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"It's never ok to hit a woman"

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By *hMyGawd OP   Couple
over a year ago

Midlands

Should that sexist phrase not be

"It's never ok to hit a partner"?

Or is it wrong altogether, as in there are some situations where hitting a partner, regardless of gender, is ok? ie self defence?

Or does having a vagina qualify somebody as special and immune to any wrongdoing that could possibly justify a hit?

Is sexism ok against men?

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay

It's never ok to hit. Full stop

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Here we go ding ding round one

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

People seem to get awfully triggered by being told not to hit people. Just like with the laws against smacking children.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's never ok to hit. Full stop "

this is the real answer, gender has nothing to do with you being a bad person when you hit someone

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby


"It's never ok to hit. Full stop "

This, regardless of who they are.

Far too many of us have injuries or scars to prove this should never happen to anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Should that sexist phrase not be

"It's never ok to hit a partner"?

Or is it wrong altogether, as in there are some situations where hitting a partner, regardless of gender, is ok? ie self defence?

Or does having a vagina qualify somebody as special and immune to any wrongdoing that could possibly justify a hit?

Is sexism ok against men?"
violence in any form isn't good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do not agree with hitting unless you are hitting your goals x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Should that sexist phrase not be

"It's never ok to hit a partner"?

Or is it wrong altogether, as in there are some situations where hitting a partner, regardless of gender, is ok? ie self defence?

Or does having a vagina qualify somebody as special and immune to any wrongdoing that could possibly justify a hit?

Is sexism ok against men?"

Selef defense is the use of equal or reasonable force but even in that situation I'd not hit anyone, violence is never the answer regardless of the situation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

https://youtu.be/rksKvZoUCPQ

This should help^^^^

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Violence is violence regardless of gender.

Though I think this kind of sexism happens from when children are little. Where boys will be boys if they end up fighting, but if they fight with a girl all hell breaks loose. In my opinion they are both equally as bad and should be punished in the same way.

We're heading in the right direction, I think men are more likely to talk about abuse these days compared to my father's generation. Still a long way to way to go, until we stop labelling each other and treating each other as equals.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s not okay to hit unless in self defence.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Violence is violence regardless of gender.

Though I think this kind of sexism happens from when children are little. Where boys will be boys if they end up fighting, but if they fight with a girl all hell breaks loose. In my opinion they are both equally as bad and should be punished in the same way.

We're heading in the right direction, I think men are more likely to talk about abuse these days compared to my father's generation. Still a long way to way to go, until we stop labelling each other and treating each other as equals."

Why am I the one who goes to the bar and get the drinks if we're equal

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"It's never ok to hit. Full stop

this is the real answer, gender has nothing to do with you being a bad person when you hit someone"

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"Violence is violence regardless of gender.

Though I think this kind of sexism happens from when children are little. Where boys will be boys if they end up fighting, but if they fight with a girl all hell breaks loose. In my opinion they are both equally as bad and should be punished in the same way.

We're heading in the right direction, I think men are more likely to talk about abuse these days compared to my father's generation. Still a long way to way to go, until we stop labelling each other and treating each other as equals.

Why am I the one who goes to the bar and get the drinks if we're equal "

Clearly dating the wrong kind of people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's never ok to hit anyone??

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby


"Violence is violence regardless of gender.

Though I think this kind of sexism happens from when children are little. Where boys will be boys if they end up fighting, but if they fight with a girl all hell breaks loose. In my opinion they are both equally as bad and should be punished in the same way.

We're heading in the right direction, I think men are more likely to talk about abuse these days compared to my father's generation. Still a long way to way to go, until we stop labelling each other and treating each other as equals.

Why am I the one who goes to the bar and get the drinks if we're equal "

Height and chivalry. Plus it's nice to be nice and have you ever stood at a bar in high heels? That makes your feet hurt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's never ok to hit anyone??"
i said that

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby


"It's never ok to hit anyone??"

Self defence only in my book if there is no other option but that's it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Violence is violence regardless of gender.

Though I think this kind of sexism happens from when children are little. Where boys will be boys if they end up fighting, but if they fight with a girl all hell breaks loose. In my opinion they are both equally as bad and should be punished in the same way.

We're heading in the right direction, I think men are more likely to talk about abuse these days compared to my father's generation. Still a long way to way to go, until we stop labelling each other and treating each other as equals.

Why am I the one who goes to the bar and get the drinks if we're equal

Height and chivalry. Plus it's nice to be nice and have you ever stood at a bar in high heels? That makes your feet hurt "

Fair point, might start wearing them to get out of going bar

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's never ok to hit anyone??i said that "

You don't expect me to read more than the OP surely

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Violence is never the answer regarldless of who is doing the hitting or being hit. People who do are the lowest of the low. No matter how frustrated upset or annoyed you are you should never lash out. Walk away before it gets to that point. Any women who thinks because they are female it gives them a free pass to hit because they know a lot of guys won't hit back are some of the worst.

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby


"It's never ok to hit anyone??i said that

You don't expect me to read more than the OP surely "

I expect nothing from anyone and that way when nice things happen it's always a lovely surprise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's never ok to hit anyone??i said that

You don't expect me to read more than the OP surely "
lol true i generally don't

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Using violence against another is never right.

Glad you made the point you did O.P. but the 'woman' thing has stuck from when women were chattel and beating them was legal.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

Meet violence with violence. In these days of equality, i wouldn't worry about gender if struck first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Meet violence with violence. In these days of equality, i wouldn't worry about gender if struck first. "

Haha I like it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Using violence against another is never right.

Glad you made the point you did O.P. but the 'woman' thing has stuck from when women were chattel and beating them was legal.

"

As it need legalized? Damn I didn't know that

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Should that sexist phrase not be

"It's never ok to hit a partner"?

Or is it wrong altogether, as in there are some situations where hitting a partner, regardless of gender, is ok? ie self defence?

Or does having a vagina qualify somebody as special and immune to any wrongdoing that could possibly justify a hit?

Is sexism ok against men?

Selef defense is the use of equal or reasonable force but even in that situation I'd not hit anyone, violence is never the answer regardless of the situation. "

Having been bottled by a d*unk woman when running a bar years ago, who then attempted to stick the broken end in my face? I was more than happy to use physical force to prevent that.

Self defence is always justified whether you're defending yourself from a man or a woman.

Gender isn't relevant when someone is physically attacking you. Or are you suggesting men should just stand and take it if being assaulted by a female?

A

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Using violence against another is never right.

Glad you made the point you did O.P. but the 'woman' thing has stuck from when women were chattel and beating them was legal.

As it need legalized? Damn I didn't know that"

Yes dear. Don't leave any bruises.

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

Self defence is perfectly ok.

Don't lash out at people, then play the sex card. It doesn't and should never work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

U hit me the wrong way hard enough i dont care if your man woman kid dog fluffy rabbit u should expect getting a chin wobbler or at the minimum u will fear it

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"U hit me the wrong way hard enough i dont care if your man woman kid dog fluffy rabbit u should expect getting a chin wobbler or at the minimum u will fear it"

You'll hurt yourself with a chin, always go for the throat. Everyone has a glass throat...

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By *hatYorkLadMan
over a year ago

York

My friend in the police says d*unk women are usually worse than men for violence, particularly against men as they know most (myself included) won't hit back. His take though is that if she's big enough to swing for him for doing his job then she's big enough to be put on her arse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My friend in the police says d*unk women are usually worse than men for violence, particularly against men as they know most (myself included) won't hit back. His take though is that if she's big enough to swing for him for doing his job then she's big enough to be put on her arse."

If a woman went to sctrach my eyes out, she would wake up with a crowd round her

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By *aughtyhotlipsWoman
over a year ago

belfast


"I do not agree with hitting unless you are hitting your goals x "

Best reply I've seen

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By *r laidbackMan
over a year ago

London & New Brighton


"It's never ok to hit. Full stop "

I dont know about it never being ok full stop... like in everything in life theres a time where it is needed full stop.... I was a head doorman for over 15yrs and i witnessed many times the ugly side of what should have been good nights out. Ive stopped women from burying their high heels into another persons heads both male and females, bottle and glassing... i love women and would never go out my way to hurt them but as beautiful as they are.. drugs,alcohol. just a real bad day can bring out a dark side and everyone has the right to defend themselves, so if your a woman talk, shout as loud as you want, water of a ducks back... but come at me to cause me pain and its lights out for you same as i would any man... if you can give it best be sure you can take it, that you cant hit a woman shit is not the real world we live in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My friend in the police says d*unk women are usually worse than men for violence, particularly against men as they know most (myself included) won't hit back. His take though is that if she's big enough to swing for him for doing his job then she's big enough to be put on her arse."

A lot of men think they can get away with hitting a woman because she won't hit back. It's happened to me more than once.... But never more than once with the same person. They reeeeally don't like it.

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"It's never ok to hit. Full stop "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's never ok to hit. Full stop "

Where does pre-emptive strike sit then; self defence before waiting to be hit.

Someone coming at you with a bottle male or female is fair game without ever having to actually touch me. Not gonna wait till I look like a pin cushion before considering fighting back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I must admit I didn't like the opening post which seems at best an uncomfortable attempt to equate sexism to domestic violence.

But the way the thread has gone and the way some men seem to be revelling in the fact that they'd use violence against women as self defence while not adding the slightest hint of a caveat such as 'as a last resort' and describing way more than what most people would describe as self defence is a little shocking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"U hit me the wrong way hard enough i dont care if your man woman kid dog fluffy rabbit u should expect getting a chin wobbler or at the minimum u will fear it

You'll hurt yourself with a chin, always go for the throat. Everyone has a glass throat..."
been there almost went wrong so i aim high these days

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"I must admit I didn't like the opening post which seems at best an uncomfortable attempt to equate sexism to domestic violence.

But the way the thread has gone and the way some men seem to be revelling in the fact that they'd use violence against women as self defence while not adding the slightest hint of a caveat such as 'as a last resort' and describing way more than what most people would describe as self defence is a little shocking"

Really? Because I'm not even surprised.

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By *r_Jake70Man
over a year ago

London


"Is sexism ok against men?"

There’s no such things a sexism against men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I must admit I didn't like the opening post which seems at best an uncomfortable attempt to equate sexism to domestic violence.

But the way the thread has gone and the way some men seem to be revelling in the fact that they'd use violence against women as self defence while not adding the slightest hint of a caveat such as 'as a last resort' and describing way more than what most people would describe as self defence is a little shocking"

Where has anyone given an example of 'way more' than self defence?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I must admit I didn't like the opening post which seems at best an uncomfortable attempt to equate sexism to domestic violence.

But the way the thread has gone and the way some men seem to be revelling in the fact that they'd use violence against women as self defence while not adding the slightest hint of a caveat such as 'as a last resort' and describing way more than what most people would describe as self defence is a little shocking

Really? Because I'm not even surprised."

Oh I'm not surprised. It's still shocking though

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By *r_Jake70Man
over a year ago

London


"I must admit I didn't like the opening post which seems at best an uncomfortable attempt to equate sexism to domestic violence.

But the way the thread has gone and the way some men seem to be revelling in the fact that they'd use violence against women as self defence while not adding the slightest hint of a caveat such as 'as a last resort' and describing way more than what most people would describe as self defence is a little shocking

Where has anyone given an example of 'way more' than self defence? "

Because there’s always a lot of misogyny in the forums, (and in real life obviously), and men live to justify it with extreme examples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I must admit I didn't like the opening post which seems at best an uncomfortable attempt to equate sexism to domestic violence.

But the way the thread has gone and the way some men seem to be revelling in the fact that they'd use violence against women as self defence while not adding the slightest hint of a caveat such as 'as a last resort' and describing way more than what most people would describe as self defence is a little shocking

Where has anyone given an example of 'way more' than self defence? "

'She would wake up with a crowd around her'

'Always go for the throat'

'Should expect a chin wobbler or at least fear it'

Need I go on?

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"I must admit I didn't like the opening post which seems at best an uncomfortable attempt to equate sexism to domestic violence.

But the way the thread has gone and the way some men seem to be revelling in the fact that they'd use violence against women as self defence while not adding the slightest hint of a caveat such as 'as a last resort' and describing way more than what most people would describe as self defence is a little shocking

Really? Because I'm not even surprised.

Oh I'm not surprised. It's still shocking though "

Maybe I'm desensitized to this shit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The time it is ok to hit a woman is if dinner is late again and she hasn’t brought you a beer.

I joke of course it isn’t ok unless it’s self defence or sparring.

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

I don’t mind being hit by a man... in the tonsils.... with his dick.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t mind being hit by a man... in the tonsils.... with his dick..... "

What about on the arse with a open hand as he is banging away?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think some people are trying to say that women are the weaker sex, am I correct?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hitting, pushing, shoving, even touching is, potentially at least, an assault. Theoretically therefore, one should never hit anyone. However, in play, with consent, controlled it's morally ok as long as it's for mutual benefit. Be aware, technically it is still a chargeable offence.

Just don't hit people who don't want hit, ever, and we'll all be good!

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire


"I don’t mind being hit by a man... in the tonsils.... with his dick.....

What about on the arse with a open hand as he is banging away?"

Oh... I suppose So.... if I must

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do not agree with hitting unless you are hitting your goals x "

I'd hit that.

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire


"I think some people are trying to say that women are the weaker sex, am I correct? "

Yep. I AM though. But of course that’s not true of all women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's never ok to hit anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hitting, pushing, shoving, even touching is, potentially at least, an assault. Theoretically therefore, one should never hit anyone. However, in play, with consent, controlled it's morally ok as long as it's for mutual benefit. Be aware, technically it is still a chargeable offence.

Just don't hit people who don't want hit, ever, and we'll all be good!"

If only the world was like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I must admit I didn't like the opening post which seems at best an uncomfortable attempt to equate sexism to domestic violence.

But the way the thread has gone and the way some men seem to be revelling in the fact that they'd use violence against women as self defence while not adding the slightest hint of a caveat such as 'as a last resort' and describing way more than what most people would describe as self defence is a little shocking

Where has anyone given an example of 'way more' than self defence?

'She would wake up with a crowd around her'

'Always go for the throat'

'Should expect a chin wobbler or at least fear it'

Need I go on?"

You seem to have missed the caveats,

If a woman went to sctrach my eyes out, she would wake up with a crowd round her

U hit me the wrong way....

And really your example of way more includes fearing getting struck after hitting someone?

Pre-emptive strikes in law and what is taught to sia staff, police etc. hit hard once to neutralise the threat not hit lightly three or fou times and take a kicking yourself. This is not gender specific this is about protecting yourself or others from harm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I must admit I didn't like the opening post which seems at best an uncomfortable attempt to equate sexism to domestic violence.

But the way the thread has gone and the way some men seem to be revelling in the fact that they'd use violence against women as self defence while not adding the slightest hint of a caveat such as 'as a last resort' and describing way more than what most people would describe as self defence is a little shocking

Where has anyone given an example of 'way more' than self defence?

'She would wake up with a crowd around her'

'Always go for the throat'

'Should expect a chin wobbler or at least fear it'

Need I go on?

You seem to have missed the caveats,

If a woman went to sctrach my eyes out, she would wake up with a crowd round her

U hit me the wrong way....

And really your example of way more includes fearing getting struck after hitting someone?

Pre-emptive strikes in law and what is taught to sia staff, police etc. hit hard once to neutralise the threat not hit lightly three or fou times and take a kicking yourself. This is not gender specific this is about protecting yourself or others from harm"

Let's just agree to disagree about what is self defence, what is appropriate force and a proportionate response and what is men revelling in excessive violence against women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What a tangled Web we weave

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t mind being hit by a man... in the tonsils.... with his dick.....

What about on the arse with a open hand as he is banging away?

Oh... I suppose So.... if I must "

If you don’t like that kind of thing it’s ok. I suppose that’s how porn has ruined people’s ideas of sex.

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire


"I don’t mind being hit by a man... in the tonsils.... with his dick.....

What about on the arse with a open hand as he is banging away?

Oh... I suppose So.... if I must

If you don’t like that kind of thing it’s ok. I suppose that’s how porn has ruined people’s ideas of sex. "

I do like it. It’s like sugar sprinkled on top.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Let's just agree to disagree about what is self defence, what is appropriate force and a proportionate response and what is men revelling in excessive violence against women.

"

No bother, for clarity I am not supportive of violence against any person unless as a last resort and the option to run away is not there

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By *oft_SensualTV/TS
over a year ago

Yorkshire

I think the original message in context is domestic violence against women, or indeed anyone, is unacceptable, as historically and scientifically speaking DV and violence are largely, although not 100%, male issues. Female perpetrators of DV do exist, obviously.

I don't think it's sexist to say 'it's never OK it hit a woman'- this is a valid statement given the huge levels of violence perpetrated against women by men. Lets not conflate perceived sexism and the problem at hand.

And before you ask, I've had 18 years experience dealing with DV in a professional setting and seen some horrendous murders of women by men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t mind being hit by a man... in the tonsils.... with his dick.....

What about on the arse with a open hand as he is banging away?

Oh... I suppose So.... if I must

If you don’t like that kind of thing it’s ok. I suppose that’s how porn has ruined people’s ideas of sex.

I do like it. It’s like sugar sprinkled on top. "

I wouldn’t mind sprinkling more than sugar on top of you.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Should that sexist phrase not be

"It's never ok to hit a partner"?

Or is it wrong altogether, as in there are some situations where hitting a partner, regardless of gender, is ok? ie self defence?

Or does having a vagina qualify somebody as special and immune to any wrongdoing that could possibly justify a hit?

Is sexism ok against men?"

It's pretty much like "Black lives matter"

Of course all lives matter. But "Black lives matter" is also correct.

Yes, hitting any partner is bad. Hitting a woman is also bad. So nothing wrong in saying that.

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

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"Violence is violence regardless of gender.

Though I think this kind of sexism happens from when children are little. Where boys will be boys if they end up fighting, but if they fight with a girl all hell breaks loose. In my opinion they are both equally as bad and should be punished in the same way.

We're heading in the right direction, I think men are more likely to talk about abuse these days compared to my father's generation. Still a long way to way to go, until we stop labelling each other and treating each other as equals.

Why am I the one who goes to the bar and get the drinks if we're equal "

Well thats your own stupid fault for hanging out with women that dont get a round in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Violence is violence regardless of gender.

Though I think this kind of sexism happens from when children are little. Where boys will be boys if they end up fighting, but if they fight with a girl all hell breaks loose. In my opinion they are both equally as bad and should be punished in the same way.

We're heading in the right direction, I think men are more likely to talk about abuse these days compared to my father's generation. Still a long way to way to go, until we stop labelling each other and treating each other as equals.

Why am I the one who goes to the bar and get the drinks if we're equal

Well thats your own stupid fault for hanging out with women that dont get a round in "

So I'm stupid now am I?

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By *hMyGawd OP   Couple
over a year ago

Midlands


"Is sexism ok against men?

There’s no such things a sexism against men. "

Yes there is. Look at the definition of sexism and it can apply to any sex.

For example:

Jeremy Corbyn saying he'd consider segregating men on trains so they can't travel with women is sexist.

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By *otwifeandcuckCouple
over a year ago

Blackpool

What about bdsm? That's hitting and concensual is that OK?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What about bdsm? That's hitting and concensual is that OK? "
corse it is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What about bdsm? That's hitting and concensual is that OK? "

Technically, if it causes injury, bruising or worse then it is illegal

This is the case law which set precedent in the UK

R v Brown 1993 is a House of Lords judgment in which a group of men were convicted for their involvement in consensual sadomasochistic sexual acts over a 10-year period. They were convicted of "unlawful and malicious wounding" and "assault occasioning actual bodily harm" contrary to sections 20 and 47 of the Offences against the Person Act 1861. The key issue facing the Court was whether consent was a valid defence to assault in these circumstances, to which the Court answered in the negative.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What about bdsm? That's hitting and concensual is that OK?

Technically, if it causes injury, bruising or worse then it is illegal

This is the case law which set precedent in the UK

R v Brown 1993 is a House of Lords judgment in which a group of men were convicted for their involvement in consensual sadomasochistic sexual acts over a 10-year period. They were convicted of "unlawful and malicious wounding" and "assault occasioning actual bodily harm" contrary to sections 20 and 47 of the Offences against the Person Act 1861. The key issue facing the Court was whether consent was a valid defence to assault in these circumstances, to which the Court answered in the negative."
its still ok tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *otwifeandcuckCouple
over a year ago

Blackpool


"What about bdsm? That's hitting and concensual is that OK?

Technically, if it causes injury, bruising or worse then it is illegal

This is the case law which set precedent in the UK

R v Brown 1993 is a House of Lords judgment in which a group of men were convicted for their involvement in consensual sadomasochistic sexual acts over a 10-year period. They were convicted of "unlawful and malicious wounding" and "assault occasioning actual bodily harm" contrary to sections 20 and 47 of the Offences against the Person Act 1861. The key issue facing the Court was whether consent was a valid defence to assault in these circumstances, to which the Court answered in the negative."

Yeah we know that. But Mr S isn't happy if we are playing that way and he isn't black and blue and bleeding. And clubs exist that cater for that specific need.

The question wasn't about the technicalities of the law, it was about it being ok in our eyes in that situation it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Should that sexist phrase not be

"It's never ok to hit a partner"?

Or is it wrong altogether, as in there are some situations where hitting a partner, regardless of gender, is ok? ie self defence?

Or does having a vagina qualify somebody as special and immune to any wrongdoing that could possibly justify a hit?

Is sexism ok against men?"

It's never ok to hit anyone, unless in self-defence, in which case them hitting you would be the fundamental cause.

Even if a woman were to attack me though, I'm not capable of striking out against her. What I'd be more inclined to do would be to close my legs first and foremost, then if indoors pick her up and place her in a different room before shutting and holding shut the door between us until her aggression worked itself out.

B

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Should that sexist phrase not be

"It's never ok to hit a partner"?

Or is it wrong altogether, as in there are some situations where hitting a partner, regardless of gender, is ok? ie self defence?

Or does having a vagina qualify somebody as special and immune to any wrongdoing that could possibly justify a hit?

Is sexism ok against men?

It's never ok to hit anyone, unless in self-defence, in which case them hitting you would be the fundamental cause.

Even if a woman were to attack me though, I'm not capable of striking out against her. What I'd be more inclined to do would be to close my legs first and foremost, then if indoors pick her up and place her in a different room before shutting and holding shut the door between us until her aggression worked itself out.

B"
no spinning wheel kick then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What about bdsm? That's hitting and concensual is that OK?

Technically, if it causes injury, bruising or worse then it is illegal

This is the case law which set precedent in the UK

R v Brown 1993 is a House of Lords judgment in which a group of men were convicted for their involvement in consensual sadomasochistic sexual acts over a 10-year period. They were convicted of "unlawful and malicious wounding" and "assault occasioning actual bodily harm" contrary to sections 20 and 47 of the Offences against the Person Act 1861. The key issue facing the Court was whether consent was a valid defence to assault in these circumstances, to which the Court answered in the negative.

Yeah we know that. But Mr S isn't happy if we are playing that way and he isn't black and blue and bleeding. And clubs exist that cater for that specific need.

The question wasn't about the technicalities of the law, it was about it being ok in our eyes in that situation it is. "

We play that way too and have many photos on another website that aren't allowed here but it's always good to be aware of the law of you're gonna skirt around the edges.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone hit me they'd get a right hook back as well.

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By *otwifeandcuckCouple
over a year ago

Blackpool


"What about bdsm? That's hitting and concensual is that OK?

Technically, if it causes injury, bruising or worse then it is illegal

This is the case law which set precedent in the UK

R v Brown 1993 is a House of Lords judgment in which a group of men were convicted for their involvement in consensual sadomasochistic sexual acts over a 10-year period. They were convicted of "unlawful and malicious wounding" and "assault occasioning actual bodily harm" contrary to sections 20 and 47 of the Offences against the Person Act 1861. The key issue facing the Court was whether consent was a valid defence to assault in these circumstances, to which the Court answered in the negative.

Yeah we know that. But Mr S isn't happy if we are playing that way and he isn't black and blue and bleeding. And clubs exist that cater for that specific need.

The question wasn't about the technicalities of the law, it was about it being ok in our eyes in that situation it is.

We play that way too and have many photos on another website that aren't allowed here but it's always good to be aware of the law of you're gonna skirt around the edges. "

We're on that site too.... Lol

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By *uietlyKinkyUsCouple
over a year ago

midlands

Dv is wrong and abuse doesn't have a gender.

I'm something of a masochist though so I enjoy a good consensual hitting

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

No,.it's not ok no matter the gender.

But, to protect me and mine if under attack then that would be different story.

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

Some crazy threads today!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Firm believer in equal rights for women....

And left's..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one has actually clearly set apart the "domestic violence", and "out on the piss having a barny" side. One of the posters earlier did mention there are many reasons why people choose violence, but there are so many levels and complexities to this issue.

Right at the begining someone corrected the OP I think saying partner, instead of woman. There are many guys that are subjected to violence from their partners and this is never considered. I know this from experience, I've had to lock myself in rooms etc to take myself away from the situation as violence is never the answer.

And breathe....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No one has actually clearly set apart the "domestic violence", and "out on the piss having a barny" side. One of the posters earlier did mention there are many reasons why people choose violence, but there are so many levels and complexities to this issue.

Right at the begining someone corrected the OP I think saying partner, instead of woman. There are many guys that are subjected to violence from their partners and this is never considered. I know this from experience, I've had to lock myself in rooms etc to take myself away from the situation as violence is never the answer.

And breathe...."

My brother endured this for years. My little brother who I've looked after since the day he was born and I was never allowed to intervene. Which was his choice and I respected it and he was probably right and protecting me. But having to watch him go through it was hell. He's OK now and I hope you are too xx

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By *ervent_fervourMan
over a year ago

Halifax


"It's never ok to hit. Full stop "

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay


"It's never ok to hit. Full stop

Where does pre-emptive strike sit then; self defence before waiting to be hit.

Someone coming at you with a bottle male or female is fair game without ever having to actually touch me. Not gonna wait till I look like a pin cushion before considering fighting back"

If I was under attack or my children were etc, of course. I'm not daft.

I mean generally.

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)

If threatened with violence I challenge them to a thumb war, women suck at thumb wars.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"If threatened with violence I challenge them to a thumb war, women suck at thumb wars. "

We've been focusing too much on the finger work.

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)


"If threatened with violence I challenge them to a thumb war, women suck at thumb wars.

We've been focusing too much on the finger work."

I learned that the hard way after a Chinese Burn challenge backfired.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you ever been pinned in a corner? Fight or flight kicks in, but they don't allow you the flight option.

They keep you there, wanting to see you squirming in fear, wanting you to beg for your life?

You've had enough. There has to be more than this to life right? You're not a bad person, you know you deserve better and just need a flicker of hope, something to believe in. Only thing is you've lost all hope, you know you have to stand up for yourself and mean it this time, you know one of you may not leave the room alive but fuck me, you're gonna do your best.

You raise your hands and before you know it you've been punched in the face. You laugh at them. You know this is it.

They punch you again. This time you fall, you can't see anything but brown squares as you're in between consciousness and unconsciousness. You still ain't backing down and in a last ditch effort to show you're not gonna quit you flip them the middle finger.

They jump on you and begin to strngle you. Saddest part is you look forward to your own slipping away, as now it's gonna be over.

I pray nobody has to go through that, man, woman or child. It changes you.

I flinch a lot more than I used to, but I don't fear death.

Anyone reading this that DOES behave that way towards those who they supposedly love.... you're scum and don't be surprised if one day they fight back

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By *lorious hole bs16Man
over a year ago

Bristol


"It's never ok to hit. Full stop "

I agree with this, tho it can be very difficult at times..

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay


"If threatened with violence I challenge them to a thumb war, women suck at thumb wars. "

I'd kill you at a thumb war. Then afterwards, you'd try to make up rules that I apparently broke so it didn't count.

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By *uicy jonesMan
over a year ago

near a big hill in s/ shropshire NOT in

Violence either way is inexcusable !!!! Should never come to this !!!

Few years ago I was in Shrewsbury town and a woman was getting slapped bad by her bf ,, i had to step in to stop it and wtf !!! She mouthed off at me and but her heel through me neck !!!! Crazy times !!! But I couldn’t just stand there and watch someone been slapped about and never would still now !!!!

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)


"If threatened with violence I challenge them to a thumb war, women suck at thumb wars.

I'd kill you at a thumb war. Then afterwards, you'd try to make up rules that I apparently broke so it didn't count.

"

No chance, my thumbs could do things to you that you've never even imagined.

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay


"If threatened with violence I challenge them to a thumb war, women suck at thumb wars.

I'd kill you at a thumb war. Then afterwards, you'd try to make up rules that I apparently broke so it didn't count.

No chance, my thumbs could do things to you that you've never even imagined."

Oh!

Twister then

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)


"If threatened with violence I challenge them to a thumb war, women suck at thumb wars.

I'd kill you at a thumb war. Then afterwards, you'd try to make up rules that I apparently broke so it didn't count.

No chance, my thumbs could do things to you that you've never even imagined.

Oh!

Twister then "

Naked?

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay


"If threatened with violence I challenge them to a thumb war, women suck at thumb wars.

I'd kill you at a thumb war. Then afterwards, you'd try to make up rules that I apparently broke so it didn't count.

No chance, my thumbs could do things to you that you've never even imagined.

Oh!

Twister then

Naked?"

Yeah you can go naked if you like

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)


"If threatened with violence I challenge them to a thumb war, women suck at thumb wars.

I'd kill you at a thumb war. Then afterwards, you'd try to make up rules that I apparently broke so it didn't count.

No chance, my thumbs could do things to you that you've never even imagined.

Oh!

Twister then

Naked?

Yeah you can go naked if you like "

Go on then if you insist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only if I ask you too

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Have respect for others and don't use violence, including hitting them

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