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"You look good for your age."

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By *partharmony OP   Couple
over a year ago

Ruislip

Does this sound like a backhanded compliment to you? It always has the subtext in my mind of "you're old" and "I bet you looked a lot better 20 years ago" even though it's probably meant as a compliment.

We're certainly guilty of seeing people and thinking they look amazing for their age but we wouldn't dream of actually saying that to them.

I (Luke) would say somebody looks good without referencing their age. If somebody looks good, they look good, and that's it. Only if they bring up their age disparagingly might I say something like "Somebody 20 years younger would do well to look as good as you".

Have you ever said or been told "You look good for your age"? What fo you think of the statement?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just roll my eyes these days

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By *ussD1Man
over a year ago

Gloucester


"Does this sound like a backhanded compliment to you? It always has the subtext in my mind of "you're old" and "I bet you looked a lot better 20 years ago" even though it's probably meant as a compliment.

We're certainly guilty of seeing people and thinking they look amazing for their age but we wouldn't dream of actually saying that to them.

I (Luke) would say somebody looks good without referencing their age. If somebody looks good, they look good, and that's it. Only if they bring up their age disparagingly might I say something like "Somebody 20 years younger would do well to look as good as you".

Have you ever said or been told "You look good for your age"? What fo you think of the statement? "

If you look good you look good. The age has nothing to do with it. TBH as I’ve got older I’ve become more secure in my skin, I also find someone who believes themselves to be sexy to be a real turn on; body shape and age doesn’t feature as much as it did when younger.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get told this! How am I supposed to look I wonder?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've just turned 40, I get told I look young for my age. But I dont see it as a back handed compliment, It hives me a little boost if anything, makes me smile. Doesnt make me big headed or anything but i take it as a compliment

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

I find it amusing and smile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The kids in school think I was born in Victorian times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thankfully I've not been told this yet. I don't think they've cottoned on how old I am... I'm not telling either

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

Someone told me the other day 'you've a nice ass for someone who has kids'

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By *ad steMan
over a year ago

Southport

On a delivery the outher day the guy at the front desk told me he is 75 I said wow looking good he took is as a compliment I think it is more how it is said and who is saying it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve been told this numerous times. Someone even popped it into a verification recently.

I take it as a compliment, don’t feel or act like a stereotypical middle aged woman. I’m extremely comfortable in my own skin

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

I just laugh if others say it

My reality check is my lad.... mum you are still beautiful despite the wrinkles and grey hair

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Only last night we were laughing about this. Nobody tells a 30 year old they look good for their age.

Its the idea that it's a surprise that you manage to look anywhere near presentable after 50 that makes me go .

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

Happens in real life now not just here ... I guess because of how ancient I am in numbers that is ha ha ... certainly don’t act my age

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

God no I'm only 21 hard a fucking hard paper round

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Get told it alot but as the person has not seen my face its really not much of a compliment to me.

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

It's an awful compliment.

You look good for your age might as well read as you dont look so good anymore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thankfully I've not been told this yet. I don't think they've cottoned on how old I am... I'm not telling either "

You look good for your age

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

People never believe how old I am, if I took my clothes off they would think I’m a lot older

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does this sound like a backhanded compliment to you? It always has the subtext in my mind of "you're old" and "I bet you looked a lot better 20 years ago" even though it's probably meant as a compliment.

We're certainly guilty of seeing people and thinking they look amazing for their age but we wouldn't dream of actually saying that to them.

I (Luke) would say somebody looks good without referencing their age. If somebody looks good, they look good, and that's it. Only if they bring up their age disparagingly might I say something like "Somebody 20 years younger would do well to look as good as you".

Have you ever said or been told "You look good for your age"? What fo you think of the statement? "
a compliment is a compliment its meant in a positive way...... take it as such...... thats what I do

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By *heBirminghamWeekendMan
over a year ago

here

Take the compliment and be happy

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By *partharmony OP   Couple
over a year ago

Ruislip


"Someone told me the other day 'you've a nice ass for someone who has kids' "

As everybody know, women who have kids have terrible arses. I gather this has been proven scientifically.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup. Got this a day or so ago. ‘Hats off to you - you look amazing for your age- I’d never thought of having a partner my own age before’ . The last bit is the Freudian glimpse to his psyche.

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By *partharmony OP   Couple
over a year ago

Ruislip


"I get told this! How am I supposed to look I wonder?

"

I don't think you are supposed to look differently. I think you are just supposed to be a different age. I mean, come on. You're 45. Sort yourself out, girl!

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"Does this sound like a backhanded compliment to you? It always has the subtext in my mind of "you're old" and "I bet you looked a lot better 20 years ago" even though it's probably meant as a compliment.

We're certainly guilty of seeing people and thinking they look amazing for their age but we wouldn't dream of actually saying that to them.

I (Luke) would say somebody looks good without referencing their age. If somebody looks good, they look good, and that's it. Only if they bring up their age disparagingly might I say something like "Somebody 20 years younger would do well to look as good as you".

Have you ever said or been told "You look good for your age"? What fo you think of the statement? "

Life's short and full of to many negative grumpy people so I'd happily take it as it was meant, smile and say thank you..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m like a fine wine

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

Take it as a compliment that’s what it is, I don’t find it offensive at all, you wouldn’t be happy if they said wow your old? Thought you were much older than that, you must have had a large paper round ... just saying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some of us over 50 look like we've been through the headge in all directions.

But how are we supposed to give a compliment to ladies.

What ever we say or do is wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m like a fine wine "
really....... chablis

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

So it's ok for me to start telling people they look good for their height or their weight? You can bet your life of I did the latter I'd be mangled

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"Some of us over 50 look like we've been through the headge in all directions.

But how are we supposed to give a compliment to ladies.

What ever we say or do is wrong."

That's not true, a sincere compliment at the right time usually goes down well

It's the false ones where they know you're only trying to get in their knickers that are wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So it's ok for me to start telling people they look good for their height or their weight? You can bet your life of I did the latter I'd be mangled "
lol hey you look great for your age

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m like a fine wine "

I quite like a fine wine

If you look good, you look good, age is irrelevant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I sometimes get told im looking good for 55. I take that as a compliment as to how hard i try and look after myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get this a lot.. Along with 'that can't be you in your pics'?!

Syffice to say this approach has not worked for anyone with me lol

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay

Although people mean it well, it's an empty compliment. Dismissive to the person and boringly puts the emphasis on looks.

My ego is secretly stroked by it but mostly I see it for what it is .. a shallow gesture.

X

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"So it's ok for me to start telling people they look good for their height or their weight? You can bet your life of I did the latter I'd be mangled lol hey you look great for your age "
I

And you look great for your height.

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

I've not had the age one yet but I've had a few 'you look good for a bloke in a dress' ones.

Yeah cheers mate, you look intelligent for a slug

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

I look good for any age!

*practises flouncing off*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People used to think I was about 6 years younger than I was, now people only think I'm 1 or 2 years youngers that means I've aged rapidly. Haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get this a lot.. Along with 'that can't be you in your pics'?!

Syffice to say this approach has not worked for anyone with me lol"
you just got up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So it's ok for me to start telling people they look good for their height or their weight? You can bet your life of I did the latter I'd be mangled lol hey you look great for your age I

And you look great for your height. "
thank you no-ones ever gave that compliment before..... chuffed to bits

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

When it comes down to it I think we all know that it's intended to be complimentary but what I don't understand is why an older woman is supposed to be happy that a compliment is qualified by adding "for your age" but a larger woman can be insulted by the addition of "for your size".

If you want to compliment someone just pay the compliment, don't give with one hand and take away with the other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When it comes down to it I think we all know that it's intended to be complimentary but what I don't understand is why an older woman is supposed to be happy that a compliment is qualified by adding "for your age" but a larger woman can be insulted by the addition of "for your size".

If you want to compliment someone just pay the compliment, don't give with one hand and take away with the other."
sometimes its just a slip of the tongue like when a guy says to a guy thanks young man when I'm older lol

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By *partharmony OP   Couple
over a year ago

Ruislip


"When it comes down to it I think we all know that it's intended to be complimentary but what I don't understand is why an older woman is supposed to be happy that a compliment is qualified by adding "for your age" but a larger woman can be insulted by the addition of "for your size".

If you want to compliment someone just pay the compliment, don't give with one hand and take away with the other."

I did notice that you are quite tall for your height. I hope you don't mind me saying so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get this a lot.. Along with 'that can't be you in your pics'?!

Syffice to say this approach has not worked for anyone with me lolyou just got up "

No I'm still in bed... sticky...thinking about showering

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Although people mean it well, it's an empty compliment. Dismissive to the person and boringly puts the emphasis on looks.

My ego is secretly stroked by it but mostly I see it for what it is .. a shallow gesture.

X "

I tell people they look good. Most have looked after there bodys and i think there hard work deserves a compliment.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

I take it as a compliment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get this a lot.. Along with 'that can't be you in your pics'?!

Syffice to say this approach has not worked for anyone with me lolyou just got up

No I'm still in bed... sticky...thinking about showering"
if youre sticky I'm thinking about other things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've not had the age one yet but I've had a few 'you look good for a bloke in a dress' ones.

Yeah cheers mate, you look intelligent for a slug "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I take it as a compliment "
nice bum oh tanned one

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

I don’t this morning lol.. look like I’ve been pulled through an hedge

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"I take it as a compliment nice bum oh tanned one "

Oh thank you

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By *partharmony OP   Couple
over a year ago

Ruislip


"I get this a lot.. Along with 'that can't be you in your pics'?!

Syffice to say this approach has not worked for anyone with me lolyou just got up

No I'm still in bed... sticky...thinking about showering"

You're quite clean for your age.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I take it as a compliment nice bum oh tanned one

Oh thank you "
my Pleasure hopefully

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"I take it as a compliment nice bum oh tanned one

Oh thank you my Pleasure hopefully "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When we are out in company and people ask our age they never believe us when we tell them we are at the 50 mark.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

It is never a compliment. Quite the opposite.

If you like the way someone looks then to you they look good. There is no need to append an age reference on the end.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

A lot of people speak quite intelligently for morons.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

You dance so well, for a fat woman.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Your art work is so good, for a one armed farm hand.

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By *partharmony OP   Couple
over a year ago

Ruislip


"You dance so well, for a fat woman."

You're quite tall for your height.

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By *tunna13Man
over a year ago

liverpool

People always say I've got a baby face

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"People always say I've got a baby face "

Bald and toothless ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You look quite pretty on the end of my cock

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I just get told I look young

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By *ensual 2Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool


"Does this sound like a backhanded compliment to you? It always has the subtext in my mind of "you're old" and "I bet you looked a lot better 20 years ago" even though it's probably meant as a compliment.

We're certainly guilty of seeing people and thinking they look amazing for their age but we wouldn't dream of actually saying that to them.

I (Luke) would say somebody looks good without referencing their age. If somebody looks good, they look good, and that's it. Only if they bring up their age disparagingly might I say something like "Somebody 20 years younger would do well to look as good as you".

Have you ever said or been told "You look good for your age"? What fo you think of the statement? "
we do look good for our age ...so take it as a compliment ....flattery is always nice

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

Most people think I’m far younger than I am. I’ve had an easy paper round. Lol.

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By *oppolocosTV/TS
over a year ago

inverurie

I so rem_mber the first time my age became part of the discussion. Had a health check as I used to work offshore at times and at the end the doctor started with the usual "you're in good health" (those were the days) and then "for someone your age". Right then you realise you have started the second week of your holiday!

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By *oppolocosTV/TS
over a year ago

inverurie


"I just roll my eyes these days "

I sometimes struggle to get out of the chair too.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I so rem_mber the first time my age became part of the discussion. Had a health check as I used to work offshore at times and at the end the doctor started with the usual "you're in good health" (those were the days) and then "for someone your age". Right then you realise you have started the second week of your holiday! "

Ah doctors.

I'm on too much medication for someone of my age.

Without most of it I'd drop dead, so...

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By *partharmony OP   Couple
over a year ago

Ruislip


"I so rem_mber the first time my age became part of the discussion. Had a health check as I used to work offshore at times and at the end the doctor started with the usual "you're in good health" (those were the days) and then "for someone your age". Right then you realise you have started the second week of your holiday! "

I (Luke) work in insurance. I'm starting to find that I'm too old for some of the policies my company sells.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah, it's like when people say "you're so pretty... For a big girl!". If only I had a pound...

Once at a weight loss club meeting I was told "you have such a pretty face - you're going to get all the boys once you lose the weight!" . Really had to fight the urge to go "bitch, I already do!". In fact I was actually heading off to a third date right after the meeting...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People always say I've got a baby face

Bald and toothless ?"
lol

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By *r laidbackMan
over a year ago

London & New Brighton

I'll be 50 in a month and I'm told i look good for my age alot... i tell them i bath in goats milk and some of the silly fuckers actually believe me hahaha when the fact is, eat pu$sy stay looking young or it could be that black dont crack? I like to think it's the 1st personally lol

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby


"You look quite pretty on the end of my cock "

Please tell me you heard that said to you and aren't the one to say it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You look quite pretty on the end of my cock

Please tell me you heard that said to you and aren't the one to say it "
she hasnt got the cock just a robin in her garden

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's way better than some of the things said to me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been told that before yes. It makes me laugh because I think I just look my age

It's up there with when my old boss said I didn't carry myself like a fat woman..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's a very fair comment, we're not Benjamin Buttons...it's a fact of life that things usually deteriorate with age, so if someone weathers it well then it's a really nice and quite accurate compliment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's way better than some of the things said to me!"
like omg aren't you tall

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I have had a few gasps n giggles at some who have taken the flattery as fact....

It's all subjective

Who is going to say ..... oh fuck me you look miles older! Or yeah I can tell you are in your fifties but it's not polite to say so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have had a few gasps n giggles at some who have taken the flattery as fact....

It's all subjective

Who is going to say ..... oh fuck me you look miles older! Or yeah I can tell you are in your fifties but it's not polite to say so. "
exactly theirs Always method to madness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a compliment I happily take. I dont look 48 and I'm thankful for that. And I dont see it as back handed, age is an inescapable truth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's way better than some of the things said to me!like omg aren't you tall "

Or your hands are big for a lady

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's way better than some of the things said to me!like omg aren't you tall

Or your hands are big for a lady "
lol or what a deep voice you have for one so tall

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby


"It's way better than some of the things said to me!like omg aren't you tall "

It's usually blokes looking a little worried that say this as you look down at them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's way better than some of the things said to me!like omg aren't you tall

Or your hands are big for a lady lol or what a deep voice you have for one so tall "

I've had a cold.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's way better than some of the things said to me!like omg aren't you tall

It's usually blokes looking a little worried that say this as you look down at them "
yep figured that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's way better than some of the things said to me!like omg aren't you tall

Or your hands are big for a lady lol or what a deep voice you have for one so tall

I've had a cold."

And I think the Kinks would have described it as a dark brown voice !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont mind hearing that.

What I do mind hearing is "why are you single?" Or "I cant believe you aren't married".

Those aren't compliments.

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By *ishopstippleMan
over a year ago

Purley

No. it's a compliment. What is more important is how you react to it...

Too many snowflakes/paranoid/delusional/negatives on the forum.

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby


"I dont mind hearing that.

What I do mind hearing is "why are you single?" Or "I cant believe you aren't married".

Those aren't compliments. "

They're questions and they get answered very directly

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By *hampagne_Supernova_91Man
over a year ago

Manchester

I get it all the time in work, customers saying I look younger than I am. I don't see it personally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont mind hearing that.

What I do mind hearing is "why are you single?" Or "I cant believe you aren't married".

Those aren't compliments. "

It's just a way of them asking what's wrong with me I find

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By *partharmony OP   Couple
over a year ago

Ruislip


"I dont mind hearing that.

What I do mind hearing is "why are you single?" Or "I cant believe you aren't married".

Those aren't compliments.

It's just a way of them asking what's wrong with me I find "

It's a bit like them saying "Why haven't you lived out your life according to my ideals?"

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby


"I dont mind hearing that.

What I do mind hearing is "why are you single?" Or "I cant believe you aren't married".

Those aren't compliments.

It's just a way of them asking what's wrong with me I find

It's a bit like them saying "Why haven't you lived out your life according to my ideals?" "

Look at it as a way of them complimenting you for having your own mind and not being a sheep

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"When it comes down to it I think we all know that it's intended to be complimentary but what I don't understand is why an older woman is supposed to be happy that a compliment is qualified by adding "for your age" but a larger woman can be insulted by the addition of "for your size".

If you want to compliment someone just pay the compliment, don't give with one hand and take away with the other.

I did notice that you are quite tall for your height. I hope you don't mind me saying so. "

Not at all I am tall considering I'm a shade over 5ft.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I dont mind hearing that.

What I do mind hearing is "why are you single?" Or "I cant believe you aren't married".

Those aren't compliments. "

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"Does this sound like a backhanded compliment to you? It always has the subtext in my mind of "you're old" and "I bet you looked a lot better 20 years ago" even though it's probably meant as a compliment.

"

I don't see it as a backhanded compliment, simply a compliment.

Though when chatting I usually get "you don't look old enough to have a son that age"

At 46 if some people believe me to be mid 30s, I certainly don't mind.

I would add that, the chances are that I did look better 20 years than I do now I was certainly much slimmer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont mind hearing that.

What I do mind hearing is "why are you single?" Or "I cant believe you aren't married".

Those aren't compliments.

It's just a way of them asking what's wrong with me I find

It's a bit like them saying "Why haven't you lived out your life according to my ideals?" "

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"No. it's a compliment. What is more important is how you react to it...

Too many snowflakes/paranoid/delusional/negatives on the forum. "

I'd say it's more a case of too many insecure people throwing around insults when someone utters an opinion different to theirs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No. it's a compliment. What is more important is how you react to it...

Too many snowflakes/paranoid/delusional/negatives on the forum.

I'd say it's more a case of too many insecure people throwing around insults when someone utters an opinion different to theirs. "

15 all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When it comes down to it I think we all know that it's intended to be complimentary but what I don't understand is why an older woman is supposed to be happy that a compliment is qualified by adding "for your age" but a larger woman can be insulted by the addition of "for your size".

If you want to compliment someone just pay the compliment, don't give with one hand and take away with the other.

I did notice that you are quite tall for your height. I hope you don't mind me saying so.

Not at all I am tall considering I'm a shade over 5ft. "
so youre below average but your breasts look amazing for your age

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When it comes down to it I think we all know that it's intended to be complimentary but what I don't understand is why an older woman is supposed to be happy that a compliment is qualified by adding "for your age" but a larger woman can be insulted by the addition of "for your size".

If you want to compliment someone just pay the compliment, don't give with one hand and take away with the other.

I did notice that you are quite tall for your height. I hope you don't mind me saying so.

Not at all I am tall considering I'm a shade over 5ft. so youre below average but your breasts look amazing for your age "

Shall I book the ambulance now?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When it comes down to it I think we all know that it's intended to be complimentary but what I don't understand is why an older woman is supposed to be happy that a compliment is qualified by adding "for your age" but a larger woman can be insulted by the addition of "for your size".

If you want to compliment someone just pay the compliment, don't give with one hand and take away with the other.

I did notice that you are quite tall for your height. I hope you don't mind me saying so.

Not at all I am tall considering I'm a shade over 5ft. so youre below average but your breasts look amazing for your age

Shall I book the ambulance now?"
omg maybe...... we'll see

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By *ifeandhubby400Couple
over a year ago

Arse hole of nowhere ,Scotland

I get this a lot too but mainly aim at my body which is nice and i take it as a compliment ,just wish the same could be said about my face ......

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

So, is it possible to be 63, look 63 and look great? Or must I always look younger than people imagine 63 year olds to look in order to qualify for a compliment?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So, is it possible to be 63, look 63 and look great? Or must I always look younger than people imagine 63 year olds to look in order to qualify for a compliment? "
you look great whatever your age

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"So, is it possible to be 63, look 63 and look great? Or must I always look younger than people imagine 63 year olds to look in order to qualify for a compliment? you look great whatever your age "

I have actually lied about it, I'm really 36, I just reversed the figures hoping for compliments

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So, is it possible to be 63, look 63 and look great? Or must I always look younger than people imagine 63 year olds to look in order to qualify for a compliment? you look great whatever your age

I have actually lied about it, I'm really 36, I just reversed the figures hoping for compliments "
omg

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Merton

Just accept it as a compliment why does everything have to be offensive nowadays. I have not met one person that got my age right everyone says I look young do I get offended about it, no.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Just accept it as a compliment why does everything have to be offensive nowadays. I have not met one person that got my age right everyone says I look young do I get offended about it, no."

Nobody is bothered enough to be offended.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just accept it as a compliment why does everything have to be offensive nowadays. I have not met one person that got my age right everyone says I look young do I get offended about it, no."
agreed too many negative people see the positive ignore the negative

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Merton

it is really simple for everything people say you can play into it or ignore it, not for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is never a compliment. Quite the opposite.

If you like the way someone looks then to you they look good. There is no need to append an age reference on the end. "

You smell great, for someone that's just fallen in a cow pat

P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know I'm an older lady but get told this often. I take it as a compliment, which is how its intended 90% of the time.

For goodness sake life is to short to worry if it's an insult or compliment!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take it as a compliment xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is never a compliment. Quite the opposite.

If you like the way someone looks then to you they look good. There is no need to append an age reference on the end.

You smell great, for someone that's just fallen in a cow pat

P"

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By *mberWoman
over a year ago

Preston

I get it along with 'you're never 43'

I take it as the way it is intended. Which I always assume is a compliment

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

Look at the other way, would you take it as an insult if somebody said wow you look old for your age, the years haven’t been kind to you have they, I thought you were older. I know I would.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Look at the other way, would you take it as an insult if somebody said wow you look old for your age, the years haven’t been kind to you have they, I thought you were older. I know I would."
god you look good for 26

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Look at the other way, would you take it as an insult if somebody said wow you look old for your age, the years haven’t been kind to you have they, I thought you were older. I know I would."

I wouldn't be happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get that all the time.

And being accused of lieing about my age.

It’s boring after a while

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I think it's worth considering how we appear to others. If you're giving a compliment, don't you want it to be a compliment, and not just taken with grace because that's the thing to do?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I think it's worth considering how we appear to others. If you're giving a compliment, don't you want it to be a compliment, and not just taken with grace because that's the thing to do?"

It would appear that we must be grateful for what we're given

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I think it's worth considering how we appear to others. If you're giving a compliment, don't you want it to be a compliment, and not just taken with grace because that's the thing to do?

It would appear that we must be grateful for what we're given "

Maybe. But I'd want to know if my compliment landed as "ouch... oh, oh, I must rem_mber to say thank you"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been told I look good for my age

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By *orraine999Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere

I take it as a compliment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I take it as a compliment

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By *eddyBearBazMan
over a year ago

St Helens


"I've been told I look good for my age "

You do look very good lou xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been told I look good for my age

You do look very good lou xx"

Aww thanks, sweetie xx

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

People don’t usually just say you look good for your age though so they, they normally also say that they that they had you down for much younger and knock 10 years off your age so yeah it’s a compliment so take it

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria


"Look at the other way, would you take it as an insult if somebody said wow you look old for your age, the years haven’t been kind to you have they, I thought you were older. I know I would.god you look good for 26 "

Me and my fat thumbs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Look at the other way, would you take it as an insult if somebody said wow you look old for your age, the years haven’t been kind to you have they, I thought you were older. I know I would.god you look good for 26

Me and my fat thumbs "
i thought you said plums then

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria


"Look at the other way, would you take it as an insult if somebody said wow you look old for your age, the years haven’t been kind to you have they, I thought you were older. I know I would.god you look good for 26

Me and my fat thumbs i thought you said plums then "

I wish

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria


"People don’t usually just say you look good for your age though so they, they normally also say that they that they had you down for much younger and knock 10 years off your age so yeah it’s a compliment so take it"

Just read my own message, I’m not d*unk honestly lol just go the flu, think I best go back to bed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it is a good compliment yrs off looking after one-self

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

thankyou

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get people not believing my age when i tell them I'm 44, which i guess is good..

A late bloomer )

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"I know I'm an older lady but get told this often. I take it as a compliment, which is how its intended 90% of the time.

For goodness sake life is to short to worry if it's an insult or compliment!"

Especially at your age

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get told this! How am I supposed to look I wonder?

I don't think you are supposed to look differently. I think you are just supposed to be a different age. I mean, come on. You're 45. Sort yourself out, girl! "

Today I want to identify as a fossil

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By *uzzy NavelWoman
over a year ago

so near and yet so far....

Ive just aged 10 years as England scored a try... hubs yelling excitedly scared the hell out of me... lol

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By *eardyBikerMan
over a year ago

nr stonehaven


"Ive just aged 10 years as England scored a try... hubs yelling excitedly scared the hell out of me... lol"

They've an awfy long way back

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By *ensual 2Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool


"I think it is a good compliment yrs off looking after one-self "
Must be all that sea air

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

Umm I don’t know really

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By *ab50Man
over a year ago

bexhill

Male had here.. I hate being old... Check our photos and let me know if I look good for my age..

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By *ampshirehotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire

I'm always getting messages telling me that I "look good for my age" or "no way are you 49".

I actually take it as a compliment, even though I know they're only trying to get in my knickers!

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By *partharmony OP   Couple
over a year ago

Ruislip


"I'm always getting messages telling me that I "look good for my age" or "no way are you 49".

I actually take it as a compliment, even though I know they're only trying to get in my knickers! "

Surely nobody's trying to get into your knickers at your age!

That's a joke of course, but I think there are ways of phrasing these things. Saying there's no way you're 49 doesn't necessarily imply there is anything wrong with being or looking 49. Saying you look good for your age still has an implication to me that could look better if only you were younger.

It's like there's a compliment there and then suddenly it all tails off as you get to the "for your age" bit. It sounds like you don't actually look good but I can get an upside if I apply this criteria to my assessment.

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