FabSwingers.com forum: Hate

By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago

London

Ugh. Sometimes the views of people on this forum make me shudder.

I needed to vent. Sigh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Welcome to real life duck.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Yep.

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

After a recent spell on a certain step, I'm learning more to bite my tongue and avoid certain threads.

Jo.Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been really shocked at what's tolerated here

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By *isaAndNicoleTransTV/TS
over a year ago

Southport / Ellesmere Port

I agree but it's all part of life's rich tapestry. Would be pretty dull if we all agreed. Forums can make the blood boil but the dicks soon reveal themselves.

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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago

London

You’re right ladies.

I just read the Begum thread from earlier. Disgusting hatred and ignorance.

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"You’re right ladies.

I just read the Begum thread from earlier. Disgusting hatred and ignorance. "

Exactly that!!

Jo.Xx

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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago

London

Interesting though; it’s taught me initial judgements based on crass usernames actually holds merit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You’re right ladies.

I just read the Begum thread from earlier. Disgusting hatred and ignorance. "

I decided to not bother looking at it. It's almost as if knew what was being said, without reading it.

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By *nvisible_beardMan
over a year ago

near newbridge, wales

Keep to the positive ones and don't let the others get to you or get you down

This is a fun place

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By *isaAndNicoleTransTV/TS
over a year ago

Southport / Ellesmere Port

"Interesting though; it’s taught me initial judgements based on crass usernames actually holds merit.

I read that one too and it's revealing that the ones that hold the controversial and hateful views never have anything to support their statements except resorting to insults.

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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago

London

"You’re right ladies.

I just read the Begum thread from earlier. Disgusting hatred and ignorance.

I decided to not bother looking at it. It's almost as if knew what was being said, without reading it."

Wise. But I find it important in terms of knowing who the uneducated (yeah, yeah my opinion*) twunts are.

*except I’m right.

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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago

London

"Keep to the positive ones and don't let the others get to you or get you down

This is a fun place "

No. I use this place for more reasons than light fun when it comes to tolerating intolerance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You’re right ladies.

I just read the Begum thread from earlier. Disgusting hatred and ignorance. "

Some of the things I read on there were frightening. I'm scared to think I live among people who think like that

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By *elshkinkyMan
over a year ago

south wales

"You’re right ladies.

I just read the Begum thread from earlier. Disgusting hatred and ignorance.

Some of the things I read on there were frightening. I'm scared to think I live among people who think like that

They do walk among us...as Mark Twain said, “never argue with stupid people, they’ll bring you down to their level and beat you with experience”

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

I have to avoid certain threads right now for fear of overstepping the Mark. Truly depressing x

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By *mberWoman
over a year ago

Preston

"You’re right ladies.

I just read the Begum thread from earlier. Disgusting hatred and ignorance.

Some of the things I read on there were frightening. I'm scared to think I live among people who think like that

It's actually made me not want to come on the forum. I think i'm going to step back for a bit.

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By *alking HeadMan
over a year ago

Bolton

Is it not a good thing that people are free to air their views, however horrible, so you can avoid any contact with them?

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"You’re right ladies.

I just read the Begum thread from earlier. Disgusting hatred and ignorance.

Some of the things I read on there were frightening. I'm scared to think I live among people who think like that

I think some people like to exaggerate their views, for attention or to be seen as controversial. That doesn't make them any more appealing mind you.

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By *illy_the_tvTV/TS
over a year ago

hoorn, Netherlands

"After a recent spell on a certain step, I'm learning more to bite my tongue and avoid certain threads.

Jo.Xx "

Recently just returned from the step myself. Apparently calling out racism will get you put there, but during my time there I saw a ridiculously transphobic thread and yet that was allowed to remain

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You’re right ladies.

I just read the Begum thread from earlier. Disgusting hatred and ignorance.

Some of the things I read on there were frightening. I'm scared to think I live among people who think like that

I think some people like to exaggerate their views, for attention or to be seen as controversial. That doesn't make them any more appealing mind you. "

I'd like to think you're right. And no it doesn't, it couldn't be less appealing

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

"You’re right ladies.

I just read the Begum thread from earlier. Disgusting hatred and ignorance.

I decided to not bother looking at it. It's almost as if knew what was being said, without reading it."

Yep, as soon as I read the first post I realised it wasn't for me and quietly backed away.

It's one thing having an informed and interesting debate, but life is too short to spend it screaming into a void.

OP there is hate on here as there is anywhere, but there is also light and warmth and joy and support.

Don't lose sight of that because of the few knobbers.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

I ‘try’ and stick to the light hearted inclusive ones as that’s were the most fun is.

Sometimes I can’t help myself if I feel someone is over stepping the mark. I have to tell them which is my downfall

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By *elloIntrigueMan
over a year ago

North West UK

Sadly intolerance, ignorance, racism and extreme views are on the rise. I avoid a lot of threads that I think have the potential. I want to enjoy my time communicating on here.

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

“I have lived on the lip

of insanity, wanting to know reasons,

knocking on a door. It opens.

I've been knocking from the inside.”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The best revenge is to not be like your enemy." It's distressing to see the exact attitudes displayed that we're supposed to be fighting against. And even more distressing that saying so gets you branded as a terrorist sympathiser. Or calling out racism gets you called a snowflake or a trouble maker. That's actually more upsetting than the original behaviour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m only here for the beer

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Bite it, zip it, deep breaths a lot lately..... but sometimes some things have to be challenged and your thoughts said

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By *ayRosesWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Never read the politics forum then, I can feel the hate corroding some people's souls.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly, I loved that thread. I love debates. Yes we can say they are ignorant but I have always seen that as lazy. Disproving them is the best way to shut someone down.

I had a 6 hour debate straight a few weeks ago with someone who doesn't believe we landed on the moon. We are great freinds now and she messaged me saying she found that conversation a real eye opener. She is used to people always agreeing with her as she lives in LA which has a massive yes culture. Another one didn't believe that either, we debated and still talk now. She stopped me getting kicked off a train in the middle of the night at a tiny village in Hungary.

Although very different in topics, the basic lack of knowledge is the same. Under that, people can be genuinely good.

And those that are not can get fucked. You can just piss them off and fuck with them to your hearts content.

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"After a recent spell on a certain step, I'm learning more to bite my tongue and avoid certain threads.

Jo.Xx

Recently just returned from the step myself. Apparently calling out racism will get you put there, but during my time there I saw a ridiculously transphobic thread and yet that was allowed to remain"

I here you.

It's all Bonkers....

But we carry on regardless.

Jo.Xx

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By *ayRosesWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Honestly, I loved that thread. I love debates. Yes we can say they are ignorant but I have always seen that as lazy. Disproving them is the best way to shut someone down.

Although very different in topics, the basic lack of knowledge is the same. Under that, people can be genuinely good.

And those that are not can get fucked. You can just piss them off and fuck with them to your hearts content."

Maybe I've just read the wrong posts then, it just seems like there's a lot of bitterness and bigotry. I love a good debate, even with someone I fundamentally disagree with, but so many seem to want to just stuck to their opinions and not even try to comprehend that there might be an alternate view.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been really shocked at what's tolerated here

Same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bite it, zip it, deep breaths a lot lately..... but sometimes some things have to be challenged and your thoughts said "

I very much agree with this. I'm never afraid to call it out and challenge it but I do pick my battles a bit more carefully these days.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Honestly, I loved that thread. I love debates. Yes we can say they are ignorant but I have always seen that as lazy. Disproving them is the best way to shut someone down.

Although very different in topics, the basic lack of knowledge is the same. Under that, people can be genuinely good.

And those that are not can get fucked. You can just piss them off and fuck with them to your hearts content.

Not going to lie, it does mirror what gab is now. I noticed it after a break for a few months. It is sad but you can only meet it head on in a mature and direct way. Shutting it down through putting our head in the sand should not be the answer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" It is sad but you can only meet it head on in a mature and direct way. Shutting it down through putting our head in the sand should not be the answer."

It's a massive help to know its not just you that feels this way and I'm grateful for this thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to say in life there is alot of haters. As long as your enjoying yourself that's what matters. There just jealous that your life is better than theres ????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry to say in life there is alot of haters. As long as your enjoying yourself that's what matters. There just jealous that your life is better than theres ????"

Haters gotta hate. And potatoes gotta potate

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

"Honestly, I loved that thread. I love debates. Yes we can say they are ignorant but I have always seen that as lazy. Disproving them is the best way to shut someone down.

Although very different in topics, the basic lack of knowledge is the same. Under that, people can be genuinely good.

And those that are not can get fucked. You can just piss them off and fuck with them to your hearts content.

Very few people actually have the capacity to have a civilized debate. It requires being open to, even if you disagree, with what the other side's views are. The generalised reaction is that of a battering ram with their opinion and views with zero chance of wiggle room.

Just because somebody disagrees with other people's views and opinions does not make either of you wrong or right. Both sides are capable of hurling insults, quite brutal ones at that too, neither side is immune to lowering the tone. Everyone has a right to their opinion, not just when it suits "your" own pov.

I agree with above, if we all thought the same then things would be extremely boring. Though I dislike when hate filled comments and insults enter the topic. At that point you lose all credibility in trying to put your point across to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

....I wonder what these people would do with all if their knowledge if they shut the internet off for a year.....

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By *ayRosesWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

That's the thing, some people will just repeat the same tired tropes they've read in the Express / Guardian (depending on political viewpoint) without actually even understanding the issues or attempting to understand why there might be an opposing position.

There's a lot of unnecessary gloating as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been really shocked at what's tolerated here

I’ve just read it, and it beggars belief! Tbh, I’m not altogether shocked, as there are so many offensive posts and points of view here on a daily basis xx

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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago

London

[Removed by poster at 08/02/20 06:54:51]

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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago

London

To the comments above suggesting debate rather than hate; I would have (I usually do) but I was busy working with a group of previously radicalised ex-offenders. The thread ended, I read it. I made my commentary in this thread. It was a vent, and clearly so, after a long days work.

I also can’t imagine, to the chap who maturely debated with the lady who believed the world was flat, that your debate would have contained some of the vitriol that the thread I referred to did.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"After a recent spell on a certain step, I'm learning more to bite my tongue and avoid certain threads.

Jo.Xx "

I'm shocked at you .......tssssst!

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By *elshkinkyMan
over a year ago

south wales

"To the comments above suggesting debate rather than hate; I would have (I usually do) but I was busy working with a group of previously radicalised ex-offenders. The thread ended, I read it. I made my commentary in this thread. It was a vent, and clearly so, after a long days work.

I also can’t imagine, to the chap who maturely debated with the lady who believed the world was flat, that your debate would have contained some of the vitriol that the thread I referred to did."

I’m all for debate but sometimes you can’t debate stupid

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"After a recent spell on a certain step, I'm learning more to bite my tongue and avoid certain threads.

Jo.Xx

Recently just returned from the step myself. Apparently calling out racism will get you put there, but during my time there I saw a ridiculously transphobic thread and yet that was allowed to remain"

Well I'm equally shocked .....oh tsssssst !

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"I ‘try’ and stick to the light hearted inclusive ones as that’s were the most fun is.

Sometimes I can’t help myself if I feel someone is over stepping the mark. I have to tell them which is my downfall

No. Stand up and be counted. It's important for humanity. BUT don't overstep the mark and get banned. DONT stoop to their level and perhaps just leave TWO alternative views and then fuck off.... That's on here not in reality.

On here you are pissing in the wind alone and simply starting a game of 'fetch' with dogs that just want the argument.

You have power in not bending to what they say but always leave a differing view so that others know there are decent folk around..... Then like I say go to another thread... uhmmmm which I think I put as fuck off.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I never read any threads last night. I'm going to look for them now.

There is something that is highly ironic on a great number of threads.

It is when someone who professes to disagree with what others say-begin the name calling. YES I do mean YOU.

Seems that even the self identified 'goodies' can't state an alternative view without beginning or ending it with an insult.

When there is a playground fight your part in it is determined by your behaviour / methods, not your point of view.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

P.S. Estella. I'm off to read a thread or two. I'm not sure that labelling others views as hate, even if you believe it is , helps in any way.

Did any of the people who's views you disagree with use the word 'hate' ?

I'm also not sure that the habit some have of starting their own thread to malign the views of others and employ emotional titles helps either.

The view that they HATE is yours.

( bear in mind I haven't read any threads, so my mind might change a little. I'm off to now )

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By *LOVEpinacoladasWoman
over a year ago

East Sussex

""The best revenge is to not be like your enemy." It's distressing to see the exact attitudes displayed that we're supposed to be fighting against. And even more distressing that saying so gets you branded as a terrorist sympathiser. Or calling out racism gets you called a snowflake or a trouble maker. That's actually more upsetting than the original behaviour

It's always the people with the most hateful views, and who bang on about 'PC gone mad/can't say anything these days', who are the ones to shout "Snowflake!" when their views are challenged. It's almost like they're trying to shut down the debate or something...

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By *r_Jake70Man
over a year ago

London

Unfortunately, despite what many of us would assume, being a swinger and therefore liberal in one sense, doesn’t preclude you from being uninformed, a racist or misogynist, all of which were evident in droves in that thread and many others. It does help thin out the competition though.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I have a theory about populism. People with less tolerance, experience and understanding of diversity/culture are more likely to post online because it’s a form of venting frustration at a changing world that they feel left behind in.

So gauging any form of opinion from online forums / comments is flawed, the data is skewed as most people are nice but don’t feel the need to post positivity

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"You’re right ladies.

I just read the Begum thread from earlier. Disgusting hatred and ignorance. "

I'm first generation Windrush. Absolutely NOTHING I've read here, the comments I hear out and about has surprised me in the slightest, or any black person my generation I know.

My children are surprised because they were raised in a different generation but not shocked as they've heard the stories.

I think it's white people in the main who are shocked. Usually those who believed there's no longer racism and those who claimed it, had chips on their shoulders. When confronted with it as in the Begum thread, they're "shocked".

No shock here.

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By *Man1263Man
over a year ago

Stockport

Oh this wasn't a thread I thought it was going to be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Unfortunately, despite what many of us would assume, being a swinger and therefore liberal in one sense, doesn’t preclude you from being uninformed, a racist or misogynist, all of which were evident in droves in that thread and many others. It does help thin out the competition though. "

Terrifyingly, one of the worst things said on there was by someone I'd considered meeting. I've never had a red flag prove more accurate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry

i cant help it

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By *ancastermanMan
over a year ago

carnforth

"Ugh. Sometimes the views of people on this forum make me shudder.

I needed to vent. Sigh."

Yeah you'd think people in this scene would be more tolerant and understanding but no.

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By *atex and KinkCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh

It's a simple case of all the "blocks" in one place. Find it far easier to manage.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ugh. Sometimes the views of people on this forum make me shudder.

I needed to vent. Sigh.

Yeah you'd think people in this scene would be more tolerant and understanding but no.

It's almost like you don't read any threads

Many swingers come across as the least tolerant folks imaginable

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"It's a simple case of all the "blocks" in one place. Find it far easier to manage.....

Was just thinking that, it’s not a bad idea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry

i cant help it

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oh wait it wasn't me i didnt get chance to comment and get under your skin carry on

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By *Man1263Man
over a year ago

Stockport

"Sorry

i cant help it

oh wait it wasn't me i didnt get chance to comment and get under your skin carry on

Me too, now feel like I missed out

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I re read the Begum thread. I'd part read it last night. I disagree with a lot of what is said in it but not in the way it is said.

There are also comments from those that either weren't taking the thread serious or don't have anything with actual knowledge or information to add.

This thread however belongs in exactly the same box. Such a lot of empty' emotional' adjectives hurled at others but nothing substantial said.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

That doesn't go for every comment on this thread but certainly for the opening comment and one or two that follow.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I've just read the first portion of that thread and had to stop.

Personally I'm glad that I missed it at the time. The fact that there is so much reactionary judgement based on so little information is sadly not a new thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You’re right ladies.

I just read the Begum thread from earlier. Disgusting hatred and ignorance.

I'm first generation Windrush. Absolutely NOTHING I've read here, the comments I hear out and about has surprised me in the slightest, or any black person my generation I know.

My children are surprised because they were raised in a different generation but not shocked as they've heard the stories.

No shock here."

No, I'm not shocked at the posts, I knew exactly how that thread would go. I'm shocked that they're left on here. I've not chatted anywhere it was tolerated before. I felt the spanking scene wasn't as tolerant of sexuality as it could be but racism and racial slurs weren't tolerated at all. Here they clearly are. That's all I'm shocked by.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Completely agree

I’m saddened by some who actually join in on these threads in a manner I find distasteful.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Forum rules state that racism won't be tolerated.

I do know of someone who reported the thread at least twice.

The thread, the posts and the poster in question still remain.

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

I respect your comment OP. I am not sure the Begum thread was hate filled but certainly some hateful comments whether genuine or for affect.

Hate is a strong word. I only hate walnuts. Despise them. I am allergic to them. Some people, and not the OP, are very intolerant of an opposing view and call it hate. Often it's just an opposing view.

Intolerance in the name of tolerance can be as hate filled as those they oppose. The far left are as hate filled as the far right in my opinion. Mainly, the contributers lean to the left in the forum's and I do wonder why?

Good thread OP

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

The question is..... were the views racist.

I don't think we all agree on what racism is.

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By *arlo82Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places

"After a recent spell on a certain step, I'm learning more to bite my tongue and avoid certain threads.

Jo.Xx "

Me too xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The question is..... were the views racist.

I don't think we all agree on what racism is. "

I wasn't just thinking of that thread to be honest. And what's on there goes beyond racism to me, it's complete dehumanisation. Someone suggested bolling in oil and someone else said the death penalty wouldn't be harsh enough. This has nothing to do with security or protecting anyone, it's just boiling hatred and savagery. It's frightening. Well I think it is and I wouldn't allow such a person in my life or my home.

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

I am often rolling my eyes regularly at comments in these forums.

I have never known such a large group of judgemental, narrow mined people all in one place before.

Nor have I come across a group of people who can get offended at the slightest things in one place.

Pleased our lives are full of people that don't fit into the above 'groups'. It would drive us round the bend.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

Hate is a strong word isn’t it but sometimes hate is what you feel on here.

I don’t always read the ‘deep’ threads but what I do notice is the sheer amount of vitriol in the comments. Why opinions can’t be given without the nastiness I’m not sure.

I accept people having differing views and that’s fine, that’s life. Discussion and debate is healthy however it can be done without wanting to kill someone.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

There are threads I actively avoid and that was one of them.

I've not been on the forums as much because some of the threads in recent weeks have been unsavoury at best and depressing at worst.

I sometimes have to check I'm on FAB and not the Daily Mail website by mistake.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"There are threads I actively avoid and that was one of them.

I've not been on the forums as much because some of the threads in recent weeks have been unsavoury at best and depressing at worst.

I sometimes have to check I'm on FAB and not the Daily Mail website by mistake.

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"You’re right ladies.

I just read the Begum thread from earlier. Disgusting hatred and ignorance. "

I’d avoided the thread but seeing your post I’ve had a look. My heart sank reading some of the posts, but rem_mbering the words of my children on the subject gives me hope

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I stopped reading and made only one comment because i feel that platform is given to those who seek to incite. This puts me in a quandry because when they do comment I realise I do need to hear it, I do need to see inside and have the inner machinations of people revealed. I then find it ironic that 'the goodies' ( they are always self appointed ) behave in a worse manner. I may share a lot of the 'right minded' thinking but I loathe the way they give themselves the right to be even more obnoxious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just ignore it. I dont mind a debate but if i dont like someones view (which they're perfectly entitled too) i just ignore and look at another post. People will always have different views.

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

"I stopped reading and made only one comment because i feel that platform is given to those who seek to incite. This puts me in a quandry because when they do comment I realise I do need to hear it, I do need to see inside and have the inner machinations of people revealed. I then find it ironic that 'the goodies' ( they are always self appointed ) behave in a worse manner. I may share a lot of the 'right minded' thinking but I loathe the way they give themselves the right to be even more obnoxious."

GC.. please don't say you support 'no platforming'.

I have never thought that was the best policy at universities for example. Putting Nick Griffen from the BNP on Question Time was a good thing. Nobody has heard from him since

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Read what I said Tom. It negates your comment.

P.S. I am not a fan of your feet.

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over a year ago

I think someone on that thread hit the nail on the head saying it's the dishing out of flippant, simple, medieval solutions to complex problems that I find frustrating. Life must be a lot easier if you can only see things in black and white, goodies v baddies. I feel like my head might explode when I venture into threads like that so I avoid it generally.

I liked this article on cognitive simplicity and extremism. Thought some of you might find it interesting.

https://doi.org/10.1177%2F0963721418817755

Psychological Features of Extreme Political Ideologies

Jan-Willem van Prooijen, André P. M. Krouwel

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

"Read what I said Tom. It negates your comment.

P.S. I am not a fan of your feet. "

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

I wasn't shocked at the comments made at all. Just shocked the post was 'allowed' to stay active.

All for a good debate though hey?!

Jo.Xx

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over a year ago

"Ugh. Sometimes the views of people on this forum make me shudder.

I needed to vent. Sigh."

I'm sure you can do better than that?..

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

"I wasn't shocked at the comments made at all. Just shocked the post was 'allowed' to stay active.

All for a good debate though hey?!

Jo.Xx "

I didn't think that the thread should have been stopped but the giver taker one maybe?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are threads I actively avoid and that was one of them.

I've not been on the forums as much because some of the threads in recent weeks have been unsavoury at best and depressing at worst.

I sometimes have to check I'm on FAB and not the Daily Mail website by mistake.

Sometimes I think the daily mail is quite tame compared to here. The thread yesterday was what I imagine storefront to be like. Hatred, ignorance and intolerance. It's not an attractive combination

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

"There are threads I actively avoid and that was one of them.

I've not been on the forums as much because some of the threads in recent weeks have been unsavoury at best and depressing at worst.

I sometimes have to check I'm on FAB and not the Daily Mail website by mistake.

Sometimes I think the daily mail is quite tame compared to here. The thread yesterday was what I imagine storefront to be like. Hatred, ignorance and intolerance. It's not an attractive combination "

It's just being human..

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

We’ve had to start avoiding threads & have blocked lots of people due to their views not being compatible with ours. Not worth arguing with people I don’t know & risking a ban

J x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As much as threads, well, the content can get me heated, I'm glad people display their truths on a public platform. I'd much rather that than find out someone was merely wool pulling to curry favour and keep their "meet pool" as large as possible.

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over a year ago

"There are threads I actively avoid and that was one of them.

I've not been on the forums as much because some of the threads in recent weeks have been unsavoury at best and depressing at worst.

I sometimes have to check I'm on FAB and not the Daily Mail website by mistake.

Sometimes I think the daily mail is quite tame compared to here. The thread yesterday was what I imagine storefront to be like. Hatred, ignorance and intolerance. It's not an attractive combination

It's just being human.. "

No it's not. That's an incredibly weak excuse for justifying behaviour and beliefs.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"Ugh. Sometimes the views of people on this forum make me shudder.

I needed to vent. Sigh."

It's great though as it acts as a perfect filter on who to block, better than people pretending to be nice when they're not

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over a year ago

"There are threads I actively avoid and that was one of them.

I've not been on the forums as much because some of the threads in recent weeks have been unsavoury at best and depressing at worst.

I sometimes have to check I'm on FAB and not the Daily Mail website by mistake.

Sometimes I think the daily mail is quite tame compared to here. The thread yesterday was what I imagine storefront to be like. Hatred, ignorance and intolerance. It's not an attractive combination

It's just being human..

No it's not. That's an incredibly weak excuse for justifying behaviour and beliefs. "

I actually think it's being INhuman.

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"There are threads I actively avoid and that was one of them.

I've not been on the forums as much because some of the threads in recent weeks have been unsavoury at best and depressing at worst.

I sometimes have to check I'm on FAB and not the Daily Mail website by mistake.

Sometimes I think the daily mail is quite tame compared to here. The thread yesterday was what I imagine storefront to be like. Hatred, ignorance and intolerance. It's not an attractive combination

It's just being human..

No it's not. That's an incredibly weak excuse for justifying behaviour and beliefs. "

Absolutely agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"After a recent spell on a certain step, I'm learning more to bite my tongue and avoid certain threads.

Jo.Xx "

Agreed , However when placed on the naughty step , admin state that they want chat rooms to be " Fun " whilst allowing the most antagonistic threads to be posted ..A no win situation i feel

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Just actually re read it hoping to fill up my block list of all the bigots and only managed 2, got about half way through. There’s clearly views expressed about being very tough on terrorists and a complete lack of sympathy for a groomed/radicalised kid, even some strong views on crime and capital punishment, but not really anything too racist, maybe some undertones. Maybe we’re the intolerant ones for deciding those views aren’t allowed ?

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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago

London

"Just actually re read it hoping to fill up my block list of all the bigots and only managed 2, got about half way through. There’s clearly views expressed about being very tough on terrorists and a complete lack of sympathy for a groomed/radicalised kid, even some strong views on crime and capital punishment, but not really anything too racist, maybe some undertones. Maybe we’re the intolerant ones for deciding those views aren’t allowed ?

Your comment may not be directly to me however I wanted to reply; I’ve not labelled anything racist, just expressed that I find certain opinions on the thread full of hatred and disgusting. And I’ve not made any commentary that people are not allowed to express their opinions simply because I wholeheartedly disagree with them. I’m also fine with being labelled intolerant of intolerance, I said as much further up the thread. Simply exercising my right to say ugh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've mentioned racism as a general comment on the site, not specifically that thread.

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

There's certainly some irony in that post. Nothing as intolerant as the tolerant left

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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago

London

Unlimited tolerance must lead to the disappearance of tolerance. If we extend unlimited tolerance even to those who are intolerant, if we are not prepared to defend a tolerant society against the onslaught of the intolerant, then the tolerant will be destroyed, and tolerance with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whenever anyone holds Christopher Hitchens up as a kind of idol, it makes me step back a bit..(despite being an atheist myself)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Which particular views? The ones that say they'd boil someone in oil or that death wouldn't be a harsh enough punishment? Because that's what I objected to. Are we supposed to be be tolerant of torture? Isn't that what ISIS do?

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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago

London

"Unlimited tolerance must lead to the disappearance of tolerance. If we extend unlimited tolerance even to those who are intolerant, if we are not prepared to defend a tolerant society against the onslaught of the intolerant, then the tolerant will be destroyed, and tolerance with them."

Apologies, that should have been in quotations; it’s the paradox of tolerance.

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

I like your logic it's just that I am incapable of understanding it..

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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago

London

I like your logic it's just that I am incapable of understanding it.."

Apologies, it’s not mine; it’s Karl Popper’s logic (I pressed post before citing!)

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

"Which particular views? The ones that say they'd boil someone in oil or that death wouldn't be a harsh enough punishment? Because that's what I objected to. Are we supposed to be be tolerant of torture? Isn't that what ISIS do? "

Well you certainly can take a literal interpretation of anything posted. I don't choose to. If somebody puts a case for capital punishment then it's a debate. If the debate is distressing then I suggest you don't join the debate. The case of Begum's future is another debate played out by the authorities and reported in the press and it polarises views. It's good to hear others views even if they are poles away from our own

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over a year ago

I like your logic it's just that I am incapable of understanding it.."

So which do you think is worse. The hatred of muslims. Or calling out those views?

Oh and I have zero tolerance for racists. Absolute scum. I have no shame in that. But I'm judging them for their beliefs. Which they've chosen. Not for their religion or skin colour. And that's a big difference

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

I like your logic it's just that I am incapable of understanding it..

So which do you think is worse. The hatred of muslims. Or calling out those views?

Another post that baffles me sorry..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's good to hear people say they're in favour of torture? Why?

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

It's good to hear people say they're in favour of torture? Why? "

Well ask those who posted it... I am as interested as you for their reasons? I am sure they have their reasons, revenge, to get information, to save lives maybe..

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over a year ago

I like your logic it's just that I am incapable of understanding it..

So which do you think is worse. The hatred of muslims. Or calling out those views?

Another post that baffles me sorry.."

Okay. I think hating someone based on their place of birth, their religion their skin colour is ridiculous. It defies all sense and is so far removed from my own (according to you intolerant) views that I have nothing but contempt for someone whos beliefs are so blinded by intolerance, bigotry and hatred.

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over a year ago

It's good to hear people say they're in favour of torture? Why?

Well ask those who posted it... I am as interested as you for their reasons? I am sure they have their reasons, revenge, to get information, to save lives maybe.. "

Torture people for revenge? Seriously?

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

I like your logic it's just that I am incapable of understanding it..

So which do you think is worse. The hatred of muslims. Or calling out those views?

Another post that baffles me sorry..

Do you hate them ?

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over a year ago

I like your logic it's just that I am incapable of understanding it..

So which do you think is worse. The hatred of muslims. Or calling out those views?

Another post that baffles me sorry..

Do you hate them ?"

I hate racism. I tend not to hate on people even if I find their beliefs abhorrent.

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

It's good to hear people say they're in favour of torture? Why?

Well ask those who posted it... I am as interested as you for their reasons? I am sure they have their reasons, revenge, to get information, to save lives maybe..

Torture people for revenge? Seriously? "

People have tortured for revenge as long as humans have existed... That's serious

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

I like your logic it's just that I am incapable of understanding it..

So which do you think is worse. The hatred of muslims. Or calling out those views?

Another post that baffles me sorry..

Do you hate them ?

I hate racism. I tend not to hate on people even if I find their beliefs abhorrent."

Good. Do not have hate in your heart fella

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over a year ago

It's good to hear people say they're in favour of torture? Why?

Well ask those who posted it... I am as interested as you for their reasons? I am sure they have their reasons, revenge, to get information, to save lives maybe..

Torture people for revenge? Seriously?

People have tortured for revenge as long as humans have existed... That's serious "

But no right minded person would ever think that is a good idea. Likewise torturing people for information. Its completely inhumane and barbaric

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over a year ago

It's good to hear people say they're in favour of torture? Why?

Well ask those who posted it... I am as interested as you for their reasons? I am sure they have their reasons, revenge, to get information, to save lives maybe.. "

No... I don't think you get it. There's no such thing as legal torture. Any torture is a criminal activity. Do you actually understand what you're talking about and what you started a thread about?

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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago

London

It's good to hear people say they're in favour of torture? Why?

Well ask those who posted it... I am as interested as you for their reasons? I am sure they have their reasons, revenge, to get information, to save lives maybe.. "

That’s not what she asked Tom. You said it was good to hear different views, she asked you why you thought it was good to hear about people expressing a view in favour of torture. So she can’t ask the people with the views why *you* think their views are good to hear.

Sorry, just a point of order.

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

Ok.. let's have a moral dilemma. A terrorist group has taken your child.. The authorities have captured a terrorist.. if they water board the terrorist they will get information leading to the safe evacuation of your child.. if they don't torture then your child will die ..

As a parent are you up for torture or not ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been really shocked at what's tolerated here

Me too unfortunately, it's quite unbelievable what some people say and get away with.

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over a year ago

"Ok.. let's have a moral dilemma. A terrorist group has taken your child.. The authorities have captured a terrorist.. if they water board the terrorist they will get information leading to the safe evacuation of your child.. if they don't torture then your child will die ..

As a parent are you up for torture or not ?"

I think that any parent would do anything to save their child life. But this is a hypothetical scenario that could never happen so it's a bit pointless

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a parent are you up for torture or not ?"

Personally, I think certain degrees of torture are acceptable if lives can be saved.

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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago

London

As a parent are you up for torture or not ?"

I don’t accept the premise of the dilemma. Torture does not elicit truth.

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over a year ago

Chelmsford

It's good to hear people say they're in favour of torture? Why?

Well ask those who posted it... I am as interested as you for their reasons? I am sure they have their reasons, revenge, to get information, to save lives maybe..

No... I don't think you get it. There's no such thing as legal torture. Any torture is a criminal activity. Do you actually understand what you're talking about and what you started a thread about? "

It's not my thread. The thread is about hate. Font confuse other people's views with my own..

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

As a parent are you up for torture or not ?

I don’t accept the premise of the dilemma. Torture does not elicit truth. "

Not ever ?

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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago

London

It's good to hear people say they're in favour of torture? Why?

Well ask those who posted it... I am as interested as you for their reasons? I am sure they have their reasons, revenge, to get information, to save lives maybe..

No... I don't think you get it. There's no such thing as legal torture. Any torture is a criminal activity. Do you actually understand what you're talking about and what you started a thread about?

It's not my thread. The thread is about hate. Font confuse other people's views with my own.. "

She was referencing your thread on Begum, Tom.

Don’t worry I’m here all week.

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over a year ago

Chelmsford

As a parent are you up for torture or not ?

I think that any parent would do anything to save their child life. But this is a hypothetical scenario that could never happen so it's a bit pointless "

And if you were or are a parent you would sanction that torture for sure as you say..

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over a year ago

It's good to hear people say they're in favour of torture? Why?

Well ask those who posted it... I am as interested as you for their reasons? I am sure they have their reasons, revenge, to get information, to save lives maybe..

No... I don't think you get it. There's no such thing as legal torture. Any torture is a criminal activity. Do you actually understand what you're talking about and what you started a thread about?

It's not my thread. The thread is about hate. Font confuse other people's views with my own.. "

I meant the thread about Shamima Begum you started. What I'm trying to say is that in this country we punish criminals with imprisonment. There's no legal procedure for harming them physically. I could understand people thinking Shamima Begum should be imprisoned if she were allowed back in to the UK. What I can't understand or accept is people saying she should be put to death or tortured. We don't do that. ISIS do that. We don't. It's pretty simple.

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over a year ago

It's good to hear people say they're in favour of torture? Why?

Well ask those who posted it... I am as interested as you for their reasons? I am sure they have their reasons, revenge, to get information, to save lives maybe..

No... I don't think you get it. There's no such thing as legal torture. Any torture is a criminal activity. Do you actually understand what you're talking about and what you started a thread about?

It's not my thread. The thread is about hate. Font confuse other people's views with my own..

She was referencing your thread on Begum, Tom.

Don’t worry I’m here all week.

I'm most grateful

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over a year ago

Chelmsford

It's good to hear people say they're in favour of torture? Why?

Well ask those who posted it... I am as interested as you for their reasons? I am sure they have their reasons, revenge, to get information, to save lives maybe..

No... I don't think you get it. There's no such thing as legal torture. Any torture is a criminal activity. Do you actually understand what you're talking about and what you started a thread about?

It's not my thread. The thread is about hate. Font confuse other people's views with my own..

She was referencing your thread on Begum, Tom.

Don’t worry I’m here all week.

Well done Estella. Your explanations are much clearer than some other posters.

In the Begun thread or this one I have never endorsed torture. I have said that I am interested in other people's views. I was asked to speculate on reasons why they may hold those views and people assume I hold them. I don't. I am not the brightest but I hope that clarifies

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over a year ago

As a parent are you up for torture or not ?

I think that any parent would do anything to save their child life. But this is a hypothetical scenario that could never happen so it's a bit pointless "

There have been instances where a kidn*pper has been apprehended away from where they've stashed the child, and then refused to give away the child's location. This happens more than you think in Africa, usually due to inter-tribal conflict. The families of the children rarely go to the authorities because they know that they are unlikely to ever see the child again. Those families that "persuade" the kidn*ppers to talk usually always have a far more successful conclusion to the crime.

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over a year ago

It's good to hear people say they're in favour of torture? Why?

Well ask those who posted it... I am as interested as you for their reasons? I am sure they have their reasons, revenge, to get information, to save lives maybe..

No... I don't think you get it. There's no such thing as legal torture. Any torture is a criminal activity. Do you actually understand what you're talking about and what you started a thread about?

It's not my thread. The thread is about hate. Font confuse other people's views with my own..

She was referencing your thread on Begum, Tom.

Don’t worry I’m here all week.

Well done Estella. Your explanations are much clearer than some other posters.

You've never condemned it either. And your posts certainly suggest more than the neutral stance you claim.

You also claimed racism was human nature which is a view I'd like to hear more about?

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

It's good to hear people say they're in favour of torture? Why?

Well ask those who posted it... I am as interested as you for their reasons? I am sure they have their reasons, revenge, to get information, to save lives maybe..

No... I don't think you get it. There's no such thing as legal torture. Any torture is a criminal activity. Do you actually understand what you're talking about and what you started a thread about?

It's not my thread. The thread is about hate. Font confuse other people's views with my own..

She was referencing your thread on Begum, Tom.

Don’t worry I’m here all week.

Well done Estella. Your explanations are much clearer than some other posters.

You've never condemned it either. And your posts certainly suggest more than the neutral stance you claim.

You also claimed racism was human nature which is a view I'd like to hear more about?"

Well I am not on trial in the Bike Monkey Court of Opinion. It seems that if a person does not condemn a view then they must be guilty of some perceived offence.. It's like Witchfinder General thinking..

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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago

London

It's good to hear people say they're in favour of torture? Why?

Well ask those who posted it... I am as interested as you for their reasons? I am sure they have their reasons, revenge, to get information, to save lives maybe..

No... I don't think you get it. There's no such thing as legal torture. Any torture is a criminal activity. Do you actually understand what you're talking about and what you started a thread about?

It's not my thread. The thread is about hate. Font confuse other people's views with my own..

She was referencing your thread on Begum, Tom.

Don’t worry I’m here all week.

Well done Estella. Your explanations are much clearer than some other posters.

Thanks Tom.

Actually, you’ve missed the question again though, sorry to point it out. No one has said you have endorsed torture. You weren’t asked to speculate why some people had views endorsing torture. You were asked to explain why you might be interested in hearing that other people endorse torture, because as you have said you find other people’s views interesting.

It isn’t perhaps a question that will elicit much more from you than saying, because it’s interesting. But the poster was simply highlighting to you that perhaps not all views are good fun or interesting to hear. But, that’s subjective.

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over a year ago

Tom, with the greatest respect if you don't want to be asked about what you say then it's probably best not to say anything. BM has asked a very reasonable question, if you can't answer it just say so but it's not fair to blame him for asking. If I'd said racism was human nature I'd expect to be challenged in it. Weren't you?

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over a year ago

Chelmsford

It's good to hear people say they're in favour of torture? Why?

Well ask those who posted it... I am as interested as you for their reasons? I am sure they have their reasons, revenge, to get information, to save lives maybe..

No... I don't think you get it. There's no such thing as legal torture. Any torture is a criminal activity. Do you actually understand what you're talking about and what you started a thread about?

It's not my thread. The thread is about hate. Font confuse other people's views with my own..

She was referencing your thread on Begum, Tom.

Don’t worry I’m here all week.

Well done Estella. Your explanations are much clearer than some other posters.

Thanks Tom.

I find all views interesting whether it's with a view I share or disagree with. Don't you wonder why people think as they do, why they hold ideas, how they may change views or why they are committed to them. It's really quite simple. Nothing to see here

Does that suffice?

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over a year ago

London

It's good to hear people say they're in favour of torture? Why?

Well ask those who posted it... I am as interested as you for their reasons? I am sure they have their reasons, revenge, to get information, to save lives maybe..

No... I don't think you get it. There's no such thing as legal torture. Any torture is a criminal activity. Do you actually understand what you're talking about and what you started a thread about?

It's not my thread. The thread is about hate. Font confuse other people's views with my own..

She was referencing your thread on Begum, Tom.

Don’t worry I’m here all week.

Well done Estella. Your explanations are much clearer than some other posters.

Thanks Tom.

Does that suffice?"

That does answer the original question posed by Lola, yes. Well done

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

Ok.. I respect you and BM. Whether I expressed it well may be the issue. I mean that there has been racism for thousands of years. I mean that tribes, countries, religions have been fighting often because an irrational hatrid of others race or religion. That's what I meant by its human nature. Is everyone racist? Definitely not. Bike Monkey? Definitely not. Me ? Definite not. But I still like hearing people's views on it..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's good to hear people say they're in favour of torture? Why?

Well ask those who posted it... I am as interested as you for their reasons? I am sure they have their reasons, revenge, to get information, to save lives maybe..

No... I don't think you get it. There's no such thing as legal torture. Any torture is a criminal activity. Do you actually understand what you're talking about and what you started a thread about?

It's not my thread. The thread is about hate. Font confuse other people's views with my own..

She was referencing your thread on Begum, Tom.

Don’t worry I’m here all week.

Well done Estella. Your explanations are much clearer than some other posters.

Yeah Tom. I've been under the impression that you just want a discussion and to see other perspectives so dont worry. I still dont know what you think either.

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

It's good to hear people say they're in favour of torture? Why?

Well ask those who posted it... I am as interested as you for their reasons? I am sure they have their reasons, revenge, to get information, to save lives maybe..

No... I don't think you get it. There's no such thing as legal torture. Any torture is a criminal activity. Do you actually understand what you're talking about and what you started a thread about?

It's not my thread. The thread is about hate. Font confuse other people's views with my own..

She was referencing your thread on Begum, Tom.

Don’t worry I’m here all week.

Well done Estella. Your explanations are much clearer than some other posters.

Yeah Tom. I've been under the impression that you just want a discussion and to see other perspectives so dont worry. I still dont know what you think either. "

Well no-one has asked to be fair.. ask away ?

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over a year ago

There have been lots of thread in poor taste lately and a lot of unnecessary vitriol, whatever happened to debating and agreeing on differing opinions?

Personally I was disgusted at the 'which celebrity will die next' thread but instead of causing a shitstorm I chose to move on.

Picking your battles is something that comes to mind

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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago

London

Well no-one has asked to be fair.. ask away ?

What do you think should happen to Begum?

Do you think there is a moral case for torture ever?

Were you pretending to be homeless on the thread the other night?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont really need to as I dont really care honestly. I dont think it will do much to aid the conversation knowing your opinion. It will probably only start a witch hunt tbh. I just appreciate a willingness to listen.

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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago

London

"There have been lots of thread in poor taste lately and a lot of unnecessary vitriol, whatever happened to debating and agreeing on differing opinions?

Personally I was disgusted at the 'which celebrity will die next' thread but instead of causing a shitstorm I chose to move on.

Picking your battles is something that comes to mind "

I think people are picking their battles. Those that want to post do, those that don’t don’t.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Got you, thank you

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

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Letting other people’s opinions ruin our own moods and thoughts can only happen if we allow it to.

Getting upset about what strangers write in a forum post is a colossal waste of one’s own emotional energy.

I read parts of the thread and posted as well. As someone taking part in a current debate. Sure the ‘hang them all’ brigade were in there. It’s an emotive and difficult topic, it was never going to be fun and lighthearted.

Having another thread so that people can slag off the people in the original thread seems rather counter productive, and hypocritical to me.

And not every comment in that thread was made by ill informed idiots.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Forum rules state that racism won't be tolerated.

I do know of someone who reported the thread at least twice.

The thread, the posts and the poster in question still remain. "

Yet I've known people banned for innocuous comments someone has taken offence at.

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By *aughtierthanyourealiseMan
over a year ago

Widnes

"Welcome to real life duck."

Lol

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

"There have been lots of thread in poor taste lately and a lot of unnecessary vitriol, whatever happened to debating and agreeing on differing opinions?

Personally I was disgusted at the 'which celebrity will die next' thread but instead of causing a shitstorm I chose to move on.

Picking your battles is something that comes to mind "

I thought that was worse than the take it, give it one although this one is hate..

As I said, the only thing I hate is walnuts and come to think of it.. Skate and Ray fish..all I am allergic to

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over a year ago

"There have been lots of thread in poor taste lately and a lot of unnecessary vitriol, whatever happened to debating and agreeing on differing opinions?

Personally I was disgusted at the 'which celebrity will die next' thread but instead of causing a shitstorm I chose to move on.

Picking your battles is something that comes to mind "

I thought that was a bit much too and did the same thing. I'm not interested in who's got the biggest tits or cock or balls or whose pics have been fabbed the most or numerous other things that people discuss here. So I add nothing as I have nothing to add. But I don't post telling people they shouldn't be talking about it. Not that you've done so at all but I see it happen a lot and wonder why. I find it so easy to ignore the stuff I'm not interested in.

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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago

London

"Letting other people’s opinions ruin our own moods and thoughts can only happen if we allow it to.

Getting upset about what strangers write in a forum post is a colossal waste of one’s own emotional energy.

Having another thread so that people can slag off the people in the original thread seems rather counter productive, and hypocritical to me.

And not every comment in that thread was made by ill informed idiots."

No one said every comment was made by ill informed idiots. Your post has very good points, but also perpetuates the namecalling yet another spin.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"No one said every comment was made by ill informed idiots. Your post has very good points, but also perpetuates the namecalling yet another spin.

The general sense of this thread is the horror at what was posted in the other thread.

As a point of balance I said that all the posts were not bad. My comment has no name calling connotations at all.

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

Well no-one has asked to be fair.. ask away ?

What do you think should happen to Begum?

Do you think there is a moral case for torture ever?

Were you pretending to be homeless on the thread the other night?"

Begum should return to UK or at least Holland if her marriage is recognised. I think it's posturing by a Home Secretary trying to look strong. If she is guilty of crimes then she should face justice. She was only 15 when she left. Not old enough to drink, gamble, fornicate or marry.

Torture is rightfully not tolerated under UK law.

A moral case is different proposition. If it were to save lives from an act like taking a plane down then there may be a moral case but in reality I could not think that would ever happen. I am against torture per se.

I am not homeless. If I was homeless then I would have no qualms sleeping in a wheelie bin if it gave me shelter. As a G7 or G9 country we still have homeless people. It's a disgrace.

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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago

London

"No one said every comment was made by ill informed idiots. Your post has very good points, but also perpetuates the namecalling yet another spin.

The general sense of this thread is the horror at what was posted in the other thread.

As a point of balance I said that all the posts were not bad. My comment has no name calling connotations at all. "

Mmmm. We can agree to disagree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Life would be so much better without humans in it

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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago

London

Well no-one has asked to be fair.. ask away ?

What do you think should happen to Begum?

Do you think there is a moral case for torture ever?

Were you pretending to be homeless on the thread the other night?

Torture is rightfully not tolerated under UK law.

I am not homeless. If I was homeless then I would have no qualms sleeping in a wheelie bin if it gave me shelter. As a G7 or G9 country we still have homeless people. It's a disgrace. "

Thanks Tom.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Mmmm. We can agree to disagree. "

How was I perpetuating name calling?

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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago

London

"Mmmm. We can agree to disagree.

How was I perpetuating name calling?"

Slag off, hypocritical...etc. Anyway, bygones.

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

And one final point..

I am certainly not the most eloquent. I do like the hot topics of the day. There are one or two passionate posters who seem to get enraged, not by what I post, but what they think I have posted.

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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago

London

"And one final point..

I am certainly not the most eloquent. I do like the hot topics of the day. There are one or two passionate posters who seem to get enraged, not by what I post, but what they think I have posted.

Likewise Tom, I think you’re as guilty of that as the next.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Life would be so much better without humans in it"

Oooooh a fellow misanthropist.

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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago

London

"Life would be so much better without humans in it

Oooooh a fellow misanthropist.

You really are a wand convert!

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over a year ago

"Life would be so much better without humans in it

Oooooh a fellow misanthropist.

You really are a wand convert!

Hahahahaha!! I am!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Forum rules state that racism won't be tolerated.

I do know of someone who reported the thread at least twice.

The thread, the posts and the poster in question still remain.

Yet I've known people banned for innocuous comments someone has taken offence at."

All of this soo true, I've been banned from fourms before for somthing very petty, it's like the politics behind the scenes at fab are very obscure. (Probably get banned for saying that) haha

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By *ancastermanMan
over a year ago

carnforth

"There have been lots of thread in poor taste lately and a lot of unnecessary vitriol, whatever happened to debating and agreeing on differing opinions?

Personally I was disgusted at the 'which celebrity will die next' thread but instead of causing a shitstorm I chose to move on.

Picking your battles is something that comes to mind "

Unfortunately when it comes to racism, homophobia, transphobia etc, some people don't get to choose their battles. The battles are brought to them, such as my friend who was racially abused by a bus driver. In my mind, the person who is racist in a forum is more likely to be racist in person, and contributing to the normalisation of such comments.

We do have to pick our battles for our own sanity, but we also have to defend our fellow human beings from attacks.

It's not so easy or right just to ignore it all the time sadly.

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By *r_Jake70Man
over a year ago

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By *r_Jake70Man
over a year ago

London

"There have been lots of thread in poor taste lately and a lot of unnecessary vitriol, whatever happened to debating and agreeing on differing opinions?

Personally I was disgusted at the 'which celebrity will die next' thread but instead of causing a shitstorm I chose to move on.

Picking your battles is something that comes to mind

We do have to pick our battles for our own sanity, but we also have to defend our fellow human beings from attacks.

It's not so easy or right just to ignore it all the time sadly."

I’ve been banned from the forums on numerous occasions for calling out racism, homophobia and misogyny etc. Sometimes it’s impossible to just bite your lip.

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