FabSwingers.com forum: Booking meets in advance

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If you book a meet for 2 or 3 weeks in advance how do you lot keep it ticking over.

I’m a bit frustrated if I’m honest, just want to shag the dude now.

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By *X Mr Kipling XxMan
over a year ago

Norwich

Good things come to those who wait

Ps thanks for the fabbs earlier xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you book a meet for 2 or 3 weeks in advance how do you lot keep it ticking over.

I’m a bit frustrated if I’m honest, just want to shag the dude now. "

I haven’t booked a meet yet,so wouldn’t know

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

You could try cutting contact til the day before.

Otherwise you run the risk of over-talking and leaving no surprises for the day or for whatever reason deciding against the meet.

There doesn't have to be huge build up. Sometimes avoiding contact actually builds sexual tension more than rabbiting on for weeks.

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By *hortarseWoman
over a year ago

Norfolk

I never feel like that until I meet them. I just talk to them see what they are into. Just use the toy's until you meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes its frustrating as hell, ive had meets booked a couple of weeks in advance too. Its torture. Id rather 24 hrs notice if im arranging a meet xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you book a meet for 2 or 3 weeks in advance how do you lot keep it ticking over.

I’m a bit frustrated if I’m honest, just want to shag the dude now. "

If I was the guy I'd want to be fucking you now too.

Lots of guys "book" a meet and then communication breaks down as life gets busy. Women on the other hand seem to be able to maintain communications.

I guess it's down to each individual and what their expectation is of the other party. Clearly communicate that and you should both be golden.

Over the years I have fallen foul of both under and over communicating to what the other party expects as there wasn't the clarity initially. Now I just ask.

Sometimes erotic texts and pic swaps, phone sex, planning the shopping for a meet (toys, everyday items such as ice cubes or smints, fizzy water etc)

Happy swinging

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You could try cutting contact til the day before.

Otherwise you run the risk of over-talking and leaving no surprises for the day or for whatever reason deciding against the meet.

There doesn't have to be huge build up. Sometimes avoiding contact actually builds sexual tension more than rabbiting on for weeks.

That’s what I was thinking, I don’t want to over cook it.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

"You could try cutting contact til the day before.

Otherwise you run the risk of over-talking and leaving no surprises for the day or for whatever reason deciding against the meet.

There doesn't have to be huge build up. Sometimes avoiding contact actually builds sexual tension more than rabbiting on for weeks.

This is what usually happens to me. By the time the meet comes around i’ve friend zoned them and don’t fancy shagging them.

Plus the more someone bangs on about how amazing the sex is going to be, the more i switch off because i think it’s going to be shit because very few walk the walk and talk the talk.

There’s a fine line between lustful anticipation and overkill.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes with leading busy lives booking meets cant be avoided however if im at meet stage im at the point where we're well equated and the conversation flows. I wouldnt meet if conversation was hard to keep going

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By *enn68Man
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"If you book a meet for 2 or 3 weeks in advance how do you lot keep it ticking over.

I’m a bit frustrated if I’m honest, just want to shag the dude now. "

Noone told me there is a booking system ??

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By *rotic-TouchTV/TS
over a year ago

doncaster

Ahhh the long awaited meet .

They Very often get cancelled last minute sadly

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By *orthantsblueeyesMan
over a year ago

Northampton

I like to keep the contact going. Not sexy stuff, just day to day chat.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I normally talk about any and everything from food to mythos. I'd agree with the poster up there - it really is individualistic and depends on what works for that particular person. Some people are naturally talkers, others less so. You find your own natural flow and go with that.

If it's going to kill your wideon for them, find other things to occupy your time that doesn't involve messaging them.

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

"You could try cutting contact til the day before.

Otherwise you run the risk of over-talking and leaving no surprises for the day or for whatever reason deciding against the meet.

There doesn't have to be huge build up. Sometimes avoiding contact actually builds sexual tension more than rabbiting on for weeks.

This. This will cut down on the messages you can over analyse and ruminate over, OP. I think an agreed no contact until the day before would be best for you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I normally talk about any and everything from food to mythos. I'd agree with the poster up there - it really is individualistic and depends on what works for that particular person. Some people are naturally talkers, others less so. You find your own natural flow and go with that.

If it's going to kill your wideon for them, find other things to occupy your time that doesn't involve messaging them. "

My wide-on

Nah I won’t get put off, he’s got beautiful body parts, you know when you just know from looking at a dick that it’s gonna fill you up like expanding foam.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Chat a bit. I’ve had one planned for weeks.

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

If it's going to kill your wideon for them, find other things to occupy your time that doesn't involve messaging them.

My wide-on

Nah I won’t get put off, he’s got beautiful body parts, you know when you just know from looking at a dick that it’s gonna fill you up like expanding foam. "

'No more big gaps'.

Good stuff.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The longer it goes the deeper the nerves set in, and the more likley they are to be a no-show. Unless it's people I, or me and the wife have already met we keep things to 10 days or less.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The longer it goes the deeper the nerves set in, and the more likley they are to be a no-show. Unless it's people I, or me and the wife have already met we keep things to 10 days or less."

Yeah but like I’m not someone you’d have to be nervous about meeting. A guy could literally turn up and fall into a deep sleep unable to do anything but I would still have a good time.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

Most of my meets are booked well in advance as they all as do I, have busy lives and diaries need to match, I can't just drop everything and go off however much I'd want to.

We chat everyday about normal stuff and sex stuff

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

I try to think of them as 'pencilled in'.

That way I'm not too disappointed if they unavoidably cancel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My meets are sometimes arranged weeks in advance but I like to chat with them every day else I’d forget them

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I try to think of them as 'pencilled in'.

That way I'm not too disappointed if they unavoidably cancel. "
if you pencil them in then at least you can use your rubber.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"I try to think of them as 'pencilled in'.

That way I'm not too disappointed if they unavoidably cancel. if you pencil them in then at least you can use your rubber. "

So long as it's not out of date.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are flying out to the states next weekend to stay with a couple we met last July. Now that’s been a long build up ! We’ve got a 4 way group chat on what’s app and have all been chatting for 7 months now !

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I chat about normal stuff. If they went cold id assume the meet is off as did happen one time. Id not heard from the guy then suddenly he rings to say hea on his way. I cancelled him(this wasnt through fab) Id just get bored and move on to the next one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sometimes with leading busy lives booking meets cant be avoided however if im at meet stage im at the point where we're well equated and the conversation flows. I wouldnt meet if conversation was hard to keep going

This

I have to book meets in advance. I have a busy life and don't get a lot if free time. If someone is that interested in meeting me, they will wait same as I will with them. In the mean time we just chat. I try not to over do the sex talk though because I have been let down in that sense before. I need to be able to have a normal conversation with someone if I'm going to have sex with them.

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By *rivateparts!Man
over a year ago

Walking down the only road I've ever known!

I have to book in advance as you say because of weekends with my kids and also I work some weekends too. So it makes sense to me and if it's worth the wait, then it's worth it.

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay

I'm patient. Trust. Some of the best things grow with time.

AND

I feel your pain

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Very much this.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

"If you book a meet for 2 or 3 weeks in advance how do you lot keep it ticking over.

I’m a bit frustrated if I’m honest, just want to shag the dude now. "

Ok ok, come round now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's going to kill your wideon for them, find other things to occupy your time that doesn't involve messaging them. "

Can't add anything to this.

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

I have a friend and when we know we are going to meet up the flirting increases as the day gets closer, Chatting on the phone/text messages face time etc

Even putting up statuses that only we get, The build up can be just as exciting as meeting, It helps that we know each other and know 100% that we will be meeting

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By *niceguyMan
over a year ago

Bristol

"If you book a meet for 2 or 3 weeks in advance how do you lot keep it ticking over.

I’m a bit frustrated if I’m honest, just want to shag the dude now. "

Put me down as your reserve option if you like!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you book a meet for 2 or 3 weeks in advance how do you lot keep it ticking over.

I’m a bit frustrated if I’m honest, just want to shag the dude now. "
never tried it but what about cam fun

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you book a meet for 2 or 3 weeks in advance how do you lot keep it ticking over.

I’m a bit frustrated if I’m honest, just want to shag the dude now.

Put me down as your reserve option if you like!

My reserve option will be a Chinese and a full fat can of Coke

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

"If you book a meet for 2 or 3 weeks in advance how do you lot keep it ticking over.

I’m a bit frustrated if I’m honest, just want to shag the dude now.

Put me down as your reserve option if you like!

My reserve option will be a Chinese and a full fat can of Coke

I bought a bloody six-pack of full fat Cokes in the Asda earlier, got them home and there was a tiny sign that said 'Zero' around the top. Bloody devastated.

...wait hang on, is this about the thread I forgot to scroll up

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

"If you book a meet for 2 or 3 weeks in advance how do you lot keep it ticking over.

I’m a bit frustrated if I’m honest, just want to shag the dude now. "
Just keep fantasizing day after day, night after night, building up the hornyness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always send a few messages before leading up to a meet. Make sure I am not forgotten about and tease a little

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you book a meet for 2 or 3 weeks in advance how do you lot keep it ticking over.

I’m a bit frustrated if I’m honest, just want to shag the dude now. "
i love that build up sexy messages phone sex raising expectations not all the time but enough to keep the fires burning

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've always had to plan in advance and never struggled with it tbh. I meet guys that I enjoy chatting to and I don't agree to meet until I feel comfortable with them so I can't say that waiting the extra couple of weeks is all that hard. We just carry on chatting the same as we always have. There's no chance of the conversation drying up at that stage.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Booking in advance rarely works in my experience. Someone tends to forget or get bored of waiting then cancel or worse ghost

Many like to just meet now up to 24 hours.

Its frustrating but keep looking

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