FabSwingers.com forum: Define cheating

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I realise we are all pretty broad minded on here. But when your in a committed relationship theres boundaries to adhere to.

So please define what Cheating means to you if your in a relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single.

Doing something against the wishes and feelings of your partner. Breaking their trust and respect.. I would define as cheating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anything you have to do or hide from a partner, even messaging imo. If its behind the partners back its cheating

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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

Doing something they not aware of and would hurt them if they knew ie being on here and meeting etc x

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Single

Doing anything you would not be prepared to tell your partner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Single.

Doing something against the wishes and feelings of your partner. Breaking their trust and respect.. I would define as cheating.

Totally agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why??

I’ll define being in a loveless, sexless relationship with an abusive ex and finding someone to make me feel attractive was a life saver ... did I cheat? Yes ... was it wrong ? No

There are many reasons why people are on here and I think defining it sometimes does more harm than good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sticking your love sausage into the fun factory of someone who isn’t your partner.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

Mendacious and rat! Which probably applies to at least half of fab males

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mendacious and rat! Which probably applies to at least half of fab males

And a surprisingly large percentage of females on here too!

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

"Why??

I’ll define being in a loveless, sexless relationship with an abusive ex and finding someone to make me feel attractive was a life saver ... did I cheat? Yes ... was it wrong ? No

There are many reasons why people are on here and I think defining it sometimes does more harm than good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why??

I’ll define being in a loveless, sexless relationship with an abusive ex and finding someone to make me feel attractive was a life saver ... did I cheat? Yes ... was it wrong ? No

There are many reasons why people are on here and I think defining it sometimes does more harm than good

really can relate, thankyou x

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

"Single.

Doing something against the wishes and feelings of your partner. Breaking their trust and respect.. I would define as cheating.

Totally agree, it's a really c*unty thing to do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why??

I’ll define being in a loveless, sexless relationship with an abusive ex and finding someone to make me feel attractive was a life saver ... did I cheat? Yes ... was it wrong ? No

There are many reasons why people are on here and I think defining it sometimes does more harm than good

really can relate, thankyou x"

It’s all good though as you’re all female - it’s obviously HIS fault!

It’s only the men that are utter scum in similar circumstances, and the women are obviously the victims.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why??

I’ll define being in a loveless, sexless relationship with an abusive ex and finding someone to make me feel attractive was a life saver ... did I cheat? Yes ... was it wrong ? No

There are many reasons why people are on here and I think defining it sometimes does more harm than good

I was in a very similar situation for most of my thirties and I stayed faithful. And I regret it and wish so much that I'd done what you did.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Every person’s definition of cheating is different. From an “innocent” flirty text to a work colleague to a full on shagfest with someone who isn’t your partner.

But what one person will overlook is another’s dealbreaker.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mendacious and rat! Which probably applies to at least half of fab males

And a surprisingly large percentage of females on here too!

It's a horrible double standard that's always made me uncomfortable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doing things behind your partner's back which involves other people without their knowledge, keeping it a secret without telling them (unless a surprise lol) can be physical or emotionally cheating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having intimacy (emotional or physical) with a third party that you are hiding from your partner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why??

I’ll define being in a loveless, sexless relationship with an abusive ex and finding someone to make me feel attractive was a life saver ... did I cheat? Yes ... was it wrong ? No

There are many reasons why people are on here and I think defining it sometimes does more harm than good

really can relate, thankyou x

It’s all good though as you’re all female - it’s obviously HIS fault!

It’s only the men that are utter scum in similar circumstances, and the women are obviously the victims.

Actually, I know men too that it's happened to, it's not just a female thing, men just aren't known to say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anything you have to lie about or hide from your partner is cheating technically

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By *ad steMan
over a year ago

Southport

Anything that you would hide from your partner if you feel the need to look elsewhere then leave for me personally it is not acceptable to cheat I never have never would we all have our own views on this and reasons justifications in what we do no one is perfect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why??

I’ll define being in a loveless, sexless relationship with an abusive ex and finding someone to make me feel attractive was a life saver ... did I cheat? Yes ... was it wrong ? No

There are many reasons why people are on here and I think defining it sometimes does more harm than good

Would you think it was wrong if a man did it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why??

I’ll define being in a loveless, sexless relationship with an abusive ex and finding someone to make me feel attractive was a life saver ... did I cheat? Yes ... was it wrong ? No

There are many reasons why people are on here and I think defining it sometimes does more harm than good

Would you think it was wrong if a man did it?"

I certainly wouldn't. The judgment of men on here always assumes that the wife or girlfriend is being faithful and I don't know why. Because I'd never assume that based on zero evidence

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

"Why??

I’ll define being in a loveless, sexless relationship with an abusive ex and finding someone to make me feel attractive was a life saver ... did I cheat? Yes ... was it wrong ? No

There are many reasons why people are on here and I think defining it sometimes does more harm than good

really can relate, thankyou x"

I agree. Call it cheating if you want to tick a box and that makes you happy. However deciding if it’s a bad thing or not means looking a little deeper.

I think there are some cases you might decide it’s justified and others where it isn’t. Difficult to accept in this world where soundbites, outrage and polarised answers are all we have

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I realise we are all pretty broad minded on here. But when your in a committed relationship theres boundaries to adhere to.

So please define what Cheating means to you if your in a relationship"

Cheating is anything you need to hide from your partner, if you need to hide it don't do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me and my wife only meet as a couple she knows that if she met one her own that would hurt me very deeply. That would be cheating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having been married and in an open relationship I'm not sure I believe in monogamy. Part of me thinks it's just a really nice idea that doesn't work in real life. But obviously people make it work and I think they do that by both taking responsibility for making sure their partner is happy and content. I don't think it's an automatic right. Marrying someone and then neglecting them but still expecting them to be faithful "just because" doesn't seem reasonable or workable to me. If you make the effort and provide what they need but they still look elsewhere out of selfishness and wanting to have everything their way then that's not very admirable, I agree. But it's just as bad if you're male or female.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you know what you're doing is going to hurt your partner. Then it's cheating and it's bad because it hurts your partner and you're doing it. If you can not see that hurting someone is bad then empathy and trust are not in that relationship and it is therefore pointless.

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon

"Why??

I’ll define being in a loveless, sexless relationship with an abusive ex and finding someone to make me feel attractive was a life saver ... did I cheat? Yes ... was it wrong ? No

There are many reasons why people are on here and I think defining it sometimes does more harm than good

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well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Me and my wife only meet as a couple she knows that if she met one her own that would hurt me very deeply. That would be cheating. "

Whilst my partner doesn't meet or get involved in any way if I met someone away from the boundaries we have set that would be cheating as it would be done behind his back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of excuses and biased reasons given here. I've been cheated on, and her excuses were fucking shite. And it destroyed me, as it turned out I wasn't in the wrong.

As far as I'm concerned, if you're unhappy/stuck in abusive relationship etc end it. Simple.

Cheaters are cheaters. These threads are good for blocking people

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

To me cheating is when you have an emotional or physical connection, with someone else, behind your partner's back.

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester

"Why??

I’ll define being in a loveless, sexless relationship with an abusive ex and finding someone to make me feel attractive was a life saver ... did I cheat? Yes ... was it wrong ? No

There are many reasons why people are on here and I think defining it sometimes does more harm than good

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

hi.I just wanted to know what peoples views are on the subject.As its happened to me and among many other things my ex Gf has done. She came home after a works do and said she had just had the best kiss ever with a female colleague. The other females Husband watched it in the pub. She said they both asked her to come home with her. when she told me it didn't bother me at the time and i said you should of gone home with them.she also said i have something else to tell you aswell. I have just done a line of . Her pussy was wet through and we had sex 4 times that night and i was even woken by her playing with herself. The day after i was horny as hell and so was she. we chatted about it 2 days later and i was encouraging to her to do it again. she declined and said she didnt want to do it. I felt that she has just now had her cake and eaten it.

We are not together anymore as this issue was just another problem to add to our relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anything you have to do or hide from a partner, even messaging imo. If its behind the partners back its cheating "

This mirrors my thoughts on cheating.

I've experienced this - ex partner was messaging/exchanging images with 3 ladies whilst accusing me of cheating.... His behaviour towards me drew my attention hence how I discovered him.

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"Single.

Doing something against the wishes and feelings of your partner. Breaking their trust and respect.. I would define as cheating.

Agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say cheating to me is my partner doing something behind my back that he wouldn't tell me about. So it could even be something small like him just looking at nudes etc, but if he feels like he has to keep it hidden from me then he's crossing a line in our relationship.

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