FabSwingers.com forum: Do you believe in love at first sight?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Whilst I am single I do believe in love at first sight as well, that instant moment what about you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Whilst I am single I do believe in love at first sight as well, that instant moment what about you?

Me too shag , I'm just waiting for my cataracts to be sorted then bring it on

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

I believe in lust at first sight.

I think to love someone you need to know them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it demonstrates a lack of self control

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lust absolutely. Love isn't instant, it's something you build up, how can you love someone without knowing their flaws.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with Vine ( never thought I’d say that)

You can feel lust, but love, real love develops over time.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"I believe in lust at first sight.

I think to love someone you need to know them "

Exactly this

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By *lap.n.tickleCouple
over a year ago

sunny Manchester :)

I used to think it was complete bollocks but now I can't argue as it's happened to me. All together now awwwww

Blade

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By *zreal_rdgMan
over a year ago

Reading

"Whilst I am single I do believe in love at first sight as well, that instant moment what about you?

Yes and no. A strong primal connection that can’t be denied yes. But I believe love is grown over time

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

"I agree with Vine ( never thought I’d say that)

You can feel lust, but love, real love develops over time. "

I think we agree about many things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I agree with Vine ( never thought I’d say that)

You can feel lust, but love, real love develops over time.

I think we agree about many things "

We likely do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I do not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love, no... That develops with time.

Lust, absolutely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I fall in lust all the time!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didnt used to until i experienced it altho it took me a while to accept thats what was different about her its lightning in a bottle

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon

Instant attraction and lust. Can quickly lead to love, even in the wrong circumstances and when you should know better.

Doesn’t happen to me anymore though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Instant attraction and lust. Can quickly lead to love, even in the wrong circumstances and when you should know better.

Doesn’t happen to me anymore though. "

Maybe it's the heartache that some love

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lust. Yes.

Love is a lot more complicated than something which comes at first sight...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I believe in lust at first sight.

I think to love someone you need to know them "

I also agree with vine, but don’t tell him, he’ll get a big head

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

"I believe in lust at first sight.

I think to love someone you need to know them "

This i agree with.

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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

"I believe in lust at first sight.

I think to love someone you need to know them "

Exactly this

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By *orksRockerMan
over a year ago

Bradford

I thought I did, then got my arse kicked for the next 25 years for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

of course you can, the sight of someone can make your heart go pitter patter but then it may be the same effect as an erection, time and learning about that person brings true love

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

Yep and it happened to me and it was fantastic ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sure sometimes you just cant get away from the chemistry you have with someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure there is a right or wrong answer

We have all had different upbringings and experiences which has determined how our brains developed which has shaped our thoughts, opinions and how we view others and how we view relationships.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I believe in lust at first sight....

Love however, love takes time to grow and evolve.. hard to find and destroying to loose

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I knew I loved my man before I set eyes on him.

The first time we met, the first thing we did was kiss passionately. It was from that kiss that I knew we were going to be each others lasts of everything... soppy but so true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. Lust, yes but love takes time to appear I believe.

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay

Yes I do!

We can feel love and have capacity to open to those feelings whenever we want. If someone's presence and an immediate chemistry stirrs up feelings of love .. why not!

Sometimes you just know someone else's soul when you see them.

It doesnt have to make sense or mean that youre supposed to get married.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep I do , I met someone whist working in retail, I served him and what I thought was he’s girlfriend. I had butterflies the lot , I knew he was my dream man , spent 12 years with him , but the dream turned into a nightmare

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I met my ex I truly believe I loved her from the moment I laid eyes on her we just instantly clicked it was incredible, then after 7 happy years we grew apart to much busy lives got in the way and we split up, I have never loved any one the same as her and even now if I think about her I feel sad that we didn't put the effort in at the time to make it work. I fully believe in love at first sight but even with that you still need to put the time and effort into each other to make it last which is my single biggest regret and fuck up of my life so far.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Whilst I am single I do believe in love at first sight as well, that instant moment what about you?

I believe that chemicals on our brain can cause a series of emotions that make us excited and such about someone. But actual love at first sight? No

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I knew I loved my man before I set eyes on him.

The first time we met, the first thing we did was kiss passionately. It was from that kiss that I knew we were going to be each others lasts of everything... soppy but so true. "

Ahhh

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

I did believe in it absolutely but then I fell out of love just as fast so I have downgraded my belief to lust at first sight.

That is pretty damned good too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I believe in lust at first sight.

I think to love someone you need to know them "

This! Although I've rarely had anyone that I've lusted on sight. The last one that happened with, has changed my world xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I definitely think you could fall for someone at first sight, but I think it would take time together before you knew you loved them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel the need for lust

It’s been a while - I reckon I need to get out there again

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

"When I met my ex I truly believe I loved her from the moment I laid eyes on her we just instantly clicked it was incredible, then after 7 happy years we grew apart to much busy lives got in the way and we split up, I have never loved any one the same as her and even now if I think about her I feel sad that we didn't put the effort in at the time to make it work. I fully believe in love at first sight but even with that you still need to put the time and effort into each other to make it last which is my single biggest regret and fuck up of my life so far. "

Oh that’s so sad, can’t you go back to her and tell her? She may feel the same way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s attraction first, then perhaps lust. But as many have said, love takes time. Sometimes quicker than others but time all the same. X

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By *lap.n.tickleCouple
over a year ago

sunny Manchester :)

For those who like me thought it was bull me and gerry are coming up to our 1st anniversary and I'm selling up in my beloved Manchester so we can end our days together. You know sometimes I just can't believe how much we feel for each other but then I also can't believe it took me 51 years to really find the true meaning of love. All that from fab and a random club meet. You could make this shit up.

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

"Love, no... That develops with time.

Lust, absolutely. "

Would say desire rather than lust

It’s easy to lust after someone only to find they have nothing but what’s on the surface.

Love is an emotion that needs to grow

35 years in and we know what love is.

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By *urvySub87Woman
over a year ago

Near Wellingborough

It's not love it's "phoar, I'd do you" lol. I do believe that you can fall in love very quickly though. My parents started dating in the December, were engaged in the February and married in the November. 34 years later and still going strong. Definitely lust at first sight though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For those who like me thought it was bull me and gerry are coming up to our 1st anniversary and I'm selling up in my beloved Manchester so we can end our days together. You know sometimes I just can't believe how much we feel for each other but then I also can't believe it took me 51 years to really find the true meaning of love. All that from fab and a random club meet. You could make this shit up."

That’s beautiful

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By *lap.n.tickleCouple
over a year ago

sunny Manchester :)

That’s beautiful "

I've gone very soft in my old age but thank fuck that doesn't apply to all parts of me

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon

"Instant attraction and lust. Can quickly lead to love, even in the wrong circumstances and when you should know better.

Doesn’t happen to me anymore though.

Maybe it's the heartache that some love"

Or as you get older you feel the need to protect your heart?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

No I don't believe in love at first sight. I might define love differently to a lot of people though. To me the love you feel for your long term partner is built up over many years and very different to the feelings you have the first time you spot them.

Love at first sight also goes against the claim many make that personality is more important than looks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I believe in lust at first sight....

Love however, love takes time to grow and evolve.. hard to find and destroying to loose "

Absolutely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i believe in love at first bite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No never

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No never

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awww you look disappointed

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Lust but not love.

Love is more slow burning. One minute you think they’re a knobhead, the next minute you’d trek through fields of glass just to see them smile.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

Attraction, yes. Love, no.

You can fall in love with somebody you were attracted to when you first saw them but it doesn't mean that initial attraction was love.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lust but not love.

Love is more slow burning. One minute you think they’re a knobhead, the next minute you’d trek through fields of glass just to see them smile."
awww what an interesting analogy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No never

awww you look disappointed

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

"Lust but not love.

Love is more slow burning. One minute you think they’re a knobhead, the next minute you’d trek through fields of glass just to see them smile.awww what an interesting analogy

Let me know when you reach the field part

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

No,lust maybe

Not love

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lust at first sight happens a lot.... love at first sight definitely not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lust but not love.

Love is more slow burning. One minute you think they’re a knobhead, the next minute you’d trek through fields of glass just to see them smile.awww what an interesting analogy

Let me know when you reach the field part

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lol I'm in the field of dreams

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

Yes, but it’s difficult if it’s not mutual

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I believe in lust at first sight.

I think to love someone you need to know them "

I agree with this completely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do believe in love at first sight, or certainly something that is more than just lust.

I have lusted after loads of women but I've only ever been in love with one woman, my wife and that feeling was instant.

Why am I on a swingers site...well being honest, I'm a cheating c#nt with a selfish personality...

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"Yes I do!

We can feel love and have capacity to open to those feelings whenever we want. If someone's presence and an immediate chemistry stirrs up feelings of love .. why not!

Sometimes you just know someone else's soul when you see them.

It doesnt have to make sense or mean that youre supposed to get married. "

Oh, I really like this post! I don't know if I've felt love but I've definitely more than lust. Sometimes things just click and it's hard to explain with any eloquence.

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By *eonnieCouple
over a year ago

Worsley

For me love at first sight used to mean “falling in love at first sight”. Now I actually believe that you can love someone from the very first moment you spend with them, it’s that feeling that everything falls into place and you have known this person forever even though you’ve only just met..

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Absolutely not.

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay

"Yes I do!

We can feel love and have capacity to open to those feelings whenever we want. If someone's presence and an immediate chemistry stirrs up feelings of love .. why not!

Sometimes you just know someone else's soul when you see them.

It doesnt have to make sense or mean that youre supposed to get married.

Oh, I really like this post! I don't know if I've felt love but I've definitely more than lust. Sometimes things just click and it's hard to explain with any eloquence."

Exactly. Why box it off. An expression of love can be transient like other feelings. If I'm with someone for the first time and our chemistry is tangible and reciprocal and manifests in some way .. I am loving. Call me an old hippy but I happen to get the feeling that at the core of us all, we are simply pure love.

Sometimes the language we use or a fixed idea we have created about love can stop us from noticing when it's there and simply flowing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do I believe in love at first sight?

Only in hindsight.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do I believe in love at first sight?

Only in hindsight.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

Lust at first sight but not love.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By *orthantsblueeyesMan
over a year ago

Northampton

"I believe in lust at first sight.

I think to love someone you need to know them "

This

and it has happened to me recently

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lust absolutely. Love isn't instant, it's something you build up, how can you love someone without knowing their flaws. "

Till you're tested i don't believe you can know whether it's love

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah definitely OP

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By *he Little Fuck MachineMan
over a year ago

Co.Antrim

No. Lust and perhaps infatuation but definitely not Love.

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By *ucidityWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

I don’t think you can fall in love at first sight but I do believe that you can meet energetically and connect with someone in an instant. In a way that goes beyond lust and transcends these flesh prisons we are contained within.

Whether you each then have the capacity to navigate an over abundance of social conditioning, deep rooted trauma, societal programming etc. and feel inclined to commit to a life of learning and growing, mirroring to one another both the light and dark we have within ourselves and honouring that nobody can really belong to you and that we are all free, autonomous beings experiencing this world and that we will constantly change and develop...that’s another story.

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

Only lust...I don't believe that you can love someone that you don't know

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By *yx_InannaWoman
over a year ago

Burslem

The only love I believe in when it comes to love at first sight is childbirth and baby animals because who doesn't fall in love with babies.

Through pregnancy you love the unborn but you've never met them yet when you see them your heart explodes with love even though you loved them before having them in your arms for the 1st time is true love at first sight. (Also know that isn't the case for everyone but for most it is)

The definition of love differs but to me it's that feeling you'd do anything to protect the one you love even die for them. Their happiness is everything to you and being away from the ones you love is difficult. Of course there's different types of love but we're talking about love that has you besotted in that instant moment. There's love for family i.e. parents and siblings etc but it isn't as intense as your love for your child. Love of a partner can grow to the levels of true love but in the beginning it is lust which often fades or it grows into true love even that can fade.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

No........

When people you meet for sex tell you they love you , what is going on!!!!

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

No, there can be instant attraction but not love.

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