner were cheating....

If there’s no food in the cupboard at home, a hungry man (or woman) will go out to eat....

That's the bottom line really. Emotional or sexual neglect will cause issues and sometimes people will solve those issues outside of a relationship."

Correct, unfortunately

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By *rtyPartyCouple
over a year ago

Torbay area


"Excellently worded. "

Thank-you.

The thing is the feelings that can come from openly and honestly tackle difficult issues in a relationship (of any kind and in any part of your life) can be really liberating. We always feel closer when we've played together...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesn’t sit well with me morally. I wouldn’t want to be cheated on so I wouldn’t want to be a part of it.

The worst part about cheating for me would not be the actual sex it would be the guys friends knowing or the girl knowing and feeling sorry for me or thinking I’m a prick cos I’m in the dark.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Last thing you need is an angry wife at the door.

How does this happen? Do people actually give out personal details like full names and addresses? We try to keep our 'secret life' totally seperate to our 'real life'. "

Yes they do

Plus face.b and phone numbers.

Im like you, everything separate!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Married men generally aren't free when I am, it's a non-starter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No No drama i don't want no drama

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By *ucidityWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

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By *ucidityWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Can I ask why most women and couple profiles say no married or attached men,

Assume most want discreet fun & not wanting marriage etc,

Also would think married guys be more health conscious ?"

I say a slight variation - no married or attached men where their significant other doesn’t know or isn’t enthusiastic about sharing.

What everyone else does with their lives is their call, I make no judgement.

However, I would find it incredibly emotionally distressing to learn I had been an unwitting party to deception of another individual and betraying a commitment they may have made.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Last thing you need is an angry wife at the door.

How does this happen? Do people actually give out personal details like full names and addresses? We try to keep our 'secret life' totally seperate to our 'real life'. "

Not to do with cheating spouses, but I remember a forumite visiting someone in his home. He offered to drive her home but as she lived with her young daughter she didn't want him to know where she lived.

He called her a cab but sometime later he turned up at her house about 3am, d*unk banging on her door to be let in.

Transpired he knew the guy at the cab office, spun some yarn and got her address.

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By *isstonguetasticjoWoman
over a year ago

widnes

There tooo many liars chests 2timing bastards on here off both sex

Just shaggin behind their partners even worse when they say discretion is a must

Obviouslyvdint give 2 shits shaggin behindcrheir partner especislly if they dont know they are on here.

After all if it is a swingers site

Why are all the married people or with partners not on as couples n shsggin others together.

Spoils it for single people half the time

One day u will all get caught out

Thtn who will b laffin then

Good luck

All u deceitful peopke

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By *ilmissplumpyWoman
over a year ago

Wolverhampton


"There tooo many liars chests 2timing bastards on here off both sex

Just shaggin behind their partners even worse when they say discretion is a must

Obviouslyvdint give 2 shits shaggin behindcrheir partner especislly if they dont know they are on here.

After all if it is a swingers site

Why are all the married people or with partners not on as couples n shsggin others together.

Spoils it for single people half the time

One day u will all get caught out

Thtn who will b laffin then

Good luck

All u deceitful peopke"

I am on as a single & as a cpl. As is my husband. Not sure where I'd stand in your thoughts...

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By *voryforebonyMan
over a year ago

boogie town


"Can I ask why most women and couple profiles say no married or attached men,

Assume most want discreet fun & not wanting marriage etc,

Also would think married guys be more health conscious ?"

OMG.. Don't use common sense on this site pal, it doesn't wash with anyone!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There tooo many liars chests 2timing bastards on here off both sex

Just shaggin behind their partners even worse when they say discretion is a must

Obviouslyvdint give 2 shits shaggin behindcrheir partner especislly if they dont know they are on here.

After all if it is a swingers site

Why are all the married people or with partners not on as couples n shsggin others together.

Spoils it for single people half the time

One day u will all get caught out

Thtn who will b laffin then

Good luck

All u deceitful peopke"

good lord!

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By *ooskiMan
over a year ago

south coast

From my world......married or ladies in a relationship are so much less stressful....and if the hubby or partner is aware.....

Massive bonus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow. Hate mail from this thread in my inbox...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I won't meet cheats.

My current meet is engaged, they used to meet separately and together before they had their daughter. But I know he's completely honest with her. I know he'd never lie to her about meeting me or meet me if she wasn't completely happy with it. We both trust him completely on that.

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By *elshkinkyMan
over a year ago

south wales


"Wow. Hate mail from this thread in my inbox... "

Off women?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wow. Hate mail from this thread in my inbox...

Off women?"

Actually yes

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By *elshkinkyMan
over a year ago

south wales

This is a strange site to be judged on. Can’t understand the need to judge when it’s about a lifestyle.... I don’t agree with a lot on here but I do agree with their right to choose

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone has their own opinion and their own preferences on why they want to meet and rightly so.

However, I dont think it's necessary to try and make people feel like shit, we have no idea why they choose to do what they do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree 100% with the last two posters.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I often find cheating men are looking for someone to move on to, as they are not brave enough to actually become single!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can I ask why most women and couple profiles say no married or attached men,

Assume most want discreet fun & not wanting marriage etc,

Also would think married guys be more health conscious ?"

Oh we had a married man wanting to join us. He's never been for his sexual health checks as couldn't explain going to his Mrs and he wouldn't be bringing condoms as what if he forgot one in his pocket and his Mrs found it. Had the cheek to ask if we'd do bb for that reason.

Needless to say we've declined meeting him.

So no, playing away ones are not for us. If anything we see them more dangerous on multiple levels.

Mrs

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"I often find cheating men are looking for someone to move on to, as they are not brave enough to actually become single!

"

That has been my experience too

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham


"Last thing you need is an angry wife at the door.

How does this happen? Do people actually give out personal details like full names and addresses? We try to keep our 'secret life' totally seperate to our 'real life'.

You get followed!! "

Think I would easily notice that.

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham


"Last thing you need is an angry wife at the door.

How does this happen? Do people actually give out personal details like full names and addresses? We try to keep our 'secret life' totally seperate to our 'real life'.

Not to do with cheating spouses, but I remember a forumite visiting someone in his home. He offered to drive her home but as she lived with her young daughter she didn't want him to know where she lived.

He called her a cab but sometime later he turned up at her house about 3am, d*unk banging on her door to be let in.

Transpired he knew the guy at the cab office, spun some yarn and got her address."

Hope he reported the cab company to the licensing governing body.

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By *leasure4leisureMan
over a year ago

south


"Can I ask why most women and couple profiles say no married or attached men,

Assume most want discreet fun & not wanting marriage etc,

Also would think married guys be more health conscious ?

I say a slight variation - no married or attached men where their significant other doesn’t know or isn’t enthusiastic about sharing.

What everyone else does with their lives is their call, I make no judgement.

However, I would find it incredibly emotionally distressing to learn I had been an unwitting party to deception of another individual and betraying a commitment they may have made.

"

How might you feel you had chatted the the guys wife beforehand?

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By *leasure4leisureMan
over a year ago

south


"Can I ask why most women and couple profiles say no married or attached men,

Assume most want discreet fun & not wanting marriage etc,

Also would think married guys be more health conscious ?

Oh we had a married man wanting to join us. He's never been for his sexual health checks as couldn't explain going to his Mrs and he wouldn't be bringing condoms as what if he forgot one in his pocket and his Mrs found it. Had the cheek to ask if we'd do bb for that reason.

Needless to say we've declined meeting him.

So no, playing away ones are not for us. If anything we see them more dangerous on multiple levels.

Mrs"

I can understand that’s not a good meet at all

But ( like me ) if the guys has a tested , and happy to leave condoms in his pocket ( mrs knowing and as safe is important she is happier to see them) is that not better ?

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"Can I ask why most women and couple profiles say no married or attached men,

Assume most want discreet fun & not wanting marriage etc,

Also would think married guys be more health conscious ?

Oh we had a married man wanting to join us. He's never been for his sexual health checks as couldn't explain going to his Mrs and he wouldn't be bringing condoms as what if he forgot one in his pocket and his Mrs found it. Had the cheek to ask if we'd do bb for that reason.

Needless to say we've declined meeting him.

So no, playing away ones are not for us. If anything we see them more dangerous on multiple levels.

Mrs

I can understand that’s not a good meet at all

But ( like me ) if the guys has a tested , and happy to leave condoms in his pocket ( mrs knowing and as safe is important she is happier to see them) is that not better ? "

The post you've quoted clearly refers to those without permission

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There tooo many liars chests 2timing bastards on here off both sex

Just shaggin behind their partners even worse when they say discretion is a must

Obviouslyvdint give 2 shits shaggin behindcrheir partner especislly if they dont know they are on here.

After all if it is a swingers site

Why are all the married people or with partners not on as couples n shsggin others together.

Spoils it for single people half the time

One day u will all get caught out

Thtn who will b laffin then

Good luck

All u deceitful peopke"

Cos the ones at home who don't want to join in, can't have sex, or aren't interested in sex....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would thought the opposite,more drama from single guy,especially if he fell big time for you

If he is a swinger then he won't . "
no one can help their feelings regardless of what they are.

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By *uietlykinkymeWoman
over a year ago

kinky land


"Wow. Hate mail from this thread in my inbox... "

Please report any abuse.

There is no excuse for abuse

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By *leasure4leisureMan
over a year ago

south


"Can I ask why most women and couple profiles say no married or attached men,

Assume most want discreet fun & not wanting marriage etc,

Also would think married guys be more health conscious ?

Oh we had a married man wanting to join us. He's never been for his sexual health checks as couldn't explain going to his Mrs and he wouldn't be bringing condoms as what if he forgot one in his pocket and his Mrs found it. Had the cheek to ask if we'd do bb for that reason.

Needless to say we've declined meeting him.

So no, playing away ones are not for us. If anything we see them more dangerous on multiple levels.

Mrs

I can understand that’s not a good meet at all

But ( like me ) if the guys has a tested , and happy to leave condoms in his pocket ( mrs knowing and as safe is important she is happier to see them) is that not better ?

The post you've quoted clearly refers to those without permission "

Most people seem to think if yiu are a married guy it has to be with out permission

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I often wonder how the married people on here would feel if their partner were cheating....

If there’s no food in the cupboard at home, a hungry man (or woman) will go out to eat...."

These days they'll probably hit up a food bank.

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By *tella HeelsTV/TS
over a year ago

west here ford shire


"Usually married guys are here and partnees dont know.

It doesn’t bother me, but then again I’m married too"

Just so everyone on the thread knows,

I have put one message on here besides this..

Nothing derogatory, yet someone is accusing me of something g I am not guilty of, thanks

Stella

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I often find cheating men are looking for someone to move on to, as they are not brave enough to actually become single!

"

That's an interesting observation. My wife often says that people rarely split up without there being someone else involved. For somebody to instigate a split, they need to be confident the alternative is better. If the alternative is simply not being in a relationship then that's often not enough of a reason to leave.

I hadn't gone a step further and thought actually they're looking for another relationship as a way out.

That's not the case for me but interesting nonetheless.

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By *hippy57 OP   Man
over a year ago

Chelmsford

Sorry everyone did not realise I was going to stir up a hornet nest,by posting this thread,

It was only a observation on most profiles,

Seems there is a lot of moral issues,most about cheating,lying,

Without upsetting anyone,if you are a married couple,who enjoy fun mmf,let's say Saturday evening you had a mmf,

If asked by a friend or workmate etc,what you did at weekend,

Would you lie or tell the truth ?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Sorry everyone did not realise I was going to stir up a hornet nest,by posting this thread,

It was only a observation on most profiles,

Seems there is a lot of moral issues,most about cheating,lying,

Without upsetting anyone,if you are a married couple,who enjoy fun mmf,let's say Saturday evening you had a mmf,

If asked by a friend or workmate etc,what you did at weekend,

Would you lie or tell the truth ?"

lie, our sex life isn't any of their business.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"Sorry everyone did not realise I was going to stir up a hornet nest,by posting this thread,

It was only a observation on most profiles,

Seems there is a lot of moral issues,most about cheating,lying,

Without upsetting anyone,if you are a married couple,who enjoy fun mmf,let's say Saturday evening you had a mmf,

If asked by a friend or workmate etc,what you did at weekend,

Would you lie or tell the truth ?"

There would be no reason to tell them that , not their business, I would say I was out with friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I'd spent the weekend shagging the wife I wouldn't be casually chatting to my workmates about that either.

I guess it depends where you work!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can I ask why most women and couple profiles say no married or attached men,

Assume most want discreet fun & not wanting marriage etc,

Also would think married guys be more health conscious ?

Oh we had a married man wanting to join us. He's never been for his sexual health checks as couldn't explain going to his Mrs and he wouldn't be bringing condoms as what if he forgot one in his pocket and his Mrs found it. Had the cheek to ask if we'd do bb for that reason.

Needless to say we've declined meeting him.

So no, playing away ones are not for us. If anything we see them more dangerous on multiple levels.

Mrs

I can understand that’s not a good meet at all

But ( like me ) if the guys has a tested , and happy to leave condoms in his pocket ( mrs knowing and as safe is important she is happier to see them) is that not better ?

The post you've quoted clearly refers to those without permission

Most people seem to think if yiu are a married guy it has to be with out permission "

We don't think, we ask the question. Same as with those who can't accommodate. We ask why instead of making assumptions.

As another poster said - I was referring to those who play without permission.

Mrs

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By *erriAnneTV/TS
over a year ago

The shire

It really doesn't bother me. It's not my conscience to deal with it's theirs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can I ask why most women and couple profiles say no married or attached men,

Assume most want discreet fun & not wanting marriage etc,

Also would think married guys be more health conscious ?"

Because I've seen too many here without their partner's knowledge and I don't like the dishonesty there. That's not the kind of person I want to be sleeping with.

Also, if they can lie to a spouse, they can certainly lie to me about STI status etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One for the guys,would you meet a married women if she on here without her husband knowing she on fan "
yes meet a few married ladies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cause they’re sinners!!!!!

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By *tella HeelsTV/TS
over a year ago

west here ford shire

Aren’t we all sinners?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Imagine it's the dishonesty, you can't really argue with that. Plus it's easier to meet single people, less arsing around.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If women, couples don't want to meet married men fine that's their choice and I don't have a problem with that , but married men do get treated with a lot of disdain on here ,we're not all cheating untrustworthy creeps wanting the best of both worlds(and I have been called that on more than one occasion on here), although no doubt some are, some of us have different reasons for being on here, if your in a sexless marriage what is a man supposed to do other than an Escort girl? what would you ladies do?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If women, couples don't want to meet married men fine that's their choice and I don't have a problem with that , but married men do get treated with a lot of disdain on here ,we're not all cheating untrustworthy creeps wanting the best of both worlds(and I have been called that on more than one occasion on here), although no doubt some are, some of us have different reasons for being on here, if your in a sexless marriage what is a man supposed to do other than an Escort girl? what would you ladies do?"

I'm not sure why theres such a desire to announce publicly in the forums, your status as though people expect acceptance.

Face it, it is cheating, so yes everyone who is married without consent is doing that.

Own the situation and decide what you want to do, and if it goes wrong take responsibility, dont be a victim.

Theres plenty of people who have bo interest in your status, and you'll never be accepted by everyone here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn’t want to be part of an deceit. Can’t stand a cheat! Also don’t want to risk any drama.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"I often wonder how the married people on here would feel if their partner were cheating....

If there’s no food in the cupboard at home, a hungry man (or woman) will go out to eat....

These days they'll probably hit up a food bank."

......aka ‘Fabswingers’......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not for me.

I won’t knowingly meet cheats, I don’t agree with it and never will.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We were literally (myself and hubby) discussing this!

No judgement to anyone who is looking for sex outside of their marriage or partnership at all, for us it’s simply that we don’t want to be part of it.

The circumstances matter of course, for instance if your partner has given their blessing for you to play away then that’s a whole different thing, but if you’re being unfaithful then we just don’t want to be involved in that. But it’s just a personal thing, not a moral judgement on anyone.

The only thing I find stressful is lying by omission. When folk don’t state straight up that they are in a relationship, it puts us in a position of helping them cheat without our consent. We’ve had several people start chatting, sexting etc who we’ve got on great with just for them to drop the “I’m married” bombshell after getting intimate with us via phone or webcam. That kinda sucks, especially when the level of want/lust has built up over a few weeks.

So aye, just be honest and it’s all good. We won’t meet you, but there are plenty of folk happy to do so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not for me.

I won’t knowingly meet cheats, I don’t agree with it and never will.

"

Quite right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not for me.

I won’t knowingly meet cheats, I don’t agree with it and never will.

Quite right "

Absolutely....same here ????

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

We simply don’t want to be part of the deception and any potential drama that might follow.

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