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By *ickygirl41 OP Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

every fucking guy who moans about not being messaged back by stuck up women.....

(Too wordy?

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I got an obscure, nonsensical message from someone outside my age pref who sent ugly creepy dick pics.

I replied with "No thanks" and he then thought I'd damaged his fragile ego and informed me that he had not actually expressed an interest in sexual or indeed any activity and thought calling me a foul dated epiphet for a sex worker was appropriate afterwards.

Considering he's the one who sent pictures of his Wee Willie Winkie to a complete stranger who could literally be anyone.

I tire of explaining my self over and over again to knuckle dragging mysog guys. So I've decided on a new policy.

One red flag? Block.

Dicpic? Block

No more dialogue or gentle hints that you're being a neanderthal/racist/homophobe/mysoginist/facist. I'm just going to quietly block and hopefully have a more peaceful fab experience.

Thoughts?

Too harsh?

Btw....

(I'm quitting cigs today)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tighten up your filters and do your own seeking if it's getting you this wound up

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

Seems perfectly reasonable to me. I might do the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"every fucking guy who moans about not being messaged back by stuck up women.....

(Too wordy?

)

I got an obscure, nonsensical message from someone outside my age pref who sent ugly creepy dick pics.

Considering he's the one who sent pictures of his Wee Willie Winkie to a complete stranger who could literally be anyone.

I tire of explaining my self over and over again to knuckle dragging mysog guys. So I've decided on a new policy.

One red flag? Block.

Dicpic? Block

No more dialogue or gentle hints that you're being a neanderthal/racist/homophobe/mysoginist/facist. I'm just going to quietly block and hopefully have a more peaceful fab experience.

Thoughts?

Too harsh?

Btw....

(I'm quitting cigs today)

Not harsh at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well done on quitting the cigs, I'm guessing the rage is a side effect

Just remember it's not personal, they don't know you or anything about you, you're just a stranger on a website so they feel justified in being a dick.

Just block anyone you don't want to talk to, you don't owe them a response.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely not, what does it take to show a bit of respect and not be a twat?

Can't blame any woman who takes the same stance as yourself.

Please don't tar all guys with the same brush though.

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By *ickygirl41 OP Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Seems perfectly reasonable to me. I might do the same "

Start a blockcult

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As I noted other day...I often find myself thinking about life's great difficulties. Absolute poverty, famine, war-torn nations, religious intolerance, racism etc but I inevitably come back to the most unfair act.

A single man on fab, with dodgy nude pics and a shite profile being unable to find a fanny to stick his dick in. Always makes me shed a tear.

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By *ickygirl41 OP Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Well done on quitting the cigs, I'm guessing the rage is a side effect

Just remember it's not personal, they don't know you or anything about you, you're just a stranger on a website so they feel justified in being a dick.

Just block anyone you don't want to talk to, you don't owe them a response. "

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By *ickygirl41 OP Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"As I noted other day...I often find myself thinking about life's great difficulties. Absolute poverty, famine, war-torn nations, religious intolerance, racism etc but I inevitably come back to the most unfair act.

A single man on fab, with dodgy nude pics and a shite profile being unable to find a fanny to stick his dick in. Always makes me shed a tear."

It's very very sad indeed.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Dear Pickygirl, that actually sounds like a plan.

Good luck with the cigs.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Not harsh. I'm much the same.

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By *zQTWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere

I hate the men who you either send a polite “no thank you” to or you just ignore because the message was insulting and not even worth the response and then they decide to send a succession of 100 messages after that saying how rude you were or how amazing they are and it’s your loss; in some hope that they will get a response?!

If you didn’t get a response from the first message (or the response you wanted) how did you think harassment would get you one?

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By *ickygirl41 OP Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Dear Pickygirl, that actually sounds like a plan.

Good luck with the cigs."

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I hate the men who you either send a polite “no thank you” to or you just ignore because the message was insulting and not even worth the response and then they decide to send a succession of 100 messages after that saying how rude you were or how amazing they are and it’s your loss; in some hope that they will get a response?!

If you didn’t get a response from the first message (or the response you wanted) how did you think harassment would get you one? "

Or variations of "if you are who you claim to be then you need to fuck me".

Uh, no.

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Never understood why people are worried about using or in any way offended by the good old block button?

It's just another filter. A permanent one.

Get a message from someone you're not or never will be interested in? Block em.

View a profile you'll never want to see again in a million years? Block em.

Come across someone you think you know? Block em.

It's easy, efficient and saves wasting time responding to unsolicited messages and also cuts down on browsing time when you're looking for mr or mrs suitable for a meet.

Proactive blocking is great.

If more used it there's possibly be less angst and stress.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Disrespectful people should receive an instant block. This is a site to meet others and have mutual respect for one another.

The fragile men can't hack rejection as well as those more comfortable with themselves

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By *igpacketMan
over a year ago

east midlands

"Disrespectful people should receive an instant block. This is a site to meet others and have mutual respect for one another.

The fragile men can't hack rejection as well as those more comfortable with themselves"

Totally agree. It pisses me off that so many men disrespect the women on here. It doesn't take much to send a friendly message without pictures of your dick or demanding sex. Those of us who know how to treat others stand no chance after that. I never understand guys who dont turn up to meets or are unreliable.

Sort your shit out guys...

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By *radleywigginsMan
over a year ago

northwest

It’s not personal, but you have just told a guy you don’t consider him as attractive as you..

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By *ickygirl41 OP Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Never understood why people are worried about using or in any way offended by the good old block button?

It's just another filter. A permanent one.

Get a message from someone you're not or never will be interested in? Block em.

View a profile you'll never want to see again in a million years? Block em.

Come across someone you think you know? Block em.

It's easy, efficient and saves wasting time responding to unsolicited messages and also cuts down on browsing time when you're looking for mr or mrs suitable for a meet.

Proactive blocking is great.

If more used it there's possibly be less angst and stress.

I'm learning that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tighten up your filters and do your own seeking if it's getting you this wound up "

Or carry on blocking,best filter available

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By *ickygirl41 OP Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"It’s not personal, but you have just told a guy you don’t consider him as attractive as you.."

Ok this one is for every guy who agrees with this....

P.S. It's all in caps....

MY PROFILE SAID I'M RARELY MEETING

HE WAS OUT OF MY AGE RANGE

HE SENT DICK PICS I DIDN'T ASK TO SEE.

HE GOT ABUSIVE AFTER I SAID "NO THANKS" AND THIS CHAP THINKS IT WAS REALLY MY FAULT BECAUSE I APPARENTLY TOLD THE GUY HE WASN'T AS ATTRACTIVE TO ME.

WHERE DID I SAY THAT?

Ooohh, shouty caps are fun

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By *radleywigginsMan
over a year ago

northwest

"It’s not personal, but you have just told a guy you don’t consider him as attractive as you..

Ok this one is for every guy who agrees with this....

P.S. It's all in caps....

MY PROFILE SAID I'M RARELY MEETING

HE WAS OUT OF MY AGE RANGE

HE SENT DICK PICS I DIDN'T ASK TO SEE.

HE GOT ABUSIVE AFTER I SAID "NO THANKS" AND THIS CHAP THINKS IT WAS REALLY MY FAULT BECAUSE I APPARENTLY TOLD THE GUY HE WASN'T AS ATTRACTIVE TO ME.

WHERE DID I SAY THAT?

Ooohh, shouty caps are fun

Go and have a fag or something else to help you calm down

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By *ickygirl41 OP Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"It’s not personal, but you have just told a guy you don’t consider him as attractive as you..

Ok this one is for every guy who agrees with this....

P.S. It's all in caps....

MY PROFILE SAID I'M RARELY MEETING

HE WAS OUT OF MY AGE RANGE

HE SENT DICK PICS I DIDN'T ASK TO SEE.

HE GOT ABUSIVE AFTER I SAID "NO THANKS" AND THIS CHAP THINKS IT WAS REALLY MY FAULT BECAUSE I APPARENTLY TOLD THE GUY HE WASN'T AS ATTRACTIVE TO ME.

WHERE DID I SAY THAT?

Ooohh, shouty caps are fun

Go and have a fag or something else to help you calm down"

No thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"every fucking guy who moans about not being messaged back by stuck up women.....

(Too wordy?

)

I got an obscure, nonsensical message from someone outside my age pref who sent ugly creepy dick pics.

Considering he's the one who sent pictures of his Wee Willie Winkie to a complete stranger who could literally be anyone.

I tire of explaining my self over and over again to knuckle dragging mysog guys. So I've decided on a new policy.

One red flag? Block.

Dicpic? Block

No more dialogue or gentle hints that you're being a neanderthal/racist/homophobe/mysoginist/facist. I'm just going to quietly block and hopefully have a more peaceful fab experience.

Thoughts?

Too harsh?

Btw....

(I'm quitting cigs today)

I totally support you on this, I use to say a polite "no thankyou". Id mostly get abusive messages back like "didnt really want you fatty".

Now I still say no thankyou but block right away. Im not great dealing with abuse x

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By *rghYeTimbersMan
over a year ago

Ipswich

OP focus the quiting rage try playing "Block rocking beats" and get proactive on your unsolicited messages list.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im quite the fan of pythagoras theoram.

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By *ickygirl41 OP Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"every fucking guy who moans about not being messaged back by stuck up women.....

(Too wordy?

)

I got an obscure, nonsensical message from someone outside my age pref who sent ugly creepy dick pics.

Considering he's the one who sent pictures of his Wee Willie Winkie to a complete stranger who could literally be anyone.

I tire of explaining my self over and over again to knuckle dragging mysog guys. So I've decided on a new policy.

One red flag? Block.

Dicpic? Block

No more dialogue or gentle hints that you're being a neanderthal/racist/homophobe/mysoginist/facist. I'm just going to quietly block and hopefully have a more peaceful fab experience.

Thoughts?

Too harsh?

Btw....

(I'm quitting cigs today)

I totally support you on this, I use to say a polite "no thankyou". Id mostly get abusive messages back like "didnt really want you fatty".

Now I still say no thankyou but block right away. Im not great dealing with abuse x"

Always got an open ear, sharing experiences helps, I may start and underground women's fab chat somewhere xxx

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By *ickygirl41 OP Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"OP focus the quiting rage try playing "Block rocking beats" and get proactive on your unsolicited messages list."

Hahah, I have an angry music playlist on my Spotify! That should do the trick....maybe classical???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I totally support you on this, I use to say a polite "no thankyou". Id mostly get abusive messages back like "didnt really want you fatty".

Now I still say no thankyou but block right away. Im not great dealing with abuse x"

Think this is the best way to deal with rejecting guys. I'd happily be blocked if someone finds me unsuitable for there needs. No need for rudeness, we're all adults, hopefully.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do think it's important that people control their own behaviour so I'm reluctant to block and would rather try to explain they need to do this. But if I really don't feel up to it I just block and I don't blame anyone for just blocking and thinking that nobody's got time for that shit. Cos it really is fucking horrible.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I really don't know why some women feel the need to reply to unwanted messages

99% of my messages ignore what and who I am looking for, so I just ignore their message, no need to block and therefore no need to expect abuse, accept that and your life will be happier on here

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I do think it's important that people control their own behaviour so I'm reluctant to block and would rather try to explain they need to do this. But if I really don't feel up to it I just block and I don't blame anyone for just blocking and thinking that nobody's got time for that shit. Cos it really is fucking horrible. "

I really ain't got time for that shit. Why can't people just respect preferences...

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