FabSwingers.com forum: Lying.

By *mana OP Woman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

Is it ever ok?

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

No. Never.

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

Nope.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it ever ok?

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yes

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Never ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only if you are Phillip scofield.

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

Sometimes...very dependant on the situation but most times I'd say no it's not good to lie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

‘I’ve read the T&Cs’ is probably ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps if the truth will do someone more harm than good. For self serving reasons though, no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

are you a virgin............ yes i am

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By *mana OP Woman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

How about if someone were attempting to make someone feel better?

Personally, I hate it. It destroys people but I'm trying to understand other peoples views on it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

are you a billionaire.......... yes i am

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How about if someone were attempting to make someone feel better?

Personally, I hate it. It destroys people but I'm trying to understand other peoples views on it."

What. Like if a women asks...do I look fat in this dress

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

I would say yes, if the occasion requires it. Immanuel Kant would disagree. But I think he was a bit of a dickhead.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"Perhaps if the truth will do someone more harm than good. For self serving reasons though, no. "

I'd agree with this. I lie to my parents every time they ask where I'm off to at the weekend, I lie to keep my private life private

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By *mana OP Woman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"How about if someone were attempting to make someone feel better?

Personally, I hate it. It destroys people but I'm trying to understand other peoples views on it.

What. Like if a women asks...do I look fat in this dress

Yes exactly.

You dont have to lie, you can say the truth in a gentle way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Perhaps if the truth will do someone more harm than good. For self serving reasons though, no.

I'd agree with this. I lie to my parents every time they ask where I'm off to at the weekend, I lie to keep my private life private "
omg

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By *hebritukCouple
over a year ago

London

If it’s ok for President Trump and side kick; Boris J. It ok for us mortals!

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By *retty womanWoman
over a year ago

Near Bournemouth

"Is it ever ok?

Yes, depending on the circumstances.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

"How about if someone were attempting to make someone feel better?

Personally, I hate it. It destroys people but I'm trying to understand other peoples views on it."

Nope I love my friends too much to lie to them and they love me because of that, trust can be smashed to pieces in a second and never be fully rebuilt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How about if someone were attempting to make someone feel better?

Personally, I hate it. It destroys people but I'm trying to understand other peoples views on it.

What. Like if a women asks...do I look fat in this dress

Yes exactly.

You dont have to lie, you can say the truth in a gentle way"
you do look fat in that but youll look even fatter in that sort of thing........ is that gentle

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

What if you were hiding Jews in Germany and the gestapo ask if you have any Jews in your house?

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

"How about if someone were attempting to make someone feel better?

Personally, I hate it. It destroys people but I'm trying to understand other peoples views on it."

Wouldn’t they feel better knowing that you’re there for them even if the truth hurts rather than prolonging something that eventually they may find out. This could put you in a bad place with them then.

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By *mana OP Woman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"How about if someone were attempting to make someone feel better?

Personally, I hate it. It destroys people but I'm trying to understand other peoples views on it.

Nope I love my friends too much to lie to them and they love me because of that, trust can be smashed to pieces in a second and never be fully rebuilt."

I totally agree. Its upsetting knowing I've been lied to aswell. Huge huge issue for me with friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there are times when it's okay

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We all lie all the time , I’m not talking big lies just how we are made our brains trick us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate lies.

Lies that cover up things you doing yourself but accuse others of.

Lies where you just blatantly deny something knowing full well the other person knows better.

Amy lie

Sometimes white lies are needed in cases such as children where the truth is far to complex or adult for their understanding or maturity. And not always just children.

Lies are pretty pointless though and require effort to keep up... And the truth always comes out in the end anyway.

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

What about telling young children that Father Christmas will be delivering presents?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the truth hurts

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

"How about if someone were attempting to make someone feel better?

Personally, I hate it. It destroys people but I'm trying to understand other peoples views on it.

Nope I love my friends too much to lie to them and they love me because of that, trust can be smashed to pieces in a second and never be fully rebuilt.

I totally agree. Its upsetting knowing I've been lied to aswell. Huge huge issue for me with friends. "

Only you know whether you want to try to rebuild any friendship where you have been lied to. You have to ask yourself do I need this person in my life and then decide for yourself what is best to do x

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

Context. No situation is ever going to be simple, a lie may be required to avoid something worse.

Before doing so all things should be considered and thought through first.

A lie is such a broad thing. Telling kids that Santa, Easter bunny, Tooth fairy, and God exist are lies. They are (mostly) harmless but they are lies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of guys lie about height,cock size.

Lots of women lie about age

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By *B69Woman
over a year ago

Wiltshire

Depends on the lie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course:

Santa

The Tooth Fairy

Easter Bunny

No your bum doesn't look big in that..

etc..

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Depends on the situation I suppose. I'm a bugger for saying I'm fine where I'm totally am not. But I sometimes need space to collect my own thoughts and process things before I'm able to explain what's going on to others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes... no one in their right mind is going to say " Yes your arse looks big in those" ....ever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No its not, ive come across more on here then in my whole life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"the truth hurts

The truth does hurt but sometimes a lie can make that easier. Little white lies like the sort we tell our kids are fine. Some lies I wouldn't really call lies just more withholding the truth.

I've done that a few times and will continue to for as long as I live. It makes everyone lives better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On the other hand " No I didn't burn the house down and shoot the neighbour " when you did, is a bit more serious.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Yes: dependent on circumstances.

My very proud daughter asked to borrow some money from me. I said not a problem and as my child anything I could do to help I would: and it was my pleasure to help forget about paying me back.

The relief on her face almost warmed my heart. What I wanted to say was no...I'm not giving you a penny as I told you he was a loser and I'd end up supporting his kids!!!

Sigh...a mother's work is never done.

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By *eralPete1Man
over a year ago

marsworth

The truth will always come out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes... no one in their right mind is going to say " Yes your arse looks big in those" ....ever"

My arse always looks big. I'd know you were lying if you said it didn't...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How about if someone were attempting to make someone feel better?

Personally, I hate it. It destroys people but I'm trying to understand other peoples views on it.

I said I’m sorry

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By *mana OP Woman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

I dont mean santa, tooth fairy and the size of my bum.

I mean lies that you know would hurt the person, that it's very obvious lying is not the answer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes... no one in their right mind is going to say " Yes your arse looks big in those" ....ever

My arse always looks big. I'd know you were lying if you said it didn't...

Goes off to check arse ....in fairness doesn't look big but we'll spanked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"the truth hurts

The truth does hurt but sometimes a lie can make that easier. Little white lies like the sort we tell our kids are fine. Some lies I wouldn't really call lies just more withholding the truth.

I've done that a few times and will continue to for as long as I live. It makes everyone lives better"

This.

. Yes sometimes it is ok. As is not telling someone something that you know would hurt them, is that a form of lying? I’ve found it necessary to lie sometimes, like if I don’t want to get involved in something that’s not my business. For example did you know about this? Or did you know blah blah did this? No I didn’t. Can anyone really say it’s never acceptable?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"the truth hurts

The truth does hurt but sometimes a lie can make that easier. Little white lies like the sort we tell our kids are fine. Some lies I wouldn't really call lies just more withholding the truth.

I've done that a few times and will continue to for as long as I live. It makes everyone lives better"
exactly this, a truth thats brutal and hurts someones feelings is not good in my opinion

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I have lied in the past, mostly to save face and it only made things worse.

The truth will always be found out and lies destroy trust.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

"the truth hurts

The truth does hurt but sometimes a lie can make that easier. Little white lies like the sort we tell our kids are fine. Some lies I wouldn't really call lies just more withholding the truth.

I've done that a few times and will continue to for as long as I live. It makes everyone lives better

This.

Nobody is 100% honest and clear of lies, no matter how much they claim to be. It at times is a necessary evil in certain situations.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

It is when I want my kid to eat some foods and he has no idea what’s in it

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

No, it's not OK to lie.

The truth will always out.

Jo.Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been talking to a guy on here and boy hes full of it mind you he did shut up when i called him out on it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been talking to a guy on here and boy hes full of it mind you he did shut up when i called him out on it.

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full of the cold? really stay away he may have been to local chinese

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

"the truth hurts

The truth does hurt but sometimes a lie can make that easier. Little white lies like the sort we tell our kids are fine. Some lies I wouldn't really call lies just more withholding the truth.

I've done that a few times and will continue to for as long as I live. It makes everyone lives better

This.

Nobody is 100% honest and clear of lies, no matter how much they claim to be. It at times is a necessary evil in certain situations. "

Ok I see where you are coming from, but why can't you say I'm not going to talk about that because I don't want to or I don't want to hurt your feelings right now so I need to stop this conversation. There are other ways and its extremely hard to do but for me the trust I recieve back from being blunt and brutally honest to my loved ones is worth it.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I think that part of the issue is that different people have different levels as to what constitutes a lie.

To some, they tell themselves that they're 'saving the others feelings' or that 'it's not a big lie'. To some, lying by omission is acceptable as they're not actually speaking untruths.

I think that the truth isn't relative though, it's not a question of context and it really isn't about saving face or being 'kind'. If you're hiding stuff, then it's lying.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

Yes it is ok to lie sometimes and anyone that says they don’t is in fact lying I believe

they don’t have to be big to constitute a lie.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends... we all tell a white lie... no one can say they dont-without lie'ing

I personally thing its down to context its used for instance most people lie for personal gain... i dont like that, or for malicious use... again wrong. But a little white lie to save someones feeings from being hurt.. i dont see thats a issue.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Not on Fab but life in general then lying is sometimes the only option. For example if my mum "says what did you get up to last night" then i will lie rather than tell her i was at a swingers party having sex with several strange men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it ever ok?

nope,no need for it...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends on the situation. Every situation is different.

A Dr lying to a terminally ill patient to ease them through their last few days is perfectly acceptable.

Someone lying to their partner over what they’ve been up to isn’t.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No!

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