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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I need opinions..... I think I’m being too nice, as many ladies do I get a lot of messages. But been on here a couple of months now and think perhaps I’m being too nice.

If someone messages me and I don’t like look of them or not attracted to how they look or what they say, should I just delete and not message back? Is that really harsh or am I too nice?! I actually feel really bad even saying it but I am also fed up with having to send a message saying “hi thank you for your message bla bla bla but you are not what I’m looking for bla bla bla” and then having to explain in a 2nd message as 9/10 I get a “why?”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When women delete my messages without reading them I report them to admins as fake

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

It's up to you, there's no right or wrong, you could always set your filters so you get minimal messages, and just message the people you like the look of.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I need opinions..... I think I’m being too nice, as many ladies do I get a lot of messages. But been on here a couple of months now and think perhaps I’m being too nice.

If someone messages me and I don’t like look of them or not attracted to how they look or what they say, should I just delete and not message back? Is that really harsh or am I too nice?! I actually feel really bad even saying it but I am also fed up with having to send a message saying “hi thank you for your message bla bla bla but you are not what I’m looking for bla bla bla” and then having to explain in a 2nd message as 9/10 I get a “why?”

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look if you are nice you are nice, if it feels rude not to reply then reply but if time is precious then be rude delete and block

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By *elshkinkyMan
over a year ago

south wales


"I need opinions..... I think I’m being too nice, as many ladies do I get a lot of messages. But been on here a couple of months now and think perhaps I’m being too nice.

If someone messages me and I don’t like look of them or not attracted to how they look or what they say, should I just delete and not message back? Is that really harsh or am I too nice?! I actually feel really bad even saying it but I am also fed up with having to send a message saying “hi thank you for your message bla bla bla but you are not what I’m looking for bla bla bla” and then having to explain in a 2nd message as 9/10 I get a “why?”

"

I think it’s fair enough to be honest... I’m informed that women get kids of messages so it’s a lot to ask to reply to them all. When I get a message I get excited and can’t sleep. It’s all relative

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I need opinions..... I think I’m being too nice, as many ladies do I get a lot of messages. But been on here a couple of months now and think perhaps I’m being too nice.

If someone messages me and I don’t like look of them or not attracted to how they look or what they say, should I just delete and not message back? Is that really harsh or am I too nice?! I actually feel really bad even saying it but I am also fed up with having to send a message saying “hi thank you for your message bla bla bla but you are not what I’m looking for bla bla bla” and then having to explain in a 2nd message as 9/10 I get a “why?”

"

The world is a harsh place, the world of Fab is harsher... just bulk delete every Friday...I wouldn't even bother to read them...they will message you again anyway.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When women delete my messages without reading them I report them to admins as fake"

If I was fake I’d definitely pick better pictures!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's up to you, there's no right or wrong, you could always set your filters so you get minimal messages, and just message the people you like the look of."

Good advice although if I do that can people message me back despite filters?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's up to you, there's no right or wrong, you could always set your filters so you get minimal messages, and just message the people you like the look of.

Good advice although if I do that can people message me back despite filters? "

Pop a note on your profile 'if I don't reply, it's a not interested' block the no's so they cant pester you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When women delete my messages without reading them I report them to admins as fake

If I was fake I’d definitely pick better pictures!!! "

Sounds like something a fake would say

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's up to you, there's no right or wrong, you could always set your filters so you get minimal messages, and just message the people you like the look of.

Good advice although if I do that can people message me back despite filters?

Pop a note on your profile 'if I don't reply, it's a not interested' block the no's so they cant pester you. "

Thank you. That’s a good plan XX

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When women delete my messages without reading them I report them to admins as fake

If I was fake I’d definitely pick better pictures!!!

Sounds like something a fake would say"

Oh I’m definitely Fake, I have no verifications too. Add that to your list!

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"It's up to you, there's no right or wrong, you could always set your filters so you get minimal messages, and just message the people you like the look of.

Good advice although if I do that can people message me back despite filters? "

If you've messaged, winked or friended someone, they can message you no matter what.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's up to you, there's no right or wrong, you could always set your filters so you get minimal messages, and just message the people you like the look of.

Good advice although if I do that can people message me back despite filters?

If you've messaged, winked or friended someone, they can message you no matter what. "

Thank you xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just Hi thankyou .. makes us feel worse

Means youve read our text but you couldnt be arsed

Just ignore at least we can pretend your too popular

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Have a message that you can copy and paste, send it and immediately block.

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By *B69Woman
over a year ago

Wiltshire

I usually just delete, if they have made an effort with their message I just say sorry your not for me, it may seem harsh but easier

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When women delete my messages without reading them I report them to admins as fake

If I was fake I’d definitely pick better pictures!!!

Sounds like something a fake would say

Oh I’m definitely Fake, I have no verifications too. Add that to your list! "

Oh God I didnt even notice that

My fakedar is acting up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I usually just delete, if they have made an effort with their message I just say sorry your not for me, it may seem harsh but easier"
your knees are for me

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