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Irrational fears. You got any?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I’m usually a confident, happy person but the thought of dentists makes my blood run cold. Need to have all four wisdom teeth removed and the idea is making my knees shake. No bad experiences in the past, totally irrational....

What’s yours if you have one?

Oh and if there are any dentists out there who are willing to help me get over this fear, please pm me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mould. I can't stand it, it freaks me out and I can't even look at it nevermind touch it.

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By *orksRockerMan
over a year ago

Bradford

Earwigs, cockroaches and because of the latter.. I cringe when seeing dates still... Horrible bloody things.

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Moths. Any flying insect but especially moths. Eeeurgh x

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Butterflies

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Poo

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I share your fear op

Somebody i know had hipnotherapy for her fear and it really helped her ,she's since been for treatment.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I had to spell the word wrong as it blocked the real word!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

How long have you got

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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Spiders. That's dull though. I want like a really quirky fear, like red ribbons or something.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have an irrational fear of forums

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

?

Dwarves

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

OP you won’t feel any pain...just a little ‘prick’ at the start

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Most of my big fears seem irrational, but have really, really good reasons behind them. They just manifest unhelpfully.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Geese, those long necked bastards scare the crap out of me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bubbly things. Google Trypophobia, I can't as it'll give me nightmares!

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By *zQTWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere

Spiders and more so their webs!!

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By *irth.Minge.FireMan
over a year ago

Seen in far off places

Being alone on a cruise ship with Jane MMcDonald...

Urrrggghhh!...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suffer from misophonia, certain noises will give me a phobic reaction, sick, panicky, angry... Like an arachnoohobe confronted with a spider. People eating is the worst one for me. I live with a set of earphones in constant reach. I'd give anything in the world to be free of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being buried alive. Can't watch it in a film, I get the sweats, feel sick.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m usually a confident, happy person but the thought of dentists makes my blood run cold. Need to have all four wisdom teeth removed and the idea is making my knees shake. No bad experiences in the past, totally irrational....

What’s yours if you have one?

Oh and if there are any dentists out there who are willing to help me get over this fear, please pm me "
am at the dentist monday.i have two wisdom teeth that have been at one time or another had me in pain.however at the min am ok. Am now wondering if i should get them both out rather than wait till am in pain again?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have none I can think of, I mean heights yes but that seems rational to me. However, I know someone who has a buttonphobia and also someone with a Russell Brand phobia!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Being buried alive. Can't watch it in a film, I get the sweats, feel sick."

I don't want to trigger you but the end of Casino gave me nightmares. I had to actively neutralise that. Just honestly really messed me up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dwarves "

Lived with a lass who was petrified of dwarfs, she would freeze if one showed up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hospitals

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Some of my fears, I've partially recovered from with variations of exposure therapy. (What you really don't want to hear, you get over your fear by putting yourself in its path)

Others... no, actually, the fear is rational, risk still exists, and there's no way to eliminate the terror. And trying to process it might be traumatic. So tough luck, you've got to live with it

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By *antrelWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham/Cardiff


"I suffer from misophonia, certain noises will give me a phobic reaction, sick, panicky, angry... Like an arachnoohobe confronted with a spider. People eating is the worst one for me. I live with a set of earphones in constant reach. I'd give anything in the world to be free of it "

I have Misophonia too and it can be hard for other people to understand the intensity of feeling you can have from sounds that are innocuous to them. Certain noises make me want to rip the arms off the person making it or run away crying. I actually cried when I found out it was an recognised disorder and not just me over reaction as I’d been told countless times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Confined spaces and flying

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Heights where I cannot hold on to something, so essentially its a fear of falling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hard encrusted sugar coated sweets. (Cola cubes, cola bottles etc). Hairs on my neck going up just typing this. No idea why or how it started.

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester

The fear of having a small penis, not being able to perform, etc. Performance anxiety!

It's ridiculous though because my willy is fine and I perform fine..

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Spiders.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I suffer from misophonia, certain noises will give me a phobic reaction, sick, panicky, angry... Like an arachnoohobe confronted with a spider. People eating is the worst one for me. I live with a set of earphones in constant reach. I'd give anything in the world to be free of it

I have Misophonia too and it can be hard for other people to understand the intensity of feeling you can have from sounds that are innocuous to them. Certain noises make me want to rip the arms off the person making it or run away crying. I actually cried when I found out it was an recognised disorder and not just me over reaction as I’d been told countless times. "

Oh my god I want to hug you. Forty years of thinking I was just an irritable, intolerant bitch I hate it so, so much but I manage it as best I can and tell myself it could be worse xx

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By *zreal_rdgMan
over a year ago

Reading

I have a fear of not being a good enough father to my boys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a fear of not being a good enough father to my boys "

The fact that you care and worry about it is half the battle. I bet they worship you

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I suffer from misophonia, certain noises will give me a phobic reaction, sick, panicky, angry... Like an arachnoohobe confronted with a spider. People eating is the worst one for me. I live with a set of earphones in constant reach. I'd give anything in the world to be free of it

I have Misophonia too and it can be hard for other people to understand the intensity of feeling you can have from sounds that are innocuous to them. Certain noises make me want to rip the arms off the person making it or run away crying. I actually cried when I found out it was an recognised disorder and not just me over reaction as I’d been told countless times.

Oh my god I want to hug you. Forty years of thinking I was just an irritable, intolerant bitch I hate it so, so much but I manage it as best I can and tell myself it could be worse xx"

Knowing you're not alone really, really helps.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mould. I can't stand it, it freaks me out and I can't even look at it nevermind touch it. "

Yup

Same

Makes my skin crawl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *oyo5053Man
over a year ago

Bridgwater

Wooden icecream spoons and/or chip shop forks..i cant bear the sensation or even the thought of them against my teeth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Global Warming....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Theres nothing to fear except fear itself...

Franklin D Roosevelt 1933 inaugural speech

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By *lbinoGorillaMan
over a year ago

Redditch

It's not a fear, exactly, but an intense dislike of anything stuck to my fingers

Like sellotape that's gone sticky with age, and the glue gets left behind.

Brings me out in a cold sweat just thinking about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Moths. Any flying insect but especially moths. Eeeurgh x"

I(rabbit) have a bad fear, i scream at even the sight of them and im sure they dive bomb me cause they know im petrified.

I taken the shower head off before and chased one round my bathroom with it whilst i was in the shower. Good thing its all tiled

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Heights where I cannot hold on to something, so essentially its a fear of falling."

That’s mine and escalators ... stairs with nothing to hold on to

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By *zreal_rdgMan
over a year ago

Reading


"I have a fear of not being a good enough father to my boys

The fact that you care and worry about it is half the battle. I bet they worship you "

I’m very lucky that they do. I’m like a superhero to them. They are still young lol

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

A lot of my big fears boil down to one thing.

Last year I confessed this to someone who turned around and said, airily, "well, that's in the past, you don't have to worry about it any more."

That thing happened that very night

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By *ot-AshMan
over a year ago

London

I'm scared of Pigeons....They always seem to follow me in town and look at me funny...

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By *elshkinkyMan
over a year ago

south wales

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By *elshkinkyMan
over a year ago

south wales


"I’m usually a confident, happy person but the thought of dentists makes my blood run cold. Need to have all four wisdom teeth removed and the idea is making my knees shake. No bad experiences in the past, totally irrational....

What’s yours if you have one?

Oh and if there are any dentists out there who are willing to help me get over this fear, please pm me "

Rejection x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know that it's a fear per se, but I feel paralysed when I try to talk to someone new.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depths... I cant stand to swim and not see the ocean floor. Blame a combination of Jaws and living in Australia.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depths... I cant stand to swim and not see the ocean floor. Blame a combination of Jaws and living in Australia."

That's not irrational, it shows you understand your place in the food chain.

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By *lbinoGorillaMan
over a year ago

Redditch


"I don't know that it's a fear per se, but I feel paralysed when I try to talk to someone new."

I'm not quite that bad (and I'm not trying to belittle what you said) but I am nervous about approaching someone new, both in real life and on here. I never quite know what to say, as I don't have a great line in instigating small talk. So usually I say nothing.

Social shyness is probably a better term for what I have

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a fear of not being a good enough father to my boys

The fact that you care and worry about it is half the battle. I bet they worship you

I’m very lucky that they do. I’m like a superhero to them. They are still young lol"

I have one, my partner has three, all grown. The day will come when they're older and you can't be super dad and fix all their problems with hugs and sweets and toys. But then you move to the point where you form an adult relationship with your sons that involves mutual respect and support and love. You've got so much good stuff to come and you're going to crush it. His eldest is 6 ft 8 and gives the best hugs in the world

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By *asha86Couple
over a year ago

walsall

I'm the same with dentists...think its the noise of the drill and use of needles that I find so daunting xT

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Spiders and more so their webs!! "

Me too! They scare the crap out of me!

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)

Jelly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depths... I cant stand to swim and not see the ocean floor. Blame a combination of Jaws and living in Australia.

That's not irrational, it shows you understand your place in the food chain."

Good point Buddy...

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

No I have rational reasons for my fears.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes a fear of not getting paid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I (her) have an irrational fear of butterflies, moths and spiders - in that order.

I also have nervousness about heights, and confined spaces. These aren't full on fears but I do feel my anxiety levels increasing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being out far in the sea. Although im a confidant swimmer i just cant be far out nikki x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depths... I cant stand to swim and not see the ocean floor. Blame a combination of Jaws and living in Australia."

Im the same in those situations. Nikki x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes flying/ice/hospitals/clowns

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Confined spaces, claustrophobia

So I'm not a massive fan of elevators & don't find having an mri scan fun..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ankle socks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My partners got a shark phobia, I mean obviously being afraid of something that can kill you isn't irrational but he feels sick watching them on TV. Jaws affected us both, it gave me a life long love of and fascination with them. To dive with them is a dream for me and the idea of hell for him

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By *he Little Fuck MachineMan
over a year ago

Co.Antrim

Waking up during Surgery and being buried alive/trapped in a confined space.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Using the telephone.

Vomiting - or even gagging.

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By *aastyKnixWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Being buried alive. Can't watch it in a film, I get the sweats, feel sick."

Don't watch a short film on Netflix called "Paula". Just don't.

That fear is extremely rational.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I also fear myself

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria


"I’m usually a confident, happy person but the thought of dentists makes my blood run cold. Need to have all four wisdom teeth removed and the idea is making my knees shake. No bad experiences in the past, totally irrational....

What’s yours if you have one?

Oh and if there are any dentists out there who are willing to help me get over this fear, please pm me "

Nothing springs to mind but can I just say hope your dentist is male for pulling those wisdom teeth unless it’s a lady dentist who visits the gym, if so nothing to fear they will just pop out We met a lovely dentist off here once, hopefully you will too

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By *zreal_rdgMan
over a year ago

Reading


"I have a fear of not being a good enough father to my boys

The fact that you care and worry about it is half the battle. I bet they worship you

I’m very lucky that they do. I’m like a superhero to them. They are still young lol

I have one, my partner has three, all grown. The day will come when they're older and you can't be super dad and fix all their problems with hugs and sweets and toys. But then you move to the point where you form an adult relationship with your sons that involves mutual respect and support and love. You've got so much good stuff to come and you're going to crush it. His eldest is 6 ft 8 and gives the best hugs in the world "

I honestly can’t wait. What an adventure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a fear of not being a good enough father to my boys

The fact that you care and worry about it is half the battle. I bet they worship you

I’m very lucky that they do. I’m like a superhero to them. They are still young lol

I have one, my partner has three, all grown. The day will come when they're older and you can't be super dad and fix all their problems with hugs and sweets and toys. But then you move to the point where you form an adult relationship with your sons that involves mutual respect and support and love. You've got so much good stuff to come and you're going to crush it. His eldest is 6 ft 8 and gives the best hugs in the world

I honestly can’t wait. What an adventure "

You wait until they're looking after you. Mines almost 18, he gets rid of spiders and if I fall asleep on the sofa he leaves me a drink for when I wake up. It will melt you, I promise

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By *rjimMan
over a year ago

nr bristol

I have a fear of large breasts and pert nipples....so if any of you ladies would like to help me overcome this dreadful phobia it would be appreciated.

I dont care how long it takes.

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

Werewolves....I blame watching American Werewolf in London for this and I cannot stand hearing the song Blue Moon that goes with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Werewolves....I blame watching American Werewolf in London for this and I cannot stand hearing the song Blue Moon that goes with it "
blue moin you saw me standing alone

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

Yellow sweets.

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby


"Werewolves....I blame watching American Werewolf in London for this and I cannot stand hearing the song Blue Moon that goes with it blue moin you saw me standing alone "

Oi you! Shhhhhh before i stare down at you from my towering height

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Werewolves....I blame watching American Werewolf in London for this and I cannot stand hearing the song Blue Moon that goes with it blue moin you saw me standing alone

Oi you! Shhhhhh before i stare down at you from my towering height "
lol 6'7

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby


"Werewolves....I blame watching American Werewolf in London for this and I cannot stand hearing the song Blue Moon that goes with it blue moin you saw me standing alone

Oi you! Shhhhhh before i stare down at you from my towering height lol 6'7 "

I'm still taller than you without the heels

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Werewolves....I blame watching American Werewolf in London for this and I cannot stand hearing the song Blue Moon that goes with it blue moin you saw me standing alone

Oi you! Shhhhhh before i stare down at you from my towering height lol 6'7

I'm still taller than you without the heels "
true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Escalators

I can go up but freak out going down.

It's ridiculous- I freak out on the tube and picture someone falling on me and us all being knocked over like dominoes and crushed in the mechanisms

Big department stores are worse - glass sides and you can see the floor where you'll meet your maker

Awful

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby


"Moths. Any flying insect but especially moths. Eeeurgh x"

My second irrational fear...they're going to die!

Anything else that flies I don't mind at all but moths...just no

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By *arracksCouple
over a year ago

Deal

In the dentist chair for 80 mins yesterday,fucking hate it...3 anxiety attacks...when he asked me if I was okay,mr dentistry, please just get on with it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Mould. I can't stand it, it freaks me out and I can't even look at it nevermind touch it. "

I’ve never heard of this one before. Do you mean on food or walls and surfaces? What about blue cheese?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I share your fear op

Somebody i know had hipnotherapy for her fear and it really helped her ,she's since been for treatment. "

I might look into this...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Geese, those long necked bastards scare the crap out of me "

They can be really mean so I get this one...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Bubbly things. Google Trypophobia, I can't as it'll give me nightmares! "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Being buried alive. Can't watch it in a film, I get the sweats, feel sick."

Yes I have this too. It’s why I’m going to be cremated

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’m usually a confident, happy person but the thought of dentists makes my blood run cold. Need to have all four wisdom teeth removed and the idea is making my knees shake. No bad experiences in the past, totally irrational....

What’s yours if you have one?

Oh and if there are any dentists out there who are willing to help me get over this fear, please pm me am at the dentist monday.i have two wisdom teeth that have been at one time or another had me in pain.however at the min am ok. Am now wondering if i should get them both out rather than wait till am in pain again?"

Definitely yes!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

China dolls, I cannot look at them, they are always looking back!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a fear of the sea. It's ridiculous but open water makes me feel so uncomfortable and scared. Ugh the thought of what lies beneath and endless sea surrounding you and huge waves crashing is terrifying. I hate it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hard encrusted sugar coated sweets. (Cola cubes, cola bottles etc). Hairs on my neck going up just typing this. No idea why or how it started. "

Now that’s irrational but sounds as if it gives you a hard time

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Wooden icecream spoons and/or chip shop forks..i cant bear the sensation or even the thought of them against my teeth "

A bit like eating polystyrene huh?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's not a fear, exactly, but an intense dislike of anything stuck to my fingers

Like sellotape that's gone sticky with age, and the glue gets left behind.

Brings me out in a cold sweat just thinking about it "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’m usually a confident, happy person but the thought of dentists makes my blood run cold. Need to have all four wisdom teeth removed and the idea is making my knees shake. No bad experiences in the past, totally irrational....

What’s yours if you have one?

Oh and if there are any dentists out there who are willing to help me get over this fear, please pm me

Rejection x"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Jelly"

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By *antrelWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham/Cardiff


"Oh my god I want to hug you. Forty years of thinking I was just an irritable, intolerant bitch I hate it so, so much but I manage it as best I can and tell myself it could be worse xx"

Aww thank you Lola, hugs are always welcomed

Yes it’s a relief to realise that you’re not just a bitch. It’s good that you’re managing it - I always have earphones too x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have a fear of the sea. It's ridiculous but open water makes me feel so uncomfortable and scared. Ugh the thought of what lies beneath and endless sea surrounding you and huge waves crashing is terrifying. I hate it. "

I sort of get it

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Taking off, I do it so often but always think at about 50-100 feet that if a fuse blew or the engine stalled right now we’d be fucked.

The dentist thing isn’t irrational , wisdoms take some pulling the roots are huge, my dentist had to put his foot on my chest.

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

Since reaching my 50's I have an irrational fear of thinking that at some point I might care what others think of me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Taking off, I do it so often but always think at about 50-100 feet that if a fuse blew or the engine stalled right now we’d be fucked.

The dentist thing isn’t irrational , wisdoms take some pulling the roots are huge, my dentist had to put his foot on my chest."

And thank you for sharing that...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Since reaching my 50's I have an irrational fear of thinking that at some point I might care what others think of me."
i think yoooooooor greeeeeeat

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

Balloons.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Balloons. "

Condoms too?

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester


"Balloons.

Condoms too? "

Ha ha inflated only..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Losing be it anything people pets competitions anything

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I also fear myself "

Understandable...

Ice?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I also fear myself

Understandable...

Ice?"
yes ice as in skating on it less a fear more a me avoiding it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wasps... I can have a panic attack because of those things!

Sick

Germs

Drowning

Heights

Do exs count? I adored them once but now I don't wanna go near?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I don’t think yours are irrational and no the last one doesn’t count as they’re not a fear as such.

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By *edoriartyCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough

Rejection

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Stairs with no backs on.

I know that realistically I can't possibly fall through them, but they still give me the major heebie jeebies

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By *ng1983Couple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon tyne

Large bodies of water. It's worse if I cant see what's in it. Even worse if I can see what's in it. Fish. Weird little aliens that they are! And Achilles tendons. That's the worst. Have to physically walk away from anyone walking in front of me with short pants and trainers with no socks on. Makes me want to cry!

Gem

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Stairs with no backs on.

I know that realistically I can't possibly fall through them, but they still give me the major heebie jeebies "

Do you think this is similar to the fear of heights?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Large bodies of water. It's worse if I cant see what's in it. Even worse if I can see what's in it. Fish. Weird little aliens that they are! And Achilles tendons. That's the worst. Have to physically walk away from anyone walking in front of me with short pants and trainers with no socks on. Makes me want to cry!

Gem"

Achille’s tendon is a bad one to have. You must have an awful time in summer

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By *ng1983Couple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon tyne


"Large bodies of water. It's worse if I cant see what's in it. Even worse if I can see what's in it. Fish. Weird little aliens that they are! And Achilles tendons. That's the worst. Have to physically walk away from anyone walking in front of me with short pants and trainers with no socks on. Makes me want to cry!

Gem

Achille’s tendon is a bad one to have. You must have an awful time in summer "

It's an absolute nightmare! I love winter when everyone wears boots. Even in movies I shout at the TV telling people to put some boots on. Its ridiculous

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By *ayRosesWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Fish - even goldfish freak me out. Can't have one with eyes on a plate either.

And blood. Especially mine

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By *urvyandCurious999Woman
over a year ago

Hiding from twats

I really really don't like umbrellas and I don't know why

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

Vomit

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By *ampshirehotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire

Spiders and heights

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
over a year ago

BRIDPORT

Confined spaces , just thinking about them really give me the sweats, if I’m in one I just have to get out.

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By *ottielayWoman
over a year ago

by the bay

Deep dark water

Even though I’m a good swimmer

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By *orthantsblueeyesMan
over a year ago

Northampton

Heights for me, but I'm fine in a plane so I guess it would be classed as a fear of falling. I don't like looking at tall buildings as I feel queasy, even though I'm on the ground

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Believe it or not..my gf has to deal with my bank stuff...I can t open a statement even...makes no difference I'm comfortable enough..it's to do with a past partner..I won t even discuss money!!I get uptight minute it's mentioned..no interest in it..if I need knowledge bank is OK just get gf to look and nod if all good or shake head, which doesn't t happen, if not..crazy how mind works

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By *JsandstockingsCouple
over a year ago

warwickshire

Someone vomiting ... scares me to death lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Slugs. They’re the work of the devil.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Yep. Cripplingly terrified of moths.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I really really don't like umbrellas and I don't know why "

And you like in the UK

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yep. Cripplingly terrified of moths."

Moths seems to be a common one so at least you’re in good company.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Believe it or not..my gf has to deal with my bank stuff...I can t open a statement even...makes no difference I'm comfortable enough..it's to do with a past partner..I won t even discuss money!!I get uptight minute it's mentioned..no interest in it..if I need knowledge bank is OK just get gf to look and nod if all good or shake head, which doesn't t happen, if not..crazy how mind works "

That’s new

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None these days. I used to get spooked as a teenager by the idea of ghosts and demons and shit, but that stopped years ago.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Moths. Any flying insect but especially moths. Eeeurgh x"

I'm with you on that! Horrible feeling, makes me actually heave or freak out! I love butterflies though, not too close though

Peach x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Believe it or not..my gf has to deal with my bank stuff...I can t open a statement even...makes no difference I'm comfortable enough..it's to do with a past partner..I won t even discuss money!!I get uptight minute it's mentioned..no interest in it..if I need knowledge bank is OK just get gf to look and nod if all good or shake head, which doesn't t happen, if not..crazy how mind works

That’s new "

Tell me about it..my ex revolved everything around money which meant I was working 7 days long hours a week..only to find out in my last of 17 years with her that she d fiddled me big time out of almost everything...I know it's weird but there ya go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Falling from a hight. Even if I know I'm safe. I'd love to be able to go down a big flume, go on rides at an amusement park, bungee jump. All of which are safe to do so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Misjudging people/putting trust in the untrustworthy.

Guessing this is borne from getting it so wrong with my ex. I never had that fear beforehand, and now it is an actual fear that at times can have me in tears and having panic attacks.

P

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Misjudging people/putting trust in the untrustworthy.

Guessing this is borne from getting it so wrong with my ex. I never had that fear beforehand, and now it is an actual fear that at times can have me in tears and having panic attacks.

P"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Misjudging people/putting trust in the untrustworthy.

Guessing this is borne from getting it so wrong with my ex. I never had that fear beforehand, and now it is an actual fear that at times can have me in tears and having panic attacks.

P"

Only time can heal how you feel at the moment. When you are an honest , trustworthy person you only see that in others until they prove you wrong.

You will get over this and come back a stronger version of you. Sending hugs .xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being stuck in a tight space, unable to move my arms!

(So why did I take up caving/potholing????)

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By *orksRockerMan
over a year ago

Bradford


"Being stuck in a tight space, unable to move my arms!

(So why did I take up caving/potholing????)"

Do NOT watch the movie The Descent!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clusters!!!

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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"Bubbly things. Google Trypophobia, I can't as it'll give me nightmares! "

This ^ terrible it is.

Spiders and flying. And germs.

Are they irrational? Trypophobia is I suppose but I’m pretty sure a spider could kill me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Clusters!!!"

Beg your pardon?

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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Lifts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bubbly things. Google Trypophobia, I can't as it'll give me nightmares! "

I've just googled and that my phobia too. Didnt know it had a name or that anyone else shared it. People think I'm weird when they watch me destroy a crumpet!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are fears ever irrational?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't believe I have any irrational fears. Healthy fears for most of the usual things, which I think hark back to primitive times or are just commonsense survival instincts (some spiders can kill you and you might die falling from a great height, although it's more about the landing)

I'm not freaked out or fearful of anything weird like buttons or fish. The unknown I guessed, a very natural and human fear, but even the unknown can be known eventually. So I suppose that means fears can be conquered.... but I digress.....

No, OP the only time I experience irrational fears is when I'm not in a good place with my mental health.

Fuzz

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't believe I have any irrational fears. Healthy fears for most of the usual things, which I think hark back to primitive times or are just commonsense survival instincts (some spiders can kill you and you might die falling from a great height, although it's more about the landing)

I'm not freaked out or fearful of anything weird like buttons or fish. The unknown I guessed, a very natural and human fear, but even the unknown can be known eventually. So I suppose that means fears can be conquered.... but I digress.....

No, OP the only time I experience irrational fears is when I'm not in a good place with my mental health.

Fuzz"

Wishing you that good place 24/7

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Are fears ever irrational?"

I think so yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bubbly things. Google Trypophobia, I can't as it'll give me nightmares!

I've just googled and that my phobia too. Didnt know it had a name or that anyone else shared it. People think I'm weird when they watch me destroy a crumpet!! "

Think it's quite a common one actually so we're not all that weird .

And Babs, I read it's to do with your brain associating images like that with disease and/or death so you instinctively want to get away from them fast, so I suppose it's not completely irrational then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Traffic cones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sharks

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By *urls and DressesWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near here

Rats

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Rats"

Yeah rats. Have to agree with this one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m usually a confident, happy person but the thought of dentists makes my blood run cold. Need to have all four wisdom teeth removed and the idea is making my knees shake. No bad experiences in the past, totally irrational....

What’s yours if you have one?

Oh and if there are any dentists out there who are willing to help me get over this fear, please pm me "

Not a dentist but I would love to fill your cavaties

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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"Bubbly things. Google Trypophobia, I can't as it'll give me nightmares!

I've just googled and that my phobia too. Didnt know it had a name or that anyone else shared it. People think I'm weird when they watch me destroy a crumpet!!

Think it's quite a common one actually so we're not all that weird .

And Babs, I read it's to do with your brain associating images like that with disease and/or death so you instinctively want to get away from them fast, so I suppose it's not completely irrational then."

That makes perfect sense actually

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Rats

Yeah rats. Have to agree with this one. "

Yes

I don't like snakes either. I don't know how poeple can keep them for pets.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"Rats

Yeah rats. Have to agree with this one.

Yes

I don't like snakes either. I don't know how poeple can keep them for pets. "

I've had a pet rat and a pet snake

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Rats

Yeah rats. Have to agree with this one.

Yes

I don't like snakes either. I don't know how poeple can keep them for pets.

I've had a pet rat and a pet snake "

Oof

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"Rats

Yeah rats. Have to agree with this one.

Yes

I don't like snakes either. I don't know how poeple can keep them for pets.

I've had a pet rat and a pet snake

Oof "

Not at the same time lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a fear of the sea. It's ridiculous but open water makes me feel so uncomfortable and scared. Ugh the thought of what lies beneath and endless sea surrounding you and huge waves crashing is terrifying. I hate it.

I sort of get it "

Thallasophobia. Perfectly reasonable, in my opinion.

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By *angbangFantasyWoman
over a year ago

London


"I’m usually a confident, happy person but the thought of dentists makes my blood run cold. Need to have all four wisdom teeth removed and the idea is making my knees shake. No bad experiences in the past, totally irrational....

What’s yours if you have one?

Oh and if there are any dentists out there who are willing to help me get over this fear, please pm me "

I have an irrational fear of whales. I hear a whale sound or see it on TV or movies I get anxious. It's the sheer size of them compared to me...

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"I’m usually a confident, happy person but the thought of dentists makes my blood run cold. Need to have all four wisdom teeth removed and the idea is making my knees shake. No bad experiences in the past, totally irrational....

What’s yours if you have one?

Oh and if there are any dentists out there who are willing to help me get over this fear, please pm me

I have an irrational fear of whales. I hear a whale sound or see it on TV or movies I get anxious. It's the sheer size of them compared to me... "

Never look at me in a jacuzzi then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have this irrational fear of never winning the lottery, .. oh wait

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

but seriously, none of my fears are irrational. OK, they are not actually fears but concerns.

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By *B69Woman
over a year ago

Wiltshire

Maggots, can deal with all animals and insects but these I can’t go near or look at

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maggots, can deal with all animals and insects but these I can’t go near or look at "
termites

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

cockaroaches

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By *exicolaMan
over a year ago

West Lothian

There is this one flight of stairs that everytime I am on them I fear I'm going to fall down them.

But only this one flight and its in a railway station in Glasgow. Weird!

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By *B69Woman
over a year ago

Wiltshire


"cockaroaches "

Yes these too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"they are afraid of you, I know, they run like hell when they know you saw them. Crunchy little bastards"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"cockaroaches

Yes these too "
have you ever been in Spain or on a spanish island when a drain cover is lifted?

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By *urls and DressesWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near here


"Rats

Yeah rats. Have to agree with this one.

Yes

I don't like snakes either. I don't know how poeple can keep them for pets.

I've had a pet rat and a pet snake

Oof "

I had a pet rat thrown at me once, cute panic attack. Giving me palpitations thinking about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"cockaroaches

Yes these too "

what i just deleted because i forgot to quote

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By *B69Woman
over a year ago

Wiltshire


"cockaroaches

Yes these too have you ever been in Spain or on a spanish island when a drain cover is lifted? "

No and don’t think I want to, do I ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its a writhing mass of cockaroaches lol and big uns lol

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By *eoeclipseWoman
over a year ago

glasgow

There's plenty of things I don't like & will avoid like slugs give me the book so does clearing up sick & I'm not a fan of being in deep waters, I'm OK on them in kayak or boat though.

The things I get panic attacks over are rational due to past.

I can't think of irrational ones other than I fear that my body will give up on me when I'm just getting my freedom from parenthood which has been my entire adult life.

I actually love fitting in small spaces, spiders heights I'm not keen on but can do it.

There's noises that just flick a switch like whistling though.

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