FabSwingers.com forum: Body image

By *naswingdress OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

How do you find your body image changing over time?

Today I saw a teenager with the thighs I used to really envy. Straight up and down, skinny. She was in shorts (in Manchester in February

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A few years ago, this would have got me beating myself up for my terrible horrible no good legs (no matter my weight, my thighs are my largest body part, and for most of my life I was desperately ashamed of them).

Today I thought about how strong my legs are, and although I'll never look like a model with them, that I'm proud of the work I've done on them and the health benefits I'm seeing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My body image is improving. I still worry I’m not slim enough, as there’s always someone more attractive than you, and usually after the person you want, but I’m trying hard not to let it knock me as much now.

I’ve modelled for years, at my biggest I was still published (only small alt issues) but as I’ve got more confident in myself, thanks in part to Inked and his support, I’ve found I’m not as bothered by the wobbly bits, I’ve started performing burlesque again, modelling again, and I don’t hate what I look like anymore.

So what if I’m not slim, young, blond or tattoo free enough, I don’t care! I’m passing this new positivity onto my girls, so hopefully they only ever love themselves, and their bodies don’t become their enemy, as mine has been prone to be xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My body image is improving. I still worry I’m not slim enough, as there’s always someone more attractive than you, and usually after the person you want, but I’m trying hard not to let it knock me as much now.

You’re adorable

in a non patronising way cos you’re slightly older than me. You just look cute!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’re adorable

in a non patronising way cos you’re slightly older than me. You just look cute! "

Thank you very much, that’s so kind of you xx

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)

I've accepted that I'll never like my body, I used to live in denial about it but now I just accept what it is and that I'll forever be too lazy to actually do anything significant about it.

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By *B69Woman
over a year ago

Wiltshire

My Body image is something I have only got comfortable with over the last 5 years, I know I have wobbly bits and not as toned as I used to be but I carry it better now, I’m confident with what I have. I still have the days when I look at others and sigh but then I remember my age and think this is me love it or loathe it.

Confidence in yourself is a sexy thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really struggle with my body image. I always have done. I have spent years literally hating the weight I've gained, the size of my beasts, the width of my hips, the thickness of my thighs, all of the bits that wobble, my ass, my bingo wings and even my face.

However I'm slowly learning to try and view my body in other ways. To accept it and to even embrace it. I took up Burlesque last year and I've gone from covering up in gym gear to donning my frilly pants and fishnets and strutting my stuff with no fear. It's been empowering and liberating. In April I'm even going to perform. While I'm still sure I'd look better if I was slim, I'm also going to go out there and own my body, rock every curve and not apologise for it any longer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've accepted that I'll never like my body, I used to live in denial about it but now I just accept what it is and that I'll forever be too lazy to actually do anything significant about it."

You make me question my sexuality

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

I'm quite happy with my body image and think I look pretty good for my not so young anymore age. My legs could use a bit more dedication in the gym...getting there

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)

"I've accepted that I'll never like my body, I used to live in denial about it but now I just accept what it is and that I'll forever be too lazy to actually do anything significant about it.

You make me question my sexuality "

Thanks, I hear that a lot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've accepted that I'll never like my body, I used to live in denial about it but now I just accept what it is and that I'll forever be too lazy to actually do anything significant about it.

You make me question my sexuality

Thanks, I hear that a lot"

Yea sorry, I'll stop messaging you soon I promise

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)

"I've accepted that I'll never like my body, I used to live in denial about it but now I just accept what it is and that I'll forever be too lazy to actually do anything significant about it.

You make me question my sexuality

Thanks, I hear that a lot

Yea sorry, I'll stop messaging you soon I promise "

It's usually from women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've accepted that I'll never like my body, I used to live in denial about it but now I just accept what it is and that I'll forever be too lazy to actually do anything significant about it.

You make me question my sexuality

Thanks, I hear that a lot

Yea sorry, I'll stop messaging you soon I promise

It's usually from women

They're all fakes anyway

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

I've never been desperately unhappy with my body image... I'm not perfect, and of course there are things that I'd probably like to change, but I love my hourglass shape, and I'm confident enough that I can perform on stage in my underwear.

Besides, I'm the most beautiful creature to ever walk this earth...it must be true because men on here tell me every day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m ok with my body.

It all works as it should do, people take that for granted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like my body. I train hard in the gym.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I genuinely believe if you love yourself & it will shine through x

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"I like my body. I train hard in the gym."

I'd love abs like that, but I like bread and coffee with sugar far too much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like my body. I train hard in the gym.

I'd love abs like that, but I like bread and coffee with sugar far too much

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Ty you can have those too in moderation if it fits in your macros.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Realisation #1: I'll never be superhumanly ripped. It's a lot of work, I like eating delicious things and exercise bores the actual arse off me.

Realisation #2: I don't *have* to be a fat git. Some reasonably moderate gym work on top of my cycle commute and keeping an eye on my portions seems to be taking the flab off reasonably quickly.

Realisation #3: It doesn't actually matter too much. There are one or two quite excellent Fab ladies who, for some reason, seem to find me worth a second look. Maybe we judge ourselves more harshly than everyone else...?

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By *ent_couple2019Couple
over a year ago

canterbury

Suffered with body image through childhood trauma.

Had eating disorders and self harming to follow.

With therapy and weight gain I got better.

Modelled for years despite confidence issues, I know seems backward but was never contented.

I'm actually more comfortable now since having a child, with more scars and wobbly bits than ever before.

Was only after having a child I have ever felt sexy aswell.

I think we all have deep seeded doubts. But should absolutely be open and honest. We only have what we are born with xxx

Learn to love ourselves ??

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By *hunderstruckMan
over a year ago

Northampton

I’m happy with myself

A little overweight but I’m fairly fit .

I’ve never been one to go to a gym because my job is quite active .

I love a woman with curves .

As I’ve aged so has my taste in women . Although attraction is a big part the things that I’m attracted to are not visual . It’s character and sense of humour and intelligence ( but on my level )

Is it part of growing up ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I really struggle with my body image. I always have done. I have spent years literally hating the weight I've gained, the size of my beasts, the width of my hips, the thickness of my thighs, all of the bits that wobble, my ass, my bingo wings and even my face.

I performed last year, for the first time in five years! I always focused more on stage management. First time was a small intimate Halloween event, the next time, at a tattoo convention!

My bestie was there, she’s a tiny size 8, been performing for years, and is simply beautiful! I was terrified! I compared myself to her and felt no one would want to see me. Still did it, and to hear that no one noticed my lumps and bumps, just how amazing I looked and danced, was such a boost! Massive hug off bestie and I didn’t give a damn and got on stage the next day with no problem.

I’m just me, I make no apologies, and like you, I’ve learned to love me and now know I can rock this body. You will too, April will be so empowering for you- embrace if and love it!! xx

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I change what I appreciate and mostly have let go of any design on being something different in the present, as just now is who and how I am.

Progressive good exercise is the way to sustain and increase health and can help us to relax about now, if we get critical, as we're doing something

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay

"Suffered with body image through childhood trauma.

Had eating disorders and self harming to follow.

With therapy and weight gain I got better.

Modelled for years despite confidence issues, I know seems backward but was never contented.

I'm actually more comfortable now since having a child, with more scars and wobbly bits than ever before.

Was only after having a child I have ever felt sexy aswell.

I think we all have deep seeded doubts. But should absolutely be open and honest. We only have what we are born with xxx

Learn to love ourselves ??"

You've overcome so much xxx

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay

I try and think about what my body is capable of rather than how I look.

Although its still a challenge not to dislike bits. I am aware of getting older, sqooshy tummy breasts that have breastfed, skin changing. I'm strangely more confident. I'm equally fascinated and horrified!

I never appreciated my flat tummy when I had one and used to hide bits of me when naked. I'm not hiding any more. This body has acheived lots and is still giving me pleasure.

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

I'm not one of those 'body positivity' fatties but I can honestly say I don't have a negative body image. I know it's faults. I know it's weak spots. I'm not ashamed of it. In fact I quite like it. I love how I'm getting stronger. I like my thunder thighs and wobbly bits.

The only thing I really hate is my voice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My body image is fine and I recognise how it looks fluctuates. I’m glad it still functions although my foot is bloody killing me because I have been wearing stupid hotel slippers round the house for a few days.

Frequenting nudist beaches since the mid 1990s has helped me to appreciate the infinite diversity and beauty of the human form and accept my body as it is. I just go to the gym to remain fitter and healthier than I would without it.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

For 20 years I hid under clothes too big or covered from head to toe, not because I didn’t like my body but comments from others that influenced how I dressed. It ended up becoming my norm

Five years ago I broke that and slowly changed what I wear. This year, it’s time to wear skirts more and knock the final shield away.

Boobs always been my biggest argh, but again I’ve accepted them, they aren’t going anywhere and bloody grateful they still point the right way for my age

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive a terrible body image, hard to believe with the amount of pics I have but I take them on my good days and they are rare.

Ive put on alot of weight lately too.

I miss going to gym or running outside. Not been for 2 months.

I need to get back healthy asap xx

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By *orthantsblueeyesMan
over a year ago

Northampton

Mine is improving since being here and I take better care of myself now. Winner all round, thanks fab

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

In my younger days i was a busty blonde size 14. The weight fell off me during both pregnacies and never went back on. I am a size 10 now and have bn for years. Never entirely happy with the way i look but just make the most of what i have.

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By *ark ph0enixWoman
over a year ago

Teesside

Since my surgery it's been a work in progress. The scarring and missing areas are a big hurdle. I've also managed to loose a considerable amount of weight which has increased my confidence about my body from the waist down. I think i will still struggle for a while about the top half due to some very negative comments and reactions from some one who had my trust. But i am getting there and this place is helping me do that. For which I am very grateful

Sew...fab can be good for mental health as well as kinky fun!

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Sometimes in my head I'm still the 10 stones + heavier I was a couple of years ago. It's hard to shift that image of myself but I'm working on it. I'm learning to be happier with myself and embrace all those wobbles of mine. I still get a bit ah fuck about my tummy but I kind of like my body. I have a big arse and big boobs and a smaller waist. The happier I am within myself, the faster the weight seems to come off and the sexier I feel. I think I'm tired of disliking my body and waiting for it to be the perfect one it can be in my mind. It brings me pleasure and joy and I love what it can do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a terrible view of myself haha... Always too fat, to saggy, too many stretch marks, hate my nose (dno why) hate I'm too pale, to freckly too ginger lol

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"Sometimes in my head I'm still the 10 stones + heavier I was a couple of years ago. It's hard to shift that image of myself but I'm working on it. I'm learning to be happier with myself and embrace all those wobbles of mine. I still get a bit ah fuck about my tummy but I kind of like my body. I have a big arse and big boobs and a smaller waist. The happier I am within myself, the faster the weight seems to come off and the sexier I feel. I think I'm tired of disliking my body and waiting for it to be the perfect one it can be in my mind. It brings me pleasure and joy and I love what it can do."
It brings pleasure to me too when I look at it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've lost 10 stone

That's amazing x

I've never had a positive body image and have always been chubby.

I'm fatter now - the biggest I've ever been but I feel better than ever.

I've simply stopped worrying about it.

I wish this had happened 20yrs ago - my weight and shape stopped me doing so much - I had no confidence and hated my reflection.

I remember being a size 12 and thinking I was fat

I'm now a size 20 and quite frankly give zero fucks - it feels amazing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have a terrible view of myself haha... Always too fat, to saggy, too many stretch marks, hate my nose (dno why) hate I'm too pale, to freckly too ginger lol "

My god woman - you're beautiful!

Dont be ridiculous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My body image is and has always been terrible.

I was a chubby kid and in my teens I developed an eating disorder during an abusive relationship. After two rounds of therapy at an ED clinic, among other therapies, I was discharged in September 2018.

Since then I've gained my weight back and I'm feeling horrible. So now I'm trying to lose weight again without slipping back into old habits.

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By *urvyandCurious999Woman
over a year ago

Hiding from twats

My body image is much better now than it was when I was 30 and 5 stone lighter. I'm much more confident and happier in myself now than I was back then. I don't particularly like my belly, but if I was that bothered I'd go back to running ridiculous distances and lifting weights and eating less chocolate. I should probably do that anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have a terrible view of myself haha... Always too fat, to saggy, too many stretch marks, hate my nose (dno why) hate I'm too pale, to freckly too ginger lol

My god woman - you're beautiful!

Dont be ridiculous "

Aww well thankyou... I do try to be more confidant but I guess that's what 12 years in an abusive relationship does to your self esteem haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never been happy with my body. I've always struggled massively to accept how I look and it does play a part in how crappy my mental health is. I'm definitely more kinder to myself these days though. When I was younger I would be so horrible to myself because of things like cellulite and being overweight, whereas now I still have these things but I do try to encourage myself to love them as they are normal parts of most bodies and fuck anyone who makes you feel bad and makes you feel like you have to look a certain way.

I'm currently trying to lose four stone as that is my happy weight and I've gained too much since having my little one and it's adding to my depression. It's bloody hard work though finding the motivation when you feel so low.

Swing it does make me smile to see how far you've come! It's bloody amazing when you make progress like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My body image is and has always been terrible.

Since then I've gained my weight back and I'm feeling horrible. So now I'm trying to lose weight again without slipping back into old habits."

I’ve struggled at times when people have been cruel about my size, not to let my “friend” back into my life. I’ve never been more than a 14, but the spiteful behaviour of slimmer women in shoots was shocking! Had one tell me to tell my latex designer friend (I was promoting her brand) that if she needed some slim to message her! I cried! I’ve been a size 6 buying size 18 clothes, as my body dysmorphia was such that I felt I’d burst the seams on anything smaller.

I now eat right (who knew actually eating is acceptable) drink loads of water (keep it down) and exercise. I’m not obsessed as now I know that just because someone is slimmer than me, doesn’t make them more attractive. We work through our own demons, one step at a time, so well done on how far you’ve come, hugs xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was heavily into body building for years and your body overtakes your personality. People want to feel your arms, chest or try and put their arm round you. Comments are always hey big man, big lad ... your body gets a lot of attention. Now as a fat older man no one gives me a sideways glance...but I don't get pissed pensioners wanting to arm wressle me.. or grannies trying to snog me after a few too many port and lemons...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I look better than i did in my teens, ive found with age ive become better looking/better body image although i look after my self and train hard now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I look better each day yes i looked great in my 20s but i look stronger now must me the wrinkles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Weird one for me. Back when I first joined fab I was 5 stone heavier than I am now. Fab and clubs and parties gave me such confidence and I loved who I was and how I looked.

This time round, 5 stone lighter, but also more muscular due to the training I do, I’ve gone the other way and I actually feel quite self conscious in lingerie and especially stockings etc, given the muscles. I wonder if I look feminine and sexy any more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to have a really good self body image. Despite always being big I rocked my curves and have always loved vintage fashion so would dress according to my shape.

However the last couple of years I've really struggled. I hate looking at the reflection in the mirror. I still love fashion and spend an absolute fortune on clothes but I find I don't like the way anything looks on me. I'm trying to change that

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By *orthantsblueeyesMan
over a year ago

Northampton

"Weird one for me. Back when I first joined fab I was 5 stone heavier than I am now. Fab and clubs and parties gave me such confidence and I loved who I was and how I looked.

You definitely do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm in the best nick of my life I think....minus some laughter lines and slightly saggier boobs.

There will always be someone younger, slimmer, curvier or hotter so comparing yourself to others is a pointless exercise.

As cheesy as it sounds I concentrate on looking the best I can and leave others to themselves.

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By *naswingdress OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Suffered with body image through childhood trauma.

Had eating disorders and self harming to follow.

With therapy and weight gain I got better.

Modelled for years despite confidence issues, I know seems backward but was never contented.

I'm actually more comfortable now since having a child, with more scars and wobbly bits than ever before.

Was only after having a child I have ever felt sexy aswell.

I think we all have deep seeded doubts. But should absolutely be open and honest. We only have what we are born with xxx

Learn to love ourselves ??"

I'm glad you're much freer of your demons.

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By *naswingdress OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I'm quite happy with my body image and think I look pretty good for my not so young anymore age. My legs could use a bit more dedication in the gym...getting there

One day you'll be strong enough to lift like a girl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A skinny body isnt always a best body. Not in my eye anyway. You look good opp.

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By *naswingdress OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"My body image is and has always been terrible.

Since then I've gained my weight back and I'm feeling horrible. So now I'm trying to lose weight again without slipping back into old habits."

For what very little it's worth, because I know this is a private battle, I think you're beautiful.

I also think you're strong, you've come an awfully long way, and you've got this.

I believe in you, you are good enough, however you are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wish I could have the same confidence I do in a sexual situation day to day. I seem to be the reverse of most people I know, I don't worry too much about lumps and bumps while naked or in lingerie but I feel massively self-conscious dressed. My boobs make finding nice, flattering outfits difficult. It's a toss up between looking slutty or frumpy and I tend to lean towards the latter, covering everything and ending up feeling majorly unsexy. I'm a million times more nervous for socials than actual meeting because I stress so much about it.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Until joining fab I didn't even think about my body image although I was careful to always be positive about our children's bodies.

I find it hard to articulate but as a younger woman I was neutral about my body in as much as I didn't really give it any thought. I didn't compare myself to other women although if I admired the way someone looked in certain clothes I'd try that style out. As I've grown older I am more aware of how I look and I'm very positive about it 99% of the time and still don't compare myself. I still get certain clothes if I see someone who looks really good though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sitting here thinking I'd love to have your legs swing

For me I'm happy enough with my body though I would love to have a 6 pack back. Saying that, I love chocolate too much and our relationship is as strong as ever so I'll not fret about my expanding stomach. Used to be I wanted big arms but these days I'm happy as long as I can lift a family size bar of Dairymilk Carmel to my mouth then I'm happy enough.

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By *naswingdress OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

For me acceptance of my body has been loving and accepting myself enough to not care so much any more. I care much more about other things. I looked at myself in the mirror in the gym on Sunday and realised I was looking at the body of a woman who a few years ago would have intimidated the fuck out of me. But I'm just trucking along. I forget how much I've changed. And what matters is how I feel on the inside, not the meat sack I'm stored in. (my health is important, but, separate issue)

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By *naswingdress OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I wish I could have the same confidence I do in a sexual situation day to day. I seem to be the reverse of most people I know, I don't worry too much about lumps and bumps while naked or in lingerie but I feel massively self-conscious dressed. My boobs make finding nice, flattering outfits difficult. It's a toss up between looking slutty or frumpy and I tend to lean towards the latter, covering everything and ending up feeling majorly unsexy. I'm a million times more nervous for socials than actual meeting because I stress so much about it."

Have you tried one of those personal styling services? I tried one in John Lewis about three years ago, desperately trying to find something, and they were so nice and so helpful. I was looking for something specific, but they made me feel really good about myself (I was probably about an 18/20 at the time).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My body image is and has always been terrible.

Since then I've gained my weight back and I'm feeling horrible. So now I'm trying to lose weight again without slipping back into old habits.

For what very little it's worth, because I know this is a private battle, I think you're beautiful.

I also think you're strong, you've come an awfully long way, and you've got this.

I believe in you, you are good enough, however you are."

Thank you, I didn't realize how much I needed to hear that

Thank you for starting this thread, I think it's so important to talk about how we feel, the good and the bad.

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By *naswingdress OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"My body image is and has always been terrible.

Since then I've gained my weight back and I'm feeling horrible. So now I'm trying to lose weight again without slipping back into old habits.

For what very little it's worth, because I know this is a private battle, I think you're beautiful.

I also think you're strong, you've come an awfully long way, and you've got this.

I believe in you, you are good enough, however you are.

Thank you, I didn't realize how much I needed to hear that

Thank you for starting this thread, I think it's so important to talk about how we feel, the good and the bad."

You're welcome.

My body specific issues are quite small, but oh I used to torment myself about how ugly my thighs made me. I saw that young woman yesterday and I realised that I'm free of that bloody burden. Fuck.

And I know so many (particularly but not exclusively) women have these burdens. That Fab can mess with it. So I wanted to talk about it.

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

I’d say I’m a realist about my body. I don’t compare it to others - because at 51 that would cause nothing but misery - I compare it to how I KNOW it can look if I take positive steps - which I’ve just started doing.

I feel crap when I’m overweight - both physically and mentally (but only very slightly mentally - not to a level where I get depressed etc) - and for me I don’t think that’s a bad thing - as it motivates me to do something about it when real life allows.

Just started a healthy eating/exercise regime which is realistic - and however imperfect I look at the end I’ll be fitter, healthier and happier - and hopefully a little slimmer - and I’ll be happy with that!

This life is about being the best YOU - not trying and failing to be someone else!

Big Tuesday hugs everyone!

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By *naswingdress OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I've never been happy with my body. I've always struggled massively to accept how I look and it does play a part in how crappy my mental health is. I'm definitely more kinder to myself these days though. When I was younger I would be so horrible to myself because of things like cellulite and being overweight, whereas now I still have these things but I do try to encourage myself to love them as they are normal parts of most bodies and fuck anyone who makes you feel bad and makes you feel like you have to look a certain way.

Swing it does make me smile to see how far you've come! It's bloody amazing when you make progress like that.

Thank you

I'm not sure how much I've lost since I stopped giving a shit, but that's what made it easier. I stopped giving a shit. It was part of my mental health recovery that was in progress anyway.

My driver in the gym has been injury recovery and function. Trying to escape ongoing pain, but focusing on what I *can* do. As I get stronger, my body feels better in itself, and that's a positive feedback loop for fighting my anxiety and depression.

Rather than thinking about the scale, what about thinking about how being stronger will mean you're able to do more with your little one? Run, play, meet them where they are when they're as boisterous as small children often are?

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By *naswingdress OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I’d say I’m a realist about my body. I don’t compare it to others - because at 51 that would cause nothing but misery - I compare it to how I KNOW it can look if I take positive steps - which I’ve just started doing.

This life is about being the best YOU - not trying and failing to be someone else!

Big Tuesday hugs everyone!

You, lady, are fucking stunning

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By *ent_couple2019Couple
over a year ago

canterbury

"Suffered with body image through childhood trauma.

Had eating disorders and self harming to follow.

With therapy and weight gain I got better.

Modelled for years despite confidence issues, I know seems backward but was never contented.

I'm actually more comfortable now since having a child, with more scars and wobbly bits than ever before.

Was only after having a child I have ever felt sexy aswell.

I think we all have deep seeded doubts. But should absolutely be open and honest. We only have what we are born with xxx

Learn to love ourselves ??

You've overcome so much xxx "

Sending lots of love your way ??

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By *cloversCouple
over a year ago

Hull

My body image is as low as low.

When I was younger I had a great body but my later years (and pregnancies) have taken its toll. I have a serious rare congenital condition that affects how my body manages life in all areas and over the years has caused changes to my form leaving me fat. Yes I'm fat & I know it. And that's probably never going to change now.

As much as I want to be that fat woman owning it & be confident - it's probably never going to happen

But I am here & many people with my condition aren't so I embrace the life that I do have.

And Mr KC loves all my wobbly bits

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By *ent_couple2019Couple
over a year ago

canterbury

"I have a terrible view of myself haha... Always too fat, to saggy, too many stretch marks, hate my nose (dno why) hate I'm too pale, to freckly too ginger lol "

Here's me actively wishing and admiring those that and freckly and ginger. Xx

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Mine has vastly improved over the years.

It was worst at my slimmest, with my father constantly saying I was like a back end of a bus and monitoring what I ate. This pressure eventually ended in various eating disorders. Which although are not active, I have to keep on top of my mental health.

I put a load on after having kids and maxed out at a size 22. I'm currently in the process of loosing weight. My attitude has shifted as I've gotten older, yes I want to loose weight so that I look and feel better. But it's also to look after myself, have a dodgy knee, less weight on it can only be a good thing. Am I ever going to love my wobbly bits and stretch marks, doubtful, can I embrace them as a part of my life story I believe so

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over a year ago

I tried it in the past but the tips have been the same since Trinny and Susannah's heyday - wrap tops, wrap dresses, wrap everything

and I wanted to wear more trendy things! I've mainly just been biding my time to becoming middle aged so I could wear age appropriate stuff that actually suits my shape

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve never liked my body but after having cancer a few ago and now being left with scars from it I figure life is to short to worry to much.

I am On a mission to lose weight that I gained after surgery and doing well and for once I’m actually liking what I see.

My body is never going to be perfect. It wobbles, has scars and stretch marks but it’s all me and tells a story.

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By *naswingdress OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I tried it in the past but the tips have been the same since Trinny and Susannah's heyday - wrap tops, wrap dresses, wrap everything

and I wanted to wear more trendy things! I've mainly just been biding my time to becoming middle aged so I could wear age appropriate stuff that actually suits my shape

Ah, trendy things. They're made for bodies that aren't ours. I think, fuck fashion if it's not going to include me, and do what I want. (see swing dresses haha)

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By *ent_couple2019Couple
over a year ago

canterbury

I can relate to this!

Very similar behaviour or feeling I have.

Cheri x

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By *ent_couple2019Couple
over a year ago

canterbury

"Suffered with body image through childhood trauma.

Had eating disorders and self harming to follow.

With therapy and weight gain I got better.

Modelled for years despite confidence issues, I know seems backward but was never contented.

I'm actually more comfortable now since having a child, with more scars and wobbly bits than ever before.

Was only after having a child I have ever felt sexy aswell.

I think we all have deep seeded doubts. But should absolutely be open and honest. We only have what we are born with xxx

Learn to love ourselves ??

I'm glad you're much freer of your demons."

Forever a work in progress for us all. Xxx

Have to learn to be kind to ourselves.

Life puts us down without us doing it to.

Remember you ARE amazing

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By *naswingdress OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Suffered with body image through childhood trauma.

Had eating disorders and self harming to follow.

With therapy and weight gain I got better.

Modelled for years despite confidence issues, I know seems backward but was never contented.

I'm actually more comfortable now since having a child, with more scars and wobbly bits than ever before.

Was only after having a child I have ever felt sexy aswell.

I think we all have deep seeded doubts. But should absolutely be open and honest. We only have what we are born with xxx

Learn to love ourselves ??

I'm glad you're much freer of your demons.

Forever a work in progress for us all. Xxx

Have to learn to be kind to ourselves.

Life puts us down without us doing it to.

Remember you ARE amazing "

Absolutely. Right back at you

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By *endydick.CumbersnatchMan
over a year ago

I've always been more purposeful than aesthetic. I've always enjoyed "doing stuff" with my body, rather than being hung up on the attractiveness stakes so form has followed function rather than the other way round.

Part of me is proud of where I am, the other parts curious and insecure. I'm not a chiseled masterpiece of masculinity who'll be buff and showing off in the gym. If the buff body builders are around me, I lose in the pissing competition for attention. I'm not a rake-ish catwalk model and never intend to be. I'm no babyfaced model who'll you see on a pretentious perfume advert. I have "the V" that girls lust over more from time cycling, hiking, running and rowing than because I want that look. I also have a whole host of battle scars from sporting and adventure accidents - some visible, some internal, and some mental.

I'm heading towards 40's and avoiding the "dad bod" but part of me would love to record what I am where I am in a introverted exhibitionist way. I'd like to look back in 20, 30, 40 years time and see what I'm like now and think "holy shit! I was that toned, athletic and adventurous back then!"

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By *naswingdress OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Changed my profile picture. My thunder thighs, lol

(hamstrings need work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can relate to this!

Very similar behaviour or feeling I have.

Cheri x"

For what it's worth, I absolutely love your look! You're really strikingly pretty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Changed my profile picture. My thunder thighs, lol

(hamstrings need work

You've got cracking calves!

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By *naswingdress OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Changed my profile picture. My thunder thighs, lol

(hamstrings need work

)

You've got cracking calves!

Thank you

I take leg day in the gym seriously

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By *ent_couple2019Couple
over a year ago

canterbury

I can relate to this!

Very similar behaviour or feeling I have.

Cheri x

For what it's worth, I absolutely love your look! You're really strikingly pretty."

That's really kind. Thankyou. Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I suffer with body image issues, lost over 4stone and developed an eating disorder, had treatment at the hospital, my weight has increased from my lowest weight. Which I’m not really happy about and I’m now discharged from hospital.

I think it’s always going to be something that I’m going to have a problem with but every day is a new day

Sexybrunette

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"How do you find your body image changing over time?

Today I saw a teenager with the thighs I used to really envy. Straight up and down, skinny. She was in shorts (in Manchester in February

)

Today I thought about how strong my legs are, and although I'll never look like a model with them, that I'm proud of the work I've done on them and the health benefits I'm seeing."

I thin age can definitely be an influencing factor. When younger I realised I was never going to be as 'gym fit' as many I knew and worked with, despite putting in all the effort which was hugely frustrating. Over time I gave up. Eventually I realised that it was better to be happy as I was than chasing an impossible dream. Life got better.

I think a lot of the pressure and issues today aren't helped by the media. Watching Love Island (sad but true) I can honestly say I'd pick Fox over any of the women on there despite that fact she has zero body confidence right now which gets me down just as much as it does her. We've both changed since our active days on site but I suspect the age difference between us plays a big part in why it bothers me less.

So many people these days are too focussed on competing with each other based on a photo or what they see on a screen, rather than reflecting on themselves and how amazing they are just the way they are.

Being unhappy about a few extra inches/pounds is never worth hating yourself. Often hard I know, but look for the positives - there will always be plenty to love.

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By *naswingdress OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I think for me, my body image issues have been mostly a symptom of my wider mental health issues. Once I don't need a laundry list of things to hate myself about, I really don't care that much. I care about what I can achieve, how I feel.

Everyone will be different of course, but that's where I come from. It was a symptom of broader insecurity, about which I'm much better than I was.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've reached an age where I'm at peace with myself and it's a good feeling. I'm far, far from perfect but I realise that the sylph like figure I always craved is not me and never will be. I think of all the things I've missed out on because of my insecurities and it makes me sad to see others making the same mistake. Having said that I'm on a constant voyage of self improvement. That will never change....but I don't let myself get in my own way anymore.

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By *naswingdress OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I've reached an age where I'm at peace with myself and it's a good feeling. I'm far, far from perfect but I realise that the sylph like figure I always craved is not me and never will be. I think of all the things I've missed out on because of my insecurities and it makes me sad to see others making the same mistake. Having said that I'm on a constant voyage of self improvement. That will never change....but I don't let myself get in my own way anymore.

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I've struggled a lot with body image issues. Mainly due to fluctuating weight and an ex that told me for years, no matter what shape or size I was, that I was fat, ugly and boring. I have A LOT of pics on my profile and I still don't associate the pics with me. It's been a long process but I'm starting to learn to accept myself, lumps, bumps and all. I'm more than just the outer packaging and I know that I'm a nice person on the inside x

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over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I've struggled a lot with body image issues. Mainly due to fluctuating weight and an ex that told me for years, no matter what shape or size I was, that I was fat, ugly and boring. I have A LOT of pics on my profile and I still don't associate the pics with me. It's been a long process but I'm starting to learn to accept myself, lumps, bumps and all. I'm more than just the outer packaging and I know that I'm a nice person on the inside x"

You're a gorgeous, adorable menace

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

Body image is really a misnomer for me. I do wish to be slimmer, but only for the reason that I believe clothes would hang better on me but also and by far the greatest reason is purely to be fitter and healthier.

I’m quite content that my arms are like pipe cleaners my pecs are more like boobs and my legs are offer little in the way of wind resistance.

I would like a bigger cock though but despite tying a brick to it, it doesn’t seem to be happening.

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

You're a gorgeous, adorable menace

I'll own the menace label with pride x

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

I’ve started to train in the gym and have started to focus on what my body can do, rather than how it looks because I’ll never be happy with that. I’m 6ft tall and built a bit like a rugby player. I’d love to be teeny tiny. Also years of being overweight haven't done me any favours, so how I look makes me sad, but the gym has given me something to be proud of which is helpful. Accepting the damage is done to my body and trying to wish it was different a bit less is helpful too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I could give one last message to the world it would be to love your body, don't let it hold you back. Some people only seek the perfect in others and themselves, which is fine but don't let it be the focus. Your HEART and MIND are the most attractive and fulfilling things about you and you can't see them !

I feel (lady here) disfigured by my caesarians ( and let's face it my weight ) and it was a BIG step to overcome. I am far from perfect but no body cares, nobody criticises, I've had my tummy kissed.

The best thing about people is the way they feel and react and how they connect. It surpasses everything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had issues like this all my life. I used to be about 28 stone when I was younger about 17 now. Always was a bigger kid but i ballooned after leaving college at 18 when personal and family issues kind of drove me to be a recluse and never leave my room, other than the bi-weekly trips to the jobcentre lol. Finally fell into a job, not in the trade in wanted but a job netherless. All that time I was also what I am now(Trans/CD/Tv Whatever I dont even know what to call myself)as some of my first memories are dressing in my mums clothes and getting in trouble for trying on the heels in the dresss up box in reception

. On top of that I have a large scar just under my ribs from an op as a baby i used to worry about this alot...no one has even mentioned it or noticed it. I used to think i had a small misshappen dick lol, Wasnt till i was here that i found out its a pretty normal size and i just had a tight foreskin which is fixed now!!

Coming on here and Fabguys helped me alot with my body image, but it very much can be a double edged sword. As i see some other Tgirls and real girls on here and think.. Im never going to look as good as them so why bother... But then I have got 800+ fabs in 24 hours on a couple of pictures and i seem to get alot of messages off straight guys. Makes me think I must not be that ugly lol!!

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By *naswingdress OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Oh scars, fuck, they're a head fuck.

I have one from being born, it's a funny story and I've never thought much of it.

I had two keyhole surgeries in my 20s, and due to the nature of them, I was desperately ashamed of the six little scars on my stomach for the longest time.

Got a much bigger scar after breaking a bone a couple of years ago, which for some reason I'm not ashamed of, even though it's much bigger and much more prominent than my stomach scars.

I realised that they, my stretch marks, and more, are my story. In the case of my scars, how I quite literally survived.

I'm not ashamed any more.

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over a year ago

"Oh scars, fuck, they're a head fuck.

I have one from being born, it's a funny story and I've never thought much of it.

I had two keyhole surgeries in my 20s, and due to the nature of them, I was desperately ashamed of the six little scars on my stomach for the longest time.

Got a much bigger scar after breaking a bone a couple of years ago, which for some reason I'm not ashamed of, even though it's much bigger and much more prominent than my stomach scars.

I realised that they, my stretch marks, and more, are my story. In the case of my scars, how I quite literally survived.

I'm not ashamed any more."

Our scars definitely tell a story x

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By *entileschiWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

"I've accepted that I'll never like my body, I used to live in denial about it but now I just accept what it is and that I'll forever be too lazy to actually do anything significant about it.

You make me question my sexuality

Thanks, I hear that a lot

Yea sorry, I'll stop messaging you soon I promise

It's usually from women

Your face is your fortune.

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By *orthantsblueeyesMan
over a year ago

Northampton

"Oh scars, fuck, they're a head fuck.

I have one from being born, it's a funny story and I've never thought much of it.

I had two keyhole surgeries in my 20s, and due to the nature of them, I was desperately ashamed of the six little scars on my stomach for the longest time.

Got a much bigger scar after breaking a bone a couple of years ago, which for some reason I'm not ashamed of, even though it's much bigger and much more prominent than my stomach scars.

I realised that they, my stretch marks, and more, are my story. In the case of my scars, how I quite literally survived.

I'm not ashamed any more.

Our scars definitely tell a story x"

That they do, I'm stronger for them

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over a year ago

"Oh scars, fuck, they're a head fuck.

I have one from being born, it's a funny story and I've never thought much of it.

I had two keyhole surgeries in my 20s, and due to the nature of them, I was desperately ashamed of the six little scars on my stomach for the longest time.

Got a much bigger scar after breaking a bone a couple of years ago, which for some reason I'm not ashamed of, even though it's much bigger and much more prominent than my stomach scars.

I realised that they, my stretch marks, and more, are my story. In the case of my scars, how I quite literally survived.

I'm not ashamed any more.

Our scars definitely tell a story x"

yeah i just laugh it off really now. Just say i got in a sword fight haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I kind of hated how I looked, thought I was a bit to flabby and didn't have the best hair etc, and always envied other guys for being much better looking than I was. Over the last few years though I started bouldering seriously and am probably in the best shape I've ever been in and people have actually commented on the change in me quite a lot which rocked my world. That combined with I guess a shift in mentality has brought about a lot more body-positive thoughts and confidence! Everyone here and in the world is beautiful in their own ways, and if they themselves can't see it it's up to us to tell them.

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By *naswingdress OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Oh scars, fuck, they're a head fuck.

I have one from being born, it's a funny story and I've never thought much of it.

I had two keyhole surgeries in my 20s, and due to the nature of them, I was desperately ashamed of the six little scars on my stomach for the longest time.

Got a much bigger scar after breaking a bone a couple of years ago, which for some reason I'm not ashamed of, even though it's much bigger and much more prominent than my stomach scars.

I realised that they, my stretch marks, and more, are my story. In the case of my scars, how I quite literally survived.

I'm not ashamed any more.

Our scars definitely tell a story x

yeah i just laugh it off really now. Just say i got in a sword fight haha"

My big one's a shark

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh scars, fuck, they're a head fuck.

I have one from being born, it's a funny story and I've never thought much of it.

I had two keyhole surgeries in my 20s, and due to the nature of them, I was desperately ashamed of the six little scars on my stomach for the longest time.

Got a much bigger scar after breaking a bone a couple of years ago, which for some reason I'm not ashamed of, even though it's much bigger and much more prominent than my stomach scars.

I realised that they, my stretch marks, and more, are my story. In the case of my scars, how I quite literally survived.

I'm not ashamed any more.

Our scars definitely tell a story x

yeah i just laugh it off really now. Just say i got in a sword fight haha

My big one's a shark

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By *naswingdress OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

And those who know, know the twist to that one

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield

I used to be slim and athletic and convinced I was fat.

Now I’m fat and I’m kinda past giving a fuck. I do plenty of exercise, but eat the wrong things.

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield

Also busily not giving a fuck about my scars. Each one has a story.

I do understand why folk get hung up on them, but they’re just evidence that I’ve lived a bit.

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I like scars and blemishes on others. They tell a story. They make that person unique. So why don't I like them on myself? I mean, I don't hate them, they are survival scars, but I dont feel the same about mine as I do about others x

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over a year ago

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over a year ago

"Oh scars, fuck, they're a head fuck.

I have one from being born, it's a funny story and I've never thought much of it.

I had two keyhole surgeries in my 20s, and due to the nature of them, I was desperately ashamed of the six little scars on my stomach for the longest time.

Got a much bigger scar after breaking a bone a couple of years ago, which for some reason I'm not ashamed of, even though it's much bigger and much more prominent than my stomach scars.

I realised that they, my stretch marks, and more, are my story. In the case of my scars, how I quite literally survived.

I'm not ashamed any more.

Our scars definitely tell a story x

yeah i just laugh it off really now. Just say i got in a sword fight haha

My big one's a shark

And I thought it was when you were wrestling crocodiles

*crestfallen*

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over a year ago

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By *ark ph0enixWoman
over a year ago

Teesside

"I like scars and blemishes on others. They tell a story. They make that person unique. So why don't I like them on myself? I mean, I don't hate them, they are survival scars, but I dont feel the same about mine as I do about others x"

Yes this is how I feel too. I hate mine and on occasion when I'm feeling vulnerable I hide them

Not easy when they are in that area. Other days I can flaunt then but those days are still rare

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

I went from skinny to large to medium and luckily have stayed at medium. I honestly don’t think I’m much to look at and it always surprises me when people say I’m good looking as I don’t see it. I guess I don’t have a positive look on my self image.

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By *naswingdress OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Oh scars, fuck, they're a head fuck.

I have one from being born, it's a funny story and I've never thought much of it.

I had two keyhole surgeries in my 20s, and due to the nature of them, I was desperately ashamed of the six little scars on my stomach for the longest time.

Got a much bigger scar after breaking a bone a couple of years ago, which for some reason I'm not ashamed of, even though it's much bigger and much more prominent than my stomach scars.

I realised that they, my stretch marks, and more, are my story. In the case of my scars, how I quite literally survived.

I'm not ashamed any more.

Our scars definitely tell a story x

yeah i just laugh it off really now. Just say i got in a sword fight haha

My big one's a shark

And I thought it was when you were wrestling crocodiles

*crestfallen*"

I fail as a person

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I’ve accepted my body. It’s not perfect. It’s not banging. But it’ll do.

Life is far too short and precious to waste it on worrying about cellulite, bingo wings and triple chins.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My body image is very poor. I was always the chubby one of the family, forever receiving criticism for it being put on diets and name called. I just got bigger as the time went by. At my biggest I was a size 30 and through that I became invisible to most people except those who chose to ridicule me.

I decided to take control of my body and lost weight, but I still see that big person looking back. I tried to be more confident but due to illness I’ve put a bit of weight back on. I’m never going to be super slim but hopefully I’ll get to a size I can be happy with. As for my scars, they’re part of me and don’t bother me x

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By *naswingdress OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"My body image is very poor. I was always the chubby one of the family, forever receiving criticism for it being put on diets and name called. I just got bigger as the time went by. At my biggest I was a size 30 and through that I became invisible to most people except those who chose to ridicule me.

You are beautiful and worthy as you are, however you are x

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over a year ago

I lost 5 stone a couple of years ago and went from a size 22 to a 12/14 and am pretty happy with myself bar my stomach. 3 kids plus weight loss has left me with a bit of a wobbly tum which I don't think I'll ever really shift

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over a year ago

Can definetley understand that big person looking back thing. I lost the weight quite slowly just by being a bit more active at work and not sitting at home eating food. Didn't really think I had lost weight until people started mentioning it.

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By *zQTWoman
over a year ago

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This pretty much sums it up for me as well. I never got to size 30 but compared to everyone around me I was the obese one

I had enough at one stage and lost it all and went to a size 8. Since then stuff happened and I gained all my weight again and I’m yet again the fattest one!!

But lucky for me I found fab when I did. It helped me appreciate my own body and realise being fat wasn’t the end all and something to be ashamed of (like I was made the feel my whole life)... someone out there would love me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cant get fully naked if it's not dark and even then I'd rather not.

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By *zQTWoman
over a year ago

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"I cant get fully naked if it's not dark and even then I'd rather not. "

I don’t even get fully naked for my husband ... and even with the lights off if he touches my fat I don’t like it

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By *naswingdress OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

One of my dear friends here helped me love the bits of myself I was ashamed of. (my thighs, surprise!) Obviously this was something that happened with trust. We met time and time again, and every time he'd touch my thighs a little more, and ignore my flinching and cringing, until I relaxed and was comfortable.

Part of this was my own work, part of it was the trust. But realising that it wasn't that bad, really helped.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My body image has become more accurate as I've realised just how fat I've got. At least now I can act on it.

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