FabSwingers.com forum: Sub question....

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Is it acceptable for a sub to have more than one dom?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bored today by any chance?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I certainly couldn't but I've got no patience with the "one true way" brigade. If everyone is OK with it then yes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Bored today by any chance?"

Nope. Genuinely after responses after a debate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It works both ways. Not every dom is interested in doing things their sub wants. It's all about communication and if everyone is happy it's all good.

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

Meatball Marinara is my fav. Messy to eat though

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By *ensualMan
over a year ago

Sutton

Modern kink is about making your own dynamic, there are no rules on the form of relationships or what people call it. However, Old School purists may say it is more a top and bottom situation rather than dom and sub.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Meatball Marinara is my fav. Messy to eat though "

Do you need biscuits? You seem off your game today.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Acceptable to who? People are people, there's no one rule fits all. If everyone in the dynamic is happy then who's to judge?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Acceptable to who? People are people, there's no one rule fits all. If everyone in the dynamic is happy then who's to judge? "

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Definitely they can if all are in agreement - as others have said there is no "right way" only "your way" and so long as that comes from a position of informed-ness and all are consenting then it can be whatever you (and those who agree with you) want it to be.

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By *isaAndNicoleTransTV/TS
over a year ago

Southport / Ellesmere Port

It's a yes from me. I'm not into "ownership"

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"Definitely they can if all are in agreement - as others have said there is no "right way" only "your way" and so long as that comes from a position of informed-ness and all are consenting then it can be whatever you (and those who agree with you) want it to be."

I agree.

As with so many things in life, people will try to tell you that their way of doing things is 'the right way'. So long as everyone involved is happy, then it really doesn't matter.

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester

"Is it acceptable for a sub to have more than one dom? "

No, totally unacceptable. I'd dom the other dom out of existence.

I'd Dom his arse out of my dominion..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If thats what u wanna do why not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally, have no interest in another Dom. For me, it was never about seeking a Dom, but a progression, it’s the man that makes the dynamics for me.

He has other subs, I have to accept that.

I’m happily, and fully informed, about being owned by him. Have been for two years.

Prior to that, I was a Domme in a relationship. Never actually thought of myself as a sub, he made me want to be his, and I love being his xx

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Yes, with carefully constructed rules and boundaries for all parties considered and committed communication at the forefront of each relationship.

It's similar to my poly relationship lifestyle. You can love and commit to more than one person

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Is it acceptable for a sub to have more than one dom?

No, totally unacceptable. I'd dom the other dom out of existence.

I'd Dom his arse out of my dominion.."

I'm gonna cuff you round the ear soon!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought this was going to be another sandwich thread..

Hungry now...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive had 2 Doms at the same time in the past, it became very difficult. Especially regarding rules, tasks etc.

Example, both may want me to wear different clothes on the dame day. One might not allow me to have prgasms whilst the other may want me to play and cum.

I really believe in only one Dom now at a time. They can also be very territorial, not wanting to share their sub.

The fantasy is having 2 Doms that are close friends and operate as one. That's the dream and exists only in my erotic D/s books I read lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it acceptable for a sub to have more than one dom? "

Depends on you, your dom, and your relationship. Everyone's different so there's never going to be one "right" answer.

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By *wickermanMan
over a year ago

Staines

Define what you mean by Dom/me

If that definition includes control over most aspects of your life then obviously the answer is no as pointed out above.

If your talking "Fab Dom" then absolutely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A dom having more than one sub...

Sub question...

You say either,I say neither

"Bored today by any chance?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ive had 2 Doms at the same time in the past, it became very difficult. Especially regarding rules, tasks etc.

Example, both may want me to wear different clothes on the dame day. One might not allow me to have prgasms whilst the other may want me to play and cum.

I really believe in only one Dom now at a time. They can also be very territorial, not wanting to share their sub.

The fantasy is having 2 Doms that are close friends and operate as one. That's the dream and exists only in my erotic D/s books I read lol"

I agree, more of erotic fiction rather than reality. In fact I may have read that book...

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

Totally depends on your setup and how your dom/sub relationship works. As with everything, communication is key, and if everyone is happy, then why not?

Mrs TMN x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Define what you mean by Dom/me

If that definition includes control over most aspects of your life then obviously the answer is no as pointed out above.

If your talking "Fab Dom" then absolutely"

I haven’t got a clue but I thought it was Dom man and Domme woman, but fuck knows

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"Define what you mean by Dom/me

If that definition includes control over most aspects of your life then obviously the answer is no as pointed out above.

If your talking "Fab Dom" then absolutely"

The definition of the relationship and agreed dynamic for the individuals involved is the crux of it for sure - but it's not defined by one of those individuals but by both.

Doesn't matter whether it's "Fab Dom" or a committed BDSM player - it still comes down to communication and agreement of all concerned and how *they* define their roles within that relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suppose if one is merely for "playtime" and respects the rules and boundaries of the "number 1 dom"? Otherwise how would you know which one to adhere to kinda thing? Unless you ALL sat down and agreed a group dynamic that worked for everyone involved. Like group rules rather than rules defined by each "couple"

Like with us, if one of us was to meet someone else alone, our rules and boundaries would need to be adhered to. WE are our priority.

I guess if you can find people who are prepared to be equals then yeah, if not invariably i would imagine someone will feel less important than the other.

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By *irtySexyDawgMan
over a year ago

Welwyn

"I suppose if one is merely for "playtime" and respects the rules and boundaries of the "number 1 dom"? Otherwise how would you know which one to adhere to kinda thing? Unless you ALL sat down and agreed a group dynamic that worked for everyone involved. Like group rules rather than rules defined by each "couple"

Like with us, if one of us was to meet someone else alone, our rules and boundaries would need to be adhered to. WE are our priority.

I guess if you can find people who are prepared to be equals then yeah, if not invariably i would imagine someone will feel less important than the other.

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By *tew008Man
over a year ago

edinburgh

"Is it acceptable for a sub to have more than one dom? "

Been in that situation where my sub would follow a female dom under me. She enjoyed it though.

If it works, it works.

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By *arah_tv999TV/TS
over a year ago

Oxford

If it works for all concerned then why not. Dom(me)s may focus on different areas so the sub may need/require more than one to cover different scenarios. Plus part -time dom(me)s may not be able to attend to the sub at a given time

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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland

It’s what works for those involved. Nobody but yourselves make the rules

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By *ucky88oMan
over a year ago

london

Normally I would say no but all depends on what is agreed

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