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Happiness Triggers

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By *hrista Bellend OP   Woman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I am a geek and chemistry is one of my passions. When I go thrill seeking I am aware of certain things that I have to put in place in order to not drop too low in endorphins when the thrill is over, so my mental health does not suffer.

So I plan my happiness triggers, lots of little things that I know will release the required flow of endorphins to coast me along.

A long cuddle with a friend is especially good...

What do you do to make yourself happy when you are low, how to turn that frown upside down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I listen to music in the car on my way to see friends. Music can change any mood I'm in at the sound of an opening chord or a lyric or 2. Failing that, I drive with either take my mind of a mood or cheer me up altogether, and failing that...my friends will give me a ripping for being down and before long I'll be a happy chappy once again

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By *hrista Bellend OP   Woman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights


"I listen to music in the car on my way to see friends. Music can change any mood I'm in at the sound of an opening chord or a lyric or 2. Failing that, I drive with either take my mind of a mood or cheer me up altogether, and failing that...my friends will give me a ripping for being down and before long I'll be a happy chappy once again "

Music is very powerful, do you have a certain type of music you go to every time?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I listen to music in the car on my way to see friends. Music can change any mood I'm in at the sound of an opening chord or a lyric or 2. Failing that, I drive with either take my mind of a mood or cheer me up altogether, and failing that...my friends will give me a ripping for being down and before long I'll be a happy chappy once again

Music is very powerful, do you have a certain type of music you go to every time?"

I have a playlist I go to just. Actually, i would usually give the radio a chance first and failing that I have a playlist of about 400 songs that i really like to I'll just stick that on random. Music is incredibly powerful, you dont even have to have a memorable experience even for you to be mentally transported somewhere else if a certain song plays. Saying that, a lot of the songs on my playlist make me think of the movies they have featured in

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By *hrista Bellend OP   Woman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights


"I listen to music in the car on my way to see friends. Music can change any mood I'm in at the sound of an opening chord or a lyric or 2. Failing that, I drive with either take my mind of a mood or cheer me up altogether, and failing that...my friends will give me a ripping for being down and before long I'll be a happy chappy once again

Music is very powerful, do you have a certain type of music you go to every time?

I have a playlist I go to just. Actually, i would usually give the radio a chance first and failing that I have a playlist of about 400 songs that i really like to I'll just stick that on random. Music is incredibly powerful, you dont even have to have a memorable experience even for you to be mentally transported somewhere else if a certain song plays. Saying that, a lot of the songs on my playlist make me think of the movies they have featured in "

And that releases more endorphins as you have a visual aid as well as a sound one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The outdoors. Just getting out and about amidst the natural world lifts me no end. Greenery, fresh air, wildlife, love it x

Oh... and IKEA meatballs!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I listen to music in the car on my way to see friends. Music can change any mood I'm in at the sound of an opening chord or a lyric or 2. Failing that, I drive with either take my mind of a mood or cheer me up altogether, and failing that...my friends will give me a ripping for being down and before long I'll be a happy chappy once again

Music is very powerful, do you have a certain type of music you go to every time?

I have a playlist I go to just. Actually, i would usually give the radio a chance first and failing that I have a playlist of about 400 songs that i really like to I'll just stick that on random. Music is incredibly powerful, you dont even have to have a memorable experience even for you to be mentally transported somewhere else if a certain song plays. Saying that, a lot of the songs on my playlist make me think of the movies they have featured in

And that releases more endorphins as you have a visual aid as well as a sound one "

Exactly like my favourite song, Jackie Wilson - Higher and Higher, makes me think of the Ghost Busters movie where they conver things in the psychoactive slime and play that music to bring the statue of liberty alive to help them save New York

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By *nnocentimesMan
over a year ago

over there by that tree

Music, cuddles & food in any order

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I listen to music. Especially modern latin music.

I go for a walk. Longer the better.

Watch a cheesy romantic comedy film.

Long soak in a bubble bath with a magazine and face pack on.

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By *hrista Bellend OP   Woman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights


"The outdoors. Just getting out and about amidst the natural world lifts me no end. Greenery, fresh air, wildlife, love it x

Oh... and IKEA meatballs! "

IKEA meatballs are awesome

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By *hrista Bellend OP   Woman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights


"I listen to music in the car on my way to see friends. Music can change any mood I'm in at the sound of an opening chord or a lyric or 2. Failing that, I drive with either take my mind of a mood or cheer me up altogether, and failing that...my friends will give me a ripping for being down and before long I'll be a happy chappy once again

Music is very powerful, do you have a certain type of music you go to every time?

I have a playlist I go to just. Actually, i would usually give the radio a chance first and failing that I have a playlist of about 400 songs that i really like to I'll just stick that on random. Music is incredibly powerful, you dont even have to have a memorable experience even for you to be mentally transported somewhere else if a certain song plays. Saying that, a lot of the songs on my playlist make me think of the movies they have featured in

And that releases more endorphins as you have a visual aid as well as a sound one

Exactly like my favourite song, Jackie Wilson - Higher and Higher, makes me think of the Ghost Busters movie where they conver things in the psychoactive slime and play that music to bring the statue of liberty alive to help them save New York "

Love that part (they dont make Nike's in her size) and full of positivity as well

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By *urvyandCurious999Woman
over a year ago

Hiding from twats

Cuddles, music, chocolate, naps, chatting to my best mate, sitting in the sunshine, I'm easily pleased

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Read, dance, talk to friends. AngelEyes always cheers me up

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By *hrista Bellend OP   Woman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights


"Music, cuddles & food in any order "

All are brill triggers, docs recommend 8 cuddles a day for well being

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By *hrista Bellend OP   Woman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights


"I listen to music. Especially modern latin music.

I go for a walk. Longer the better.

Watch a cheesy romantic comedy film.

Long soak in a bubble bath with a magazine and face pack on."

All are brill triggers

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By *hrista Bellend OP   Woman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights


"Cuddles, music, chocolate, naps, chatting to my best mate, sitting in the sunshine, I'm easily pleased "

All good especially the sunshine one this time of year

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By *hrista Bellend OP   Woman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights


"Read, dance, talk to friends. AngelEyes always cheers me up "

She gives an awesome cuddle as well

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

If I can’t see friends in person, a quick message exchange normally has me smiling or laughing. Or just spending fine with my lad.

If I don’t wish to interact, I’ll walk to my quiet place in the hustle of London, or read, draw, listen to music, or just remembering the daftness of my paternal grandparents and their antics, always gets me smiling.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

Hugs are good, although difficult to come by.

Music almost always works, I’ve got a playlist that I’ve lovingly created which has songs either special or just plain awesome.

I’ve never found exercise or getting outdoors to really help much, it just makes me wish I had someone to share it with. Just proves that there’s no such thing as a fix that works for everyone.

Seeing a good friend works well. The close ones are elusive but they’re priceless

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being in the Great outdoors , cycling or walking makes me splendidly happy .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At the end of a work day when everything is silent and I'm just enjoying time with my animals always brings me a feeling of happiness and peace

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By *hrista Bellend OP   Woman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights


"If I can’t see friends in person, a quick message exchange normally has me smiling or laughing. Or just spending fine with my lad.

If I don’t wish to interact, I’ll walk to my quiet place in the hustle of London, or read, draw, listen to music, or just remembering the daftness of my paternal grandparents and their antics, always gets me smiling. "

Drawing is another strong endorphin trigger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I look at a girl i knows face or tits give em a kiss and carry on with my day

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By *hrista Bellend OP   Woman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights


"Hugs are good, although difficult to come by.

Music almost always works, I’ve got a playlist that I’ve lovingly created which has songs either special or just plain awesome.

I’ve never found exercise or getting outdoors to really help much, it just makes me wish I had someone to share it with. Just proves that there’s no such thing as a fix that works for everyone.

Seeing a good friend works well. The close ones are elusive but they’re priceless "

It's good that you can recognize what works for you and good friends are priceless

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By *nnocentimesMan
over a year ago

over there by that tree


"Music, cuddles & food in any order

All are brill triggers, docs recommend 8 cuddles a day for well being "

Oh wow - I’ve got rookie numbers in that case, shall need to find someone that’s equally into them

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By *hrista Bellend OP   Woman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights


"Being in the Great outdoors , cycling or walking makes me splendidly happy . "

Fresh air and sunshine are powerful triggers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Being in the Great outdoors , cycling or walking makes me splendidly happy .

Fresh air and sunshine are powerful triggers "
it just the best

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By *hrista Bellend OP   Woman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights


"At the end of a work day when everything is silent and I'm just enjoying time with my animals always brings me a feeling of happiness and peace "

Another strong trigger, this is why pets as therapy are so important

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In the Bdsm scene its called "sub drop" and I know it like I know my own face. Music, yoga, really any nice, peaceful distraction. I often spend a lot of time watching animal clips on Zuckerbook. I've got a favourite one that involves an elephant, a pumpkin and a totally cool bloke from Somerset who says "a girt big'un". It makes me giggle with joy every time

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By *hrista Bellend OP   Woman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights


"I look at a girl i knows face or tits give em a kiss and carry on with my day"

Someone special is a powerful trigger

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By *hrista Bellend OP   Woman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights


"In the Bdsm scene its called "sub drop" and I know it like I know my own face. Music, yoga, really any nice, peaceful distraction. I often spend a lot of time watching animal clips on Zuckerbook. I've got a favourite one that involves an elephant, a pumpkin and a totally cool bloke from Somerset who says "a girt big'un". It makes me giggle with joy every time "

Oh wow... yes "sub drop" is a fascinating subject to me and the triggers that work with the extreme low

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I suppose it depends on the depth of the drop (and we get into mental health stuff here I suppose). I make sure I'm safe and secure first, securing against depression, anxiety, etc. Grounding techniques, mindfulness, CBT-esque techniques (the psychological therapy, not ball busting). I try to find appropriate people to talk to. Long hot shower.

Once I'm in a position of ordinary unhappiness (or on the way there), talking to people, music, exercise, helping others, triggering amusing memories. Throwing myself into an outlet (for me writing). Playing with makeup. Reading if my concentration's OK (see mental health).

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

2 Things .

Music .

My Dog.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In the Bdsm scene its called "sub drop" and I know it like I know my own face. Music, yoga, really any nice, peaceful distraction. I often spend a lot of time watching animal clips on Zuckerbook. I've got a favourite one that involves an elephant, a pumpkin and a totally cool bloke from Somerset who says "a girt big'un". It makes me giggle with joy every time

Oh wow... yes "sub drop" is a fascinating subject to me and the triggers that work with the extreme low "

It gets easier over time, I guess your body gets used to the roller-coaster. Twelve years ago when I first started being spanked it'd hit me like a left hook from Rocky. These days I still get that drained feeling but don't feel so vulnerable and emotional. Or maybe just anticipating it neutralises it a bit. It's interesting for sure

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By *hrista Bellend OP   Woman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights


"I suppose it depends on the depth of the drop (and we get into mental health stuff here I suppose). I make sure I'm safe and secure first, securing against depression, anxiety, etc. Grounding techniques, mindfulness, CBT-esque techniques (the psychological therapy, not ball busting). I try to find appropriate people to talk to. Long hot shower.

Once I'm in a position of ordinary unhappiness (or on the way there), talking to people, music, exercise, helping others, triggering amusing memories. Throwing myself into an outlet (for me writing). Playing with makeup. Reading if my concentration's OK (see mental health)."

It's good to see how in touch you are with your happiness triggers

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By *hrista Bellend OP   Woman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights


"2 Things .

Music .

My Dog.

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Both are brill

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Having nice chats with lovely friends.

Especially the ones that message you - just because they care.

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Being in D's arms is like heaven to me.

This is a good thread OP some interesting tips.

Jo.Xx

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By *hrista Bellend OP   Woman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights


"Having nice chats with lovely friends.

Especially the ones that message you - just because they care. "

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By *hrista Bellend OP   Woman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights


"Being in D's arms is like heaven to me.

This is a good thread OP some interesting tips.

Jo.Xx "

Thanks Jo x

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I suppose it depends on the depth of the drop (and we get into mental health stuff here I suppose). I make sure I'm safe and secure first, securing against depression, anxiety, etc. Grounding techniques, mindfulness, CBT-esque techniques (the psychological therapy, not ball busting). I try to find appropriate people to talk to. Long hot shower.

Once I'm in a position of ordinary unhappiness (or on the way there), talking to people, music, exercise, helping others, triggering amusing memories. Throwing myself into an outlet (for me writing). Playing with makeup. Reading if my concentration's OK (see mental health).

It's good to see how in touch you are with your happiness triggers "

I fought my demons and won

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