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"One foot in front of the other. What are your coping mechanisms? Grounding, meditation, reaching out (the Samaritans), etc. Don't apologise for having the burdens you have x" I used to run to cope but when I injured my knee coming off high curb that needed an operation to correct that got taken away. My friend been trying get me I to yoga and stuff and I have got into yoga recently plus gym time but mostly I game or play guitar but since the event the guitar has been stepped back from but miss it lots so trying engage again. I don’t have formal help as I acted typical guy way don’t need it but last sept when was actual anniversary my work friend noticed a change as we was on nights an I didn’t sleep through fear an worry for month. So she encouraged so seek help which been trying but still waiting appointment | |||
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"You did the thing, yesterday. Look after you, today. Congratulations, my friend. I hope this passes " Thank you | |||
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"Big hugs OP and congratulations on your new job x" Thank you hun I need it | |||
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"Thanks for the support managed get an amazing rest yesterday and feel brighter today still feel anxious but the path ahead is looking better" Small steps. One thing at a time. You got this x | |||
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"You know what we all have rubbish days, but you've taken the first important step by acknowledging you're not quite right. Find the support you need and do what you know generally helps you in these situations. " Thanks A lot people told me to seek help 5 yrs ago but I wouldn’t typical guy thought ignore be ok but now I made choice so will see what happens and what help is given | |||
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"You know what we all have rubbish days, but you've taken the first important step by acknowledging you're not quite right. Find the support you need and do what you know generally helps you in these situations. Thanks A lot people told me to seek help 5 yrs ago but I wouldn’t typical guy thought ignore be ok but now I made choice so will see what happens and what help is given " Good luck OP, wish you all the best | |||
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"You know what we all have rubbish days, but you've taken the first important step by acknowledging you're not quite right. Find the support you need and do what you know generally helps you in these situations. Thanks A lot people told me to seek help 5 yrs ago but I wouldn’t typical guy thought ignore be ok but now I made choice so will see what happens and what help is given Good luck OP, wish you all the best " Thank you | |||
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"Sorry if my posts today are not great and happy as usual lol The euphoria of getting new job yesterday and then no sleep and night shift has sent my anxiety and depression into over drive and my brain is working overdrive. And been trying sleep when home today but having nightmares about when I was assaulted. So again am sorry I don’t mean sound needy or anything " Mate , should never apologise for the way to feel Sorry to hear you was assaulted , don’t know about you or your life , but again , never apologise for been low and Anxious hope you will feel calmer and more relaxed soon Massive man hugs | |||
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"Sorry if my posts today are not great and happy as usual lol The euphoria of getting new job yesterday and then no sleep and night shift has sent my anxiety and depression into over drive and my brain is working overdrive. And been trying sleep when home today but having nightmares about when I was assaulted. So again am sorry I don’t mean sound needy or anything Mate , should never apologise for the way to feel Sorry to hear you was assaulted , don’t know about you or your life , but again , never apologise for been low and Anxious hope you will feel calmer and more relaxed soon Massive man hugs " Thank u for kind words and man hug | |||
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"First step is always the hardest. When I was attacked I tried carrying on as normal which I think is what a lot of people try to do. Because it’s part of the precess and ashamed as to what has happened. It’s not an easy road but you will get through it with the help that’s available. I also found what I went through made me a stronger person and to see how far I had come. You have got this and good luck " Am sorry you had something similar I probably am stronger than think but also know am more vulnerable at times. I have put off for so long seeking help feels wrong and silly now but know in end will help me and build back to strength. Thanks for the supportive words | |||
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"Thanks for the help and chats people have given me about stuff. Happy day I have a phone call booked to discuss services and help available to me to start working on confronting these fears and demons" Well done for confronting your demons and good luck to you | |||
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"btw... how's baby Yoda keeping? " He is ok still little headache from punch trooper gave him but doing lots Hand wavy things | |||
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"I wish you all the best. Part of why you're feeling a bit below par is surely because you're feeling tired from not sleeping, combined with the perfectly understandable anxiety of starting a new job. It's also understandable that this might trigger or reignite past anxieties. I guess these things will recede as you become accustomed/comfortable in your new role and see that the positive things you bring to it are valued and respected by those around you. Sometimes, a change like this can open up a whole new world of friendships and fulfilling experiences... you never know, you might be on the threshold of something wonderful. Every time someone new has come to work for me I've seen their anxiety disappear very quickly and their true personalities start to shine through as they bring their individual contributions and ideas. Friendships develop and and anxieties dissipate as people extend their sphere of care for one another to include you. In my experience it has a spirit-lifting and rejuvenating effect on everyone. Truly, all the best mate..." Thanks for the message means loads to read I know I’ll be ok guess cos everything went through and still do just nervous to change environment and stuff cos I got in a rut but know be great once start in few months booooo | |||
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"Thanks for the help and chats people have given me about stuff. Happy day I have a phone call booked to discuss services and help available to me to start working on confronting these fears and demons Well done for confronting your demons and good luck to you " Thanks guys you have always been great support even when I was house bound post knee operation so thanks loads | |||
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"Wow so emotional now Just had first phone call with mental health/therapy session to discuss stuff Wow I just cried for an hour after the call and at end she said now go do something fun but no idea what do now lol hence logged onto fab and stuff " I hope it helped and understand it would be very emotional. The tears are a good release. Take care of you. | |||
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"Nervous as hell to have another conversation with the ptsd trauma lady today feel on edge and worried. Been feeling anxious since Tuesday and keep crying ?? I am sick of feeling this way. On another note thanks for the love and support fab giving means loads and restores my faith in people and not everyone esp men out to hurt me" Oh well I hope it goes ok, let us know | |||
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"Nervous as hell to have another conversation with the ptsd trauma lady today feel on edge and worried. Been feeling anxious since Tuesday and keep crying ?? I am sick of feeling this way. On another note thanks for the love and support fab giving means loads and restores my faith in people and not everyone esp men out to hurt me Oh well I hope it goes ok, let us know " Sorry for my boring updates Went ok they decided due to sexual assault and my history of avoiding and fear I need trauma and ptsd support but and here is the best can be 6+ months to wait great. So after the chat other day all I can think about is what happened and now have wait ages to help try find way to cope grrrr | |||
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"Sorry if my posts today are not great and happy as usual lol The euphoria of getting new job yesterday and then no sleep and night shift has sent my anxiety and depression into over drive and my brain is working overdrive. And been trying sleep when home today but having nightmares about when I was assaulted. So again am sorry I don’t mean sound needy or anything " Everyone on this site wants a little attention and you should not apologise for it. This is not the same thing as a sympathy shag as we all want a hug every now and then | |||
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"Sorry if my posts today are not great and happy as usual lol The euphoria of getting new job yesterday and then no sleep and night shift has sent my anxiety and depression into over drive and my brain is working overdrive. And been trying sleep when home today but having nightmares about when I was assaulted. So again am sorry I don’t mean sound needy or anything Everyone on this site wants a little attention and you should not apologise for it. This is not the same thing as a sympathy shag as we all want a hug every now and then" Haha thank you I would love sympathy shag as don’t and can’t get any l So Thanks for the nice words | |||
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"It's not good that you have to wait so long, our troubled NHS, unfortunately! It's great you got out with your family and eventually enjoyed yourself! Keep talking and coming on here, there may be others in a similar position as you, who are too afraid to come and chat, you may be helping them, without knowing it. " Thank you for saying ok sill post I worry note people and sound needy etc Yeah was nice get out for a gig Am always happy speak and try help others | |||
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"It's not good that you have to wait so long, our troubled NHS, unfortunately! It's great you got out with your family and eventually enjoyed yourself! Keep talking and coming on here, there may be others in a similar position as you, who are too afraid to come and chat, you may be helping them, without knowing it. Thank you for saying ok sill post I worry note people and sound needy etc Yeah was nice get out for a gig Am always happy speak and try help others" Good for you | |||
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"Well last night went to see stereophonics with my family and that was amazing nice break from my brain although at first I kept imagining all the guys who fit the build and look of guy who attacked me was at the gig but soon that settled and I could enjoy show. Thanks for support and chats sorry if I post too much or go on this is truly my only voice and outlet. " It will get easier. I’m not gonna lie and you have a long hard frustrating road ahead of you. Take care | |||
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"Sorry if my posts today are not great and happy as usual lol The euphoria of getting new job yesterday and then no sleep and night shift has sent my anxiety and depression into over drive and my brain is working overdrive. And been trying sleep when home today but having nightmares about when I was assaulted. So again am sorry I don’t mean sound needy or anything Everyone on this site wants a little attention and you should not apologise for it. This is not the same thing as a sympathy shag as we all want a hug every now and then Haha thank you I would love sympathy shag as don’t and can’t get any l So Thanks for the nice words" Nah just get better and come back as Captain Shagger | |||
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"It's not good that you have to wait so long, our troubled NHS, unfortunately! It's great you got out with your family and eventually enjoyed yourself! Keep talking and coming on here, there may be others in a similar position as you, who are too afraid to come and chat, you may be helping them, without knowing it. Thank you for saying ok sill post I worry note people and sound needy etc Yeah was nice get out for a gig Am always happy speak and try help others" Hope you are OK. Times are difficult, people need to talk and be nice to others. | |||
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" It will get easier. I’m not gonna lie and you have a long hard frustrating road ahead of you. Take care " I know it will I thought it was ok but it was just denial but in time be ok | |||
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"Sorry if my posts today are not great and happy as usual lol The euphoria of getting new job yesterday and then no sleep and night shift has sent my anxiety and depression into over drive and my brain is working overdrive. And been trying sleep when home today but having nightmares about when I was assaulted. So again am sorry I don’t mean sound needy or anything Everyone on this site wants a little attention and you should not apologise for it. This is not the same thing as a sympathy shag as we all want a hug every now and then Haha thank you I would love sympathy shag as don’t and can’t get any l So Thanks for the nice words Nah just get better and come back as Captain Shagger " Damn that’s a great user name | |||
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"Thanks everyone I think the anxiety over the stuff mentioned earlier and the present issues working in front line care are making me feel worse today. Everywhere look ppl going on how bad things are or lack stuff in shops, I been shop twice this week and can’t get anything need so hopefully now special hour for nhs I may get easier Hope everyone is ok and safe" Yes lots of stress for everyone let alone if you are already vulnerable. Hopefully you will get your shopping and keep up the good work also | |||
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"Hope people ok Wow how strange is the world and as am able travel about due to being front line seems crazy at moment Typical both my parents have the bloody covid since last week which isn’t great. I know most will get it but rather be me than them" Good to see you continue to communicate in this tough time, buddy. | |||
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"Hope people ok Wow how strange is the world and as am able travel about due to being front line seems crazy at moment Typical both my parents have the bloody covid since last week which isn’t great. I know most will get it but rather be me than them Good to see you continue to communicate in this tough time, buddy. " Thanks it’s crazy and my hospital is getting worse hope people be sensible soon and stay home but so far nope. | |||
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"Thank you New job definitely going change my life and stuff That's lovely to hear " Thanks You always been supportive thanks again Yeah new job with weekends off and holidays etc wow I will have a life | |||
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"Thank you New job definitely going change my life and stuff That's lovely to hear Thanks You always been supportive thanks again Yeah new job with weekends off and holidays etc wow I will have a life" Aah you're welcome! Let us know how you get on | |||
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"Thank you New job definitely going change my life and stuff That's lovely to hear Thanks You always been supportive thanks again Yeah new job with weekends off and holidays etc wow I will have a life Aah you're welcome! Let us know how you get on " Well been in job 5 weeks and wow First the 8-4 min to fri is amazing and so nice be off wards and shifts lol Second since qualified always wanted courses and training more but never got or got passed over here wow so intense and the courses open and out on already is wow Last two weeks been doing teaching scenarios so after my leave I can start managing and teaching that aspect and great bit had mini assessment Thursday and review Friday and amazing feedback so can do that session when back. So turns out this is best career move ever think actually found place call home lol Oh and only been with small team few weeks walked in Friday to huge birthday cake and card from team as off for bday that was wow never had that before in work so think found gooood place | |||
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"Thank you New job definitely going change my life and stuff That's lovely to hear Thanks You always been supportive thanks again Yeah new job with weekends off and holidays etc wow I will have a life Aah you're welcome! Let us know how you get on Well been in job 5 weeks and wow First the 8-4 min to fri is amazing and so nice be off wards and shifts lol Second since qualified always wanted courses and training more but never got or got passed over here wow so intense and the courses open and out on already is wow Last two weeks been doing teaching scenarios so after my leave I can start managing and teaching that aspect and great bit had mini assessment Thursday and review Friday and amazing feedback so can do that session when back. So turns out this is best career move ever think actually found place call home lol Oh and only been with small team few weeks walked in Friday to huge birthday cake and card from team as off for bday that was wow never had that before in work so think found gooood place " Aww that's great to hear! Glad you are enjoying it | |||
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"Thank you New job definitely going change my life and stuff That's lovely to hear Thanks You always been supportive thanks again Yeah new job with weekends off and holidays etc wow I will have a life Aah you're welcome! Let us know how you get on Well been in job 5 weeks and wow First the 8-4 min to fri is amazing and so nice be off wards and shifts lol Second since qualified always wanted courses and training more but never got or got passed over here wow so intense and the courses open and out on already is wow Last two weeks been doing teaching scenarios so after my leave I can start managing and teaching that aspect and great bit had mini assessment Thursday and review Friday and amazing feedback so can do that session when back. So turns out this is best career move ever think actually found place call home lol Oh and only been with small team few weeks walked in Friday to huge birthday cake and card from team as off for bday that was wow never had that before in work so think found gooood place " Post of the day!!! Fantastic. | |||
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"Thank you New job definitely going change my life and stuff That's lovely to hear Thanks You always been supportive thanks again Yeah new job with weekends off and holidays etc wow I will have a life Aah you're welcome! Let us know how you get on Well been in job 5 weeks and wow First the 8-4 min to fri is amazing and so nice be off wards and shifts lol Second since qualified always wanted courses and training more but never got or got passed over here wow so intense and the courses open and out on already is wow Last two weeks been doing teaching scenarios so after my leave I can start managing and teaching that aspect and great bit had mini assessment Thursday and review Friday and amazing feedback so can do that session when back. So turns out this is best career move ever think actually found place call home lol Oh and only been with small team few weeks walked in Friday to huge birthday cake and card from team as off for bday that was wow never had that before in work so think found gooood place Post of the day!!! Fantastic. " Yay thank you | |||
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"Thank you New job definitely going change my life and stuff That's lovely to hear Thanks You always been supportive thanks again Yeah new job with weekends off and holidays etc wow I will have a life Aah you're welcome! Let us know how you get on Well been in job 5 weeks and wow First the 8-4 min to fri is amazing and so nice be off wards and shifts lol Second since qualified always wanted courses and training more but never got or got passed over here wow so intense and the courses open and out on already is wow Last two weeks been doing teaching scenarios so after my leave I can start managing and teaching that aspect and great bit had mini assessment Thursday and review Friday and amazing feedback so can do that session when back. So turns out this is best career move ever think actually found place call home lol Oh and only been with small team few weeks walked in Friday to huge birthday cake and card from team as off for bday that was wow never had that before in work so think found gooood place Post of the day!!! Fantastic. Yay thank you " This turned into a lockdown diary, huh? | |||
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