FabSwingers.com forum: Break up

By *appytrailman OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

So after my first ever serious relationship ending recently I need some tips on the best way to get over it...if any of you can help me?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Buy a pedalo and pedal it around the coastline of Great Britain.

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

"So after my first ever serious relationship ending recently I need some tips on the best way to get over it...if any of you can help me? "

Be gentle with yourself, and allow yourself to feel whatever emotion you’re feeling. Lots of self care and new distractions.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"So after my first ever serious relationship ending recently I need some tips on the best way to get over it...if any of you can help me? "

Tell her she's got a vag like a wizards sleeve then go and shag her sister/mother.

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By *attb179Man
over a year ago

London

"So after my first ever serious relationship ending recently I need some tips on the best way to get over it...if any of you can help me?

Be gentle with yourself, and allow yourself to feel whatever emotion you’re feeling. Lots of self care and new distractions."

Feels like you took the thread too seriously

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester

Lots of porn, this site and other women.

Keep busy too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let yourself have a good cry, then keep yourself busy until you get used to being by yourself again. Try not to wallow

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By *zQTWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere

Use one man and if that doesn’t work use 5 more all at once

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fucking my ex’s best friend worked for me

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

Don't become a recluse!

Dust yourself down and get out there and meet people but most of all take the time to find your own way if you need it.

Cancel netflix and pull the tv aerial out so you don't have the option of sitting in front of the tv.

Chat on here as these forums are a bit of a lifesaver to be honest and there are some pretty awesome people who will perk you up with just a few comments or laughs.

They don't know your background and wont care about why you're here, just that you're here and making new friends.

Do what you need to do and at a time you feel you want to do it.

Best of luck to you, it's hard but gets better all the time

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By *olly1972Woman
over a year ago

bolton

No on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone made a point to me, one of the hardest things you will ever have to do is grieve for someone who is still alive.

Just take time and repair, any grief is hard

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

"So after my first ever serious relationship ending recently I need some tips on the best way to get over it...if any of you can help me?

Be gentle with yourself, and allow yourself to feel whatever emotion you’re feeling. Lots of self care and new distractions.

Feels like you took the thread too seriously

Feels like nobody takes this stuff seriously enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fucking my ex’s best friend worked for me "

Ditto

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Give yourself time don't rush into anything and play the field for a bit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Running helped me. I met loads of new people through putting myself in for events, too.

I hope you’re ok. I remember that feeling, and wondering if it will ever end, but it did and as wanky as it sounds, I’m a better person for going through it x

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

I find that keeping yourself busy busy busy helps. You'll have plenty of time to reflect and be sad but don't make it your whole day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So after my first ever serious relationship ending recently I need some tips on the best way to get over it...if any of you can help me?

Tell her she's got a vag like a wizards sleeve then go and shag her sister/mother.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So after my first ever serious relationship ending recently I need some tips on the best way to get over it...if any of you can help me?

Tell her she's got a vag like a wizards sleeve then go and shag her sister/mother.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pmsl.... I know I probably shouldn't but that reply is brilliant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thank God you've had a lucky escape... can you imagine....if things had gone well you'd be buying a house, getting a dog, planning a wedding and the worst thing of all having kids...

Now you have an account on FAB you will be shagging Dorris's that a few months ago you could have only dreamed about. There are women here who expect to give you a blow job, no they don't have to be talked into it, they actually like the taste of spunk and yes they will swallow.....Others love it up the Gary ...not just as a birthday treat but as part of their ritual love making.

I'm sure after a few weeks,you will be refering to your last squeeze as "what's her name" or may have even forgotten about her totally.

Remember you are going to have the time of your life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take time to heal ..Any relationship that ends you need time to greave as it's like a bereavement. Don't rush into another relationship and keep yourself busy to take your mind off it. Take up a hobby to occupy your time and enjoy some alone time doing things for you.Be selfish for a while and feel happy within yourself. Fab is a good distraction. I wish you all the best .

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By *irtySexyDawgMan
over a year ago

Welwyn

"Someone made a point to me, one of the hardest things you will ever have to do is grieve for someone who is still alive.

Just take time and repair, any grief is hard "

Great advice and I'd add, don't feel like a failure.

It almost always takes two to succeed and the same to split.

Own your mistakes, but only yours and try not to repeat them...then get pissed and shag a hairdresser, they're always filthy.

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay

Let your feelings be. Let them pass through. Your relationship hasn't worked out and although it might feel hard, it's actually ok .. once the dust has settled you will see the treasure in what you have learned about yourself. Give it time.

Stay away from any drama and give your relationship with yourself an extra boost of love and attention.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

Just take time.. and get out there x

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By *appytrailman OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Thanks people!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep positive, I know it’s been said a million times but things do happen for a reason.

Face your demons and then exorcise them by doing things that make you happy. Remind yourself everyday that you are a good person and deserve better.

Keep busy, be kind to yourself and try not to dwell on what went wrong.

Best of luck x

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By *lbinoGorillaMan
over a year ago

Redditch

" .. once the dust has settled you will see the treasure in what you have learned about yourself."

Unfortunately, what I learned about myself from my last break up is that I am an absolute cunt....

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By *lbinoGorillaMan
over a year ago

Redditch

However, to escape the self pity and self loathing for a moment, I will largely exh what was said above.

Take time to grieve properly, and to learn what went wrong and what you can learn from it and what you can do to not make the same mistakes again. If you want to scream and cry and rant, do so - let it out.

Get yourself out and about if you want, shut yourself away if you want (but not for too long)

Gonout and pick someone up for some random, meaningless sex if that's your thing and you feel you can cope with the aftermath.

One day you will suddenly wake up and realise that the angst has left you, without you even realising, and it will time for the next stage. But only you can know how long it will be before you reach that stage

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do what makes you happy and what makes you feel good. Find things or people that build you up or make you feel good. Find other things for escapism. It takes time so give yourself as much of that as possible. You'll get to point where you will realise you're not thinking about it as much as you did and that will just continue. Just accept that along the way you have good days, OK days and what I call Wonky Days. And when you have a wonky day just tell yourself that's it OK to go a bit wonky and tomorrow is a new day. Take the pressure off yourself, sleep well and treat each day like its brand new.

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

"So after my first ever serious relationship ending recently I need some tips on the best way to get over it...if any of you can help me? "

Same being honest after my first proper serious relationship went fubar. I went to my military cousins to get me back in training with a clear focused head but yeah I still love her with all that remains of my heart but I know I was never good enough for her. So I have a quote that I now live by “life is short, do what pleases you whilst you still can”

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By *ream3.14159Man
over a year ago

Here & there

"So after my first ever serious relationship ending recently I need some tips on the best way to get over it...if any of you can help me? "

Don't stay here too long otherwise you'll be crawling back to her

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

It's a grieving process. Let yourself grieve. Whatever that looks like for you.

The emotions, whatever they are, are valid. Give yourself space to feel them, to process them.

They'll fade if you don't wallow. Easier said than done. Be kind to yourself.

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By *atalie..Woman
over a year ago

Bolton

"So after my first ever serious relationship ending recently I need some tips on the best way to get over it...if any of you can help me? "

Someone I know went to their local swinger's club and shagged everything with a pulse who would listen to his sob story... you could always try that.

Or just take time out for you, hopefully you could get back together you never know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So after my first ever serious relationship ending recently I need some tips on the best way to get over it...if any of you can help me? "

Sorry things didn't work out but welcome back xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fucking my ex’s best friend worked for me "

I fucked my ex’s Boss, but I didn’t feel much better to be honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So after my first ever serious relationship ending recently I need some tips on the best way to get over it...if any of you can help me? "

Do what ever makes you happy. Hobbies/intrests. Make new friends and have some great sex

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