FabSwingers.com forum: Getting the chop

By *naswingdress OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Forgive me, fa- err, not father that's creepy. For I have sinned. I fail at girl. (with your lipstick collection, and your swing dresses?, I hear you cry)

Hair. Mine is the bane of my fucking existence.

Two years ago I began growing out a pixie cut, which took about nine months. In August, I began growing out my bob.

Today it's about an inch past my shoulders and it's pissing me off. And I don't know what the fuck to do with it. Hair baffles me. I do so much work and it looks bloody awful. Straighteners, I'm terrified I'll set my hair on fire.

I'm thinking about returning to the pixie.

To chop or not to chop?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shave it all off and invest in a selection of wigs. Must be cheaper in the long run

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

Would you miss it if you did chop it back to Pixie length?

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I always regret cutting my hair. And my hair takes ages to grow. The quickest growing part of my hair is my fringe! So bloody annoying!

I never have wonderful looking hair, whatever style. It always look slightly unkempt.

Meh. Bloody hair,

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By *naswingdress OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Would you miss it if you did chop it back to Pixie length?"

Honestly, these days I mostly worry when I go out and swear at it coming out of the ponytail when I'm in the gym (it's not quite long enough).

I look better with longer hair, but that would require competence and giving a fuck

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

No!!! Keep at it, you're at the really annoying phase. Another inch or so and you're hair will behave lots more. I've gone from an undercut in the past to now currently the longest it's been as an adult. But growing it out was an absolute nightmare

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By *naswingdress OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"No!!! Keep at it, you're at the really annoying phase. Another inch or so and you're hair will behave lots more. I've gone from an undercut in the past to now currently the longest it's been as an adult. But growing it out was an absolute nightmare"

When I've had long hair in the past, it was in a ponytail unless I went to the hairdresser

I can't do a bun, a plait, a braid, any of that shit, and when it's out I looked like I'd been dragged backwards through a bush.

I'd shave it off if I thought I could pull it off.

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By *ADY VOLUPTUOUS OF KENTWoman
over a year ago

TONBRIDGE ROUNDABOUTS

I chopped recently from long flowing locks..

For a valid reason ...

Its looks "fab"

Comfortable until it grow back.

I've a bob but instead of asymmetrical, I've low points at front,so can do stuff,bands clips. Just a suggestion.

Still Sassy

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By *oenjess2003Couple
over a year ago

St Helens/ Forres

Just persevere..another inch and it will behave

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

When I've had long hair in the past, it was in a ponytail unless I went to the hairdresser

I can't do a bun, a plait, a braid, any of that shit, and when it's out I looked like I'd been dragged backwards through a bush.

I'd shave it off if I thought I could pull it off."

I often look like as M puts it as if I've been dragged through a hedge backwards. I've kind of started to embrace the wavy unkept look. I'm guilty of living in a pony tail when I'm in work though. But I've recently bought a few hair Barrettes so it looks a bit more showy than a hair tie

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By *naswingdress OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I chopped recently from long flowing locks..

For a valid reason ...

Its looks "fab"

Comfortable until it grow back.

I've a bob but instead of asymmetrical, I've low points at front,so can do stuff,bands clips. Just a suggestion.

Still Sassy

I had a graduated bob, but it was a sticky mess at the gym.

I think I either need shaved-pixie or long. Not in between.

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By *naswingdress OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

When I've had long hair in the past, it was in a ponytail unless I went to the hairdresser

I can't do a bun, a plait, a braid, any of that shit, and when it's out I looked like I'd been dragged backwards through a bush.

I'd shave it off if I thought I could pull it off.

I'm doing half up half down at the moment, to conceal my growing out fringe. But I'm *this* close to a real ponytail.

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By *ersnickety PantsWoman
over a year ago

Club Meets Only

Mine goes from extremes, it was just touching my bum when I had it chopped really short, Bob style, its growing now & I'll let it grow until its so long it annoys me again.

The in between stage is annoying tho so I feel you, give the straighteners a go tho, you won't set your hair on fire but choose a low heat until you're comfortable x

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By *naswingdress OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Mine goes from extremes, it was just touching my bum when I had it chopped really short, Bob style, its growing now & I'll let it grow until its so long it annoys me again.

The in between stage is annoying tho so I feel you, give the straighteners a go tho, you won't set your hair on fire but choose a low heat until you're comfortable x"

I got some recently and it won't stay straight on low settings but I don't dare do higher

And I want to embrace my wave, not have my hair in ways that other people say are attractive... but then it's frizzy.

*bangs head against wall*

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By *ersnickety PantsWoman
over a year ago

Club Meets Only

"Mine goes from extremes, it was just touching my bum when I had it chopped really short, Bob style, its growing now & I'll let it grow until its so long it annoys me again.

The in between stage is annoying tho so I feel you, give the straighteners a go tho, you won't set your hair on fire but choose a low heat until you're comfortable x

I got some recently and it won't stay straight on low settings but I don't dare do higher

And I want to embrace my wave, not have my hair in ways that other people say are attractive... but then it's frizzy.

*bangs head against wall*"

I've debated getting mine permed again, last time I did it lasted about 6 months before I shaved it off as it peed me off so much

Stick with letting it grow a bit more, your wave will get better as it gets a bit longer x

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By *naswingdress OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

The other thing that annoys me is that, hair tutorials. Most of them assume you know what you're doing.

And then you find one that says for absolute beginners. ... It's for men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Forgive me, fa- err, not father that's creepy. For I have sinned. I fail at girl. (with your lipstick collection, and your swing dresses?, I hear you cry)

Hair. Mine is the bane of my fucking existence.

Two years ago I began growing out a pixie cut, which took about nine months. In August, I began growing out my bob.

I'm thinking about returning to the pixie.

To chop or not to chop?"

Go for the chop!

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By *naswingdress OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Forgive me, fa- err, not father that's creepy. For I have sinned. I fail at girl. (with your lipstick collection, and your swing dresses?, I hear you cry)

Hair. Mine is the bane of my fucking existence.

Two years ago I began growing out a pixie cut, which took about nine months. In August, I began growing out my bob.

I'm thinking about returning to the pixie.

To chop or not to chop?

Go for the chop! "

The waves are effortless and frizz free in a pixie. *sigh*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you happier with shorter hair? If you are, then I'd say get it cut. But it you prefer the longer hair and it's just annoying you I'd stick with it. Have you tried plaits? It does take some practice but it is simple enough once you've mastered it! You don't get much movement like you do with just normal ponytails and they don't really loosen or come undone as easily which will be good for when you're working out!

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By *naswingdress OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Are you happier with shorter hair? If you are, then I'd say get it cut. But it you prefer the longer hair and it's just annoying you I'd stick with it. Have you tried plaits? It does take some practice but it is simple enough once you've mastered it! You don't get much movement like you do with just normal ponytails and they don't really loosen or come undone as easily which will be good for when you're working out! "

I don't know. I'm told I look better with longer hair, but I worry about it and I feel desperately incompetent with it. Short hair is just wash, ruffle and go. There's no fucking it up. There are a million ways to fuck up long hair.

It's also more work and... fuck enough already.

I feel like the learning curve with hair is too high, but I felt that way about makeup too

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By *imited 3EditionCouple
over a year ago

Live in Scotland Play in England

I totally get you. Im pretty fed up of my long thick hair but need to resist the temptation to get it all chopped off as I'll only regret it. Im going for a haircut tomorrow so have been checking out various styles.... came across a new one today.... have you heard of the Lob? A layered lob looks pretty nice i think.

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By *naswingdress OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Ooh.

I've always had a weak spot for alternative ladies. Butch. Short hair.

I tried spiked hair in my teens and looked fucking ridiculous.

Now baby got guns, and her give a shit has broken.

Maybe it's time to spike the hair, see if I can pull it off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's also more work and... fuck enough already.

I feel like the learning curve with hair is too high, but I felt that way about makeup too

I think once you find something that works for the length you have now you will be happy with it. I think you are just unsure and unfamiliar with what will work for you hair right now.

I've never had shorter hair but I do think it's so much more easier to handle!

I'd say before you do decide to get your hair chopped, have a really good play around with it. Don't be afraid to blow dry, straighten etc to see what you can come up with. And have a look online for accessories.

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester

I love long, straight hair... I'm for keeping it...

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By *naswingdress OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I love long, straight hair... I'm for keeping it..."

My hair isn't straight.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chop! You have amazing eyes and a pixie cut will highlight them more

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By *ADY VOLUPTUOUS OF KENTWoman
over a year ago

TONBRIDGE ROUNDABOUTS

"I chopped recently from long flowing locks..

For a valid reason ...

Its looks "fab"

Comfortable until it grow back.

I've a bob but instead of asymmetrical, I've low points at front,so can do stuff,bands clips. Just a suggestion.

Still Sassy

I had a graduated bob, but it was a sticky mess at the gym.

I think I either need shaved-pixie or long. Not in between."

Dnt forget can add afake bit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've come this far why not finish the job. Starting again would be a bloody mission. You've done the hard work. The chop is an essy option at any time...

I can't imagine myself with short hair again personally.

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By *uzzy NavelWoman
over a year ago

so near and yet so far....

Have your girlfriends come over and swap tips??

Let them straighten one side and then you straighten the other..

My hair gets wavier the longer it gets, if I didn’t brush it it’d be fab, but if I do it goes frizzy....

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

"Have your girlfriends come over and swap tips??

Let them straighten one side and then you straighten the other..

My hair gets wavier the longer it gets, if I didn’t brush it it’d be fab, but if I do it goes frizzy....

Have this issue too, which is why I don't brush it very often.

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester

"I love long, straight hair... I'm for keeping it...

My hair isn't straight."

Send me a pic via PM.

(Then I can hound you for a sex for a week after it)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like you need to chop. Having long hair is pointless if you can't be arsed to style/ look after it. Long hair = more effort.

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
over a year ago

BRIDPORT

"Have your girlfriends come over and swap tips??

Let them straighten one side and then you straighten the other..

My hair gets wavier the longer it gets, if I didn’t brush it it’d be fab, but if I do it goes frizzy....

My hair started waving, unfortunately it was waving goodbye

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Paul Mitchell leave in conditioner and only brush it when wet and after application. Don't blow dry.

Typing that has set my toxic masculinity off no end. So I'm going outside to saw a plank of wood in half and have a fight before watching the FA Cup 4th round replay later...

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By *uzzy NavelWoman
over a year ago

so near and yet so far....

"Have your girlfriends come over and swap tips??

Let them straighten one side and then you straighten the other..

My hair gets wavier the longer it gets, if I didn’t brush it it’d be fab, but if I do it goes frizzy....

My hair started waving, unfortunately it was waving goodbye

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My hair is really short now and I wouldn’t grow it again

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By *naswingdress OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Paul Mitchell leave in conditioner and only brush it when wet and after application. Don't blow dry.

Typing that has set my toxic masculinity off no end. So I'm going outside to saw a plank of wood in half and have a fight before watching the FA Cup 4th round replay later..."

I love you.

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By *naswingdress OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Almost all my female non-swinging friends have very short hair or, like I have been, throw it up in a bushy ponytail and don't worry unless it's clean.

I suppose, as I'm at the point where it's really exasperating me, I'm trying to find out if I should stick it out, if I can improve it, or I'm destined to have either super short hair or have it be a massive pain in my arse.

And I'm torn on aesthetics. I so dig the butch look but suspect I look better femme. But femme is ugh work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My hair is short...but I don't look butch

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By *naswingdress OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"My hair is short...but I don't look butch"

Oh not everyone does. But with my weight lifting I run that risk. I already get stupid comments.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

What does it do of you let it dry naturally? I've got quite fine, naturally wavy hair I find if I faff with it too much it goes frizzy unless I straighten it, which I cba to do.

If I put a sea salt type spray through it and leave it it looks good!

I've had a short crop before, hated it, grew it out, chopped it off, grew it etc. I like short hair on other women, just not me!

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By *naswingdress OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"What does it do of you let it dry naturally? I've got quite fine, naturally wavy hair I find if I faff with it too much it goes frizzy unless I straighten it, which I cba to do.

If I put a sea salt type spray through it and leave it it looks good!

I've had a short crop before, hated it, grew it out, chopped it off, grew it etc. I like short hair on other women, just not me!"

More waves, less frizzy (but not frizz free) but it takes an age to dry. Like I'd want to wash in the afternoon to sleep with dry hair, or wet hair until lunch time.

I want to embrace my hair's natural texture if I can, at whatever length.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

Be grateful for any hair...several years ago I lost every hair on my head and body due to stress. It was awful. I have extensions now on what I had grow back on my head but, still have no underarm hair, leg hair and only sparse pubes.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Honestly I'd say if it's easier for you go for it or you just end up not making the most of your hair in any way. Mine is currently past my waist and loads of people love it. They're sad that I'm about to get about 8 inches cut off it on Friday. It will still be to my chest though! It's just annoying me now so I end up just throwing it in a ponytail most of the time. I wore it down so much more when it wasn't as insanely long and even ponytails looked better as it was more bouncy as it wasn't so heavy. I'm excited! Everyone else is just going to have to deal with it

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By *naswingdress OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Honestly I'd say if it's easier for you go for it or you just end up not making the most of your hair in any way. Mine is currently past my waist and loads of people love it. They're sad that I'm about to get about 8 inches cut off it on Friday. It will still be to my chest though! It's just annoying me now so I end up just throwing it in a ponytail most of the time. I wore it down so much more when it wasn't as insanely long and even ponytails looked better as it was more bouncy as it wasn't so heavy. I'm excited! Everyone else is just going to have to deal with it

Yeah, other people's reactions is way worse than omg what did I do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How about a nice tousled bob.. Or a sharp asymmetric bob?

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By *alking HeadMan
over a year ago

Bolton

"Forgive me, fa- err, not father that's creepy. For I have sinned. I fail at girl. (with your lipstick collection, and your swing dresses?, I hear you cry)

Hair. Mine is the bane of my fucking existence.

Two years ago I began growing out a pixie cut, which took about nine months. In August, I began growing out my bob.

I'm thinking about returning to the pixie.

To chop or not to chop?"

We are in the midst of winter and we haven't even got properly cold yet. Get a bobble hat and wear that, then as spring descends you'll have a bit more length.

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By *naswingdress OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"How about a nice tousled bob.. Or a sharp asymmetric bob? "

I had a graduated bob, but it gets sticky on my neck and flies everywhere in the gym. I think anywhere between pixie and "easily tied into a ponytail" is out, haha.

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By *naswingdress OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Forgive me, fa- err, not father that's creepy. For I have sinned. I fail at girl. (with your lipstick collection, and your swing dresses?, I hear you cry)

Hair. Mine is the bane of my fucking existence.

Two years ago I began growing out a pixie cut, which took about nine months. In August, I began growing out my bob.

I'm thinking about returning to the pixie.

To chop or not to chop?

We are in the midst of winter and we haven't even got properly cold yet. Get a bobble hat and wear that, then as spring descends you'll have a bit more length."

And when I'm indoors?

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By *mberWoman
over a year ago

Preston

When I've had long hair in the past, it was in a ponytail unless I went to the hairdresser

I can't do a bun, a plait, a braid, any of that shit, and when it's out I looked like I'd been dragged backwards through a bush.

I'd shave it off if I thought I could pull it off."

That's me. It looked like rats tails and I hated it. Had it cropped off and I love it. I'll never have it long again.

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By *mberWoman
over a year ago

Preston

Are you donating it to locks of love? (I think that's what it's called)

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By *alking HeadMan
over a year ago

Bolton

"Forgive me, fa- err, not father that's creepy. For I have sinned. I fail at girl. (with your lipstick collection, and your swing dresses?, I hear you cry)

Hair. Mine is the bane of my fucking existence.

Two years ago I began growing out a pixie cut, which took about nine months. In August, I began growing out my bob.

I'm thinking about returning to the pixie.

To chop or not to chop?

We are in the midst of winter and we haven't even got properly cold yet. Get a bobble hat and wear that, then as spring descends you'll have a bit more length.

And when I'm indoors?

Keep it on. If your too warm, take off something else

Or turn the heating off. See I'm saving you money as well!

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