FabSwingers.com mobile

Join us FREE, we're FREE to use

Web's largest swingers site since 2006.

Already registered?
Login here

Back to forum list
Back to The Lounge

Why so much Spanking

Jump to newest
 

By *rishDuo81 OP   Couple
over a year ago

liverpool

Why do men love to spank women so much during sex these days (oh and I’m not saying it’s a bad thing, during the right moment it can be very hot) but I genuinely can’t remember the last time I was in doggy that I didn’t get spanked haha.

Literally every guy goes for a hard spank!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *arlo82Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places

No idea! I absolutely detest it. Makes me cringe seeing people running about spanking each other too.

I cant wrap my head round it

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

50% of the time I would, just when the moods right

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do men love to spank women so much during sex these days (oh and I’m not saying it’s a bad thing, during the right moment it can be very hot) but I genuinely can’t remember the last time I was in doggy that I didn’t get spanked haha.

Literally every guy goes for a hard spank!"

Porn has a lot to do with it I think ...

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love being spanked during sex or anytime.

Maybe they think its a decent looking bum and want to leave a lovely hand print lol

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *rishDuo81 OP   Couple
over a year ago

liverpool

Exactly, quite often I hate it and it stings. Thus ruining the mood. Literally all guys I bend over for do it

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its ass hypn*tism. You see those checks bouncing and you just have to give them a little spank.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

Hopefully it’s not just the bloke who wants to do it, it’s because the woman has asked for it

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *entleman55Man
over a year ago

S’th West Mc/r


"Why do men love to spank women so much during sex these days (oh and I’m not saying it’s a bad thing, during the right moment it can be very hot) but I genuinely can’t remember the last time I was in doggy that I didn’t get spanked haha.

Literally every guy goes for a hard spank!

Porn has a lot to do with it I think ... "

Spot on...in the porn industry it seems to be the norm....it’s not for me.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's really not that new. There are hieroglyphs and paintings that go back thousands of years depicting it. Even the brothel in pompeii has pictures of it.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do men love to spank women so much during sex these days (oh and I’m not saying it’s a bad thing, during the right moment it can be very hot) but I genuinely can’t remember the last time I was in doggy that I didn’t get spanked haha.

Literally every guy goes for a hard spank!"

Hate to use this term, but "not every guy". Sorry.

The idea would never occur to me. Am I weird or something?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I love it, however guidelines of things like spanking, submission and restraint would be discussed prior to sex so they would know what's allowed. If a guy spanked me without knowing it's what I like I wouldn't be impressed.

But then maybe it's because I dont have casual sex so the guys know what floats my boat before we hey to the bedroom

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Why do men love to spank women so much during sex these days (oh and I’m not saying it’s a bad thing, during the right moment it can be very hot) but I genuinely can’t remember the last time I was in doggy that I didn’t get spanked haha.

Literally every guy goes for a hard spank!

Hate to use this term, but "not every guy". Sorry.

The idea would never occur to me. Am I weird or something?"

Not at all - I wouldn't dream of doing so unless it had been discussed and agreed to beforehand or was asked for in the heat of the moment.

I enjoy spanking (both ways) but it's not something you just "do" unasked.

I think porn does play it's part, but equally *some* men sadly still have a very skewed idea of what mutual pleasure is about and I think it's heightened on sites like this where "sex site" seems to mean to some "no inhibitions - I can do what I like"

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Call me weird but personally I love it.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do men love to spank women so much during sex these days (oh and I’m not saying it’s a bad thing, during the right moment it can be very hot) but I genuinely can’t remember the last time I was in doggy that I didn’t get spanked haha.

Literally every guy goes for a hard spank!

Porn has a lot to do with it I think ... "

This...

Only time I like a slap on the arse is when Mr arrives home from work and follows it with a feel of my arse and a cuddle.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *razytimesinloveCouple
over a year ago

SW Scotland

Love doing it and love seeing the hand prints afterwards. We’ve cammed with couples where they get to pick the type of spanking and how many.

Mrs has to thank them for her punishment as she cums.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Its ass hypn*tism. You see those checks bouncing and you just have to give them a little spank. "

Hopefully you control your urges and you ascertain if it's welcome first

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I like the sensation of it but I do think it's a bit predictable. I'd rather keep sex and spanking as 2 separate delights

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago

Lifes departure lounge NN9 Northamptonshire East not West MidlandsMidlands

All spanking sessions I am involved are pre-arranged and are fully consensual.

For the purpose of safety I use the traffic light system.

If the recipent says Green it means step it up a bit.

If she says amber it mean that is about the right level

If she says Red I stop immediately. Stop means Stop no ifs or buts.

Have been giving spankings to females for over 30 years with no issues.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *irtySexyDawgMan
over a year ago

Welwyn

It should always be discussed or requested first.

Very addictive for both if consensual.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its ass hypn*tism. You see those checks bouncing and you just have to give them a little spank.

Hopefully you control your urges and you ascertain if it's welcome first "

Of course.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love to be spanked, slapped, throat grabbed etc but not just by anybody as need to trust

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ensualMan
over a year ago

Sutton

I think this is the first time Geminiman and I have disagreed.

I think porn follows and publicises trends. However because it puts matters in the public view I think, those against porn and a few individuals who think anything on the screen is true, both mistakenly believe porn legitimizes acts.

People did not start having sex because porn films were released, they were having sex before porn.

In the same way people were spanking ass before it was in porn.

If you read social histories and the chapters in sex people don't need porn to influence them.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"I think this is the first time Geminiman and I have disagreed.

I think porn follows and publicises trends. However because it puts matters in the public view I think, those against porn and a few individuals who think anything on the screen is true, both mistakenly believe porn legitimizes acts.

People did not start having sex because porn films were released, they were having sex before porn.

In the same way people were spanking ass before it was in porn.

If you read social histories and the chapters in sex people don't need porn to influence them."

Oh we don't disagree my friend - rather look at it from slightly different angles - the influence of porn is that it brings things like spanking into a more mainstream area and as such makes it appear accepted, and to a degree expected, by all, so people think it's the "norm" because they see it happen regularly in porn and therefore feel it's ok to apply it to their own sex life without discussion.

Yes spanking and sex itself have been around for a long time before the internet or even organised pornography but it's pornography that to an extent influences trends in what is acceptable or normal.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have in the past spanked an ass when bent over in front of me bit only with a woman that I know liked it I'd be more likely to grab hold of your hips and pull you towards me as I thrust in or grab hair

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *rishDuo81 OP   Couple
over a year ago

liverpool

Personally when the mood is right I do love a good hard slap on my arse! My point is, it seems very common.

I guess spanking is like the exclamation point of sex. It grounds you, it declares the mans presence. It pulls me out of the pre-orgasm fog, so I find it erotic. So, occasionally, men spank out of a desire to connect with their partner mid-sex I think. Others because they’ve seen it in porn!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *lanemikeMan
over a year ago

Bolton

I love being spanked.....!!!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Spanking is just a lot of fun

It's just like the lady is leaving scratch marks on your body with her nails, a pleasurable pain

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

Ohh I do love a good spank both giving and receiving

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate being spanked personally, have never done it to another person either. I always make it very clear it's not my thing and play would stop immediately if someone done it to me

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tit for tat I say....I dont mind it, but if you do then you must be prepared to receive too!!!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

No spanking or bloody hair pulling either it hurts...

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *eastAndTheHarlotCouple
over a year ago

Hartlepool

I absolutely love it!!

For us (if we're NOT having a bdsm session) the speaking is just a way to release all of the passion.

It's hard to describe but like when you're so horny and they're so sexy and you just have to dive on them and rip their clothes off (with consent of course) and have a good hard fuck. We get like that mid sex and it just builds to spanking and hair pulling.

Never with anyone else and people definitely shouldn't be giving a full on smack. It's just meant to be a little sharp sting.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a submissive I would love a good old-fashioned spanking. But I can't find a lady who likes doing it in Belfast

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think some women allow men to do it by way of adding what they perceive to be excitement

I will never understand why a man wants to administer something so hard that will leave potential bruising and pass it off as giving pleasure

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester


"Why do men love to spank women so much during sex these days (oh and I’m not saying it’s a bad thing, during the right moment it can be very hot) but I genuinely can’t remember the last time I was in doggy that I didn’t get spanked haha.

Literally every guy goes for a hard spank!"

Because we think women crave it. It's quite annoying actually. I'm sick of rough sex, but it's all I ever hear. "Fuck me hard", etc.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"I think some women allow men to do it by way of adding what they perceive to be excitement

I will never understand why a man wants to administer something so hard that will leave potential bruising and pass it off as giving pleasure "

There's two strands to that though - spanking without prior warning or discussion/agreement or without encouragement to do so - I agree with you 100%

Spanking having discussed it beforehand and agreed it's mutually acceptable and pleasurable, or even in the heat of the moment if encouraged to do so, is completely different.

Ultimately if it's something both people enjoy and agree to do then there's nothing wrong with it at all

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

I don't think men do it enough! I love it!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No idea! I absolutely detest it. Makes me cringe seeing people running about spanking each other too.

I cant wrap my head round it"

This

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im not much of a spanker more a lift carry pin down hold mouth throat kind of guy

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you have been spanked and it wasn’t pleasurable for you then it wasn’t done right.

There’s so much more to a mutually enjoyable spanking session than just walloping someone on the rump.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you have been spanked and it wasn’t pleasurable for you then it wasn’t done right.

There’s so much more to a mutually enjoyable spanking session than just walloping someone on the rump.

"

This actually isn't true. Not everyone is turned on by being spanked.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *iss ScherzzoWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"If you have been spanked and it wasn’t pleasurable for you then it wasn’t done right.

There’s so much more to a mutually enjoyable spanking session than just walloping someone on the rump.

This actually isn't true. Not everyone is turned on by being spanked. "

Nah usually does nothing for me.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"If you have been spanked and it wasn’t pleasurable for you then it wasn’t done right.

There’s so much more to a mutually enjoyable spanking session than just walloping someone on the rump.

This actually isn't true. Not everyone is turned on by being spanked. "

This!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *eplicant JoWoman
over a year ago

Sussex countryside

I do not like being spanked - it is an instant mood killer for me and will probably put a stop to any sex. I prefer a drag of nails down my back or the prick of a pin wheel. I do, however, enjoy giving a spanking - with someone who has said they like it and gives consent

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

I'll have all the spankings the other ladies don't want!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I adore being spanked, but often people do it badly. Just don’t whack, slow build up please

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

If someone spanks me or pulls my hair, I get up, get dressed, go off and make myself a coffee. Session ended

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ud and BryanCouple
over a year ago

Boston, Lincolnshire

Caroline doesn't mind a little spanking, but pity any guy who tries it without asking first!

We really don't understand why guys feel the urge to spank a woman randomly during sex, we hate it.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love being spanked during sex or anytime.

Maybe they think its a decent looking bum and want to leave a lovely hand print lol "

Ditto... But men need to lead up to a hard spanking, not go hell for leather.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love being spanked and it has nothing to do with porn.

It adds a bit of fun in the bedroom but if I’m chained to a wall, tied to a cross or restrained on the bed, it makes me seriously horny

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do not like being spanked - it is an instant mood killer for me and will probably put a stop to any sex. I prefer a drag of nails down my back or the prick of a pin wheel. I do, however, enjoy giving a spanking - with someone who has said they like it and gives consent "

Hi Jo

Just kidding. I have no idea if I'd get the same feelings if I were to be spanked by a woman

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ayRosesWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

It may not be new, but when I was last single (pre internet porn), not one single guy slapped my ass, pulled my hair or put his hands around my neck during sex.

This time round, not one guy hasn't done at least one of the three, all without asking. And that's guys I've met on here, as well as other places. Rough(er) sex seems to have been normalised and just what you do.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'll have all the spankings the other ladies don't want! "

I'll fight ya for them

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *iss ScherzzoWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"I'll have all the spankings the other ladies don't want!

I'll fight ya for them "

How were your cheeks on Sunday?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Without them asking in advance I'd be off their cock so fast it would sound like a cork popping

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *leasure4leisureMan
over a year ago

south


"I adore being spanked, but often people do it badly. Just don’t whack, slow build up please"

I would so love a slow build up S

Always polite and respectful x

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'll have all the spankings the other ladies don't want!

I'll fight ya for them

How were your cheeks on Sunday? "

They were awesome ha ha x

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *eplicant JoWoman
over a year ago

Sussex countryside


"I do not like being spanked - it is an instant mood killer for me and will probably put a stop to any sex. I prefer a drag of nails down my back or the prick of a pin wheel. I do, however, enjoy giving a spanking - with someone who has said they like it and gives consent

Hi Jo

Just kidding. I have no idea if I'd get the same feelings if I were to be spanked by a woman "

Want to try?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"I'll have all the spankings the other ladies don't want!

I'll fight ya for them "

Or we can share the spanks?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *iss ScherzzoWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"I'll have all the spankings the other ladies don't want!

I'll fight ya for them

How were your cheeks on Sunday?

They were awesome ha ha x"

Pleased to hear it xx

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *otrockWoman
over a year ago

Essex

I do love a good spanking, especially with a belt...

It's got to be done right thou, build it up slowly getting harder and harder till I'm begging for it to stop but you just carry on because I deserve to be spanked for being a naughty girl and saying stop..

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Maybe my naughtiness is a bad influence and more of us deserve it today

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

I'll admit that the lust can really get hold of me in the moment and the instinct is to use that palm but I won't unless the person has made it clear she enjoys it and wants it. If I don't know I don't do it. Doesn't stop me from having a handful of a nice bum though. There's just something savagely primal about doggy

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'll admit that the lust can really get hold of me in the moment and the instinct is to use that palm but I won't unless the person has made it clear she enjoys it and wants it. If I don't know I don't do it. Doesn't stop me from having a handful of a nice bum though. There's just something savagely primal about doggy "

What is it about lust that makes you want to strike someone?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 
 

By *hambamNIMan
over a year ago

city centre

I would normally keep sex and spanking separate spanking is a kink of mine and in my opinion should only be done over the knee

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
Post new Message to Thread
back to top