FabSwingers.com forum: How well do you do Sexy

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Can you do sexy?

I can't I can pretend at it for about a minute and it all goes tits up.

So I dressed on Wednesday in stockings and a sexy chemise. Within seconds I laddered one stocking. Changed it and then managed to ping off and break the suspender strap on the other stocking.... I've come to the conclusion I just can't do sexy

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By *hom_1981Man
over a year ago

Manchester

I think it’s certainly far easier for a woman to do “sexy”. So many options in terms of lingerie, clothing, make up, heels etc...

Whereas us blokes just feel a bit daft if we try anything other than standing there in our best pants whilst sucking our stomach in!!!!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Other people seem to think I can. I think you can.

We're all our own harshest critics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clutzy is the new sexy

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I don’t dress sexily. I think sexiness is an aura you give you off and should be natural.

If I’m sexy then I should be just as sexy in jeans and a jumper.

Is what I think anyway.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I can't do consciously sexy. I end up like Bubbles DeVere off Little Britain, so I give it a swerve.

Funny I can do. Smart I can do. Sexy I can't.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Clutzy is the new sexy "

Oh I do cluzy... I managed to fall in a bedroom and smash my head off the opposite door frame trying to be sexy

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By *ampant Lion34Man
over a year ago

East Midlands

Yeah I agree with above, sexy is a state of mind which if you find someone sexy you will see that no matter what they wear or do.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I generally dress to please myself. This is context dependent. But if my suspender belt pings or I tear my stockings... off they go, find something else, life's too damn short.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Other people seem to think I can. I think you can.

We're all our own harshest critics."

I think maybe on photos etc we can appear sexy but in real life I'm far too clumsy to be sexy and I get the giggles during sex.

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By *radleywigginsMan
over a year ago

northwest

"I think it’s certainly far easier for a woman to do “sexy”. So many options in terms of lingerie, clothing, make up, heels etc...

Whereas us blokes just feel a bit daft if we try anything other than standing there in our best pants whilst sucking our stomach in!!!!

Completely agree..

Girls..?

Is there anything that makes a guy look ‘sexy’ rather than ‘less of a knob’?

And, please don’t say ‘a suit’ or ‘a uniform’. For most people in suits are cement salesmen and uniform make you look like an overgrown 8 year old on the way to a birthday party.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"Can you do sexy?

I can't I can pretend at it for about a minute and it all goes tits up.

I hear you with the bloody laddering! You'd think someone would have invented a better item by now. I find it hard to be sexy with my walking stick and even harder if I'm using my slinky red wheelchair

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think it’s certainly far easier for a woman to do “sexy”. So many options in terms of lingerie, clothing, make up, heels etc...

Whereas us blokes just feel a bit daft if we try anything other than standing there in our best pants whilst sucking our stomach in!!!!

Completely agree..

Girls..?

Is there anything that makes a guy look ‘sexy’ rather than ‘less of a knob’?

And, please don’t say ‘a suit’ or ‘a uniform’. For most people in suits are cement salesmen and uniform make you look like an overgrown 8 year old on the way to a birthday party. "

See I think sexy for a guy is all about his persona, a look he can give you, a confidence. Where as for woman it seems to be more about how she looks what she wears?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Other people seem to think I can. I think you can.

We're all our own harshest critics.

I think maybe on photos etc we can appear sexy but in real life I'm far too clumsy to be sexy and I get the giggles during sex. "

I'm pretty sure we've met

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

"I think it’s certainly far easier for a woman to do “sexy”. So many options in terms of lingerie, clothing, make up, heels etc...

Whereas us blokes just feel a bit daft if we try anything other than standing there in our best pants whilst sucking our stomach in!!!!

Completely agree..

Girls..?

Is there anything that makes a guy look ‘sexy’ rather than ‘less of a knob’?

And, please don’t say ‘a suit’ or ‘a uniform’. For most people in suits are cement salesmen and uniform make you look like an overgrown 8 year old on the way to a birthday party. "

A wild and carefree dishevelled look looks sexy to me.

Outdoorsy ruggedness.

A man who looks like he could cut down trees with a pocketknife and not break out in a sweat.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Yeah, I think all these accessories, it doesn't make aiming for sexy easier. So many more things to fuck up, put together wrong... and if sexy is a state of mind, on a bad day I can be (un)dressed to kill and think "oh fuck I screwed up my contour (or any of the other thousand elements in that look)" and there goes my sexy attitude.

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

Not well at all I’m better when I don’t try

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Other people seem to think I can. I think you can.

We're all our own harshest critics.

I think maybe on photos etc we can appear sexy but in real life I'm far too clumsy to be sexy and I get the giggles during sex.

I'm pretty sure we've met

Well I'm even more amazed if you think I've pulled off sexy at those times.. I'm generally really self conscious, generally adjusting myself. At the last one suits had to slap my wrist because I kept adjusting my dress

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tried once for the wife. She has a Scottish Highlands fantasy but I ended up looking more like Frank Gallagher in a wig and dress then the highway man!!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Other people seem to think I can. I think you can.

We're all our own harshest critics.

I think maybe on photos etc we can appear sexy but in real life I'm far too clumsy to be sexy and I get the giggles during sex.

I'm pretty sure we've met

My adjustments probably get less attention (and Suits was, err, a little past his best when he and I spoke) but I feel much the same x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it’s certainly far easier for a woman to do “sexy”. So many options in terms of lingerie, clothing, make up, heels etc...

Whereas us blokes just feel a bit daft if we try anything other than standing there in our best pants whilst sucking our stomach in!!!!

Too true

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I dont think sexy depends on what you wear or even what you look like. Some people just have an aura about them

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By *oneyBear100Couple
over a year ago

Gatwick area

Sexy can be a tight set of figure hugging jeans walking up the mountain path in front of you and a tinkle of laughter floating back. Its not all straps and heels xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can put some lingerie on but I'm still going to be a facetious, sarcastic twerp who giggles at willies and ballbags. I'm not great at the alluring femme fatale thing

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

If I try to do sexy I overthink it & just look/feel totally ridiculous.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Yeah sometimes it is "oh just swing with itchy clothes and some shit on her face", not at all sexy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not sure I can. Maybe if the chemistry is right with someone I feel nore able to try.

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By *lbinoGorillaMan
over a year ago

Redditch

"Other people seem to think I can. I think you can.

We're all our own harshest critics.

I think maybe on photos etc we can appear sexy but in real life I'm far too clumsy to be sexy and I get the giggles during sex. "

Let's face it, sex is often a faintly ridiculous thing to be doing at the best of times - getting the giggles shouldn't be too much of a surprise. And I like that attitude towards it

But sexy? Me? Dear God, have you not seen my pictures?

I just have a default setting of jeans, boots, an overly loud / patterned Joe Browns shirt and sometimes a jacket. It's what I'm most comfortable in, and that's as close as I can get to sexy

Love stockings and suspenders on a lady, though....

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By *hom_1981Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Another observation.... I think lots of women think they can’t do sexy. Though if you talked to the man in your life they would probably tell you how incredibly sexy they find you.

I think lots of men are guilty of not telling their partner just how attractive and sexy they are.

Compliment her and make her feel like a Princess!!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I think it’s certainly far easier for a woman to do “sexy”. So many options in terms of lingerie, clothing, make up, heels etc...

Whereas us blokes just feel a bit daft if we try anything other than standing there in our best pants whilst sucking our stomach in!!!!

"
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That's what most of us women do to be fair

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Another observation.... I think lots of women think they can’t do sexy. Though if you talked to the man in your life they would probably tell you how incredibly sexy they find you.

I think lots of men are guilty of not telling their partner just how attractive and sexy they are.

Compliment her and make her feel like a Princess!!"

Confidence comes from within.

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

I dont think I'm sexy at all but I've been told I do sexy very well

my personal opinion is I'm as sexy as a toad missing a leg

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I dont think I'm sexy at all but I've been told I do sexy very well

my personal opinion is I'm as sexy as a toad missing a leg

I'm an overgrown awkward little girl playing dress up and failing

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I look at my photos and think I look sexy in some of them.

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)

"I think it’s certainly far easier for a woman to do “sexy”. So many options in terms of lingerie, clothing, make up, heels etc...

Whereas us blokes just feel a bit daft if we try anything other than standing there in our best pants whilst sucking our stomach in!!!!

Oh, I thought that was being sexy. Must try harder.

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"I dont think I'm sexy at all but I've been told I do sexy very well

my personal opinion is I'm as sexy as a toad missing a leg

I'm an overgrown awkward little girl playing dress up and failing

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

I don’t do sexy couldn’t do it I tried. I have attitude and presence.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Another observation.... I think lots of women think they can’t do sexy. Though if you talked to the man in your life they would probably tell you how incredibly sexy they find you.

I think lots of men are guilty of not telling their partner just how attractive and sexy they are.

Compliment her and make her feel like a Princess!!"

Lots of women would never admit to thinking they can do sexy.

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I can do awkward sexy, I think. I just end up laughing when I try to do sexy x

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Another observation.... I think lots of women think they can’t do sexy. Though if you talked to the man in your life they would probably tell you how incredibly sexy they find you.

I think lots of men are guilty of not telling their partner just how attractive and sexy they are.

Compliment her and make her feel like a Princess!!

Lots of women would never admit to thinking they can do sexy. "

That, and I think a lot of guys think that our self-perception is about what they think. It really, really isn't.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Another observation.... I think lots of women think they can’t do sexy. Though if you talked to the man in your life they would probably tell you how incredibly sexy they find you.

I think lots of men are guilty of not telling their partner just how attractive and sexy they are.

Compliment her and make her feel like a Princess!!

Lots of women would never admit to thinking they can do sexy.

That, and I think a lot of guys think that our self-perception is about what they think. It really, really isn't."

Yes but when it comes to sexy I want my partner to think I'm sexy as well as thinking I'm sexy myself.

The more I type sexy the more ridiculous the word sounds

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its like a finely tuned superpower its all in the calm confidence

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Another observation.... I think lots of women think they can’t do sexy. Though if you talked to the man in your life they would probably tell you how incredibly sexy they find you.

I think lots of men are guilty of not telling their partner just how attractive and sexy they are.

Compliment her and make her feel like a Princess!!

Lots of women would never admit to thinking they can do sexy.

That, and I think a lot of guys think that our self-perception is about what they think. It really, really isn't.

Yes but when it comes to sexy I want my partner to think I'm sexy as well as thinking I'm sexy myself.

The more I type sexy the more ridiculous the word sounds

Yes. But I think most of that is reflected from an internal state. If I'm self-conscious I'll look it, even if I'm dressed in a way that the person(s) I want to impress find(s) attractive. No amount of "you're gorgeous" will change that, at least on its own.

I have the beginning of Liberty X - "Just a Little" in my head. Which is probably more ridiculous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it’s certainly far easier for a woman to do “sexy”. So many options in terms of lingerie, clothing, make up, heels etc...

Whereas us blokes just feel a bit daft if we try anything other than standing there in our best pants whilst sucking our stomach in!!!!

Completely agree..

Girls..?

Is there anything that makes a guy look ‘sexy’ rather than ‘less of a knob’?

And, please don’t say ‘a suit’ or ‘a uniform’. For most people in suits are cement salesmen and uniform make you look like an overgrown 8 year old on the way to a birthday party.

A wild and carefree dishevelled look looks sexy to me.

Outdoorsy ruggedness.

A man who looks like he could cut down trees with a pocketknife and not break out in a sweat."

I cut an old abandoned telegraph pole in half with a swiss army knife as a kid to make a raft. It took about a week to do and I'm pretty sure I sweated a little so not sure if that counts?

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By *ikerswingCouple
over a year ago

mcr

I do sexy about aswell as mr bean .awkward say stupid things i would never say normally and just make a complete prat of myself.i have been told i have a "look" that says im going to rip off those pants and have you right now, i so wish i could do that look on demand but i guess its situationally dependant .

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I have a look that's described as ravenous. It happens when I'm just perfectly in the mood and not at all self conscious.

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By *urvyandCurious999Woman
over a year ago

Hiding from twats

I can't do sexy to save my life, I just end up either feeling self conscious or in fits of giggles.

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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland

It definitely comes from within.

Which is why sometimes I feel like I’ve totally lost it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Another observation.... I think lots of women think they can’t do sexy. Though if you talked to the man in your life they would probably tell you how incredibly sexy they find you.

I think lots of men are guilty of not telling their partner just how attractive and sexy they are.

Compliment her and make her feel like a Princess!!"

Nope the man in question went no you can't

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By *hom_1981Man
over a year ago

Manchester

"Nope the man in question went no you can't"

He actually said that to you?

Not sure if he’s brave or stupid

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By *imon_hydeMan
over a year ago

Stockport

Not a chance in hell, not consciously anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My efforts to be sexy can be summed up in one story....

Got ready for a meet with sexy undies make up, hair the full works. Then to protect my stockings I slipped on some proper granny slippers to potter around doing some last minute tidying before he arrived. Totally forgot I had them on until blindfolded and waiting I heard him arrive, say ffs and take them off and throw them aside. Felt like a total twit!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Nope the man in question went no you can't

He actually said that to you?

Not sure if he’s brave or stupid

Well I met him at the door with the stocking issue and he laughed and I said sorry I try to do sexy but can't and he went no you cant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think I do sexy at all well. Think I did once but that was down to the person I was with. I do think it’s a state of mind though x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can you do sexy?

I can't I can pretend at it for about a minute and it all goes tits up.

Wouldn't know where to start.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

I like to think I can.

I love to have sexy chats and I do love to please a lady (sexually), but then I look in a mirror and think "who the fuck are you kidding"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can you do sexy?

I can't I can pretend at it for about a minute and it all goes tits up.

That’s cute sexy and bet it didn’t stop the fun at all

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

I don't think sexy is something you wear. Think it's something about a person they exude. A smile, giggle or a frown can look sexy to me. Sometimes think we put too much emphasis on clothing, it's the person who is sexy not the clothing.

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester

It's difficult, when I think back to women who I've thought were sexy, they weren't actually doing anything sexual! It was mostly my own perception of her.

It can be the hot way she dresses, figure hugging clothes and makeup, the way she does things, and I'll admit, I find women dutifully doing tasks to be a turn on. I find a woman washing dishes to be sexy, bending over and doing stuff with the oven, putting effort into cutting vegatables, etc, or even playing with her kids. Weird eh?

I guess it boils down to natural factors, would I be able to get her pregnant, would she be able to look after my offspring? My brain subconscious makes these decisions I guess.

Sometimes I get the odd thing where some woman walks past and I think "Wow, sexy!".

Regarding men, I think it's different. Many women have said to me "Wow, you're sexy!" and I've never really believed them until recently. The times I've been told this, it has ALWAYS been to do with confidence. It has always been said after I've done something with confidence. A lot of women seem to have a weakness for confident men.

One of the last times I did something, I walked up to a girl in a group and said "Hey, I heard your accent, you're Polish aren't you? I'm learning Polish and would love to chat with you. Here's my number... Then I gave her a peice of paper, smiled and said, have a good evening.". When I got home, I had messages from her. We chatted, and she started inviting me to go to see her, etc. The move had a powerful effect on her.

I don't really understand it, but it's just the way it is...

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By *abrina59TV/TS
over a year ago

moved to cuckold land

I cant tell if I can do sexy or not That I suppose is for ours to decide No?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m bringing sexy back

Them other boys don’t know how to act

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Another observation.... I think lots of women think they can’t do sexy. Though if you talked to the man in your life they would probably tell you how incredibly sexy they find you.

I think lots of men are guilty of not telling their partner just how attractive and sexy they are.

Compliment her and make her feel like a Princess!!"

And the same in return. Make him feel like a king and if he's any kind of man he'll fuck you like one. I think that's something I am good at, making guys feel sexy and hot. It often seems like they feel all the pressure is on them to perform and please and to me it's not like that. It's up to us both.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m rubbish at doing sexy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there's more to sexy than just what you wear.

It's about attitude too.

One can exude sexyness

It's more about the whole package than just the wrapping and it's also veey dependent on your audience too.

What one person considers sexy, others may not.

I know of at least one person who considers me the seciest man on earth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do sexy like Norman Wisdom does sexy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll admit, I find women dutifully doing tasks to be a turn on. I find a woman washing dishes to be sexy, bending over and doing stuff with the oven, putting effort into cutting vegatables, etc, or even playing with her kids. Weird eh?

Not weird AT ALL. And you identified the primal feelings underneath it. I seldom feel more feminine and attractive than when I'm looking after my partner and cooking for him and doing his laundry and being, as you say a dutiful, traditional woman. It makes me so peaceful and happy and content. And essentially it is me saying "look I can make a home, make a baby with me!!" even though we're both middle aged and done with parenthood. I loved reading your post, thanks for writing it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sexy for me means confidence and acceptance of oneself. Looks are a part of it, of course they are, but sexy is so much more.

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By *partacus2024Man
over a year ago

Near You

"I don’t dress sexily. I think sexiness is an aura you give you off and should be natural.

If I’m sexy then I should be just as sexy in jeans and a jumper.

Is what I think anyway.

Yep

totally agree

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"Sexy for me means confidence and acceptance of oneself. Looks are a part of it, of course they are, but sexy is so much more.

And you, my dear, are very much more. Much, much more.

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

I think I can pull of sexy. I love my sexy underwear and am confident when wearing it.

I do struggle to fasten suspenders mind, I can work up into a right lather trying to get them fastened.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"I think I can pull of sexy. I love my sexy underwear and am confident when wearing it.

I do struggle to fasten suspenders mind, I can work up into a right lather trying to get them fastened."

Chunky's stocking fitting service is available.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m hopeless when it comes to being sexy. Always doing something idiotic or clumsy and end up laughing

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

For me it’s not what I wear that makes me feel sexy, but how I feel about myself and sometimes who I’m with

Love yourself, own it, embrace it and let your natural sexiness flow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sexy is a state of mind, not what you wear.

It’s the way you move, the way you are.

You look very sexy to me Op

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i love sexy...

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By *partacus2024Man
over a year ago

Near You

Don't know why but I just want to shout

I'M too sexy for my shirt

too sexy for my shirt

it hurts

showing my age I guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you think a cross between Bob Hoskins and Danny Devito is sexy then I guess so.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Don't know why but I just want to shout

I'M too sexy for my shirt

too sexy for my shirt

it hurts

showing my age I guess "

Fabric softener?

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

The thing is, is "sexy" something you can consciously "do"? For me I know if I "try" to be sexy I just look like more of a bumbling gurning idiot than usual.

It also comes down to the definition of "sexy" which again is very subjective (if you put aside social stereotypes) and that plays into my above point that you can't make yourself "be" sexy, you just are, it's a natural thing in it's purest form.

Sure there are some people who learn how to "portray" the stereotype sexy - but that is very different from the more natural form.

I can find the simplest things to be sexy - for example a woman subconsciously tucking a lock of hair behind her ear can make me melt, or someone putting a stocking on is an incredibly alluring sight - but they're natural and instinctive things more than attempts to be sexy.

So for those saying they can't do it - you can, you just don't do it consciously and for me that is far sexier than trying to do so.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

"I think it’s certainly far easier for a woman to do “sexy”. So many options in terms of lingerie, clothing, make up, heels etc...

Whereas us blokes just feel a bit daft if we try anything other than standing there in our best pants whilst sucking our stomach in!!!!

Completely agree..

Girls..?

Is there anything that makes a guy look ‘sexy’ rather than ‘less of a knob’?

And, please don’t say ‘a suit’ or ‘a uniform’. For most people in suits are cement salesmen and uniform make you look like an overgrown 8 year old on the way to a birthday party.

See I think sexy for a guy is all about his persona, a look he can give you, a confidence. Where as for woman it seems to be more about how she looks what she wears? "

Men are visual creatures, I enjoy dressing up, not so good with stockings now. I get hot probably due to my age !

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"The thing is, is "sexy" something you can consciously "do"? For me I know if I "try" to be sexy I just look like more of a bumbling gurning idiot than usual.

Sure there are some people who learn how to "portray" the stereotype sexy - but that is very different from the more natural form.

So for those saying they can't do it - you can, you just don't do it consciously and for me that is far sexier than trying to do so."

I've sent you some horrific selfies and been amazed by the response back

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester

Yeah, it's interesting isn't it? I've noticed it myself...

On many occasions, I've become hot with desire when a woman has been in her kitchen. Sometimes, so much so that I've acted on it from time to time! Ha!

What's also interesting; there's a woman called Nigella. Have a look at her programmes. She makes full use of this "dutiful woman" phenomenon. I could probably wank to her cookery programmes.

Regarding women with children, last week I was out. I took my kids to a forest. There was a woman there who had two kids also. She was smiling, laughing and playing with them, etc. I gravitated towards her. I got messed up inside and got hard simply because of her demeanor - she was sexy! I think it's because it screams out "I'll be great with your kids! Choose me!".

Complicated really... But yes, it all seems to boil down to very raw, natural factors.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To OP, your photos say otherwise x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is no try, there is only do.

I dont try to be sexy, I try to feel sexy, if that makes sense, but for me.

And men, well fitting jeans or trousers, good leather shoes, and a nice shirt can do it, with a waft of subtle aftershave, a smile and a twinkle in the eye.. so so sexy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldnt even know where to start let alone be capable of looking sexy lol I just do me and hope someone else will do me also

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

"If you think a cross between Bob Hoskins and Danny Devito is sexy then I guess so.

I've found Danny DeVito sexy since watching him play with his date's toes under the table at a dinner party in the War of the Roses

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you think a cross between Bob Hoskins and Danny Devito is sexy then I guess so.

I've found Danny DeVito sexy since watching him play with his date's toes under the table at a dinner party in the War of the Roses

Eeeek

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There is no try, there is only do.

I dont try to be sexy, I try to feel sexy, if that makes sense, but for me.

And men, well fitting jeans or trousers, good leather shoes, and a nice shirt can do it, with a waft of subtle aftershave, a smile and a twinkle in the eye.. so so sexy!"

Oh and wanted to say, it's not the clothes, it's the attitude, the charisma, I was just giving an example of something other than a suit or uniform x

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I feel like I should put no because that's appropriately modest but sod it, I can be sexy. Yes, I'm clumsy and cutesy looking but if I'm happy, comfortable with who I am, flaws and all and feeling confident within myself, then yes, I think that I can be. It's not really about what I'm wearing - the person I'm with can affect how sexy I feel to a certain degree of course but it's more my frame of mind.

I often feel sexiest when I'm not particularly dressed up - I have a pair of arse hugging silky shorts that help me feel sexy because I look good in them. Going to the gym has helped a lot as well, I'm already seeing changes to my face and body (obviously this is personal to me!).

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I think that sexy is not as its seen on TV or in films, sexy is about being comfortable in your body and owning who you are as a sexual being.

If it's clumsy or whatever, that's fine, if it's being in lingerie or shorts and vest top, that's good too.

In my opinion, sexy is an attitude and just 'is'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does rumpled creased and disheveled qualify?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've tried being the strong silent brooding type in the club before. I was getting lots of covert looks and smiles from the ladies and actually thought I was succeeding until I heard one lady say to another on my way back from the loo. "Thank god that creepy weirdo by the bar has left"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try, but my sexy “looks” give the impression I’m scowling or dying for the loo, and I’ve given up trying to pout or do the lip biting thing.

I always ladder stockings, fake lashes never stay on and my hair always wants to do it’s own thing.

But I’ve never claimed to be sexy etc anyway, I’m simply enthusiastic, haha xx

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

"I don’t do sexy couldn’t do it I tried. I have attitude and presence.

You’re mysterious and enigmatic - that’s sexy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've given up on sexy ha ha now I'm just happy and rather glorious me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've given up on sexy ha ha now I'm just happy and rather glorious me

You are glorious!!! xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sexiness is something you’ve either got or you haven’t in my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've given up on sexy ha ha now I'm just happy and rather glorious me

You are glorious!!! xx"
you are too kind my lovely chum x x

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By *arah_tv999TV/TS
over a year ago

Oxford

I try me best, but ultimately and surely, it is for overs to decide whether I am or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cant either, I have to carry spare stockings lol

Ive never felt ive come across as sexy either x

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By *ornyhappyCouple
over a year ago

perth

If I 'try' to do sexy I usually just feel a bit ridiculous & probably look it as well. So Im just me.

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By *erriAnneTV/TS
over a year ago

The shire

I can't do sexy for love nor money

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By *rivateparts!Man
over a year ago

Walking down the only road I've ever known!

I don't do sexy, if others perceive I'm sexy then that's their choice.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

Sexy and I have never been in the same room at the same time together. Neither have batman and I, that should tell you all you need to know!

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

Not a chance. I’m way too tomboy to do sexy so I just don’t.. I’d look ridiculous!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm glad it's not just me that can't do it... I think I fit more under the cute clutz umbrella

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

I so sexy I had to be put in a bigger body.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

I don’t think sexy is in the way you dress. It’s the way you are.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

Apparently I do ....

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

"I dont think sexy depends on what you wear or even what you look like. Some people just have an aura about them"

Totally agree, that’s the first thing I noticed about AJ when I first laid eyes on her that she ouzed sexiness even though she was just in normal day wear, certainly an aura, think it comes with being comfortable with your self also

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very very badly

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By *lbinoGorillaMan
over a year ago

Redditch

"I'm glad it's not just me that can't do it... I think I fit more under the cute clutz umbrella

You perfectly fine and damn sexy to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can you do sexy?

I can't I can pretend at it for about a minute and it all goes tits up.

Yeah, I know I shouldn’t really be here. I just came on to say though. Yes you’re a clutz but even with the laddered stockings and broken suspenders you’re still one of the sexiest women I’ve ever seen. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a man, absolutely not at all. Women are sexy, men are funny. Both genders should stick to what they're good at.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Can you do sexy?

I can't I can pretend at it for about a minute and it all goes tits up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do sexy very badly, more of clumsy hippo in real life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do sexy very badly, more of clumsy hippo in real life

*Looks at your pictures* Suuurrre.

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Yes, I reckon I can do sexy.

I love nice lingerie and figure hugging clothes when I go out, but have had compliments in skinny jeans and fitted t-shirt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do sexy very badly, more of clumsy hippo in real life

*Looks at your pictures* Suuurrre. "

That’s just pictures

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I do sexy very badly, more of clumsy hippo in real life

*Looks at your pictures* Suuurrre.

That’s just pictures

My pictures are totally me doing goofy shit when no one can see me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I ain't the greatest. I'm pretty sure I'm heading down the route of Catherine Tate's "Nan" character

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I ain't the greatest. I'm pretty sure I'm heading down the route of Catherine Tate's "Nan" character

UGH, that profile picture.

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over a year ago

"I do sexy very badly, more of clumsy hippo in real life

*Looks at your pictures* Suuurrre.

That’s just pictures

My pictures are totally me doing goofy shit when no one can see me

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"I do sexy very badly, more of clumsy hippo in real life

Errrrrrm. Yeah. Right. Pffffft.

(smacks arse)

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By *alking HeadMan
over a year ago

Bolton

I sound like Leslie Phillips. With a Northern accent. Not good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah. I can rock it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I can work it, suspenders are a nightmare to fasten though

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

Yes, so I'm told - but it's definitely from within and nothing to do with what I'm wearing. It's not something that I consciously do, but from what I've been told it's my posture and the way I walk, and I have a "look" that seems to drive certain people wild (usually because they're turning me on with their sexiness)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah I can work it, suspenders are a nightmare to fasten though

Oh God yeah. Sexiness doesn't live in stocking and suspenders!

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By *rmbtsTV/TS
over a year ago

stockport

"Can you do sexy?

I can't I can pretend at it for about a minute and it all goes tits up.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder!! But get the feeling of being feeling sexy as I’m more in touch with my feminine side more than most, and have the clothes and lingerie to feel more sexy in my feminine personality and more lucky than most having a wife that treats me as two personalities and even have girly nights out even to the point of her buying me feminine things from lingerie to boots heels

But a lot harder to feel as sexy in a male role while out with a lot less clothing makeup etc to work with

Looking at your initial post, babe you look sexy, all about the feeling s you portray and the positive attitude you put out

As I’ve got older it’s how you feel and don’t care about what other people think, took a long time to accept this

Feel good in your self not others !!!

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By *ADY VOLUPTUOUS OF KENTWoman
over a year ago

TONBRIDGE ROUNDABOUTS

Just with a little preparation, laying out attire and then taking it slowly after creaming, make up .

Drinking water( not getting hot n bothered)those pings and snags will be unnoticed..

Bottle of clear nail varnish at hand ,always emergency outfit ready..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The last time I tried sexy, I fell off the bed

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over a year ago

"The last time I tried sexy, I fell off the bed

That’s me. I flung my heel off in what I thought was a sexy way and it went straight through the hotel patio doors

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By *iablo soloWoman
over a year ago

southside

"I don’t dress sexily. I think sexiness is an aura you give you off and should be natural.

If I’m sexy then I should be just as sexy in jeans and a jumper.

Is what I think anyway.

Totally agree with this....some can do sexy in a black bag!

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"The last time I tried sexy, I fell off the bed

That’s me. I flung my heel off in what I thought was a sexy way and it went straight through the hotel patio doors

. "

At least you didn't take his eye out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The last time I tried sexy, I fell off the bed

That’s me. I flung my heel off in what I thought was a sexy way and it went straight through the hotel patio doors

. "

Sometimes it’s not too bad as the shared laughter makes a meet, other times it’s not so good

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over a year ago

"The last time I tried sexy, I fell off the bed

That’s me. I flung my heel off in what I thought was a sexy way and it went straight through the hotel patio doors

At least you didn't take his eye out.

I’ve scratched a face with them though. And I nearly broke a cock in half getting carried away doing reverse cowgirl. I’m a liability. Best avoided

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"The last time I tried sexy, I fell off the bed

That’s me. I flung my heel off in what I thought was a sexy way and it went straight through the hotel patio doors

At least you didn't take his eye out.

I’ve scratched a face with them though. And I nearly broke a cock in half getting carried away doing reverse cowgirl. I’m a liability. Best avoided

I'd risk it.

But I may wear body armour.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"The last time I tried sexy, I fell off the bed

That’s me. I flung my heel off in what I thought was a sexy way and it went straight through the hotel patio doors

At least you didn't take his eye out.

I’ve scratched a face with them though. And I nearly broke a cock in half getting carried away doing reverse cowgirl. I’m a liability. Best avoided

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The last time I tried sexy, I fell off the bed

That’s me. I flung my heel off in what I thought was a sexy way and it went straight through the hotel patio doors

At least you didn't take his eye out.

I’ve scratched a face with them though. And I nearly broke a cock in half getting carried away doing reverse cowgirl. I’m a liability. Best avoided

I'd risk it.

But I may wear body armour.

It’s highly advisable

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"The last time I tried sexy, I fell off the bed

That’s me. I flung my heel off in what I thought was a sexy way and it went straight through the hotel patio doors

At least you didn't take his eye out.

I’ve scratched a face with them though. And I nearly broke a cock in half getting carried away doing reverse cowgirl. I’m a liability. Best avoided

I'd risk it.

But I may wear body armour.

It’s highly advisable

Just be gentle with me. I'm quite shy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The last time I tried sexy, I fell off the bed

That’s me. I flung my heel off in what I thought was a sexy way and it went straight through the hotel patio doors

At least you didn't take his eye out.

I’ve scratched a face with them though. And I nearly broke a cock in half getting carried away doing reverse cowgirl. I’m a liability. Best avoided

I'd risk it.

But I may wear body armour.

It’s highly advisable

Just be gentle with me. I'm quite shy.

Hey I can do gentle! At first

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"The last time I tried sexy, I fell off the bed

That’s me. I flung my heel off in what I thought was a sexy way and it went straight through the hotel patio doors

At least you didn't take his eye out.

I’ve scratched a face with them though. And I nearly broke a cock in half getting carried away doing reverse cowgirl. I’m a liability. Best avoided

I'd risk it.

But I may wear body armour.

It’s highly advisable

Just be gentle with me. I'm quite shy.

Hey I can do gentle! At first

Just for the first hour or two.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The last time I tried sexy, I fell off the bed

That’s me. I flung my heel off in what I thought was a sexy way and it went straight through the hotel patio doors

At least you didn't take his eye out.

I’ve scratched a face with them though. And I nearly broke a cock in half getting carried away doing reverse cowgirl. I’m a liability. Best avoided

I'd risk it.

But I may wear body armour.

It’s highly advisable

Just be gentle with me. I'm quite shy.

Hey I can do gentle! At first

Just for the first hour or two.

Oooooh are we talking hours? My kind of man

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"The last time I tried sexy, I fell off the bed

That’s me. I flung my heel off in what I thought was a sexy way and it went straight through the hotel patio doors

At least you didn't take his eye out.

I’ve scratched a face with them though. And I nearly broke a cock in half getting carried away doing reverse cowgirl. I’m a liability. Best avoided

I'd risk it.

But I may wear body armour.

It’s highly advisable

Just be gentle with me. I'm quite shy.

Hey I can do gentle! At first

Just for the first hour or two.

Oooooh are we talking hours? My kind of man

Taxi to paradise please.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The last time I tried sexy, I fell off the bed

That’s me. I flung my heel off in what I thought was a sexy way and it went straight through the hotel patio doors

At least you didn't take his eye out.

I’ve scratched a face with them though. And I nearly broke a cock in half getting carried away doing reverse cowgirl. I’m a liability. Best avoided

I'd risk it.

But I may wear body armour.

It’s highly advisable

Just be gentle with me. I'm quite shy.

Hey I can do gentle! At first

Just for the first hour or two.

Oooooh are we talking hours? My kind of man

Taxi to paradise please.

Xx"

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